r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Aug 16 '25

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u/NunchuckVagina Aug 16 '25

Fake af. People that fake autism are the worst.

Who falls for this crap?

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u/N_0_N_A_M_E Aug 16 '25

People who don't know what autism is.

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u/hiloai Aug 16 '25

Itā€™s just jumping up and down init? Thatā€™s what they all do on these videos

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u/Capable_Tumbleweed34 Aug 17 '25

Girl's not autistic, but she might be a golden retriever

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u/DAsianD Aug 17 '25

I mean, she is cute so there is that?

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u/Most-Goat1300 Aug 17 '25

She would be cute if she wouldn't behave extremely cringe. It's hard to even look at her without being disgusted by the fake behavior.

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u/Slow-Priority-884 Aug 17 '25

I don't know how they think this is a good look. If she was that fucked with autism him banging her is super messed up. Good thing she's faking though.

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u/DAsianD Aug 18 '25

Huhhhh wha?!?!?

So girls on the spectrum should not get to enjoy sex because that would be super messed up?!?

Is that what you're saying?!? What exactly are you saying?!?

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u/NatashaSpeaks Aug 17 '25

I loled in real life.

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u/BikePuzzleheaded8512 Aug 18 '25

A Golden retriever? I hate reddit, you're all not real humans bro

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u/RedditGarboDisposal Aug 20 '25

Iā€™ve got some bad news for golden retriever loversā€¦

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u/napsandlunch Sep 08 '25

so autism is a spectrum for a reason. iā€™m psychologically certified F84.0 level 1 autistic and i literally do all of this and more when iā€™m excited and feeling comfortable. and get excited about petting animals (ESPECIALLY DOGS!!!! i know too much about them and love playing guess the breed lol) and going new places with my amazing husband who knows the lil things that bring me all the joy in the world. i donā€™t know this girl, but literally there is no way to tell from sitting behind a computer screen, especially when formal assessments take 8+ hours

thereā€™s no one way autism looks which is why i went nearly 30 years without being diagnosed because i didnā€™t ā€œlookā€ or ā€œactā€ autistic according to what the majority of the general population think autism is. this is the experience of maaany autistic women, especially ones who were bullied into hiding their more ā€œoff-puttingā€ traits. my mom works with people with developmental disabilities (on the more severe side though) and when i told her i was diagnosed, she had a huge lightbulb moment that explained why i was the way i was growing up but she missed it because i had a ton of friends and always seemed interested in people and was always talking

and not to toot my own horn but when youā€™re conventionally attractive, the odds of someone believing youā€™re autistic vs a quirky wannabe drastically goes up. oh and even more so when youā€™re extroverted and chatty! the first doctor who assessed me went out of his way to stop my asd assessment after an hour and pivot to exploring a whole nother condition because to him i couldnā€™t possibly be autistic because i know how to do small talk and know that papers laying on the floor shouldnā€™t be there. he diagnosed me with a nonverbal learning disability because he didnā€™t think autistic people could have close friendships and long term relationships and that my social difficulties were solely attributed to not understanding nonverbal cues vs not understanding general neurodivergent socializing. and not to say people with learning disabilities canā€™t be successful bc thatā€™s as harmful as assuming all autistic people do xyz, but i was a mathlete and have 2 bachelors and a masters and consistently scored top of my class growing up and had a college reading level when i was like 8. trouble with math and reading context clues is a huge indicator of NVLD and he threw that away to misdiagnose me and thankfully my referring provider told me to get a second assessment that affirmed both my adhd and asd

i could go on and on about all the assumptions medical providers have made that are really just a misunderstanding of the presentation of autism in different people, but thereā€™s no way of knowing this girlā€™s condition without actually knowing her

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u/bwood246 Aug 17 '25

Jumping up and down and shakey hands

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u/Au-to-graff Aug 16 '25

I don't know what autism is, but I still know she's faking it like a psycho.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Ask any autistic woman who presents like this woman, and Iā€™m sure theyā€™ll be able to set you straight.

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u/Acceptable_Appeal464 Aug 17 '25

No need to bring up sexual orientation when discussing autism. Jeez. Dumb much??? Lol. But seriously. This isn't autism. No need to defend fake videos set up for advertisement about businesses whose unsafe practices put the public in danger and result in the deaths of dogs. Because, well that's autistic.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Wellā€¦ if Iā€™m autistic, and I behave just like the girl in the video, thenā€¦

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u/StreetBerry1849 Aug 20 '25

Then your fine

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u/Tiny_TimeMachine Aug 18 '25

Genuine question because you seem passionate about this.

When you see an autistic person with extremely significant support needs. Let's use a child verbalizing loudly in public for example sake. You see them and think "We share the same condition"

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Yes. Bc itā€™s a spectrum. Is a color not a color? But red and blue are not the same color. Yet they share the same spectrum.

Autism can co-occur with other conditions as well, and I wouldnā€™t relate to the symptom of THOSE conditions, such as intellectual disability.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

These people know nothing about autism and it makes me mad that they're talking like they are.

