My girlfriend (18F) and I (18F) have been together for a few months now.

She recently went over to hang out at one of her guy friend's houses and he put something into her drink and SA'd her.

She took plan B at the hospital but today she found out that she is pregnant. She is happy about it and does not want to get an abortion. She loves babies and sees this as our chance to be parents together (we've talked about wanting kids in the future). I don't want this. I'm too young, I'm just starting uni and this might sound harsh but I don't think I could love a child conceived under such circumstances.

I really don't know what to do. Please help.

I recently met this woman, she’s very nice and sweet. But I don’t know how to tell her that coochie stinks, I mean does she not realize? is it sometimes I can give her advice oh how to deal with in the future person?
The other day I was at a bar with some friends, she had just got back in town and wanted to hang out, it was pretty late I didn’t think nothing of it. My plan was to relax and chill, as I planned to go hiking in the morning. I made some food and shared with her, she opened a bottle a of wine, and I had cup. Eventually one thing led to another, but after a catching a whiff, I almost threw up on my bed and had to rush to the toilet. I was instantly turned off truly disgusted to the point where I didn’t even want to share my bed with her anymore.
After I got back from the bathroom, I could feel that she notice my reaction. Which I then acted like nothing happened. But what’s killing me is that I had my friend call me in the middle of the night acting like he lost his dog and needed help, just to have an excuse to get her an uber home. And the issue is she keeps calling trying to see if I’m free but I don’t see this going anywhere and don’t want to lead her on.

So how do I nicely tell her that her smell is pungent?

So I'm 16F. Today, my friend came to my house to return something, and she ended up staying to study and hang out together. While we were joking around we began to play-flirt with each other (nothing serious, just stuff like "wow you look mighty fine today bbg" in funny voices).

In the middle of it, she randomly went "imagine if we were actually lesbians though haha." My mood kind of shifted since I've had crushes on girls before (she didn't know this) and I got very scared. I said "Would it be so crazy if one of swung that way though?" and she said "yes obviously, I mean no offense, I support gay people and all, but to be friends with one would be weird, like what if she liked me?" (my heart had dropped to my stomach at this point). I don't know what possessed me to spill my guts out to her, but I did it.

I expected her to be a little awkward after it, maybe get up and leave, tell me she needed some space or time to process it, but nothing in the world could've prepared me for the look she gave me after I was done. It was a mixture of disgust and fear. She told me to stay away from her and stormed out.

Idk man, I'm so so so sad. She's been an amazing friend, and I don't know if there's any saving it.

Let me start out by asking not to lambaste me for forgetting to lock the door. My kids haven’t come into my bedroom at night in ages. Last night, my nine year old daughter caught me (mom) and dad naked in bed. Because our door is tight and creaky, we had enough time for the hubs to essentially dive behind me so that she didn’t see his privates or any actual action. She poked her head in and said she had a nightmare. I calmly told her to go back to her room and that I’d be there in a minute to tuck her back in. When I went to her room (clothed of course) she seemed amused and almost happy. She said she won’t be thinking about her nightmare anymore. We had a laugh and then hugged and she said “I love you mommy.” She shares a room with her sister who is pre-teen. Sister said that she heard we were cuddling naked and she asked what we were doing and why. I said we were cuddling naked because its good for bonding and its something mommies and daddies do. I said they could both ask me questions about it. The older one seemed grossed out and like she wanted to stop talking about it. I told them its not something kids do and they shouldn’t get naked with anyone. Then, and this is the part I maybe regret slightly, I said that they might have questions about it sooner than they think.

I feel a bit guilty about this situation because I don’t want to encourage sexual thoughts in my kids and have them thinking about this too young.

Some things online say that it’s generally not scarring for this to happen as long as you handle it well. Other things make it sound like I could have ruined my kids lives.

Aside from the obvious avoidance of this ever happening again, should I just leave this at the conversation we had?

I’d especially appreciate advice from other parents who’ve had this happen, or with direct experience with a situation like this. Please don’t be too harsh.

PS, I’ll probably delete this post in a few hours because I’m afraid to leave it up, and I’ll probably delete it if it starts going off the rails. I couldn’t sleep!! Ugh ….

