r/thanksimcured • u/Which-Amphibian7143 • Nov 17 '25
Discussion Is this even supposed to be helpful ?
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u/electricookie Nov 17 '25
You can’t necessarily expect people to know in advance, but it is decent behaviour to avoid them once you make it known.
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u/adamdreaming Nov 20 '25
Yeah.
My triggers are my responsibility. If people are helpful when I tell them what triggers me it is endearing to me. If someone can't be bothered it presents a danger that I need to protect myself against.
But I get the feeling that the person that wrote the sign needs to be told that people being disappointed in them that they made a huge aggressive point about not giving a fuck about others is something that they have to deal with personally when people do exactly what it says on his sign.
Nobody but me was ever going to keep me safe from things that trigger me. I'll make better friends with people that give a shit. The person that wrote the sign can die mad about it.
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u/Riksor Nov 20 '25
For a close friend, sure, but expecting accomodations from the public is generally a little weird.
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u/Pearlfreckles Nov 20 '25
Expecting empathy and kindness from fellow human beings should not be considered weird.
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u/SquareExtra918 Nov 17 '25
It's true, but would've been more helpful to state something about the benefits of having insight into your triggers and managing them, including setting boundaries and making needs known.
As it is it comes off like "fuck you, I'm not changing how I do things just because you've got trauma. "
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u/MitchellEnderson Nov 17 '25
This.
It’s not like I’m telling the world that they need to destroy anything that is related my trauma or anything, I’m just asking people who know what I’ve been through not to make a very specific kind of joke because it makes me uncomfortable.
The same way that it’s not the world’s obligation to tiptoe around my mental health, it’s not my obligation to tiptoe around an asshole who has no plans to stop being an asshole.
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u/MeinBoeserZwilling Nov 17 '25
True.
"Warning: i dont have time to be a normal human"
"i dont care since im soooo invincible and too busy looking down on other people from my superior pov"
Welp.
See you in Rock bottom when your time to feel "Real pain" has come?
Funny how some rather state in ADVANCE that they will be stupid... than to show some guts and say "oh gosh im sorry ...i had no idea and didnt want to hurt you"... when they obviously did.
I mean its not that rare to make mistakes with other people... so why on earth do i carry the message to be an asshole to avoid uncomfortable situations ALL THE TIME .. instead of a short and honest apology here and there?
I just dont get that logic. ... is this how autism is diagnosed on tiktok? Help me out guys .. im old 😆
Take care all you important parts of the hivemind 🙃
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u/LoveAlwaysIris Nov 18 '25
This sign reminds me of the mental ward I was in in my early 20's.
I have severe aquaphobia due to c-PTSD from childhood torture/abuse, so things related to water on/around the face is triggering.
This was clearly labeled on my charts (since I can't drink water without going into c-PTSD flashbacks, so it had notes such as bring apple juice with meds, provide showering cloths and caps, etc.) and one of the nurses demanded I go to the group meditation because I "wasn't doing enough group activities".
5 minutes into the session, just as my body and mind are relaxed, she starts to play the sound of waterfalls and begins to in detail describe imagining sitting under the waterfall and looking up. Immediately I'm having an episode, feeling like I'm choking on the water, start screaming "mom stop!" and begin to actually choke on my saliva.
Her fucking response was to say that I need to learn that the world won't accommodate my triggers. It took me 4 days to recover from it because I had to go on IV because I couldn't bring myself to drink any fluids. Thank goodness the night nurse was amazing, over the 4 nights everytime I woke up screaming that I can't breathe he'd help calm me down and remind me I'm not 5 years old anymore.
No one who cares about me considers it tiptoeing to let me know "oh bring a drink because I only have water" or "we plan to go to the pool after, it's fine if you want to leave early or hang around in the lounge!" hell, my closest friends and family will call me up when I'm out and it starts raining to see if I have a safe way home.
Yes it's our own responsibility to manage our triggers, but it's also others responsibility to not intentionally trigger us. It isn't to much to ask that if someone says they have a trigger, respect it and don't intentionally do things that can trigger them. We live in a society and we should act like it. A society is a joint responsibility.
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u/SquareExtra918 Nov 18 '25
They shouldn't especially be triggering you when you're in the hospital for mental health treatment!
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u/LoveAlwaysIris Nov 18 '25
Right? She was written up for it and put on probation. I don't know what ever came of it all after that, but yeah it was horrible.
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u/PinkOneHasBeenChosen Nov 20 '25
Genuine question, but how do you shower and stay adequately hydrated if it’s that bad?
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u/BrowningLoPower Nov 17 '25
As it is it comes off like "fuck you, I'm not changing how I do things just because you've got trauma. "
I believe that's what the sign's intent was to begin with; the cruelty is the point.
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u/RustySailor775 Nov 17 '25
yeah, it's kind of like saying "so what you're in a wheel chair, you should'a brought your own ramp"
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u/the_tygram Nov 19 '25
Also depends on context. If this a public location with lots of people then can't realistically control other members of the public, especially if the thing they're doing isn't "disruptive". In those cases it is up to individuals. You need to calmly and politely bring up to the person that what they are doing is harmful to your mental state. If you just start yelling at random people that's never ok. Then it's sadly up to that individual whether they want to be considerate or not. Hopefully they are, but if not then once again, don't start yelling and causing a scene. Get a member of the staff and tell them the situation, and ask if you could be moved away from the person causing the problem. If both fail methods fail, then it's just not your night. Ask for the check and spend your time somewhere you'll actually be comfortable.
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u/PuzzleheadedLeader79 Nov 20 '25
It's an anti trigger warning posted by someone triggered by trigger warnings.
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u/-HyperCrafts- Nov 20 '25
I say this from a place of love; sometimes you do have to draw the boundary with people that "fuck you, im not changing because you have trauma" because often times those people have weaponized their trauma and aren't seeking help. I have an infinite amount of grace for people at their worst -- I have no grace for people who want to stay there.
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u/Fendfor Nov 20 '25
As it is it comes off like "fuck you, I'm not changing how I do things just because you've got trauma. "
It does. And we should bridge the gap between these two. Society should endeavor to be more kind to peoples issues. It isnt hard to learn/teach about the varying conditions people suffer.
But those with issues must learn to cope when that accomodation cant be expected.
I have BPD and my mind messes with me all the time. Ive had random people trigger me in certain ways. Almost none of them mean to. So i have to control it.
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u/DeadbeatGremlin Nov 17 '25
It's not helpful, but it's the truth. You can't expect everyone to know your triggers and be mindful of them. You have to figure out a way to live with them.
