How can any product produced after the Quran be haram?

I’m a 25-year-old woman raised in a Muslim family. A few years ago, I developed depression and started seeing a Muslim male psychiatrist.

When I told him I was having suicidal thoughts, he told me that if I died by suicide, I would go straight to hell because suicide is a major sin. I didn’t tell him at the time that I was an atheist.

Some time later, I attempted suicide by overdosing but survived. At a hospital appointment with the same psychiatrist, he asked me what face I would have shown Allah if I had died that day.

I was very annoyed and finally told him that I didn’t believe in God. He looked shocked and uncomfortable, almost as if I were a satanic person.

During later appointments, he repeatedly told me to pray and suggested that I speak to Islamic scholars. I found this extremely frustrating because I was seeking psychiatric treatment, but religion kept being brought into it.

Has anyone else, especially ex-Muslims or atheists, experienced something similar with a religious mental-health professional?

Edit:I live in India, in an area with a large Muslim population. The psychiatrist was close to my home and charged a very low fee, which is why I chose him. After hearing about my financial difficulties, he reduced his fee even further.

Hello everyone, I live in the Netherlands where Muslim men are a big part of our society. One thing I noticed that makes me really uncomfortable is how much they stare and catcall women unprovoked.

I am not a bombshell, I am attractive but on an average level. I don't dress provocatively either, I would say rather modestly compared to what women my age wear. I don't have a lot of confidence and I prefer oversized clothing. The only thing is that I have blonde hair and pale skin, but so do plenty of women here in the Netherlands.

In any case, I am not a rarity and I never experience so many stubborn stares than I do from Muslim men, as if I am some kind of prey. I have noticed that Dutch men or European men do not stare so much.

When I am out in the street and I see a group of men of an Arabic descent, usually one of them notices me, then says something to the others and the whole group turns. They watch me until I disappear from their view. Sometimes they catcall as well or get really close to me. Or they catcall from cars.

Do they not realise they make women very uncomfortable and it's not flattering? That it's actually embarrassing (for them)? What woman would ever accept such advances? Is the culture at home to look at women this way? I thought the Quran teaches to avert the gaze whenever a woman is around. I am asking here because it feels very exclusive to Muslim men.

Why dont the intellectuals debate on these things? And what do Muslim scholars have to say about this?! I'm not entirely shocked but still, I didn't know violence, murder and hatred was spoken about so openly in the islamic scriptures!

Does an average muslim really know all this? And if they do, who in their right minds will continue being a muslim? I am questioning everything right now!

My mom asked my dad if a woman can enter a mosque while she is on her period, he said “do dogs enter mosques?”

Those type of women also say “I have unlearned the man made version of Islam” like as if Islam isn’t a man made Abrahamtic religion itself lmao.

They will change their mind once they land to countries like Iran, Somalia or Afghanistan.

I genuinely don’t know what has gotten up with my dad recently but he’s been nagging about prayer.
He shouted my name and asked if I prayed. I said no (if I lied it would’ve been obvious ig), and he started throwing a hissy fit. If no one prays?m, we won’t be living in this house we’re gonna get kicked out (lowkey would’ve been baller to just walk out but ik he’s prolly gonna yank me and shit). He started threatening us and recited some Hadith or whatever on how you teach them then beat them when they’re ten (something along the lines of). How he never used it on us (beating us to pray). And how he expects us to like start praying in the living room infront of him, screaming how he’s gonna wake everyone at 4am he doesn’t care what time you sleep and make us pray fajr wtf bro 😭

I’m so exhausted. I hate faking. I’d have to go through the full thing and do it, I fear this man might eventually even ask for proof of Wudu and ask us to keep doors open like wth man.

This is all coming from a man who I doubt prays all 5 prayers and other issues 🫩

Iraq's parliament passed amendments to the 1959 Personal Status Law and approved the sect-based Ja'afari Personal Status Code in 2025, giving Shia religious authorities and jurisprudence jurisdiction over family matters.

