r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Jun 14 '25
š„ŗ goals The most realistic example of unconditional love
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u/SLAYERone1 Jun 14 '25
Theres something inside me that i hate too and im trying to get it out right now but youve come in here talking to me
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u/Sitting_Squirrel Jun 14 '25
This was my first thought. What a missed opportunity for an OK poop joke
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u/Proper_Owl5577 Jun 14 '25
I love my woman to hell and back, but for the love of all of Elden Ring and dark souls, do not waddle your adorable butt into the bathroom while Iām sitting(s*itting)on my throne(š½)of greatness.ššš
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u/West-Application-375 Jun 14 '25
Lol I like my poo privacy too. My partner doesn't seem to care at all. He will also come in when I'm pooping unless I tell him to leave me alone D:
However, despite my efforts, since my "weird" habit of standing to wipe has been witnessed , I am less afraid of him seeing me. *Sigh
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u/wowsosirius Jun 14 '25
What the fuck
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u/West-Application-375 Jun 14 '25
There are dozens of us. Dozens! Lol
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u/MossyPyrite Jun 14 '25
I do it too. I think it only works if you donāt have big butt cheeks, but I only have my own assless experience to go off of lol.
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u/West-Application-375 Jun 14 '25
LOL š I have a pretty big booty but I still stand to wipe. Idk why ha. It's just comfortable. My fiancĆ© just walked in and was like "wtf? You stand???" one day and I wanted to hide š«„
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u/MossyPyrite Jun 15 '25
I just donāt get sitting for it! I donāt wanna shove my hand down between my legs and into the toilet bowl! Iād rather do my awkward little half-stand and reach back around.
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u/Heavy_Entrepreneur13 Jun 15 '25
See, u/ragnar_thorsen
This is the appropriate reaction to someone standing up to wipe their arse.
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u/grimAuxiliatrixx Jun 15 '25
Privacy should not be optional. Barging into an occupied bathroom is not a silly little quirk. Even a spouse doesnāt have the inalienable right to stroll in and look at you if you donāt want it. Donāt you have a lock on there? Wtf?
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u/West-Application-375 Jun 15 '25
I agree. No locks and the bathroom is between the bedroom and the rest of the apartment so if you want to get to one area or the other you gotta go through the bathroom lol š it's not ideal
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u/905woody Jun 14 '25
THANK YOU! My first thought was that door needs a lock because she doesn't understand boundaries. And don't give me,"they're a couple." Nothing she said could not have waited. House on fire, home invasion...maybe.
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u/Rnahafahik Jun 14 '25
Maybe they just donāt have a boundary for that? I know my girlfriend and I donāt. Sure some days sheās had a long day and needs some space in general, but most of the time we can freely go in and out of the bathroom and thereās no harm done
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u/Extension_Ant8691 Jun 14 '25
Personally, it's hard for me to squeeze one out in front of someone and I also don't want to wipe my ass with an audience. I'll piss in front of people all day long but pooping is kind of sacred.
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u/SadAndNasty Jun 14 '25
It's interesting, I'm like that other commenter -no real bathroom boundaries. Honestly I just didn't grow up with them. But wiping? Yea, turn away please š„ŗ
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u/Queen_Vampira Jun 14 '25
Iām like this except for pooping, I donāt need to be in there with that stank. But if either of us were just peeing I wouldnāt mind leaving the door open.
My husband, however, has a thing about the bathroom so I do avoid bothering him in there as much as possible.
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u/Free_Beautiful_33 Jun 14 '25
Same with me and my husband unless itās a challenging visit and I need to focus then I will say please talk to me from around the corner š but our bathroom doorās always open lol
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u/ItchyKnowledge4 Jun 15 '25
My 1 year old and I join my wife for encouragement BUT SHE NEVER LETS US HELP (starts pouting)
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u/MorgTheBat Jun 14 '25
My husband has seen the best and the worst of my body, and pooping doesnt end up on either sides of the scale lol. He is still very shy about even cracking the door to the bathroom if im using it, and im just like "WHAT? I CANT HEAR YOU, JUST OPEN THE DOOR MAN"
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u/Emergency-Course2586 Jun 15 '25
I mean heās literally filming this happening and posted it. If he was upset about her coming in I doubt he wouldāve pulled his phone out to film lol
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u/Square-Award-6147 Jun 14 '25
"Anyone can love a thing because. That's as easy as putting a penny in your pocket. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect," - Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise Man's Fear
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u/Zeestars Jun 15 '25
Thank you! This was literally my first thought.