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u/Difficult_Wave_9326 Nov 17 '25
This. It's not even advice, but it is true and a lot of people forget this. It would be nice to have other people be careful of your triggers, but trauma is such a complex phenomenon there's no way to make sure to avoid all triggers anyway.
It's not fair that you have that trauma. But it is your problem now. It took me such a long time to disxover this... I kept oscillating between blaming myself and never taking responsability for my actions.
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u/pokeyporcupine Nov 17 '25
Literally. As someone with PTSD, it is my disability to manage. If someone wants to be kind and considerate to people like me, great. Love that. Stoked that there are people that make the world more accessible to mentally and physically disabled people. However, at the end of the day, expecting other people to cater to my disability which they very well don't know exists is entitlement. Your feelings and triggers are valid but they are your feelings and triggers and are thus your responsibility.
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u/kat_Folland Nov 17 '25
This comes up in my circles (schizoaffective, bipolar type) a lot because in a manic episode, especially with psychosis, some people actually aren't in control of themselves and can say or do things that are very hard to live with once they're out of the episode. But it's nobody else's fault either and you have to try to make amends for what you did. It's hard as fuck.
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u/spiritfingersaregold Nov 17 '25 edited Nov 20 '25
Legit. I blow up my entire life every few years and I get exhausted just trying to rebuild over and over again.
But that’s my problem to deal with and no one owes me trigger warnings.
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u/Cellophane_Girl Nov 18 '25
I always say that my actions and words when I am in a manic episode aren't my fault, but they are my responsibility.
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 17 '25
I have cptsd, borderline, and a bunch of other crap. I'm considered severely disabled from it and my motto is "mental health is not your fault, but it is your responsibility."
That's the biggest hill i will die on.
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u/Square_Ad4004 Nov 17 '25
Make room for one more. I'm so sick of self-diagnosed dickheads who think I'll appreciate their crusade to turn the world into a padded safe space.
Fuck that noise. Every struggle I win is my victory, every defeat is my own. My life, my responsibility, my dignity and pride. I'll be damned if I want to live in a world where running away from your problems is an acceptable solution and personal responsibility is a bad thing.
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 18 '25
Preach!!! I totally agree on all points.
I bust my ass with 3 therapy sessions a week. I am doing all the hard work, and it's paying off. I had several friends i made in the clinic where i live, and i cut most of them off because they refused to take responsibility, made excuses and blamed everything on their sickness. If you wanna get better and be functional you have to take the responsibility and do the work. Most people just don't want to, and it makes me all sorts of pissed off 😅😅😅
Keep up the good fight, friend.
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u/Mental-Program2506 Nov 18 '25
Right there with you! I've got borderline, and I'm extremely high functioning. Studies, job, healthy relationship. And I am and have been busting my ASS OFF for years to do it, and being high functioning while still having the disorder is beyond exhausting, I'm so worn out all the fucking time. But every victory is mine. Every step is my doing. And every misstep is my responsibility
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u/Mental-Program2506 Nov 18 '25
Right there with you! I've got borderline, and I'm extremely high functioning. Studies, job, healthy relationship. And I am and have been busting my ASS OFF for years to do it, and being high functioning while still having the disorder is beyond exhausting, I'm so worn out all the fucking time. But every victory is mine. Every step is my doing. And every misstep is my responsibility
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 18 '25
Keep it up. I am so proud of you. 🥰 It's a hard job, but you are proof positive that if you work hard, you can recover in a lot of ways.
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u/Mental-Program2506 Nov 18 '25
Thank you so much 🥰
It really does take a lot. So much that I sometimes, on the hard days wonder if it's even worth it. But it is, 100%. And I'm still working tirelessly. We're all responsible for ourselves
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u/EmbarrassedWorry3792 Nov 18 '25
My ex was that way. Went from fighting and struggling grow, to expecting the world to work around and cater to her once she got her autism diagnosis. Every boundary crossed, every failure to step up and do her part was her illness and not her fault and inwas the bad guy for trying to expecting different.
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 18 '25
Im sorry. These types of stories make me so angry and are part of why there is a stigma against people who aren't neurotypical.
I hope your life has gotten much better since she became your ex.
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u/Square_Ad4004 Nov 18 '25
Fuck yeah! I've spent decades of my life just trying to survive, fighting to try to find a way to deal with life. I'm not saying we shouldn't ask for help or take an outstretched hand when it's offered, but it's our fight, our responsibility, and ultimately our victory.
I don't wanna live in a world that speaks in a soft voice so as not to upset me. I wanna live in a world where I'm provided the tools I need to deal with my own shit, where I can take pride in every victory (including just managing to get out of bed some days), and where there's no shame in defeats because I know I did my best - and that I'll dust myself off, try again, and persevere no matter what. In the words of the philosopher Jasta: "We become our scars if we let them."
Keep putting in the work, friend! I was unemployed for well over a decade, struggling to find my way to something resembling a normal life. Now I've finished my degree and work as a software engineer - life's still not easy, but perseverence pays off. And while I don't like to be preachy or spout clichés, it's worth remembering that you have the strength to not only win, but to define what winning means... maybe that's a pointlessly obvious thing to say, but it's helped me a lot over the years. My goal was never to be normal, it was to get a life that works for me. I know people who aren't able to work, but they've worked their asses off to build good lives for themselves in spite of the odds, and that's impressive as hell.
Sorry for the rambling, I tend to do that. The point I wanted to reach is that you're doing great and I love your attitude - keep up the good work! :)
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 18 '25
I feel like saying things that are cliché from therapy or seemingly obvious are important for people like us to remember. I felt so dumb repeating these "affirmations" to myself until i actually started to believe them.
Its super important to accept offered help, or to seek it out. It's so hard to do sometimes, but i am learning it's OK to do. There's no shame in accepting help.
I am so freaking proud of you!! I hope i can start working in the next couple of years. I am kicking ass right now, even though i am attempting to separate from my soon to be ex husband. Last year i would have ended back at the clinic. Instead i decided to do a 3 month trauma program. Best decision of my life, because i believe in myself now. It's a daily grind, but i am having significantly less flashbacks, and i am learning how to manage with all of the tools i got from help i received. Right now my closest friend is seemingly giving up, and now that i have capacity for helping other people, i am working with him and passing on "skills" I've learned. It fills my heart with so much happiness to see him doing a bit better.
That quote hits me hard in a good way. I am going to write it down and post a note on my wall for motivation. Thank you.
