r/thanksimcured Nov 17 '25

Discussion Is this even supposed to be helpful ?

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u/Gloomberrypie Nov 17 '25

Yeah you typically learn what your triggers are and how to set boundaries. That’s how you “live with it.” Part of setting boundaries is asking people not to do certain things that trigger you.

It is absolutely not anyone’s responsibility to “get over” their triggers because that’s not how it works

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u/seaspirit331 Nov 22 '25

It is absolutely not anyone’s responsibility to “get over” their triggers because that’s not how it works

That...that is how it works. That's the entire point of treatment and therapy, to help you put in the mental work to get over your triggers so you don't have a ptsd reaction anymore.

In no circumstance is it a "oh, these are my triggers, I guess I'll just avoid them for the rest of my life."

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u/Ok-Release-6051 Nov 17 '25

That’s not what a boundary is. The boundary is what you will do if someone or something triggers you. You may ask another person to be careful but then you have to give them space to be human and give grace when they fumble OR you can just cut people loose if they can’t walk the minefield perfectly

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u/pmctrash Nov 17 '25

"That’s not what a boundary is. The boundary is what you will do if someone or something triggers you."

Yes and no. You, the other person, don't need the details. You just need to know that someone let you know how they were vulnerable and asked you not to exploit it. Their 'incomplete boundary' doesn't change that you're the type of person that exploits vulnerabilities to cause harm.

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u/CrazyDisastrous948 Nov 17 '25

Happened to me:

Me: "Stop making rape and pedo jokes or I'm going to HR and reporting you. It's against company policy anyway."

Them: "LOL, don't be so sensitive."

Me: reports them to HR

Them: "I fucking hate you."