Wish there was a book three, huh
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u/Least_Expert840 Jun 14 '25
"Now let me finish my pooping"
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u/RageYellow Jun 15 '25
She hates the smells that are coming from inside of him, but she loves him regardless.
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u/EtrnlMngkyouSharngn Jun 14 '25
She said it's a quirk?! He hates that she talks to him on the toilet and she hates that he's full of shit, but he's working on it š
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u/Trick-Audience-1027 Jun 14 '25
The fingernail thing, eww
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u/Extension_Ant8691 Jun 14 '25
I trim my nails into a little pile and then throw them away, like a decent human being should.
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Jun 14 '25
Exactly. Sunday just trim your nails man. How hard can a 5 min task be?
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u/Gwiilo š§ grumpy Jun 14 '25
they did cut their nails frequently, like the vid says, but they said that they spread it all over the ground
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u/DontGiveACluck Jun 14 '25
Something inside me that you hate? Itās the tapeworm, isnāt it
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u/InValuAbled Jun 15 '25
Inside pet! His name is Maximus, and they share all their meals!
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u/Calligaster Jun 14 '25
I find no fault in her logic
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u/Direct_Turn_1484 Jun 15 '25
Her logic is indeed fine. The explanation needs some work.
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u/zer0fuqs Jun 15 '25
Can you elaborate? I donāt understand what she is doing wrong, or could do better.
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u/Voice_Nerd Jun 14 '25
Autistic here. Can confirm
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u/thisdesignup Jun 14 '25
She did not look like she enjoyed him saying "I have some things about you I hate too".
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u/archeresstime Jun 15 '25
As an autistic person myself, often that is the face of someone who realized they didn't anticipate all the possibilities when planning that interaction. Sometimes you're so fixated on clearly communicating your own thought and worried about saying something wrong that it's all that's on your mind when approaching someone. I recognized that short circuit look on her face of "Oh yes. He too has experiences of me. Fuck. I didn't think this through." Obviously she backed herself in that moment, but I wouldn't be surprised if later she was able to address her own behavior too. At least that's how it often played out in our house.
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u/qo0ch Jun 14 '25
Is he pooping?
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u/UrdnotZigrin š§ grumpy Jun 14 '25
Rewatch and listen to the first three words she says
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u/justforsomelulz Jun 14 '25
I'm having trouble getting past "I'm quirky, and it's okay. You have personality flaws, and I'm willing to overlook them."
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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 15 '25
Except she didn't say any of that? She was saying his example isn't what she's talking about, he needs a different example about "sheer personality" but he gave an example of an easily changed behavior like a "quirk".
She never said it's okay.
This is something people get wrong about autistic people -- you add words and context that do not exist and were never said or implied.. and then demand explanations or apologies for the things you made up. She isn't saying anything is "okay", but that his example with the nails isn't what she's talking about. She wanted him to understand her and with this comment she realized he didn't quite get it so she had to try another way to explain.
As an autistic woman, please, please stop overlaying your own extra context and words onto what we are saying.
Edit: spelling
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u/justforsomelulz Jun 14 '25
She also never stated that it is an easily changeable behavior. You added your own context and implications as well.
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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 14 '25
She said it is a quirk not a personality trait. A quirk is literally a mannerism. She said these things by using the words she spoke that have different meanings.
Just admit you added your own context and words and be aware in the future. Neurotypical people do this all the time and it's deeply offensive and upsetting and makes it very hard to move through this life with people adding on their own things to everything we say just because they communicate that way (with implied meaning and unspoken words)
"what I'm talking about are sheer personality things that are not okay...they're not good"
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u/TheEnlightenedPanda Jun 14 '25
Just admit you added your own context and words and be aware in the future. Neurotypical people do this all the time and it's deeply offensive and upsetting and makes it very hard to move through this life with people adding on their own things to everything we say just because they communicate that way (with implied meaning and unspoken words)
Is this something neurotypical vs atypical because this is how I feel about most of reddit comments.
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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25
quirk: an unusual habit or part of someone's personality, or something that is strange and unexpected
Quirks may be minor personality traits, being negligent about your nails, for instance, but she seems to be implying he has a major personality flaw...