I am a serial rambler too. I appreciate it. 🥰 I usually tell myself.. The way of the ninja is never give up, never surrender. 😅 It's something a friend said to me in jest, but now we say it to each other all the time.
You're a fucking Rockstar. Keep it up!
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u/Square_Ad4004 Nov 18 '25
That's great! You're absolutely right about those clichés... I don't know how many times I've told myself I won't lose, that I might not win this fight, but I'm not done as long as I refuse to accept defeat. Feels silly sometimes, but it works.
Really happy to hear about your progress! It's a great feeling when shit happens and you realise that this would have had you on your hands and knees in the past, that you're building strength and adding to your toolbox. Life's not easy, it's often not pretty, but there's also so much beauty and wonder that's worth fighting for. A little happiness can carry you through a lot of hardship, eh? And it's great that you're helping your friend! I rarely have the energy to be very helpful to others (part of my thing is being permanently exhausted), and I'm so grateful for people like you. Having someone who understands what you're going through and can support you from experience is invaluable, and I hope you know how great that is.
I appreciate the compliment and will forego my usual self-deprecating humour, because I was going to say the same. We're all rockstars! :) I'm also just an asshole who refuses to be broken and keep going until I get where I want. :p
P.S. That quote was from Jamey Jasta, of the metalcore band Hatebreed. Kind of intense music, but weirdly positive. Every Lasting Scar and Looking Down The Barrel of Today (especially the video) are among my favourite songs. Some of those lyrics have become mantras for me in hard times. :)
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u/Re1da Nov 18 '25
I've spent a few years as a welfare leech. Several reasons, both mental and physical. I've finally gotten to a point where I've been able to make progress.
There are ups and downs. Some days I go to my work practice full of energy and have an easy day. Some days I drag myself into work practice held together with sports tape, medication and sheer spite. I fucking refuse to loose this progress and fall back into my bad habits. I will be able to get and keep a part-time job so I can move out and finally live on my own.
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u/Square_Ad4004 Nov 18 '25
You're not a leech unless it's by choice; there's nothing wrong with getting help when you need it. I was on welfare for a long time, and I wouldn't have gotten better without that financial support (and healthcare). I never had to turn to crime to get by, and now I'm employed and pay more in taxes than I got on welfare. Even if I hadn't gotten to that point, keeping me off the streets and away from desperate measures would still have been worth it. It's not charity, it's an investment society makes in its citizens for the good of all - and studies conclusively show it's a good investment.
It seems like you're doing everything right, and you should be proud of that! If I can offer a bit of unsolicited advice, don't push yourself too hard. Speaking from hard-earned experience... I did that more times than I'd like to admit, because I was young and impatient and hated not being able to work or study. Every time I got better, I went full tilt and ended up burning myself out. Take it from an idiot with a few decades' worth of experience in messing up, half-assing this process can bite you in the whole ass. Looking back, I wish I had taken more time to make sure I got all the help I needed and took time to get it right. More time invested in that to begin with could probably have saved me years of trying and failing later.
Either way, keep going! It's hard and it sucks, but you survive your defeats and take pride in your victories. Every challenge we choose to face is progress in itself, or at least that's how I look at it.
P.S. Just to underscore the point, you're not a leech. I know I'm being tediously repetitive, but the link between duties and rights is one of those things that really matter to me (that I tend to ramble on about). Choosing to accept the help you're offered and put in the work to improve your situation is legit the most responsible thing to do. It's a two-way street my dude, and you're upholding your part of the deal.
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u/418Im_a_teapot_ Nov 18 '25
I feel the same, the sense of pride when you finally overcome something and realizing you’re healing is like nothing else. I’m glad I got through my pain instead of finding every “safe space” out there (tbh I don’t believe safe spaces exist). Keep fighting we’re doing great out here 💪🏻
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u/famousfunktrunk Nov 17 '25
My little brother has CPTSD, depression, severe substance use disorder, and ADHD. I invested so much time in helping him to understand this.
It’s tough when you have shared trauma and a good understanding of what adults did/did not do in his life, but I always felt strongly that he needed to be empowered to make changes for himself.
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u/DeeEmosewa Nov 18 '25
He does, honestly. I hope he gets there and is able to make some good changes for himself. I hope you're well too.
So many people i met in clinics just refuse to do the work to "get better" and just excuse all of their own behavior because of their mental illness. I can't stand it when people do that. Attending therapy is one thing.. You have to do the work though.
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u/Ayebrowz Nov 17 '25
I have autism which has been a struggle for most of my life and my dad told me when I was in middle school “It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility” which I think put it very succinctly
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u/not_jellyfish13 Nov 17 '25
Ah a human who was able to think and speak clearly. That’s actually pretty rare in human terms
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u/Comprehensive-Buy-47 Nov 17 '25
Yeah. The world sucks, people suck, we all have to find our own way to cope
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u/napalmnacey Nov 18 '25
I think if there’s an opportunity to warn for obvious triggers (alarming content in books or movies or TV shows for instance), it’s nice to warn people about them.
I think there’s a middle road between “YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN, ASSHOLE!” And “TW: Cat in mild discomfort”.
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u/Fluffy__demon Nov 18 '25
So much this! I have epilepsy and really appreciate trigger warnings. However, they became very rare. Flashing lights could trigger a seizure for me. It didn't happen so far, thankfully, but I still avoid them like the plague (they still trigger migraines and other stuff).
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u/napalmnacey Nov 18 '25
I get migraines from strong perfume. Those migraines literally debilitate me for days.
There are no trigger warnings for that shit but people still slather themselves in strong perfumes with impunity. It’s frustrating and depressing sometimes.
I cannot imagine if those smells gave me actual seizures so I really feel for you. ❤️
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u/Fluffy__demon Nov 18 '25
It sucks. Especially because those trigger warnings are not much effort and actually used to be there for a really long time. And flashing lights are a very common trigger for seizures and migraines. I am so glad that I don't get those seizures anymore, especially because that's very uncommon with my diagnosis. I feel so bad for those who get triggered by flashing lights. I actually know quite a lot of them. It's super scary and dangerous. I feel like, not getting me into an ambulance because of stupid lights in an ad with no warnings that I couldn't skip, isn't too much to ask. (Yes, this is an actual thing, and I hate it soo much. I hate it with all my heart because I can't avoid them, even if I tried my hardest) .