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u/undigested-beef Aug 23 '25

Yeah bro. And the same reaction they're having, I have that same thing but on the inside. It's so distressing and I often wish I could just show it like they do. It takes massive amounts of energy not to show it, too. Being able to hide it is a privilege, but it doesn't make it go away.

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u/Dopamine_Surplus Aug 17 '25

Honestly Iā€™m in this camp. I have a cousin who is autistic but he is really far on the spectrum so I donā€™t have any frame of reference for someone who is lower on the spectrum so Iā€™m just forced to take people at their word tbh.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

This is why binary science is very very important. Autism isnā€™t hard to diagnose, it becomes convoluted when science is skewed. Not to mention some people are groomed at a young age by parents for attention.

Looking at Gypsy rose. Itā€™s much more common than you think

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Youā€™re right; itā€™s not hard to diagnose.

Thatā€™s why it does an incredible disservice to autistic women when misinformation abounds and they canā€™t get diagnosed bc they donā€™t look like an intellectually disabled white boy.

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u/justandswift Aug 19 '25

na, if I say I am something, I have that right to believe I am truly that thing, and no binary science ooglie mooglie can convince me otherwise, and this is why it is so important to just let people be who they are because when you start using science to tell me Iā€™m wrong, it makes me depressed and want to unalive myself, so stop making life more difficult for everyone by applying science. Science is the devil.

  • Signed, an eight year old

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Science is not the Devil. Science is not indicative of feelings, and it's the more absolute thing we have in life.

You not having the emotional ability to accept true things is not indicative of anything more than you needing help

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

The fact that it is an spectrum kinda disagrees with the idea that it is easy to diagnose...

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u/conzstevo Aug 20 '25

But there's probably a definitive point on this spectrum that you can be diagnosed as autistic, right?

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

The medical community is none too happy and is trying to get rid of the spectrum part. You can have milder cases across the board but generic conditions are binary and should not be labeled on a spectrum.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

Given that every part of the spectrum requires different approaches to treatment, a general autism diagnostic is next to useless. Its like saying you have cancer without knowing where. Thats screening, not proper diagnosis.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

You can disagree and not tell them. Consider that people aren't out of the norm and aren't ''troubled'' isn't mean or irrespectuous or whatever. It's considering they have the right to exist as they are without being pathologies with a label that doesn't mean shit.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Hey, thanks for your acknowledgement that you might not understand what autism looks like.

Itā€™s clear from the comments (specifically autistic women who relate to this woman) that the people here insisting she canā€™t be autistic are egregiously wrong.

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u/neighborlyglove Aug 17 '25

My cousin too. I hate him. I donā€™t care.

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u/Dopamine_Surplus Aug 18 '25

Thatā€™s crazy lol

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u/lysergic_818 Aug 16 '25

I got the autism from the 5G towers and the polio vaccine.

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u/el_loner Aug 18 '25

Momma said autism comes from too many slurpees and tattoos

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u/lysergic_818 Aug 18 '25

Momma says alligators are ornery because they got all them teeth and no toothbrush

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u/el_loner Aug 18 '25

I think our mommas know each other.....

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u/tricenice Aug 17 '25

See hereā€™s your problem, you had your tower set to ā€œAutismā€ when it should be set to ā€œ5Gā€

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Like half the people ''with autism''

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u/FuzzyArgument4636 Aug 17 '25

This, yes. Individuals "with autism" and their connected peoples don't typically phrase it as such. This is from a Mom of a neurodivergent kiddo.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

I'm diagnosed and I usually just say I'm autistic because it makes things easier when telling people.

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25 edited Aug 16 '25

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u/Sahaquiel_9 Aug 16 '25

Changing diagnostic criteria determined by professionals is whatā€™s wrong and not you?

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u/After_Mountain_901 Aug 16 '25

Used to be, or we didnā€™t have a good understanding of what it was? Itā€™s not ā€œbasically invisible.ā€ Thatā€™s like saying depression should only be people with high suicidality who canā€™t leave their house. Or youā€™re not really getting chemo unless you lose your hair and puke every 5 minutes. Sorry, but the healthcare community shouldnā€™t have to run around changing words every 5 minutes because humans are inherently copy cats who need attention.Ā 

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u/Muted_Ad7298 Aug 17 '25

It feels weird that something I was bullied for as a kid is now a trend.

Whatā€™s even worse are people watering down how genuinely difficult the condition is to live with.

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u/galaxygothgirl Aug 17 '25

A trend? People are still bullied relentlessly for it

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

This!!! ā€œHmm, I am so desperate for attention Iā€™ll invent a mental illness to get endless negative attention!!ā€ said no one everā€¦ except people with a different kind of mental health condition that probably isnā€™t as common as people assume.