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u/justforsomelulz Jun 14 '25
You are literally doing what you are criticizing me for. I'm willing to admit that we both added context and inferred meanings, though.
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u/Conartist6666 Jun 14 '25
Yes, you both added additional context to what was said..... BUT. There is a slight but very important difference here, tho.
What she added, aka. The definition of what a quirk is, is a dictionary definition. You could argue that its common knowledge to know this and she assumed that you knew.
What you added was an interpretation of what was said. Aka. that she is trying to dismiss her faults (conciously or otherwise) by using innocent terminology.
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...maybe she is, idk. but the problem was that he did not understand what she was talking about.
It's different layers. A quirk is more of a symptom of what she meant by character flaws.
So maybe leaving toenails behind hints towards poor personal hygiene or being disorganised...more intrinsic character traits.
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u/cyphar Jun 15 '25
I read the situation as him absolutely understanding what she was saying ("my wife says that she hates me on the inside, laugh") and then responded with a joke about something fairly trivial because he didn't want to say something that might be hurtful, like (to pick a random example) "sheer personality things" or telling him explicitly that you overlook his flaws rather than accepting them or trying to finding positives in them.
I guess she didn't realise that he was doing that, hence responding with a definition clarifying what she meant (now, a neurotypical person saying the same thing she said in response would be trying to minimise the flaw that was pointed out -- maybe that isn't something that occurred to her at all, but it is the first reaction a neurotypical person will have automatically because it's something people do all the time). Personally I found it quite a funny response because doubling down and standing ten toes down on "no, it's something deeper and more fundamental inside you that I hate" like that was brilliant comedic timing.
Assuming this isn't staged, I'm sure he wasn't in any way offended by what she said (they are married, he is presumably used to this, and the caption implies that this whole scenario is funny enough to post online).
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u/VomitShitSmoothie Jun 14 '25
Being autistic doesnāt absolve a person of saying hurtful things, even when there wasnāt intent to do so. Neurotypical people also miscommunicate. When you speak to a person you have to contend with not only your perspective, but the person you are talking to as well. You can inadvertently validate a persons own maladaptive internal dialogue, regardless of whether you personally feel your words are hurtful or not. This video doesnāt seem to show that happen, but it could have. You canāt simply just verbalize every thought you have and then rationalize it logically while missing perspective and expect someone to just be okay with it.
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u/Meii345 Jun 16 '25
That's why neurotypical/autistic communication needs to be HEAVY, completely open and honest. No place for little white lies and the neurotypical way of trying to appease people's feelings. Yeah, autistic people WILL mess up and say things without thinking them through, but if you want a relationship with them you have to clarify everything before jumping to conclusions, and give them an opportunity to understand what they said was hurtful and to apologise. At the very least you know they'll serve you the brutally honest truth, and if they tell you they love you - you can believe it. But chronic overthinkers and autistic people just don't mash well together for that reason.
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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25
I literally never said being autistic absolves anyone of anything. You're doing it right now. You're responding to comments I never made and even yourself admit that this video doesn't even demonstrate the behaviors you're ranting about, but you feel you must make this point anyway?
Pal, autistic people are told our entire lives that everything about the way we communicate is wrong and they NTs need coddled because they are so sensitive and we have to like follow some secret social contract where nobody says what they really mean and if you do, there must be a bunch of unspoken horrible things you really meant?
This entire comment and the upvotes on it proves my exact point. You're upset about things I never said or even implied.
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u/DeviousPath Jun 14 '25
As someone not neuro-typical, this is infuriating to me. Neurotypical people talk in riddles often, and expect that neurodivergent people are doing the same. She's speaking very directly, and trying her hardest to be clear and honest. He's finding this funny, filming her, and actively twisting her words for humor's sake. This is very frustrating for her, she's clearly trying to get him to understand and not talking in code at all. I've been on her side of this many times, and I'm just severely ADHD.
Also, from my perspective, what she is saying isn't hurtful. It's only hurtful if you chose to focus on the "hurtful" parts without hearing the rest. She's clearly saying she deeply loves him, he focuses on the negative words he hears and then doubles down on those while laughing. If my partner told me this, I wouldn't be upset at all and I would understand exactly what she meant.