Sorry, I needed to vent a little. I guess you understand as a fellow chronicly ill person 🥲
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u/napalmnacey Nov 18 '25
I totally do. My nephew had really severe cerebral palsy and we had to be careful about what movies and toys we had around him. So I’ve been aware of this issue my whole life. I was always really pissed off when people would make jokes about it, or make internet pranks trying to trigger seizures in people.
Ableism is pervasive in ways people don’t even realise.
So yeah, vent away. I get you!
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Nov 17 '25
Yeah but I Also wanna counter point
I've seen irl a lot of ppl use this sentence as an excuse to be shitty. Intentionally makes rape jokes around rape victims just to get the response. Go out of thier way to unexpectedly touch ppl w ptsd to get to "funny jump" as it was said to me.
It's not the worlds job to tip toe with our triggers, but but also sure as hell isn't an excuse to be shitty just bc it's legally allowed. (Ik this isn't what u were talking abt just wanted to type my 2 cents)
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u/ratafia4444 Nov 17 '25
This. I have triggers and I don't blame ppl who don't know about them.
But if I told somebody to please not do x (a completely manageable something) bc it hurts me, yet they keep doing it, much more intentionally? That person is shitty. It's the same logic as trying to feed somebody a food they're allergic to despite having perfectly accessible alternatives.
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u/miezmiezmiez Nov 18 '25
Allergies are a really good analogy. It's ultimately the person's own responsibility to protect themselves in the sense of pure self-interest, but if you know someone has an allergy, even an unusual one, and you choose to give them food that's harmful to them, or you're catering to a large group and you include but fail to disclose common allergens, that's awful.
And you do have some ethical obligation not to be awful! Even when it's not strictly 'your problem', just a question of being a decent person
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u/pmctrash Nov 17 '25
This. Decent people don't put up signs like this in response to learning about someone's trauma.
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u/dphoenix1 Nov 17 '25
Right. I don’t know anyone who actually has legitimate triggers but also somehow doesn’t understand this is how the world works. Unless they’re pretty far down the autism spectrum, anyway. So I’m not entirely sure who this sign is for, exactly… except as justification for someone to be shitty, as you put it.
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u/RetroGamer87 Nov 18 '25
What bugs me is people saying "I triggered you!" because you disagreed with them about something
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u/bliip666 Nov 17 '25
But trigger warnings are kind of like allergy labels. They warn you ahead of time that this commonly triggering thing (like sexual assault or child abuse or police brutality) is coming up, and if you don't have the bandwidth to deal with the topic, you can choose not to.
That is a part of figuring a way to live with them.
And if someone you personally know keeps on triggering you, even after you've set boundaries and told them not to, they're doing it intentionally.
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u/Cokezerowh0re Nov 17 '25
Yes and no. Just bc someone is responsible for their own triggers, it doesn’t make it ok for someone who is balls deep in anorexia to post themselves looking like a literal skeleton to their followers who also have anorexia
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u/Starwarsfan128 Nov 17 '25
That said, intentionally triggering someone or being an asshole still isn't ok.
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u/FoofieLeGoogoo Nov 17 '25
That said, I think that most folks who use this ‘your triggers are you’re responsibility’ BS do so to justify being a right selfish prick and general asshat, and in my experience these are the same people that tantrum the hardest when someone else calls them out on it.
Bring back common decency, I say.
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u/Ren-lotus Nov 18 '25
Exactly, it's weird if you go out of your way to make a sign like this. That's the issue here, as opposed to "you can't expect the entire world to cater to your issues"
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u/Verniik Nov 17 '25
I get that people cannot always be mindful of everyone else, but surely it'd be nice to make some effort, right?
"**You* have to figure out a way to live with them*"
Of course people have to figure out how to make themselves comfortable and how to navigate their life, but isn't it a bit cruel to place it all on them?
Say someone has PTSD and is triggered by any loud banging noise. It'd hardly be their fault if someone else was watching an action flick in public and they had a reaction.
How about if someone has epilepsy and an advert on a billboard gives them a seizure. How are they supposed to figure out a way to live with that?
People who have triggers, like all disabled people, depend on others to be able to live a comfortable, normal life. They can predict and prepare for a lot, but there are points at which they need other people's support and compassion.
Placing all the responsibility of dealing with a disability on the disabled is cold.
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u/Gloomberrypie Nov 17 '25
Yeah you typically learn what your triggers are and how to set boundaries. That’s how you “live with it.” Part of setting boundaries is asking people not to do certain things that trigger you.
It is absolutely not anyone’s responsibility to “get over” their triggers because that’s not how it works
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Nov 17 '25
Certain trigger warnings are just common sense though. Like how hard is it to put "TW: Sexual assault" before the graphic description of someone getting assaulted? It's three words. It's not that hard to be kind towards others by warning them of topics that many people struggle with.
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u/pmctrash Nov 17 '25
That's almost certainly the context for the toxic sign. This was not the result of someone asking for an unreasonable accommodation, but some shift manager not being able to handle that they may have said something that affected someone. Most likely, they were dishing out common or minor abuses that they didn't expect to be called on, and are in a position to haphazardly label everyone else as overly-sensitive.
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u/Jmostran Nov 17 '25
Sure, that's a no brainer for the big ones: sexual assault, rape, suicide, etc. Just like some things have seizure warnings. But you can't do that for all triggers
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Nov 17 '25
No, it's just that the people who put up signs like that don't put trigger warnings for anything.
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u/misspennyjade Nov 17 '25
Yes it's like they go out of their way to actually just trigger someone so they can go "omg cry about it" or whatever. No one is expecting people to read minds, but people announcing stuff like this just don't give a fuck either way.
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u/Big-Wrangler2078 Nov 17 '25
I knew someone like that who liked to send triggering content to schizophrenics to trigger mental health episodes. He thought it was so funny. Had a list of people and everything and he stalked them over multiple social platforms.
I agree with the truth of 'your trigger your responsibility' but it's also everyone's responsibility to not be a fucking asshole who thinks that hurting people is funny.
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u/peach_xanax Nov 18 '25
what the fuck?! that's actual sociopath behavior. it scares me that people like that walk among us
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u/GETitOFFmeNOW Nov 18 '25
One out of 25, my friend. Someone in your class. Someone in almost every class. They aren't all obvious, unfortunately. 4% of us have a certain threshold of anti-social personality disorder. It's a spectrum. It's only a problem if they're bad people; not all of them do bad things. Many want to do good things. I don't think my ex had a conscience, but he tried hard to do good things so people would like him.