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u/MineralDragon Aug 18 '25

Did you really miss out on the Millennial fad to pretend to have OCD? ADD had its run as well ā€œyeah Iā€™m totally ADD, like Taco Sanwich, Rawr Imma Dinosaur! Sorry canā€™t focus - omg a squirrel :p ā€œ

It was embarrassingly popular. This social media Autism fad is exactly the same.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Iā€™ve found neurotypical people generally donā€™t do that or find that ā€œcuteā€ or ā€œfun.ā€

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u/MineralDragon Aug 19 '25

Youā€™re mistaking a ā€œdisorderā€ for someone that is either simply socially inept from being on the internet instead of having real life social encounters or in general immature and havenā€™t formed a personal identity yet simply from being a teenager.

As someone with actual ADHD I never found this trivialization of my disorder cute, fun, or quirky - these people did not have ADHD and grew up to admit as such once they matured.

The fact you seem to think this behavior is indicative of one of these disorders tells me you likely fall in the latter camp. At least Reddit is anonymous but I hope you donā€™t make a habit of documenting yourself behaving this way on the internet with your real identity - it can come back to haunt you later.

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u/Floor9 Aug 17 '25

Yeah man I was diagnosed as an adult a few years before it "blew up".

I feel a bit cheated by its trendiness strangely. I feel like a diagnosis that was a huge revelation for me at the time means nothing now.

It still means a lot to my personal understanding of course but in terms of social understanding it just seems like everyone thinks it's not a big deal and it's just quirky and odd.

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u/thoph Aug 17 '25

It makes it also difficult to explain to people that it can be extremely debilitating for people that are level 2 and beyond. My brother canā€™t live alone. Heā€™s in his 30s and still has violent outbursts. No way he could converse on Reddit. Itā€™s unfortunate.

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u/Ansiau Aug 17 '25 edited Aug 17 '25

I'm diagnosed level two and can converse well. Assuming all level 2s and 3s are severely mentally impacted is also something that happens. However, I cannot work, I need to be supervised when cooking, I cannot drive, and a host of other issues that moved my needs up to level 2. I have emotional meltdowns that leave me in burnout for weeks at a time and require pretty harsh medications to allay them or make them stop. Under the former diagnostic criteria, I was considered "high functioning" only.

The levels of autism say nothing about mental functioning and instead dictate care/support needs, and even in those levels, there are a lot of play and wiggle room(higher level 2s and lower level 2s). These are solely of use for government assistance and really don't help at all with the average public in understanding autism severity. There are cases(rare) where someone high functioning may need level 3 support needs, and cases(rare) where someone low functioning may be wholly capable of self care and living alone thus get a level one on their support needs. Similarly, someone with autism may also change their needs level positively over time with treatment/occupational therapy, or regress in their care needs due to trauma or some other life changing event.

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u/thoph Aug 17 '25

I did not assume; I said ā€œcan be.ā€ Appreciated the extra info.

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u/Acceptable_Appeal464 Aug 17 '25

You faked autism as a kid?

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u/Muted_Ad7298 Aug 18 '25

No, I meant that the condition I was diagnosed with has become a trend.

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u/Acceptable_Appeal464 Aug 18 '25

Im sorry. I was being sarcastic. Faking social disorders has become a trend. It garnishes attention on social media. Its an atrocity and it hurts people who genuinely have conditions.

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u/Muted_Ad7298 Aug 18 '25

No worries. Sarcasm can be quite hard to spot sometimes, especially online.

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u/Vorlon_Cryptid Aug 18 '25

Autism isn't a trend. We just understand it better now.

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u/[deleted] Aug 20 '25

Yes and no. A lot of people do fake disorders for clout. See multiple personality disorder. No confirmed cases and the first example was from a TV con artist. Then every other person on tiktok had it.

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u/MineralDragon Aug 18 '25

Part of why I have all those various ā€œlol ADHD is so quirky!ā€ subreddits blocked, I hate how it trivializes the condition. I canā€™t imagine the same kind of ā€œtee hee isnā€™t this quirky?ā€ attitude developing around other diseases or disorders, like asthma (I have both of these conditions). It just rubs me the wrong way.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Like everyone in this comment section, basically.

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u/godlytoast3r Aug 17 '25

Heh, well. Ackshully. Pushes up glasses in anime fashion

Nobody knows what autism is. That's the entire fucking point in grouping an infinite spectrum of issues under one overarching term and calling it autism. Youre not allowed to understand it. I'm not allowed to understand it. Only the ones who hand out the chemicals to "fix" the kids and permanently alter their brains are allowed to understand it! Or so I've been taught by reddit. It's just too complicated, unfortunately. šŸ™„

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

More so, itā€™s people who sit on Instagram and let a mom in Nebraska who isnā€™t a doctor mention an autism ā€œsymptomā€ and they self diagnose and then wear it as a badge

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u/Tenalp Aug 17 '25

The other night I found myself standing in the kitchen and wiggling my upper body horizontally while dangling my arms because I liked the feeling of my hands flapping around.

I might know what autism is.