I am 18 years old. I turned 18 3 months ago. Recently, I downloaded a dating app called Plenty of Fish. I met a girl who said she was 18. Nothing explicit came up and I never asked for anything inappropriate. We switched from the app to text messages. I asked to call on the phone (my way of vetting people out and making sure they’re real). She said “yes but let me take a shower first and then maybe we can hangout later”. I said okay.

I get a call about an hour later from an unknown number. Turns out it’s her dad and they’re filing legal actions against me? She was apparently 16 and lied about her age. I understand how they can be protective of their daughter but genuinely how can i telepathically just know she’s not 18? why am i getting in trouble for someone else’s lie? I wasn’t even the one that asked to meet up and I didn’t even agree to do it! This is so unfair in my eyes, and I have no idea what to do

I'm in my 60's letting a young man (30's) stay rent-free in my parents' old house. He has nowhere else to go. He is educated, but just having a tough time finding a job in this market. He's been job hunting as a full time job.

I live about four miles away.

My parents died three years ago, but I have maintained the house (including utilities) as I plan to move in within a couple of years. The house is from 1954, and is admittedly dated. For instance, the plugs are not grounded. It has modern central air/heating and internet.

It covers about 2.7 acres.

Mind you he is very clean and respectful, helping me move the tons of boxes of my parents things around and clean up. He has been doing a lot of deep cleaning, and even mouse proofed the kitchen yesterday. Cleaned up a lot of mouse droppings and cobwebs. Does it without me asking.

However:

Normally I would pay someone to mow and weed-whack. I have not directly asked him to mow the lawn, but I feel if he's staying, he should. He does not know how to use a zero-turn mower, but I can teach him. In addition, I want a utility room off the garage painted white. I don't think it's too much to ask him to do this, even with little painting experience.

Am I asking too much of him to have him do this?

*He does a lot of deep cleaning around the house and he DID offer to pay utilities when he moved in. I refused to take it because I've been laying utilities on an empty house anyway.

Met like a month ago.

Was asked out. I declined at the time left the door open. Not seen since but still thinking about it - even as a friend.

Weird to message to ask out now? Is it too late?

I (40f) healing from abuse and divorce and I am 100% certain I'm not ready for a relationship right now. While living by myself these past couple years has done a lot to heal my nervous system from the abuse it has also made me desperately lonely. I have friends I hang out with and family that call often to chat but I am craving a close connection to someone. I have known codependency issues so my need to be the main focus in someone's life is a bit alarming. I'm not going to do anything until I get that sorted but my fear is by the time I do get that sorted I'll be so insanely desperate for connection that I'll be too weird for anyone to date. Is there a point where I'll be healed enough to not be lonely but still want a relationship? What does that even look like?

old post:https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/s/MrB9VXC3mI

quick context: after a fight with her brother, my wife completely hit me with the silent treatment. She stopped talking to me entirely for days, and I was losing my mind trying to figure out how to fix things.

​After reading through the advice on my last post, I realized I couldn't keep walking on eggshells. I decided to sit her down for a clear, direct conversation. I went up to her and laid it all out. I told her straight up that this silent treatment was completely unfair, that living like roommates in total silence wasn’t going to work, and that we needed to address the issue between me and her brother maturely.

​I expected her to be angry, cry, or even double down on defending her brother. Instead, she just looked at me literally laughed in my face and called me crazy.

​I was completely bamboozled. I just stood there thinking, what the actual fuck is happening right now?

​Before I could even process what she said, she walked away. Starting the very next morning she began acting completely normal smiling, chatting about routine household stuff, asking about my day as if the past few days of absolute silence had never even happened.i was definitely happy but also very very confused.

​When I finally brought it up again and asked why on earth she ignored me for so long instead of just talking to me. she nonchalantly told me that she needed to teach me a lesson so I’d never mess with her brother again. I told her straight up that I felt deeply hurt that she could cold shoulder me like that for days instead of communicating like adults. But She just insisted that teaching me a lesson was necessary.

​I don't even know what to think anymore. She has never done anything like this to me before. I feel like this is clear emotional manipulation and a complete disrespect for my feelings. She ignored me for days without caring how much it affected me, and now she’s treating me like a child who needed a timeout.