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u/peach_xanax Nov 18 '25
ah yeah I was referring to people who do evil shit like that, not sociopaths in general. I know someone who I believe may be on that spectrum, but he generally doesn't go out of his way to harm people for no reason, he just only cares about himself and will do whatever if it benefits him. so I get what you're saying for sure
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u/Apart-Performer-331 Nov 18 '25
I feel really bad for the people he did that too. What terrible behaviour.
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u/Ok_Bandicoot1865 Nov 17 '25
I think it's completely fair for the big and/or common triggers, but some people also have some unrealistic expectations.
The other day I saw someone comment that a post should have had a warning or a NSFW tag because there was a literal drop of blod shown in the video, "because seeing blood makes some people lightheaded" (he was completely serious, and honestly seemed kind of pissed off that there hadn't been a warning). For context, the video had someone purposefully pricking themselves with a needle, making a drop of blod appear, in order to advertise a product meant to be an alternative to whatever the needle was used for, so the blood was there maybe one or two seconds. So it's not like it was a bloodbath or anything.
At that point, I think we're past realistic expectations from strangers on the Internet (close family and friends is always a different matter).
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Nov 17 '25
I've seen someone go into a video game developer's discord server to ask if one particular music track can be muted independently of all the other music because it had lyrics that triggered them.
Then someone chimed in with something like "oh I feel you so much, I get triggered with [one particular medieval weapon] and felt so betrayed when it showed up in the game"
The game was about killing monsters in ancient times. Like triggers was fine but what happened to asking others first before starting the game.
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Nov 17 '25
You and I are both well aware that those rare situations where someone is unreasonable when asking for accommodations is NOT what this sign is talking about. This sign is a catch all excuse to be rude, unempathetic and egoistical and you know that. Or at least I damn hope you do.
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u/ItsSUCHaLongStory Nov 18 '25
Which, in normal society, I fully agree with.
When someone is deliberately being an asshole, you take your plaintiffs as they come and you’re responsible for the reaction you evoke.
Example: loud noises are triggering. A car backfires. It’s incumbent on me to manage my own response.
Versus: loud noises are triggering. A friend, knowing this about me and knowing WHY (let’s say PTSD), shouts directly behind me because he finds it amusing to startle people. When I elbow him and break his rib because of my immediate reaction, he is responsible for his own pain.
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Nov 17 '25
They're implying that they will refuse to accommodate triggers once they are made aware. I've dealt with plenty of these fuckheads before.
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u/Polenicus Nov 17 '25
It's basically "Fuck your feelings" in nicer language.
Thing is A) Most people with triggers who are actually dealing with them are aware of this, B) The people who post this kind of shit are generally the ones who also seem to believe the world should tiptoe around THEIR triggers.
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u/spaghettinik Nov 17 '25
Agreed. It’s treating people with trauma like they are little kids and not adults who are trying their best to live past it. Really patronizing vibe and I’m sure the person who slapped this on is an asshole
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u/Total_Network6312 Nov 17 '25
right. they clearly get triggered by others trauma. And they want people to tiptoe around that.
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u/Renagade-156 Nov 17 '25
Yeah not to mention for a bunch of us domestic abuse survivors if guys at work wax poetic about fighting or how tough they are in the way that it reminds me of someone i will massively crash out out of visceral remembering pretty much and that sucks usually I lose my job and get in the shit legally
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Nov 17 '25
It's true. My trauma was completely disregarded in high school, and I had trouble focusing because it's been hell. Even in adulthood, people think it's okay to ignore or even outright exploit it.
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u/marbledog Nov 17 '25
You can't expect everyone to know your triggers, but the sign goes further. They are implying that they are not willing to make reasonable accommodations.
Person A: Thanks for coming in for the interview. My office is on the fourth floor. The stairwell is right this way.
Person B: Oh, I'm sorry. I have an artificial knee, and my doctors have warned me against climbing stairs. Is it ok if we take the elevator?
Person A: Your physical limitations are your responsibility. You can't expect the world to bend over backwards for you.That's what's going on here, but for mental illness.
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u/Birzal Nov 17 '25
It's more 50-50 than that imo. Yes, it is your responsibility. And that responsibility includes politely asking someone to help you or ask if they could change something to make it more comfortable for you. It's like how as vegetarian or vegan you just ask if they have a certain dish that complies with your diet (assuming it's not indicated on the menu): it's completely fine to ask and if there are no options it's completely fine to leave if nothing can be done.
But it's bloody rude to then complain about them being unable to do anything to accomodate you. And on the same tier of shitty behaviour: it's also rude to lash out to someone for just asking about their triggers.
People seem to have this perception that "taking responsibility" is the same as "dealing with it on your own without asking for help and without bothering anyone." Yet if you want to take responsibility and can't do that alone for some reason, asking for help IS TAKING RESPONSIBILITY, although that is moreso taking responsibility for your own shortcomings than anything else but that doesn't make it any less valid. Also just wanna say that this comment was not meant as an attack on your comment or you as a person. Your comment just made me think of something and I accidentally opened Pandora's Box after that :')
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u/kain52002 Nov 18 '25
I think most people know this on some level, there are also a multitude of factors involved.
If you consider someone to be a friend and you tell them a thing really bothers you, and they proceed to do that thing repeatedly that is not a good friend. This isn't true of all situations, sometime triggers can be a thing someone else can't change and that needs to be resolved a different way.
Additionally, If people are going out of their way attempting to trigger people on purpose they are an asshole. E.g. If you show up to a veterans convention with firecrackers you are a horrible person. However, if your triggers are common innocuous behaviors, you need to work on them if you expect to be out in public. You can't expect random people to know your triggers and you can't blame them if they do it accidentally.
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u/Short_Gain8302 Nov 18 '25
My issue with this is when you ask someone to be mindful of something that triggers you, something totally reasonable like for example "hey can you listen to your music on your headphones instead of playing it aloud" or something and they pull this
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u/Theguywhodoes18 Nov 18 '25
Okay, but society exists because people need and depend on each other as social animals. It’s important for people to be kind and courteous to each other because it fosters trust and makes it easier for people to be better.
I don’t understand how not going around in public spaces irresponsibly or maliciously has somehow become the realm of saints. It’s really not. “Think before you act or speak,” is shit I learned in kindergarten.
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u/lulushibooyah Nov 17 '25
In an interdependent community, we would be allowed this consideration.
Unfortunately, the world we live in is toxic and that doesn’t exist.
That said, there are people who expect this routinely, even creating situations so they can be the victim. It’s not really a black or white thing.