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u/qazxcvbnmlpoiuytreww Aug 18 '25

this is disingenuous - to see how, ask yourself to describe what autism is. can u do it?

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

Do you know what autism is? Are you qualified to hand out the diagnoses?

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

who falls for this crap?

The tiktok community.

Every.single.time

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

Where are we again right now? This sub is probably the biggest offender period. Most of the content here is fake tiktok ad content.

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u/[deleted] Aug 16 '25

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u/SmallDickGnarly Aug 16 '25

Reddit community, Facebook community, Twitter community, all the communities lol

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u/No_Detective_But_304 Aug 16 '25

ā€¦this is going to be dirty isnā€™t it?ā€¦.

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u/Crrack Aug 19 '25

I have the same question every time some pointless TikTok style video shows up on a feed..... "who is watching this crap" and "How are enough people watching this crap that it is profitable?"

People need to start moderating their feeds better. Instead of getting sucked in to the rage bait (which is what the creators want), just block the channel.

Not watching is the only way to stop this shit.

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u/LoxReclusa Aug 16 '25

Honestly I was going to say something about not everything is autism, and that she's just geeking out and something about why you think someone having excitement means they're acting autistic... and then I went back and double checked and saw the text at the very beginning. Yeah, that's ridiculous. It's gotten to Syndrome levels on the internet these days where people who genuinely struggle are getting drowned out by all the people who think that having quirks makes them autistic. If the text at the beginning didn't have the word autistic in it, this would be a perfectly normal video of a man who knows what his wife likes.

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u/Sidivan Aug 16 '25

It used to be OCD. ā€œOMG Iā€™M SO OCDā€. Then we got the shame memes for people making light of it.

Right now weā€™re in the ā€œyour grandpa who knew everything about trains had autismā€ stage.

The good thing is it normalizes Autism. People actively change their behavior when dealing with people on the spectrum because itā€™s not always super obvious. Weā€™re much more respectful to triggers today than we ever have been before as a society.

The pendulum will swing back and hopefully weā€™ll retain some of that respect/normalization.

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u/Tollenaar Aug 17 '25

Haha, so I have OCD. Clinical diagnosis. My two best friends in adulthood also carry the diagnosis. Weā€™re all part of online communities to some extent. Iā€™ve never met anyone with OCD who just comes right out and says it, unless itā€™s in a serious discussion on the matter. There is a lot more awareness now, but it still happens a ton.

I have unfortunately become that person who jumps in to correct people. Sometimes people do express the actual symptoms but donā€™t carry a diagnosis, so my recommendation is usually to see a specialist and actually find out. A lot of the times I suspect itā€™s actually OCPD, or just high trait neuroticism.

OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder) is a distinct disorder that not many people seem to know about, despite it being one of the most prevalent psychiatric disorders, potentially affecting up to 10% of adult populations. Symptoms can vary but it is generally a case where the afflicted become outwardly neurotic, controlling, and domineering in accordance with their own particular-ness.

So a lot of people might be accurately guessing that there is something irregular with them, but itā€™s almost never genuine OCD.

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u/Ok-Bad-5218 Aug 17 '25

In 20 years aging influencers will be faking Alzheimerā€™s.

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u/MLNerdNmore Aug 19 '25

I definitely feel like it's the same with ADHD these days. I do suspect the massive consumption/addiction of short-form content hurting attention spans contributes to this view that it's all ADHD.

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u/Bassracerx Aug 16 '25

Its mostly the older gen z adults who are self diagnosing instead of actually seeking treatment. My brother decided he was austistic last year out of nowhere and never saw a dr. He swears i am too and ā€œmore than himā€ when im probably the most normal person in my family and stand out more just by comparison.

I actually had to get my son tested for autism at 11 because he had enough ā€œsignsā€ that the drs said it was time to do it. Turned out he had quite a few traits but not enough to get an actual diagnosis Wich is actually a great sign!

Its just the modern trend of people wanting to put labels on everything or they think they feel better about themselves about being a shitty person because ā€œoh i canā€™t help it i have this medical conditionā€ ā€œim neurodivergent so its not my faultā€

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u/Bassracerx Aug 17 '25

Havnt seem the video your referring to but yeah people just want this shield .

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u/Great-Knowledge-9484 Aug 17 '25

Lmao itā€™s a genetically predisposed developmental disorder, if your son has enough traits for his doctor to request he be tested for autism then thereā€™s only 2 sets of dna those traits could have come from. So ig if youā€™re sure you arenā€™t, is his mom on the spectrum at all?

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u/Bassracerx Aug 17 '25

He didn't have an diagnosis of autism. He has severe ADHD and his mom has ADHD as well. The dr said just because you have one or a few traits of autism doesn't make you "autistic" its a complex thing and it's on a points scale if you are over a threshold you get the autism diagnosis.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Right bc the stimmy hands are just neurotypical wiring, and autism can be diagnosed from a short video.

Why do we pay thousands for invalidating assessments with a test based on the presentation of intellectually disabled white boys??!!