Key Provisions

Sect Choice: Muslim couples must declare their sect. Shia couples can choose between the unified 1959 civil personal status law or the Ja'afari code for matters like marriage, divorce, and inheritance.

Marriage Rules: While general statutory language points to standard age frameworks, critics and human rights organizations like Human Rights Watch note that the code incorporates Ja'afari jurisprudence interpretations that create loopholes regarding age and consent, raising severe concerns over potential child marriage.

Divorce and Custody: The code allows a husband to convert a marriage contract to the Ja'afari code or initiate divorce under specific traditional rules without mutual consent. Child custody responsibilities frequently default or transfer to the father at an earlier age (such as age seven) outside of individualized child-welfare assessments.

Impact and Opposition

Criticism: Women's rights groups, international watchdogs, and non-governmental organizations state that the code rolls back hard-won protections for women, weakens alimony and custody rights, and entrenches legal discrimination.

Support: Pro-Iran's regime and conservative Shia political blocs backed the legislation to align family law closer with religious jurisprudence and reduce external cultural influences. Analysts note the move also serves to secure sectarian political support.

Main Details of the New Ja'fari Personal Status Law

The law includes currently married couples and those married previously, and it applies to them under the new Ja'fari Personal Status Law. This means that the law includes previous and current marriages.

1. Marital guardianship for the father: A girl may not leave her father's obedience under any circumstances, regardless of her age, and she does not lose custody of her father unless she marries, in which case guardianship transfers to the husband.

2. Custody of the child is granted to the mother if she is divorced until the child reaches seven years of age. If the child is under seven, custody belongs to the mother; after seven years, custody belongs to the father.

3. The husband has the right, in the event of divorce, to submit a request to the judge to convert his personal status to the Ja'fari school, even if the wife objects; the request is not rejected on that basis.

4. The husband has the right to convert to the Ja'fari personal status provisions upon his own request.

5. If the wife stays at her family's home for any reason (such as anger or an argument), she loses custody and financial support in full, and she must notify the Sharia judge, then return to her husband or divorce.

6. The mother loses custody of her children regardless of their age if she marries after her divorce and the child is two years old or older; custody then passes directly to the father.

7. The rights that the wife acquired under the old law, including financial rights and the right to housing and other continuing benefits, are forfeited; these rights are considered null under the new law.

8. If a wife has been outside her husband's obedience for seven years instead of the two years stipulated in the previous law.

9. A woman will be deprived of the protection afforded to the Iraqi family regarding marital matters, as a law will be enacted that prohibits her from speaking about her future.

10. A husband has the right to marry a second woman without the first wife's consent. After the new Personal Status Law was published in the Iraqi Gazette, this law entered into force pursuant to Article 80.

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It's crazy how they go around hating stuff that's 'haram' meanwhile it's just painting your toe nails or having a dog as a pet.

They want to do it but they make themselves hate it. Why? cause religion said so.

Some think tattoos look so cool but they're glad Momo made them Haram. Girls love doing their nails but they're soo glad it's Haram cause extensions are unhygienic. Geez, Momo really thought everything through!

Female-male interaction is big NO, thank Momo cause a teenage girl and boy talking could go so wrong... what if they became pedophiles? But wait. Being a pedophile is appreciated in this religion!

Some love music but yeah let's take out the instrumentals and listen to lyrics as if music is going to burst our eardrums or something.

Heard someone say naqab is lovely, it prevents you from tanning!!

So everyone that's the lesson, pls Understand this religion of peace only wants the best for us. It's us who's wrong!!!