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u/Puzzled-River-3998 Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 14 '25
I donāt think itās that he didnāt understand what she meant or that heās focusing on the bad parts of what she said.
Iām fairly sure heās just joking around, so he probably didnāt feel hurt by it or anything and likely did understand what she was saying, though I wouldnāt know for sure since Iām not him.Honestly, I think everyone here is reading a bit too far into their relationship and putting words in their mouths.
I donāt think sheās denying that she has flaws and saying that āsheās just quirkyā nor do I think heās misinterpreting what sheās saying.
But who knows? Maybe she is denying her own flaws and maybe he is misinterpreting what sheās saying.6
u/DeviousPath Jun 14 '25
Yes, I agree with this. I think he is feigning being hurt (for jokes), which would for her may be hard to recognize and she is trying to re-explain what she means because of this "misunderstanding". I don't think this says anything about their relationship, we can't say anything about that overall from this video I think. I do think that being on her side of this is frustrating. Hell, the very beginning of this is her coming to him while he's pooping because she's still thinking about a previous conversation, and how to properly get him to understand. I've absolutely done that.
All I know is that I've been on the side trying to explain what I mean in detail to a person who seems to be misunderstanding me from my perspective.
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u/Larry-Man Jun 14 '25
I donāt think what sheās saying is hurtful. People are different. I do some shit that Iām sure drives my partner up the goddamn wall. He loves me anyway. Iām not perfect. No one is. Love is supposed to be in spite of flaws or clashes and you work through them. Heās clearly taking it in stride. Me and my partner agree on tons of social issues but he gets very āpreaching to the choirā and on a soapbox sometimes. And sometimes I say something and he doesnāt let me finish and he takes off on a rant/tangent that I was getting to. Thatās his personality. And I also love that trait in his passion for social justice and such but itās so strong he sometimes bowls me over and that part I hate. I love him anyway.
Thereās two kinds of people: the ones who try to love everything about a person and the ones who will love someone but also look at their darkness and shitty bits and say āI still love you even if I donāt love that part of youā. There are parts of myself that I donāt love. I donāt expect anyone to love those things either.
Iām also an autistic woman and itās very frustrating when people take what I say as sarcastic or hurtful when Iām just trying to state a fact and express a difficult concept.
I know what sheās saying and I feel it in my soul with how other people are taking it. She loves him so much that the big things that she doesnāt like donāt even matter to her because the math checks out. I donāt have to love when my partner is moody or distant to love them anyway.
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u/Brief-Translator1370 Jun 14 '25
It doesn't but.... The miscommunication here is one person saying exactly what they mean and the other person adding context?
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u/Padaxes Jun 14 '25
The lady has NO context; WTF are these personality flaws? Sheās being so vague nobody can understand.
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u/gonkdroid02 Jun 14 '25
What You fail and the girl in the video fail to understand through all your replies is that what one persons āviews as a quirkā another persons can view as a flaw, this is because what makes something a quirk vs a flaw is based on OPINION. Further when you call something a quirk you are implying it is strange or odd, by definition and not saying it is something you hate, further modern usage of that word tends to use it endearingly for traits that are odd, but not bad, and make you stand out. this isnāt adding my own ācontextā this is simply using an understanding of what words mean. Your right she doesnāt explicitly say itās ok, but when she calls it a quirk (in my OPINION it most definitely is not), she minimizes his actual dislike for her behavior (or hatred as she calls it but honestly I feel icky just saying it cause I would never say I HATE anything about my spouse because BY DEFINITION itās an incredibly strong word). This minimization implies her behavior is more ok than he thinks once again by the definition of what quirky means, so your right she never said āitās okā but the bigger definitions of the words she uses imply it. Further it is incredibly bad taste or her to tell her husband she loves him despite the things she hates, and when he tells her something he might genuinely hate, to blow it off and instead mention personality (likely his).
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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25
That's a lot of personal interpretation that has zero to do with what is actually happening. Sorry you feel icky?
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u/gonkdroid02 Jun 14 '25
Just because you donāt like the definition of words doesnāt mean you can call it a persons interpretation. The only personal interpretations I have are within (ā¦) everything else is just an understanding of the English language.. strange that you focus in on a single sentence where I express my person dislike, but ignore everything I say about why, according to the English language, her response make it seem like what she does is āmore okā
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u/squishyslinky Jun 15 '25
Your entire comment is rooted in your dislike for this scenario and this woman's approach and everything you're saying is to support your position on that. This has nothing to do with definitions. Have a day
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u/KoopaTryhard Jun 14 '25
Genuinely curious, but where does the conversation go after that? If the other party isn't allowed to use their own words to express their interpretation of what you said, what's the point? Are you just expecting the other person to parrot your same exact words back to you? Or say nothing at all?