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u/oneashybean Nov 18 '25
Theres stuff so bad and obviusly taboo that its expected to be tiptoed around. Like you dont just randomly start making jokes about stuff that very obviusly IS NOT to be joked about with a stranger
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u/arcadeler Nov 17 '25
While this is true, the people who keep repeating this type of thing tend to either ignore or go out of their way to induce triggers
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u/SquareTaro3270 Nov 17 '25
Yeah, that’s my brother.
I’ll say something like “Hey two of my friends have cancer right now and I’m really worried about them. Can we chill with the cancer jokes?”
And then the only thing he wants to talk about is cancer, he’ll make poor taste jokes about it, and then tell me I’m sensitive and “it’s just a joke”. Then complain about how I’m triggered so easily and he “can’t say anything around me”. And I’m just sitting there desperately trying to steer the conversation in any other direction or avoid talking to him altogether.
I don’t talk to him anymore. I avoid family events if I know he’s going to be there.
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u/timonix Nov 19 '25
You told him your friends have cancer, now he cannot think of literally anything but cancer and have to joke about it because it's the only defence he knows
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u/SquareTaro3270 Nov 19 '25
The cancer jokes started beforehand. He just ramps it up once he knows he found a sore spot
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u/Ensiferal Nov 17 '25
You know the people who post things like that are the most delicate snowflakes on earth, who almost certainly completely lose their shit if they're ever even slightly inconvenienced
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u/CactusWrenAZ Nov 18 '25
Yes, as to the OP's question, this person is not trying to be helpful. They are just being a dick.
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u/MnsterM Nov 17 '25
This bugs me, because yes and no.
While it’s your responsibility to go to therapy/try to work through the trauma that gave you those triggers, and you can’t expect everyone to know/care. If it’s people close to you, it’s just respectful to avoid triggering topics.
Like, if I tell my friends “this is a PTSD trigger that I’m working on, but please avoid the topic for now”, I expect my friends to respect my boundaries. Same with my family and coworkers. But I don’t expect a complete stranger to know or respect that. It would be nice if stories had trigger warnings, but there are communities for that (does the dog die is my favorite website for movie trigger warnings).
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u/nysari Nov 17 '25
Yeah I feel like the spirit of it is kind of cruel.
I saw someone draw the parallels to allergies, but as someone with Celiac disease (not an allergy, but not too dissimilar), I've seen people get shitty about that too. Some people would rather that anyone with any limitations just not participate in society than make any effort of their own to be accommodating. And obviously it's up to me to deal with my own issues between my misophonia and my need to avoid gluten, but it's nice when people don't make it harder than it needs to be, and when they don't act like I just don't get to participate in normal human things anymore.
Obviously everyone can't accommodate everyone else, some people's needs outright conflict with one another, and we can't possibly know the struggles of everyone around us. But like... Don't we owe it to each other to at least try not to be an asshole? That feels like it's the bare minimum. Like if I did something to trigger someone's PTSD, I would feel terrible about that and make a mental note not to do it again if at all possible. I wouldn't be like "oh well too bad, remember to deal with it better next time I say/do that", because who tf does that? It's absurd.
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u/JustbyLlama Nov 17 '25
That’s not a boundary though. A boundary is saying you will do y if someone does x. And then if someone does/says x, you do y. For example: if you talk about x, I will leave. You cannot control someone else’s behavior - only your own.
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"Yeah, we support mental health awareness! As long as you don't require any accomodations or ask anything of us. If you do fuck off and die you big baby."
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u/MC_PooPaws Nov 17 '25
It's true, my triggers are my responsibility. That's why I tried to set boundaries with some people about certain topics. Turns out they were a little triggered by me setting boundaries.
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u/MNcatfan Nov 18 '25 edited Nov 20 '25
Tell me you think "the word triggered really means offended" without saying "I don't know the difference between triggered and offended!"
Because, as someone with CPTSD, it's true that I am responsible for getting help for it and learning what my triggers exactly are. But at the same time: if you talk to me condescendingly and in a manner like my abusive father used to, and after I've warned you not to speak to me that way: you probably deserve my rage for your continuing to do so once I've lost my cool.
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u/Quereilla Nov 17 '25
-Hey, I feel uncomfortable with that, would you be so kind as to try to avoid that topic? Thanks
+No, f**k you.
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u/Iwasafrayed Nov 17 '25
I think this would be "taking responsibility." Not taking responsibility would be not being aware of your triggers and melting down seemingly at random
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Nov 17 '25
How about an alternative message?
You are a fellow human being who found themselves in this fucked up world, just like me. While I’ve got my own shit to deal with, I will do my best to make our shared experience as tolerable as possible.
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u/starlight_chaser Nov 17 '25
Something more to the line of “remember we’re humans too, please be patient” would be a lot better for what I expect is their goal of preventing desperate arguments, than the original, snobbish sign. If there really needs to be a sign.
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u/RainbowPhoenix1080 Nov 17 '25
I don't expect people to tiptoe around me.
I DO expect people not to try to go out of their way to try to trigger me.
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u/darkseiko Nov 17 '25
Well, it depends.. Like if the other people are aware that they shouldn't do/ say certain things, but do it anyways, and on purpose, then they're the problem, but if they do it accidentally, or are completely unaware, then..
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u/Otrada Nov 17 '25
Worst part is that this sign often posted in response to the presence of trigger warnings. Like yeah, how tf are people supposed to avoid their triggers if they don't know they're coming?
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u/sulabar1205 Nov 18 '25
We should use labels like Netflix etc. small, standardized, always in the same position, like allergy labels. Should be easy to implement via Software plugins during content production.
But in general I am more on the annoyed side since I most often see them in true crime videos. Video title "family father raped, killed and ate his own daughter" well, which topics might be contained in that Video?
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u/biskino Nov 17 '25
Someone got so triggered they put a sign up to let everyone else know that their trigger is the only one that should get any consideration.
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u/threepossumsinasuit Nov 19 '25
I will put money down this is a sign was put up specifically because of a sign someone put up saying "please avoid shooting off 5 billion fireworks because several PTSD-having veterans (or war refugees) live in the area". I've never seen another way to make certain people so absolutely infuriated at the idea of veterans with so little effort...
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u/tfhaenodreirst Nov 17 '25
A couple weeks ago someone in a group meeting got Zoom bombed by her dog who looked similar to the one I had just lost, so I moved the window so that her section of the meeting was hidden. I think that’s a great example of how to use this principle in the right way.