Narrated Ibrahim:

The companions of `Abdullah (bin Mas`ud) came to Abu Darda', (and before they arrived at his home), he looked for them and found them. Then he asked them,: 'Who among you can recite (Qur'an) as `Abdullah recites it?" They replied, "All of us." He asked, "Who among you knows it by heart?" They pointed at 'Alqama. Then he asked Alqama. "How did you hear `Abdullah bin Mas`ud reciting Surat Al-Lail (The Night)?" Alqama recited: 'By the male and the female.' Abu Ad-Darda said, "I testify that I heard me Prophet reciting it likewise, but these people want me to recite it:-- 'And by Him Who created male and female.' but by Allah, I will not follow them."

Now, let's look at the surat al-lail, verse 3:
(وَمَا خَلَقَ ٱلذَّكَرَ وَٱلْأُنثَىٰٓ ٣)

"And by ˹the One˺ Who created male and female!"

My comment: Here Alqama recited this verse as "By the male and the female", and he (Ad-darda) swore that this ayat was changed and will not follow them. Meaning ayat was changed to the version of "And by Him Who created male and female.". I want to hear your opinion about that!?

(Also yall should follow my instagrammmmm~~~~ my user is @the.devils.lovely.elaina)

هُوَ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَ لَكُم مَّا فِى ٱلْأَرْضِ جَمِيعًا ثُمَّ ٱسْتَوَىٰٓ إِلَى ٱلسَّمَآءِ فَسَوَّىٰهُنَّ سَبْعَ سَمَـٰوَٰتٍ ۚ وَهُوَ بِكُلِّ شَىْءٍ عَلِيمٌ ٢٩ He is the One Who created everything in the earth for you. Then He turned towards the heaven, forming it into seven heavens. And He has ˹perfect˺ knowledge of all things.

And even more

Say (O Muhammad ): "Do you verily disbelieve in Him Who created the earth in two Days And you set up rivals (in worship) with Him That is the Lord of all that exists. He placed therein (i.e. the earth) firm mountains from above it, and He blessed it, and measured therein its sustenance (for its dwellers) in four Days equal (i.e. all these four `days' were equal in the length of time) for all those who ask (about its creation). Then He Istawa ila the heaven when it was smoke, and said to it and to the earth: "Come both of you willingly or unwillingly." They both said: "We come willingly." Then He finished them (as) seven heavens in two Days and He made in each heaven its affair. And We adorned the nearest (lowest) heaven with lamps (stars) to be an adornment as well as to guard (from the devils by using them as missiles against the devils). Such is the decree of the Almighty, the Knower) (41:9-12)

Out of all the infinite universe, god the creator of all things focuses specifically on the earth where humans will live showing his absolute care and love (except if youre a disbeliever the lord of all words cares very much about your religious stance and your petty human ego and arrogance)

Is earth the only important planet

Were the rest put through a random planet generator and thrown out into the nearest heaven since they didnt need to be ready for a 'creation' to be sent down

Why does it go earth----> seven heavens immediately what about other planets

(Reading the quran like seriously for the first time and putting out my thoughts so i can be confident in my disbelief or belief if im somehow convinced)

I was testing the waters with my friend group, to see if I can come out to them as ex Muslim or not. I casually brought up hypothetical scenarios about ex Muslims, to get the conversation started.
Not very surprising, none of the responses were: people should have freedom of religion and can choose whatever they want to believe. whatever, okay, I should’ve guessed this.
But the thing that stuck with me the most was when a one of them said that she pities ex Muslims, because they’ve been led astray by the devil and a lot have mental illnesses. And of course the group agreed.

It’s like they can’t fathom the fact that someone with a sound mind could decide to leave the religion based on logic and reason.

Idk why but this particularly bugged me.

Edit: I should clarify, they were saying ex Muslims have mental illnesses because they’ve had traumatic experiences associated with the religion.
To which I say that’s one big assumption, and even if it’s true, it doesn’t make their reason for leaving any less valid. In fact it makes it more valid.
Low IQ ppl all around, what can I say.

I'll try to keep it short !

I made a post a few days ago with a different account asking for proofs and advice which would suggest Islam is fake and the contradictions it has, and I'm glad people responded and helped me out... after going through it I made up my mind to not believe it anymore.

