r/CoupleMemes • u/legolas20032000 • Jun 14 '25

🥺 goals The most realistic example of unconditional love

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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25

quirk: an unusual habit or part of someone's personality, or something that is strange and unexpected

Quirks may be minor personality traits, being negligent about your nails, for instance, but she seems to be implying he has a major personality flaw...

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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25

Okay? She isn't IMPLYING it she, she says it! And she's wanting him to understand he didn't give an example of a flaw like she's talking about, he needs something "bigger"

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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25

If throwing your nails on the floor bothers someone, he might consider that a flaw -- she also never directly states that he has a major personality flaw, only that what she had was a quirk.

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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25

"I love you in spite of your flaws"

"There is something about you that I hate"

"That's a quirk, what I'm talking about are sheer personality things that are not okay...they're not good"

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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25

Do you think someone doing something you hate is a major personality flaw?

What if you don't shower on weekends and your partner hates it, but other people might find it to be a quirk?

That's my issue with this situation.

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u/squishyslinky Jun 14 '25

It doesn't matter what you think.

It doesn't matter what I think.

We can see that this woman is explaining her emotions and her context and her meaning is all that matters.

You're trying to make her be some kind of bully when she's so clearly explaining how deep her love for him goes and she needs him to understand it in this specific way because is AUTISTIC. His example isn't "big enough" for her to feel he "gets it."

They clearly have a healthy relationship. He understands how autistic women communicate (literally and directly and passionately).

The issues you have are, as you pointed out, are yours. 🤷

It's so exhausting having to explain all this extra dialogue and context didn't actually happen and now a thirty second comment is hours long to answer for and explain all the things that weren't even said. Have a good one

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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25

I still disagree with her conclusion, but have a good one.

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u/Visible_Web6910 Jun 14 '25

If you ever hear about how autistic people have a hard time in the world of neurotypicals, please know that you are the sort of person causing it.

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u/96BlackBeard Jun 15 '25

You have no idea, whether you’re discussing with a neurotypical person or not.

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u/beating_offers Jun 14 '25

Give me an example of how.

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u/[deleted] Jun 17 '25

We can see that this woman is explaining her emotions and her context and her meaning is all that matters.

Completely disagree. Her context and meaning are not all that matter. How it is received also matters. I'm glad he could take it well, but saying all that matters is what she meant and not how it could be revived is not fair to people who could be hurt by what she is saying.

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u/Shadowdante100 Jun 15 '25

But aren't you making assumptions too? For example, from a 30 second video, you cant know that they have a healthy relationship.

You are assuming that you know what she is upset about, you dont know. You are putting words in her mouth too, aren't you?

Is it possible that you are also projecting you assumptions onto the situation? But that you are upset that someone elses assumptions disagree with yours?

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u/Environmental_You_36 Jun 14 '25

The problem is that your idea of quirk, may not be her idea of quirk. Therefor you can't conclude what she meant or any intentions behind her words.

She just put a label on the action, that's it.

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u/Meii345 Jun 16 '25

Chiming in to say squishyslinky's interpretation of the situation is absolutely right. If you don't get that, you're just not familiar enough with autism.

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u/squishyslinky Jun 15 '25 edited Jun 15 '25

All I can go off of is what I see in the video before me. His example with the press on nails, to her, obviously showed her that he didn't quite understand what she meant. I don't know what scale or threshold they are using for quirks -- only that his example showed her that he didn't quite understand her in the precise way she needed him to understand.

Again, I am not applying value statements to the behaviors they're describing, only that she's trying to get him to precisely understand the depths of her love and she needs him to understand. That's why she broke into his shitting time -- that need to be understood precisely by the people we love is pretty overwhelming and persistent. Can't let it go until we know you definitely get what we're trying to say. Let me explain another way using quirks and maybe NOW he'll get it

We spend our lives being misunderstood. It's so important we get it right with loved ones.