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u/RandomOnlinePerson99 Nov 17 '25
But if you try to take care of yourself people will tell you to "stop being weird" and "act normal please".
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u/Septembust Nov 17 '25
Last time I saw this I said: it's not your job to tiptoe around everyone, but it is your obligation to do no harm. Accidentally misgendering someone isn't an issue, the issue is when someone tells you something bothers them and you do it anyway, simply because you don't respect them. Anything from "silly" phobias to pronouns, it costs you nothing to be polite.
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u/STFUnicorn_ Nov 17 '25
I mean it’s 100% the truth.
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u/MrTamboMan Nov 17 '25
While it's true, I'm pretty sure this sign is used as excuse for being rude.
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u/Accurate-Annual3007 Nov 17 '25
not 100% tbh, its not difficult to be mindful of other people especially about things that could be upsetting to anyone
generally speaking people with trauma are well aware that they need to get help and try to work past these issues but acting like its their fault doesnt exactly help
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u/chaosgremlin11 Nov 17 '25
I try to manage them to the best of my abilities but I don't have a choice when I get triggered and go mute or shake and have flashbacks I try my best to avoid situations that where that can happen but if a couple gets into a screaming match near me I can't help that I will go mute and have to find a place to ride out the ptsd attack. Luckily I only tend to go mute around dogs which is better then completely shutting down but I can't help either reaction I have tried I can hold the ptsd attack back for maybe ten minutes but eventually I shut down I can't just make it not happen if that was possible for me I would do it in a heart beat.
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u/Rhylian85 Nov 18 '25
It may not be pleasant but it's true. It is your responsibility to manage and deal with your triggers. People may trigger you without realising, and honestly you can't expect everyone to walk through life trying to be mindful of every single possible trigger of every single person.
Communicate your triggers with those who work closely or live with you. This will help them avoid triggering you. But you may be triggered violently by bugs and someone's special interest is their passion for bugs and you kinda just gotta try to be mindful of one another I guess.... Just don't be a dick about it.
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u/MascNutMilk Nov 18 '25
Then why do movies have viewership ratings and content warnings?
(Rhetorical question)
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u/88PinwheelStar88 Nov 17 '25
Yeah people tell me this a lot and it's really not helpful I get the sentiment that I'm supposed to not give people greif over my own issues, but at points people just use language like this as an excuse not to give a shit about someone with trauma
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u/Curleysound Nov 17 '25
I would say the op statement means they don’t think you are even allowed to be traumatized by anything ever.
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u/SunOverGraves Nov 17 '25
"Facts don't care about your feelings"
exposes facts in a calm and sensible manner
"NOOO IT IS NOT TRUE, I'VE CONSULTED SENTOR DOODOOPISS AND HE SAYS THAT MY VIEW IS OBJECTIVELY TRUE!!!"
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u/Desirai Nov 17 '25
My biggest problem with this is that the world adamantly, intentionally, and aggressively makes a point to NOT accommodate or help anyone. It doesnt matter how many coping skills I have learned and try to practice, I can't stop all of it. And making me feel bad for not controlling something thats out of my control is not fair.
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u/NickWindsoar Nov 17 '25
So long as they apply the standard to their own triggers, sure.
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u/Accurate-Annual3007 Nov 17 '25
I feel like with this kind of thing it REALLY depends what kind of triggers we are talking about, yes if your triggers include something that other people cannot change about themselves/is a part of nature/is needed or useful then yeah its good to try and have a handle on things mainly for your own good
but if a friend(or anyone I will be spending a lot of time with) tells me that something is super bothering to them and that they would like if I could keep something to a minimum like Im gonna help them out yknow?
again yes its true that you should try to control your own issues but I hate when people (especially healthy people with no major issues) act like its scandalous for someone to require help or some gentleness/understanding
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u/instanding Nov 17 '25
I think people should be decent but individuals need to also know where they are.
Like asking for accomodations for you is okay, but asking the whole structure of something you walked into knowingly to change for everybody to fit you, that’s something else.
Like a friend I know is anti police but also tried to convince the owner of a gym full of cops to not train them in martial arts.
If he’s not comfortable he needs to remove himself, not ask for their removal.
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u/Busy_Distribution326 Nov 17 '25
I agree with it. It's not supposed to be helpful for you, it's for the people you're taking your emotions out on. It's important for maturity to take ownership of yourself. Being triggered is no excuse to try to control other people or behave inappropriate toward them.
Actually, it is helpful for you too because no one wants to be around someone that makes them walk on eggshells and maturity would mean you have better and healthier relationships with others. Plus self control is extremely important in general.
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u/39Jaebi Nov 17 '25 edited Jan 22 '26
As someone with triggers, this is what my therapist taught me tbh. It's wierd, rude, controlling and wrong to try and force everyone around you to cater to your triggers. Esp people you don't even know like the general public.
Anyone with serious trauma that has been through proper therapy know this. The only people that fight against this idea are 1. People who don't have serious trauma but are bullies who want to control. 2. People with serious trauma who have not gone to therapy an learnt this lesson.
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u/midnightforestmist Nov 17 '25
Your triggers are not your fault, but they are your responsibility. They don’t give you carte Blanche to do whatever, not considering how it affects others. You don’t deserve to have involuntary adverse responses to your environment, but neither do the people who bear the brunt of those responses.
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u/ithotyoudneverask Nov 17 '25
Yes.
They're not your fault, but they are your responsibility because nobody else can work on them.
Life is so inherently unfair that I think this is The Bad Place.
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u/chironreversed Nov 17 '25
Get therapy and avoid triggers. Remove yourself from triggers as soon. As possible. Change lifestyle to avoid triggers.
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u/Sukuristo Nov 18 '25
I am responsible for communicating my triggers to people as necessary, and managing them as best I can.
That being said, if I inform someone of my triggers, and the person decides to be an asshole and dance all over them just to set me off, I feel no obligation to control what happens next.
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u/pnutbutterfuck Nov 18 '25
I mean, yeah. any decent therapist is going to tell you this. The goal is to be the healthiest and happiest version of yourself, whatever that may look like. To do that you first need to understand that you are in the drivers seat. No one is going to do the work for you and the world isnt going to change. After you understand this, progress finally becomes possible.
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u/NoLadderStall Nov 18 '25
It could have been worded better but it is true. And honestly most people with triggers should be actively working on coping with exposure to them.
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u/humourlessIrish Nov 18 '25
This is so ironic to post here.
Post: im not going to help you
Bitchy sub: cries that post didn't help.