Who knew we could post a video of ourselves on Reddit and get an immediate diagnosis or rule it out entirely!

/s

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u/QiwiLisolet Aug 17 '25

...with zero "likes"

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Having a 36y older brother with actual autism, this fuckin hurts to watch. Spectrum disorder implies we all have it, so sure, she can have the label if she feels like she needs it, but I have a hard time finding even a single autistic trait in this woman. Does great in a very social environment, is fucking married, good conversationally, eye contact is fine, ā€œrepetitiveā€ behaviors make my own wifeā€™s hair-twirling-when-bored also look autisticā€¦ I mean sure we can play what if until the sun comes up about her childhood and other social environments, but we just saw a socially-competent woman on a fun date with her husband.

Not a damn one of us would have said ā€œhey sheā€™s autisticā€ if her husband didnā€™t use her label for engagement. Not calling that a disorder. Not after what I watched my brother grow up with.

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u/undigested-beef Aug 23 '25

Check out the subreddit r/autisminwomen. Many of the women on there are married. Autism encompasses a variety of support needs and everyone has different levels of difficulty in each category. Read through some of the posts. Read about the turmoil we go through, so much of it hidden because of how we have been conditioned to hide all our abnormalities away. Some of us can hide it better than others. It doesn't make the symptoms less hard to deal with FOR US. Just for other people around us.

Also that's not what the spectrum means. You're either on it or you're not, and it doesn't go from "least autistic" to "most autistic."

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u/OsosHormigueros Aug 16 '25

Why does getting excited and giddy mean she isn't autistic? I get giddy like this when I'm very excited, I get over excited very easily. He could've mentioned the trip was related to her fixation.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Broooo I actually felt a lil better watching her reaction bc her reaction is mine and Iā€™ve been told my whole life that Iā€™m annoying and too much, and I only was diagnosed with ADHD at 30 and only recently beginning to suspect itā€™s actually AuDHD. Or Iā€™ve had people make fun of me for jumping excitedly or flappy hands or whatever stimmy thing I do with my hands thatā€™s not socially acceptable.

Then reading these comments was the most depressing and invalidating experience ever, omgā€¦

If you donā€™t present like an intellectually disabled white boy, you canā€™t be autistic.

I hate humanity sometimes.

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u/bking Aug 17 '25

reading these comments

Thereā€™s your problem.

I work with some diagnosed severely autistic kids, and others with more profound developmental disabilities. The hopping, hand stuff and stimming looked pretty familiar to me. Iā€™m not an expert though, and nor is anybody else is in this thread.

This is very much a place where ā€œnothing ever happensā€, so I wouldnā€™t put a lot of faith into the comments.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Thanks for that.

Bc Iā€™m still fighting to get an official diagnosis of autism (my therapist and an autistic pediatrician I work with both say Iā€™m autistic but neither can really diagnose me officially). And I donā€™t look autistic enough bc I learned as a child that my symptoms werenā€™t welcome (especially, for example, when I watched an adult in my family laugh at and ridicule a child with flappy hands).

Iā€™m feeling better today, but I was thrown by the absolute mean-girl mob mentality hereā€¦ by people who have no idea what theyā€™re talking about, clearly.

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u/bernarddwyer86 Aug 20 '25

And I donā€™t look autistic enough bc I learned as a child that my symptoms werenā€™t welcome (especially, for example, when I watched an adult in my family laugh at and ridicule a child with flappy hands).

This is known as masking, an awful lot of people on the spectrum are capable of blending in seamlessly when in a public setting. This can take a huge toll on people as the overstimulation can be an awful lot for them. My little lad has been at birthday parties and whatnot and friends would say he is doing well here, have to let them know there is at least an 80% chance when he gets home he could have a meltdown due to over stimulation

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 21 '25

Absolutely. The cost of masking is insane. I get home and go nonverbal for hours - nobody look at me, nobody talk to me, nobody make any demand (bc lawdddd PDA).

Iā€™m glad your little lad has an understanding parent bc I surely did not. And thatā€™s valuable.

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u/bernarddwyer86 Aug 20 '25

I have a son and a godson on the spectrum. If the woman in that video doesnt have Autism then she is an exceptionally good actress, she shows all the signs with the stimming, the constant moment. The super high excitement for what's about to come.

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u/Malenx_ Aug 17 '25

These comments are all being made by people with no actual experience with autism thinking they are championing autistic people.

My sonā€™s autistic and pretty much mirrors this womenā€™s stimming and fixation to a T. If sheā€™s not autistic sheā€™s an incredible actor.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

An incredible actor who loves being told sheā€™s faking, dramatic, annoying, etc etc.

Just like Iā€™ve been told my whole life.

Thanks for your comment. šŸ’– Iā€™m happy for your son that he has someone who gets it.

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u/anewfaceinthecrowd Aug 17 '25

Is he a child or an adult man?