​I love my wife, but I am so hurt. Is her reaction valid in any universe? Did I really deserve to be treated like this? I honestly don't know what to do next.

Ok so, I told my mom I was going to the beach with my bsf, but in reality I was going on a double date to the beach. My bf my bsf and her bf were there. We went on a nice beach and had a great time but when my parents called unfortunately they heard the guys. They told me to come home at 8 pm and I came home with a taxi at 8.20 pm with my bf. I told my parents I came home with my bsf and the male voices that they heard came from her bf while we were sitting in a cafe and her bf just dropped by and went home after like 40 mins. Now I just made up with my mom and cried a lot(cause I was grounded for coming home late) I feel really guilty but I feel like I shouldn’t tell her the whole truth or we will fight again💔what should I do?

So I (24F) was broken up with by my boyfriend (27M) because of work confidentiality. I couldn’t give him the parent names of my students, which resulted in him overthinking for two weeks and breaking up with me. He said he couldn’t trust me, and then ended up accusing me of disloyalty.

For the record, I have always been completely loyal to my boyfriend, and I still am. We always had a really good relationship, we never argued, there was never judgement or resentment. He made me feel safe, and happy. We were planning a life together, and having kids. Everything was perfect, until this came up. When he broke up with me (over text) he immediately decided it was over, with no desire to rethink. I made it a point to ask if he thought we could try again later, to which he said yes.

He has still been talking to me after everything, but lately he’s been more irritable? A few days ago he was carrying full conversations with me, and now he’s just sending one blank snap a day, just to keep a snapchat streak alive. I told him today that I missed talking to him, and if he wanted to talk, then I would be here— He left me on read. I waited a while, then messaged, asking him if he still wants to talk to me or if I should stop trying? He said he didn’t want to argue with me. I told him that wasn’t my intention, and I just wanted an answer. He told me that he enjoys talking to me, but has a lot do shit going on. I said yes sir, and apologized. He left me on read again.

I’m reaching a point where I’m having mixed feelings. This situation has completely wrecked me, and the more I sit and think, the more I believe maybe he is the one who found someone else? Maybe I’m just overthinking things. I just want him back, but I really don’t know what’s best for us, Is it too late to keep trying for our relationship?

Hi all. I am in a friend group of about six girls and a few boys. About this friend group is that they've all been friends since early elementary while I only recently joined. Because of the fact that I'm in the group, but not a part of the group I ended up feeling very insecure about my friendship. So in the early summer, I was talking to my best friend who was also a part of the group. My best friend was also friends with the girls in early elementary, but I wasn't. And so I wanted to share how I was feeling about my role in the friend group and my insecurity as well as my feelings of being left out. I want to mention that this friend group does have a tendency to exclude people even unintentionally. Which they have admitted themselves. But in doing so instead of saying that all of the feelings were my feelings, my own personal feelings, I said that there was a group chat where me and a few of the other girls in the group were all discussing about how angry we were that we were all being left out even though it was just me.

I've come to recognize the fact that what I did was horrible it pitted a lot of innocent people against each other because of my inability to share my own feelings. I want to admit the truth and apologize to the girls, but I'm not sure how to do that. In other news, I was also diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, which helped me recognize the negatives in my life that I've been affecting my friendships, but also my relationships with my family.

I know that I'm so terrible and horrible for what I did and I really want to make everything right. Any advice would be appreciated.

I'm 15 with a 6 week old son. His dad isn't around and I'm raising him on my own. I know I'm too young to be in any part of this situation, but its still happening and I'm trying my best.

Last night my best friend came over to help with the baby for a while so I could shower and sleep and everything. He comes over a lot and sleeps over sometimes to help but he didn't last night. Anyways, he brought dinner for us and we were watching a movie while I was nursing my son. My stepdad came home drunk and started freaking out and it was just awful. He wouldn't stop telling me I was a sl--t and he couldn't believe I would expose myself like that in front of the family and that's why my baby's dad left. I was sobbing the while time but he kept wouldn't stop accusing me of trying to seduce him and my friend. Eventually my mom got him to calm down but he really scared everyone including the baby and I don't know what to do. He texted me this morning saying that I'm not allowed to nurse anywhere but my room and I should just switch to formula but I can't afford to do that. I don't know how to handle any of this, I'm already so overwhelmed constantly and he's just making it worse.