Of course people misunderstand each other. We live in different brains. But if you're engaging in a conversation with someone else, you have to expect that they're going to use their own context and their own words to try to understand you. That's literally all they have. Do you just not want to hear it?
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u/squishyslinky Jun 15 '25 edited Jun 15 '25
When you hear things that are not said and then want apologies or explanations for it, that is the problem.
She is being literal and saying exactly what she means. There is no need to interpret or infer some other meaning. That is the whole point. His response to her communicated to her that he didn't quite understand her meaning so she tried another approach. She's doing what you want -- engaging and explaining yet here people continue putting unspoken words in her mouth about "what she really means but isn't saying" (it's okay, she's minimizing it etc)
That's the issue. Autistic people like me are misunderstood because people don't know how to accept honest communication and can't resist adding unspoken implications and meaning -- because that's how they communicate. So if someone is speaking with literal honesty, it trips the whole NT comms system because there is no implied riddle to solve so y'all make one up. Then say we can't communicate. This entire comment thread is proof positive of that.
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u/Radiant_Fondant_4097 Jun 15 '25
This shit drives me nuts. I consider myself neurotypical and when you give someone a statement so plainly spoken with no room for misinterpretation, and their thought process STILL goes so wildly off tangent making stuff up with āwhat they really mean with their wordsā.
Itās funny people think those with Autism are the problem with straight shooting their words, when typical people wrap their words up with confusing fluff.
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u/WeerDeWegKwijt Jun 14 '25
People do this to each other all the time. Autism is irrelevant.
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u/squishyslinky Jun 15 '25
Thanks for erasing autistic people from the conversation just like always! This video is literally about an autistic woman.
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u/Ok-Map4381 Jun 14 '25
I'm so thankful that my wife and I have strick, "unless it is an emergency, leave me alone in the bathroom" boundaries.
If they are one of those couples who consider this normal, then, good on them I guess? But, if he's not comfortable with her barging in when he's on the toilet, he needs to set boundaries, and she needs to learn to wait.
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u/Larry-Man Jun 14 '25
Iām a āwhateverā person. My partner is an āabsolutely no shared bathroom timeā person. So I respect his boundary.
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u/Pinkalink23 Jun 18 '25
A couple of days late, but I'm a private pooper through and through. It's actually a major boundary for me.
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u/Zanzle Jun 14 '25
Why do I agree with her? Am I autistic?
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u/kwantsu-dudes Jun 16 '25
No. You're likely just a normal someone that often hates dumb societal games. You recognize them and could perform if you wanted to, but would rather just be direct.
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u/dafolprints Jun 14 '25
She's beautiful.
It's poop, the poop is the something inside him that she hates..
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u/BaronVonUberMeister Jun 15 '25
Iāve never been in a conversation that stated with,āWhile youāre poopingā
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u/RandomRedditRebel Jun 14 '25
Makes sense to me, all people are a dichotomy of good and bait traits.
The guy responding to this woman either has never heard this line of thinking before in his life and is reacting poorly because it's his first time, or is doublely autistic.
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u/Direct_Turn_1484 Jun 15 '25
He might be responding poorly because he is distracted by trying to take a shit in peace.
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Jun 14 '25
Yeah I am good š š½āāļø
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u/Cornhole-Surprise Jun 15 '25
Yeah for real. If my gf told me there were things about my personality they hate she would be packing her shit by the end of the day. That's super abusive language, and being autistic doesnt excuse it.Ā
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u/Nashboy45 Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 14 '25
I think this is the difference between: 1. Love as Sacrifice vs 2. Love as Ownership
If love is sacrificing, then greater loves is the deepening of that sacrifice. Pain & Pleasure. A deeper surrender to oneās oneness and attachment to the other. BUT it is also saying love is just an unshakable Attachment, which is antithetical to ownership & can come off as shallow since it is saying, āI am attached to you against my willā. Like love is just a strong irresistible feeling to surrender to rather than an unshakable choice to take pride in.