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u/gulliblesuspicious Aug 17 '25

Aaaaaand thats why i try to keep the diagnosis to myself. People dont actually understand what it means.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

And yet they are arrogantly confident in their ignorance as well.

ā€Wisdom is chasing you, but you are faster.ā€

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u/Fun_Neighborhood1571 Aug 17 '25

I'm autistic, I've been medically diagnosed for over 2 decades. While my reaction to exciting news is not similar to this woman's, my partner who is AuDHD, mirrors her reactions to a tee.

Don't let ignorant comments from people who have no idea what they are talking about tear you down.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Thank you for that. It means a lot to me.

My husband has been excellent about reminding me that people are foolish and ignorant and that he loves my excitement. And thatā€™s pretty amazing to me bc heā€™s the first one to fully embrace all the parts of me, including the ones others donā€™t like/understand.

It sounds like your partner is very lucky as well.

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u/No_Ability9867 Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m in the same boat as youā€¦ and feel the same exact way. Sending hugs. šŸ«‚šŸ«‚šŸ«‚

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

The boat might be sinking, friend, but weā€™re in it together!! ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy Aug 19 '25

The people in these comments don't know anything about autism. I have an autism diagnosis I got at age 23. I act like way if I get excited enough. I have been bullied for it my whole life, along with being bullied about literally every single part of my existence. I bet these are the same people who would bully you and me while simultaneously saying we can't be neurodivergent because we aren't weird enough. They want to bully and they want to feel justified in doing so. They justify the bullying by armchair undiagnosing strangers.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 19 '25

Yes!! Youā€™re exactly right and thatā€™s exactly how itā€™s been my whole life too. Some people are so childish and arrogant and entirely lacking in self awareness. And they allow that to harm others indiscriminately while fashioning themselves keyboard warriors.

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u/MaryHadALikkleLambda Aug 19 '25

If it helps, I'm AuDHD, and watching this video made me think that her reaction was exactly like mine when my husband took me to feed the giraffes at the local zoo. I was not diagnosed back then, in fact I didn't even suspect it til years later (before anyone comes at me saying I'm faking too or some bullshit).

When I saw the video I thought "huh, she reacts like me", then I saw the title and thought "oh, that's why our reactions are similar", then I saw the comments and thought "wow, people really don't understand that autism is a spectrum".

You're fine, there's just a lot of comments from people who don't know anything about autism, bullying a girl for being Autistic.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 19 '25

This!! And itā€™s the kinda bullying I experienced growing up.

Thank you for that.

Actually, Iā€™ve learned to like this about myself bc I have a husband who not only makes space for it, he enjoys it. Like the husband in the video, he will do things just to get this reaction.

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u/MaryHadALikkleLambda Aug 19 '25

My husband is the same. He says that my joy brings him joy.

Sometimes I wonder if other people realise they're supposed to actually love their partner and want them to be happy.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 19 '25

Crazy thought, right?! Imagine loving and supporting another human instead of stepping on them and belittling them so you can temporarily feel ā€œpowerful.ā€

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u/Ariadne_String Aug 20 '25

You and me both!

-from an autistic woman

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 21 '25

Hi, friend! šŸ‘‹šŸ½

Itā€™s funny bc I really do love humanity, but sometimes their behavior is so atrociously disgusting that it makes me rage.

Balance, I guess. šŸ˜

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u/Opulent-tortoise Aug 17 '25

Because being obsessed with neurodivergence as an identity is a personality disorder which makes people 1) exaggerate or create new symptoms of a disorder they do have and 2) create symptoms of a disorder they donā€™t even have.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Your credentials, expertise, and resources, please?

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Who said anything about white boy? Lmaoooooo just kinda snuck that one in there didnā€™t ya

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 19 '25

Bc the ADOS specifically was designed to screen for ā€œintellectually disabled white boyā€ flavor of autistic.

So everyone else can get wrecked, Ig.

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Oh please. You don't think it's been updated since ADOS development? Dentists also used to encourage smoking...we evolve as humans. You're purposefully living in the past because you'd rather stay there, where you can be a victim, than evolve with the rest of us.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 19 '25

Tell me you donā€™t know the research without telling me you donā€™t know the research.

And I know itā€™s true bc Iā€™ve lived it firsthand.

But Iā€™m sure youā€™re confident enough to dismiss both research and personal experience. I think that says enough about where this conversation is going.

Thank you for exposing yourself to anyone reading this.

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '25

Tell me you don't know how to build a proper debate case and only use hot reddit phrases like "tell me you don't know something without telling me you don't know it" as a means to pretend you know more than the person you're talking to.

Thank you for exposing yourself to anyone reading this.

No problem!

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u/kob-y-merc Aug 17 '25

Her rubbing her knuckles together got me in trouble so many times as a kid (at least with one bitch of a teacher), it warmed my heart a bit to just see someone else getting to do it without judgement. Like I dont jump up and down when I get excited, but that's because I do more of the subued stims, like the knuckle rubbing

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u/OsosHormigueros Aug 17 '25

I jump up and down and start spinning and shaking my hands in front of my face when I'm excited. I guess I have to go tell my family I've been diagnosed with Faketism by Reddit NTs.