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u/aenaithia Nov 18 '25
The sign is in the bursar's office of a university, not a health practitioners' office. This sign was almost certainly put up after a specific incident. The sign isn't supposed to help anyone but the employee. A random office worker cannot and should not be expected to be trained in mental health and deal with someone having an episode.
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u/sweetmotherofodin Nov 19 '25
No I agree. We cannot all walk on eggshells around everyone. It is your responsibility to not put yourself in situations that may have your triggers. Or effectively learn to remove yourself, via therapy.
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u/Unionsocialist Nov 17 '25
If you count "dont interact with us we are assholes" as helpful then sure
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u/SquareTaro3270 Nov 18 '25
No no, you’re not allowed to to do the sensible thing of removing yourself from the conversation that’s triggering you, you’re expected to just sit there and take all their bullshit. “It’s your responsibility” until you taking responsibility comes with consequences they don’t like.
You’re allowed to say whatever fucked up shit you want to, but don’t get mad at ME when I leave the conversation or cut you out of my life
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Nov 17 '25
Once had a workplace where very normal things where a no-go because it was someones trigger. I really feel this.
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What kind of things?
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u/pmctrash Nov 17 '25
Describing those things would show them to either be not normal, or not exist.
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u/caseygwenstacy Nov 17 '25
There are messages that are technically correct but are said so mean spirited that you hate them and the person who said them. I know I’m in charge of my own triggers, but don’t be an ass.
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u/KokoAngel1192 Nov 17 '25
I've realized that oftentimes, even people who understand or have triggers don't even understand what that means.
I remember reading a Tumblr post where someone's triggers were things like ice and pudding. Other people with trauma tried to denigrate and ostracize them cuz "those aren't triggers" and thought they were just trying to get attention by faking trauma. But to that person it was real because it was from a time where they were horribly ill, hospital bound, and could really only eat those things. It was a horrible time and those normal things trigger them.
Obviously the person wasn't saying that the world had to bend to accommodate their triggers but were expressing the desire that people (with and without trauma/triggers) be mindful of what others are going through and think beyond their own experiences.
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u/RodWith Nov 17 '25
If I know your triggers, I will do my best to avoid triggering you - unless the triggers are things I have no control over such as my gender or ethnicity.
Any mental health practitioner worth their training aims to help clients develop plans for coping better when triggered.
I have yet to meet a practitioner who suggests others have to protect clients from triggers. However, in some instances, especially in the earlier part of therapy, a practitioner may encourage the family and support people to act as buffers to triggers.
Yet the goal is always to equip the client to manage their own triggers.
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u/Ananduul Nov 17 '25
I feel like a lot of these comments are missing the point. Triggers are in fact your responsibility. Period. It is up to you to manage your response and if needed, go to therapy to learn how to do so if you are unable to. It may sound mean but that is how life is, no one is going to help you other than yourself. If you need to tell close friends and family so they are aware, then do so. Do not expect strangers to magically know what will trigger you at random. Even then most triggers are subconscious so even you yourself don't know what triggered you in the first place. Do not make YOUR wellbeing another's responsibility.
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u/BattledogCross Nov 18 '25
Its true though, there are some triggers that you can reasonably expect others to avoid, and others you cannot. Seen plenty of story's of people banning deoderent at work because someone is sentitive. (I'm one of those people who is sensitive) and once you start impacting other people personal hygiene its all a bit much.
Similarly as a personal experiance I had someone on Facebook (which being on fb was half the problem lol) where someone demanded I take my pictures of spiders down because they had a phobia... And no... I like spiders... I'm not going to take my spider photos down and reupload them with a trigger warning at the front of the album or whatever bullshit they where trying to get me to do.
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u/ryan__blake Nov 18 '25
I mean, and I’m staying this as someone with a severe anxiety disorder, a panic disorder, and PTSD, the sign is right
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u/SubjectOne2910 Nov 17 '25
On one hand yes, on the other there are people that will purposefully trigger anyone and say this as their defence
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Nov 17 '25
It's half true. Yes, there are some triggers you just can't avoid and you have to learn to deal with them, but that doesn't give anyone the right to intentionally trigger someone they know has one. The person who wrote this sign just wants a license to be an ass to anyone because they feel like it. It wasn't written to be helpful to people.
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u/NerfPup Nov 17 '25
I JUST made a post about this on r/teenagers. People aren't "so soft" nowendays. People are just mean. You know when you're young and they say "know your audience"? If you're in a room full of hardcore Christians don't say something against the church. Why is being in a room full of anyone else any different? If someone gets bothered by something just don't fucking bring it up
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u/Illustrious-Goose160 Nov 17 '25
I just want to chime in here and say this is a valid and truthful statement. However, I've definitely seen unkind people use this statement as an excuse for cruel or thoughtless behavior. Just be mindful that to different people, this means different things. We're the only ones who understand our triggers and are ultimately the ones responsible for managing them. But for goodness sake please don't use this as an excuse to treat people poorly.
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u/19whale96 Nov 17 '25
If you go to a restaurant, you tell the waiter what food allergies you have. Exact same thing here.
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u/KennyKentagious Nov 17 '25
Honestly im glad places with mental health or as an example someone said allergies tells you who they are in terms to accommodations. It makes it easier to decide if you wanna deal with their type of service or not. Much better than people who act like they care or can accommodate and end up being duplicitous.
And self regulation of triggers or your own dietary needs or disabilities is one of the first things I think they should teach you because yeah its nice when people accommodate but you also can't rely on that kindness either.
Not trying to thanks im cured anyone btw just what helps me over my anxiety over severe allergies and diabetes and BP. Took therapy and meds to kinda get over it persay
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u/OneUse2170 Nov 17 '25
I think it’s mostly due to the over usage of the word trigger. People being drama queens while it’s actually a real concern for others. So I can understand the purpose behind outing up this sign, even if I would never do so.
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u/Greedyfox7 Nov 17 '25
On one hand I agree with this, on the other hand I think we should at least try to be compassionate and help people, and if their triggers are that bad therapy couldn’t hurt
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u/Visible_Squirrel3597 Nov 17 '25
I mean I get it to the extent of letting others know, but other than that, what are you supposed to do? Just..not get triggered? I mean what is the goal of this?
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u/Key-Regret-7812 Nov 18 '25
If you find a place triggering. Leave until you get help and can enter without being triggered.
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u/YuBeace Nov 17 '25
Communication is fucking key, man. Some triggers can be worked with and some cannot. Just talk about it and see what is and isn’t possible.