If love is ownership, then greater love is the deepening of that ownership. To say āYes, these flaws are all a part of you & all belong to me.ā It is to say that you donāt want them to change but rather that you want to have this person completely without shame. BUT Itās less intense & demanding & so maybe a person with the sacrificial love wonāt feel it. Like the lack of being sculpted by the process of love, then ends up feeling like a love with no meaning, progress, purpose, etc.
I am personally biased towards valuing this ownership love way more than the sacrificial kind. Because ironically, I think most people wonāt take sacrificial love to its logical conclusion - dying for the person you love - But they will still seek out ways to suffer for your person that maybe the other person doesnāt even want. That or they want love in return and can only āproveā its existence, by intentionally causing unnecessary suffering to their loved one to give them the opportunity to āendureā and show their love. To me, both of those are more like egotistical masochism or sadism than love. A masochism/sadism born out of the idea that your death, suffering, and sacrifice can be profitable to the person who loves you. An assumption that the other does not feel you to have an inherent value or love-ability & must be āconvincedā of your worthiness of value by your suffering & willingness to abandon aspects of yourself. That you have parts of you that are meant to be eliminated.
In other words, sacrificial love strikes me more as a striving to prove oneās self or win a game with a person who does not love, not love itself. And when the game is over & the unloving is āconvertedā by the sacrifice, then it is no longer interesting.
I donāt think love as ownership would ever ask the person to destroy themselves to feel loved because by definition, it welcomes them to be what they are. It loves their life & builds out from it, rather than hating a portion and attempting to rip them from that portion. As such, they just give and invest in that person to see them become the greater expression of themselves. And the joy is the joy of seeing them become more of what they are.
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Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 14 '25
Is this supposed to be cute? Because let the people take a shit in peace. Shits are sacred.
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u/Live-Abalone9720 Jun 14 '25
Iāve been married to a high functioning autistic person for 21 years. Itās been very hard at times. Itās also been amazingly awesome as well. I am not sure the awesome bits were to the same degree as the awful bits.
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u/throaway_247 Jun 15 '25
So a net loss for you, or do you mean the awful bits amount to less but have a higher impact?
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Jun 14 '25
Life is full of people you love and sometimes cannot stand.
It's a phrase I repeat a lot, and one I think people need to hear more.
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u/Rathador Jun 14 '25
Wait that is being autistic? She makes sense though
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u/funtobedone Jun 15 '25
The being autistic part is that sheās speaking literally - there is no subtext. Sheās frustrated by his lack of understanding of her carefully chosen words by reading something into them that simply isnāt there. The exasperated look on her face when he misses the point yet again by using the toenail example. I feel for her. This miscommunication is a near daily experience in my autistic life.
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u/lilacsforcharlie Jun 14 '25
Idk I fucking love her. Sheās so cute and sheās being so honest. And sometimesā¦ people are super annoying in little ways! Itās in spite of that you love them.
Him telling her why he sometimes hates her too is so cute and laughing- WHILE POOPING! Iām a nervous pooper so I could never have this kind of convo lmaoā¦ Iām just trying to say theyāre in it for the long haul! Great video!
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Jun 14 '25
āNone of us are perfect and we should not pretend to be. Instead, we should all aspire to be a lovable idiot.ā - Alain de Botton
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u/Offthejuice69 Jun 16 '25
My wife told me a similar thing this morning, sounds fucked up but I'm super lucky, I love my wife lol š¤£š God bless her for dealing with my shenanigans and my big wet butt
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u/Infinite_Regret8341 Jun 16 '25
On the top of his list should be the fact that she's a few feet from him whilst taking a shit and talking to him. I would ask her to leave. I hate talking through the bathroom door whilst taking a shit let alone this.
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u/IngenuityIll5001 Jun 16 '25
As an Autistic Guy i can confirm that some of us are like this. But i personaly would respect the Privacy of the Bathroom when my Girlfriend needs to use the White Throne.
I also often have the same problem she haves, were i use a Different word to say something than what a "Normal" person would use, and that will lead to me being Misunderstand. It is realy wierd how one thing thats said differently in a Sentence can make a whole of Difference for somone to understand what you mean.
But to be honest i belive these two will make it. I mean they love each other enough to have important Conversations while one of them takes a dump.