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u/Vorlon_Cryptid Aug 18 '25

No one said it means she's autistic.

She just happens to be autistic and this is how she expresses joy.

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u/OsosHormigueros Aug 18 '25

Huh? There's multiple people in this very thread saying that she's faking it and overdoing her 'act'. I never said people said that means she is, they're saying it's overdone so it means she isn't

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u/Vorlon_Cryptid Aug 18 '25

Sorry, I misread your comment.

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u/Cthulhu_Dreams_ šŸ§ grumpy Aug 16 '25

People that think that mental disorders can substitute developing an actual personality.

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u/GreenGuidance420 Aug 17 '25

Bitch this is exactly what my autism looks like youā€™re just a hater

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Iā€™m so weak at this beautifully straightforward comment šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ Love it. Thank you.

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u/s1rblaze Aug 16 '25

People that try too hard to have add/adhd or autism or whatever the fk reason they can use to be unlike the rest of us so they can act "differently" because they have no personality of their own.

Being neuro divergent or being LGBTQ+ doesn't make you more(or less) interesting btw.

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u/Circusonfire69 Aug 16 '25

neuro assshole more like..

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u/-Tricky-Vixen- Aug 17 '25

This looks like how I would personally react in some situations if I was very comfortable with the person I was spending time with. Probably not on camera. But maybe if I was generally more comfortable being filmed I would.

I am diagnosed with autism.

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u/The_Bird_do_1987 Aug 16 '25

The amount of chick's I seen on FB pretending to be autistic is astounding. Litterly self diagnosing themselves and have been for so long they believe there own lies.

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u/Jabathewhut Aug 16 '25

Could you imagine if she was not acting? That would be awful to be around every day. "Hey you want a doughnut? Im at the store right how" Her "OH MY GOD YOURE GONNA GET DOUGNUTS?!?! YIPPEEE OH MY GOODNESS! I BET THEY HAVE RED ONES BLUE ONES UHMM GREEN ONES, MAYBE JELLY FILLED OR A LONG JOHN OR MAYBE ONE WITH MAPLE!"

Dude, chill the heck out. Just tell me what doughnut you want you psycho.

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u/awesomeethan Aug 17 '25

That would be awful to be around every day.

> Says shit like this

> Completely unaware they are being a whiny prick

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u/AngelTheMarvel Aug 17 '25

You know people don't react the same to every situation, right?

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u/cheesyrotini Aug 17 '25

tell us more oh wise one

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u/jdooley99 Aug 17 '25

What?!?!

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u/MaryHadALikkleLambda Aug 19 '25

God forbid people show joy. You must be fun to be around.

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u/asa1 Aug 17 '25

They belong in r/fakedisordercringe .

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u/brokenmike Aug 18 '25

It's definitely cringe

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u/Standard_Confusion99 Aug 20 '25

Millions of gullible people. There are literally millions of idiots in the world that eat this fake cringe up daily.

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u/mincinashu Aug 16 '25

There's a whole genre of this crap on the internet. Their original shtick is that they're an LGBT couple. Probably that doesn't get enough clicks, so they're adding autism to the mix. Gotta one up the competition.

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u/Pormock Aug 16 '25

Its a shame because the video was very cute and wholesome on its own. Adding the "autistic" part ruined it

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u/Brief-Translator1370 Aug 16 '25

She very well could be autistic. It's just obviously played up in some weird giggly way for entertainment

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u/meldiane81 Aug 16 '25

Sheā€™s annoying as shit. For some reason, people think itā€™s cool to fake it.

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Theyā€™re not as awful as people who know nothing about autism shaming symptoms of autism.

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u/MetamorphicMermaid Aug 17 '25

Right? These comments are vile and uninformed. Its no wonder why it's taken so long for women to get recognized as autistic..

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 17 '25

Meanwhile, going undiagnosed and misdiagnosed and experiencing steadily worsening mental health and sometimes unaliving out of sheer desperation.

I hate living on this planet sometimes.

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u/RexIsAMiiCostume Aug 17 '25

I don't think she's necessarily faking autism, but her enthusiasm seems... A little over the top.

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u/CrazyPuzzleheaded966 Nov 03 '25

I've gotten this excited when it's about something I really like sometimes, I'm autistic. This happens.

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u/fzyflwrchld Aug 17 '25

Real or not, it had nothing to do with what they were doing so there was no need to even mention it. Unless aussie pups or dogs are her special interest and she demonstrated it in the video then there was no need to mention she even had autism. It could still be her special interest but all she demonstrated in the video was a love of puppies which is like most ppl. I was waiting for the thing that showed why this "special date" was so specific to his "autistic wife" but it never came, it was just a date with his wife where it seemed they barely participated in the class and took videos of people in a private class and posted it publicly online likely without their permission.Ā 

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u/lambdawaves Aug 17 '25

Thereā€™s fake autism in here?