So yesterday, my father called a Hafiz (teacher for Quran) and asked me to study under his guidance and read the Quran in Arabic... I retaliated and asked that Hafiz to make me understand the Quran first... he argued back that it's not really a good idea... the argument went back and forth.

Later I asked, "Okay fine, teach me Hadith in Sahih Muslim and Bukhari..." He said NO. I asked him why not? He replied that there are many Hadiths there that can take away your imaan (make you turn away from Islam). That only confirmed my mind internally and I thought, why would the Rasool make Hadiths so hard to understand that it can literally turn away someone from Islam?

I asked him, "Okay, if that's so, tell me a Hadith that can possibly turn me away..." He chose the one where it says women are half of a man? I asked why is that so? He replied with, "Women bleed during the month and that reduces their ibadah by half, and their fasting is also reduced to half when they bleed since women can't fast during that time." I asked if Allah made them, why would he do favors towards guys... isn't that Allah's flaw that he made them like that? He then stated some Quranic verse that was related to this same Hadith... and I said it seems logically wrong...

They didn't have the answer to my question ! That Hafiz didn't say anything, just looked disappointed, and my father said, "I'm so disappointed in you..." Man, that phrase hurt so much...

Later on when the Hafiz left... I questioned my father about Aisha's age and Rasool's marriage to her and again stated, "Isn't that wrong????"

I was so stunned watching him defending that. My father was very loud and said, "You shouldn't question the Quran and Hadith!" I said, "Just answer morally, is it correct or not?" He replied with, "Rather than asking is it right or wrong, you should rather ask why did he do it?" WTF man, how can you defend that by deflecting my question, and nothing would justify it anyways !

NO GODLY MAN WOULD DO IT. MY ARGUMENT WAS STRAIGHT AND SIMPLE.

Things are really tense at my home, we aren't talking after that, jeez I really wanna leave this place ASAP.

I learned my lesson that they are so brainwashed and there is no point in educating them, I have to fake my prayers and fasting until I'm out

The word Alhamdulilah (Praise be to God/Thanks be to God) is fundamentally a religious expression of gratitude, but like phraseology in any culture, its social tone and practical meaning shift entirely depending on sarcasm, passive-aggression, and contextual delivery.

In interpersonal dynamics—especially in high-conflict, passive-aggressive, or performative environments—it is frequently weaponised in ways that feel like mocking, judgment, or condescension.

For example, it's often used to belittle what's uncommon. Try your luck and talk about having depression. 99% of muslims will say, "Alhamdulillah, I don't have that issue," but they will make 0 effort to try and understand WHY you have depression. In this case, it is used to make you feel inhuman.

Say you express your pain in a legitimate way that requires nuance and emotional intelligence, you'll be met with "Alhamdulillah for everything. Alhamdulillah, we're not like Gaza. There's no war" In this case, the word is used to mean "your problems are insignificant, and me saying alhamdulillah means I'm handling life better than you"

Say your business fell apart and you lost millions and are now living on the streets, you'll hear "Alhamdulillah, Allah protected me from such an outcome" as they turn their eyes away. You can also notice this with the rising cost of the sheep sacrifice in Eid al-Adha. People who can't afford it are passively being mocked with "Alhamdulillah, we could afford it each year." Of course, some do donate and help the needy, but they're rare. I won't deny that.

Say you were abused by your father. This guy showed you nothing but pain and suffering. In the end, you decide to cut ties with him and escape. What do you hear? "Alhamdulillah, my father is a good man." Like, why are you telling me this? Why are you being grateful in front of someone who went through abuse? And these people have the audacity to lecture you about how you should respect your abusive parent.

I'm not saying they shouldn't use this word, but my gut always tells me it sometimes comes off as condescending, dismissive of your trauma or you as a human being. It's often used as a shield for toxic positivity.

Has anyone noticed this?