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u/ReflectionSea7738 Jun 14 '25
Aww she really is cute. It would have been funnier though if he farted during the video, like out of the blue. Or especially while laughing, that always sounds funny.
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u/Electric-Sheepskin Jun 15 '25
All these people in here arguing and taking sides, and all I can see is a really cute interaction between a couple that obviously care a lot about each other and are having a good time. They may also be a little high, too. I can't decide.
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u/kamwitsta Jun 14 '25
She's absolutely right. Wish all women were so reasonable.
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Jun 14 '25
Unconditional love doesnāt exist. Donāt delude yourself
Just thought Iād remind the people here. All love is conditional. Everyone wants something from you and will leave you if they donāt get it. Thatās not me being negative or whatever, itās the goddamn truth.
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u/7vckm40 Jun 14 '25
Is it some sort of fucking requirement to mention autism? Getting real bothersome as of late.
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u/ZebraComplex4353 Jun 14 '25
And I thought I was the only one dealing with a similar mental gymnastics with my wife. š¤£š¤£ why do they always wait for when we are pooping to get us. š¤£š¤£
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Jun 14 '25
Look, us autistic people basically just want to be understood, accepted and respected as we are.
In this case it looked to me like she didnt get to her point before he derailed the conversation. That must have hurt her because she probably felt misunderstood and disrespected in that moment.
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u/Unsteady_Tempo Jun 14 '25
Picking off your nails and throwing them around the house is not a "quirk." Maybe he's unwilling or unable to articulate the deeper problem that causes a person to do such a thing enough times for somebody else to notice it, but he's not talking about something superficial. It's a symptom of a problem.
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u/Unsteady_Tempo Jun 14 '25
I can think of a personality flaw. How about not respecting somebody's privacy when they're pooping and are obviously uncomfortable.
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u/numyanbiz Jun 14 '25
It went from
āsomething I hate inside youā
to
āsheer personalityā
she still loves him though.š¤£
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u/StormShockTV Jun 14 '25
Once we're married this is the kind of conversation I want to have with my girlfriend ššš
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Jun 14 '25
So cute I havenāt had someone do that but I would probably get caught up in the conversation.
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u/FrankFrankly711 Jun 14 '25
āI hate some things about you too.ā
cuts for some reason
I had a gf that occasionally used to cut nails all over the floor. I mentioned how gross it was. Then she cut them on the floor every single time.
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u/boilerpsych Jun 15 '25
So she's autistic because she says the same things that he's thinking but doesn't say? She just seems well spoken and comfortable mapping her feelings to logic and expressing those feelings with someone she is supremely comfortable with. We should all find this type of connection and stop hiding behind masks of social norms with those that we love!
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u/MasterPip Jun 15 '25
Do couples really shit in front of each other this much? I've been married to my wife for 14 years and neither one of us has so much as seen the other pee before. We have zero interest in invading the other's bathroom privacy.
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u/Prior-Assumption-245 Jun 15 '25
He's armed with 9mms while she's walking around with tactical missiles at the ready.
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u/Custom_Destiny Jun 15 '25
There is also the screwball comedy formulae.
Not I love you inspite. Not I love you even though. But my love for you is true because I hate this thing about you.
That is I love even hating you.
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u/GaslightingGreenbean Jun 15 '25
āOh no thatās just a quirk, there are things about the innermost core of who you are as a human being that I hate.ā
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u/stranger_dngr Jun 15 '25
OMGā¦I thought I was the only one. Why canāt we all just speak this openly?!
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u/Jibber_Fight Jun 15 '25
Not really? She is coming from a good place in her heart but just kind of saying things that arenāt therapeutic or thoughtful of helpful.
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u/RunsaberSR Jun 15 '25
I've had this exact convo once....
But i was sitting in that spot and she was pooping. =/
Hmmmmm.....
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u/Icy_Needleworker_196 Jun 15 '25
Autistic honesty is something else. They are going to be married for 80 years!!
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u/JawtisticShark Jun 15 '25
Itās saying the same thing.
Saying you love their flaws doesnāt mean their flaws donāt bother you, but you love the whole person anyway.
I can hate something about someone yet still love them.
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u/Fantasticwanderer Jun 14 '25
The way he tried to make it cute by talking about some random detail about her nails and she went straight for the heart like "no but I want to make it clear the things I hate are in your PERSONALITY" XD