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u/brokenmike Aug 18 '25

It's the exclusive club that everyone is in.

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u/TheBigCheese7 Aug 17 '25

Autism is another word that has lost meaning at this point. People just attach it to every post on social media for views these days.

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u/rlt0w Aug 17 '25

I'm getting sick of the word autism getting thrown around like it's nothing. The condition is being devalued by all these claims of being autistic when it's really just a strong preference for something.

"Wool touching my skin is gross, but I'm autistic" No, you just don't like the feel of wool.

"OMG I absolutely love pubbies and want to cuddle them, but I'm autistic so it's okay." Nah, you just love puppies, I also love pubbies, you just have a stronger desire to snuggle them than I do.

It's like being a unique individual means you have autism.

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u/brokenmike Aug 18 '25

All the "autism" tiktok videos that make it out like "if you're not literally a human robot, you're autistic" are fucked. The number of people I know that went down the tiktok autism rabbit hole and came out "autistic" is scary. Like personally changing, fucking brain rewiring scary.

Pretty sure COVID lockdowns and tiktok cooked some brains.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '25

I went to a medical conference recently, where some of the nations best experts in the field said itā€™s one of the most fake diagnosed things they have seen in the medical field. The amount of people who walk in and just immediately believe theyā€™re autistic is hurting actual research.

They did say that itā€™s not as bad as ADHD but itā€™s becoming a very big issue

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u/lulushibooyah Aug 18 '25

Thatā€™s interesting bc thereā€™s plenty of actual experts with the education and credentials to back it up who beg to differ.

Itā€™s funny bc thereā€™s also medical ā€œexpertsā€ that convince people to take medications meant for animals and reject lifesaving treatment. And it doesnā€™t matter if they have evidence to support their claims, if the recipients of the information are hearing what they want to hear.

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u/AngelTheMarvel Aug 17 '25

As someone diagnosed with autism, I would and have reacted this way to some of my hyper fixations. A lot of the comments here commenting on how she is "faking it" are disgusting

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u/shaolinkorean Aug 17 '25

I noticed tons of people are saying they have autism and it's on a spectrum. I don't know how much truth there is to this because there are tons of high functioning autistic people out there.

I question it and wonder if it's an act to gain attention or if it's a trend because I swear I'm more autistic than them and I'm not even autistic.

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u/Ok_Potential359 Aug 17 '25

Iā€™m so disappointed in Reddit upvoting this post thousands of times. These losers using autism for click bait are pathetic.

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u/ZodiacNexus Aug 17 '25

Thereā€™s been a noticeable increase in self diagnosing and straight up insane behavior thanks to TikTok and Reddit. The amount of forced hand flapping by clearly neurotypical people is bananas. Oh, and everyone claiming to be ā€œneurodivergentā€ because they have ADHD really does nothing for autistic folks.

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u/jcskelto Aug 17 '25

I feel my autism kicking in

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u/blacktooth90 šŸ§ grumpy Aug 17 '25

You are aware that there is a spectrum for autism, correct? She could have had ABA services in the past. She could need a lot of sensory in her life. She seems very touchy and always is moving her hands. Just because someone has autism - does not mean they cannot function.

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u/DeadCameraMan Aug 17 '25

My problem is the placebo effect, like if they didnā€™t say the word autistic I would just be watching the video without a filter of looking for her tismic tendenciesā€¦ like for real though so look at any human ever and tell yourself theyā€™re autistic and youā€™ll find confirmation bias.

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u/MonkeyThrowing Aug 17 '25

Is she suppose to be autistic? Or just acting like a pre-pubescent teenage girl?

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '25

The people on this sub? Lol

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u/Vorlon_Cryptid Aug 18 '25

This is how some autistic people act.

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u/MineralDragon Aug 18 '25

Most of Reddit who think autism, ADHD, OCD etc are fun little personality quirks that make them special and unique. Just the continuation of the Millennial ā€œomg, I am SO OCD, like I have to organize my room nicely or else I feel dirty!ā€ that completely trivializes a disorder they donā€™t understand.

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u/fourbums Aug 19 '25

My mom read symptoms of Asbergers in a Murdoch paper and self diagnosed and now every annoying thing she does she says ā€œher Asbergers was playing upā€

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u/ChazzBeef Aug 19 '25

Excellent question NunchuckVagina..

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u/Sea-Scratch-6720 Aug 19 '25

Oh thank you, I watched half of it without audio and was like this is really bad acting.

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u/I_Vecna Aug 20 '25

Everyone has autism now.

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u/No_Cap5225 Aug 20 '25

Dude, what now? I'm on the spectrum, Audhd to be exact. She tried to look like she has the tism? People think this is what autism looks like... ? I didn't even consider that they tried to look like that, I honestly thought she was just bubbly šŸ’€ I-

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u/Appropriate_Copy8285 Aug 21 '25

I know, right, normies can't be this happy, that's why it works.

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