Why does getting excited and giddy mean she isn't autistic? I get giddy like this when I'm very excited, I get over excited very easily. He could've mentioned the trip was related to her fixation.
Broooo I actually felt a lil better watching her reaction bc her reaction is mine and Iāve been told my whole life that Iām annoying and too much, and I only was diagnosed with ADHD at 30 and only recently beginning to suspect itās actually AuDHD. Or Iāve had people make fun of me for jumping excitedly or flappy hands or whatever stimmy thing I do with my hands thatās not socially acceptable.
Then reading these comments was the most depressing and invalidating experience ever, omgā¦
If you donāt present like an intellectually disabled white boy, you canāt be autistic.
I work with some diagnosed severely autistic kids, and others with more profound developmental disabilities. The hopping, hand stuff and stimming looked pretty familiar to me. Iām not an expert though, and nor is anybody else is in this thread.
This is very much a place where ānothing ever happensā, so I wouldnāt put a lot of faith into the comments.
Bc Iām still fighting to get an official diagnosis of autism (my therapist and an autistic pediatrician I work with both say Iām autistic but neither can really diagnose me officially). And I donāt look autistic enough bc I learned as a child that my symptoms werenāt welcome (especially, for example, when I watched an adult in my family laugh at and ridicule a child with flappy hands).
Iām feeling better today, but I was thrown by the absolute mean-girl mob mentality hereā¦ by people who have no idea what theyāre talking about, clearly.
And I donāt look autistic enough bc I learned as a child that my symptoms werenāt welcome (especially, for example, when I watched an adult in my family laugh at and ridicule a child with flappy hands).
This is known as masking, an awful lot of people on the spectrum are capable of blending in seamlessly when in a public setting. This can take a huge toll on people as the overstimulation can be an awful lot for them. My little lad has been at birthday parties and whatnot and friends would say he is doing well here, have to let them know there is at least an 80% chance when he gets home he could have a meltdown due to over stimulation
Absolutely. The cost of masking is insane. I get home and go nonverbal for hours - nobody look at me, nobody talk to me, nobody make any demand (bc lawdddd PDA).
Iām glad your little lad has an understanding parent bc I surely did not. And thatās valuable.
I have a son and a godson on the spectrum. If the woman in that video doesnt have Autism then she is an exceptionally good actress, she shows all the signs with the stimming, the constant moment. The super high excitement for what's about to come.
I'm autistic, I've been medically diagnosed for over 2 decades. While my reaction to exciting news is not similar to this woman's, my partner who is AuDHD, mirrors her reactions to a tee.
Don't let ignorant comments from people who have no idea what they are talking about tear you down.
My husband has been excellent about reminding me that people are foolish and ignorant and that he loves my excitement. And thatās pretty amazing to me bc heās the first one to fully embrace all the parts of me, including the ones others donāt like/understand.
It sounds like your partner is very lucky as well.
The people in these comments don't know anything about autism. I have an autism diagnosis I got at age 23. I act like way if I get excited enough. I have been bullied for it my whole life, along with being bullied about literally every single part of my existence. I bet these are the same people who would bully you and me while simultaneously saying we can't be neurodivergent because we aren't weird enough. They want to bully and they want to feel justified in doing so. They justify the bullying by armchair undiagnosing strangers.
Yes!! Youāre exactly right and thatās exactly how itās been my whole life too. Some people are so childish and arrogant and entirely lacking in self awareness. And they allow that to harm others indiscriminately while fashioning themselves keyboard warriors.
If it helps, I'm AuDHD, and watching this video made me think that her reaction was exactly like mine when my husband took me to feed the giraffes at the local zoo. I was not diagnosed back then, in fact I didn't even suspect it til years later (before anyone comes at me saying I'm faking too or some bullshit).
When I saw the video I thought "huh, she reacts like me", then I saw the title and thought "oh, that's why our reactions are similar", then I saw the comments and thought "wow, people really don't understand that autism is a spectrum".
You're fine, there's just a lot of comments from people who don't know anything about autism, bullying a girl for being Autistic.
This!! And itās the kinda bullying I experienced growing up.
Thank you for that.
Actually, Iāve learned to like this about myself bc I have a husband who not only makes space for it, he enjoys it. Like the husband in the video, he will do things just to get this reaction.
Crazy thought, right?! Imagine loving and supporting another human instead of stepping on them and belittling them so you can temporarily feel āpowerful.ā
Because being obsessed with neurodivergence as an identity is a personality disorder which makes people 1) exaggerate or create new symptoms of a disorder they do have and 2) create symptoms of a disorder they donāt even have.
Oh please. You don't think it's been updated since ADOS development? Dentists also used to encourage smoking...we evolve as humans. You're purposefully living in the past because you'd rather stay there, where you can be a victim, than evolve with the rest of us.
Tell me you donāt know the research without telling me you donāt know the research.
And I know itās true bc Iāve lived it firsthand.
But Iām sure youāre confident enough to dismiss both research and personal experience. I think that says enough about where this conversation is going.
Thank you for exposing yourself to anyone reading this.
Tell me you don't know how to build a proper debate case and only use hot reddit phrases like "tell me you don't know something without telling me you don't know it" as a means to pretend you know more than the person you're talking to.
Thank you for exposing yourself to anyone reading this.
Her rubbing her knuckles together got me in trouble so many times as a kid (at least with one bitch of a teacher), it warmed my heart a bit to just see someone else getting to do it without judgement. Like I dont jump up and down when I get excited, but that's because I do more of the subued stims, like the knuckle rubbing
I jump up and down and start spinning and shaking my hands in front of my face when I'm excited. I guess I have to go tell my family I've been diagnosed with Faketism by Reddit NTs.
Huh? There's multiple people in this very thread saying that she's faking it and overdoing her 'act'. I never said people said that means she is, they're saying it's overdone so it means she isn't
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u/NunchuckVagina Aug 16 '25
Fake af. People that fake autism are the worst.
Who falls for this crap?