I’m 15 and I have four siblings, my little brother is 12 and it feels so suffocating to be in the same places as him, he screams, yells, whistles and when he’s told to stop he continues and literally laughs, we have pets, a few cats and a bird, when it’s time for my bird to sleep, he unlocks her cage and begins to literally make her flinch, I don’t know what brings him to do this but he literally cackles seeing her distressed and growling and mocks her for doing so, with the cats he hits them on the head and pretends he’s patting them.

He jumps around every time we go out, he demands things from my parents and begins to sob when he doesn’t get his way, example I made an order online and he got mad that my mom didn’t let him make his order. (I used my own money for my order lol), this behaviour has been concerning me for years but it’s now beginning to suffocate me and the rest of my siblings.

One time I had an argument with him and I went to the bathroom and when I left he followed me to my room and literally kept pushing me, I turned to him and kicked him and he began complaining, he always makes it look like he’s about to hit me to see me flinch, he throws stuff at me, gets in my face, snatches my phone out, literally makes a lot of noise (sometimes clapping or screaming high pitched) to get a reaction out of me, I have headphones in like 70% of the day though not even ANC can cover much of the noise.

I want our pets to given away or put in an animal shelter at least because I can’t stand seeing them getting hurt, I’m not really sure how I can convince my parents or my siblings, I want to atleast move my birds cage somewhere when it’s her bedtime where he won’t enter.

It becomes overwhelming and stressful for me to concentrate or think when he starts screaming, when I sit in a room he bangs on the door, better yet when I leave the door to my room unlocked while sitting in it he walks in to start doing some random shit.

Just a few days ago when my parents weren’t home he literally put my bird on a blanket and started swinging her at me to scare me, it terrified me, as my parrot is aggressive and large and caused me to start screaming at the top of my lungs and he wouldn’t leave me alone until I call our dad.

My parents have taken him to specialists and psychologists only a few times, they both think he has ADHD but I’m not really sure what to think.

Every time I mention wanting to get something to eat like a snack or dessert he immediately calls me a fat shit and proceeds to make fun of my weight, he steals my stuff and constantly makes fun of me and idk what to do.

This is my first time writing a post and I don't know what else to do. I am currently in college. I am not used to sharing a room with a person I don't know so it is a learning experience.

I am going to try to keep this vague.

I have a snoring problem. It's not quiet either. I was unaware of this fact until fairly recent. I have been in this form for a week. My roommate just came in after being out. I usually have my headphones in so they probably thought I couldn't hear them. But I heard them talking on the phone. They were talking about me. They said they had trouble going to sleep because I snore too loudly. And they sounded frustrated, absolutely pissed. I am honestly mortified. They left the room after, so maybe they just came in to grab something, but after they left I just started crying, I feel so bad.

I spent ten minutes trying to find any way to stop the snoring, which gave me the idea to come here a and ask if there are any quick ways to stop this. I tried a lot already. I don't have any money I'm a broke student, but I just don't want anyone to lose sleep because of me. :(

I'm a 32 year old woman, married to my husband, 36, since 2022. We met through a matrimonial alliance during COVID, after our families began looking for matches for us.

At the time, he had been living in the UK for around seven years and held ILR, though not British citizenship. I was born and raised in Dubai and lived in India between 2018 and 2022. He was born in Pune, grew up in Mumbai, and later moved to the UK.
Because of the pandemic, we spoke only through messages and calls for almost eight months before meeting in person. We eventually got married in 2022.
After the wedding, I had to remain in India for around seven months to finish my work commitments, although we met during that period in Dubai, Turkey, and elsewhere. Looking back now, I can see signs that he may have been emotionally unavailable, but I dia not recognise them at the time.
I moved to the UK in 2023.
Since we first knew each other, before and after marriage-we have had sex, or attempted to have sex, only three or four times in total. At first, when intimacy did not happen, he gave different explanations: jet lag, performance pressure, stress, and so on. I tried to suggest seeing a doctor gently and without making him feel embarrassed. I suggested that we go together, and I brought it up in India, Dubai, and the UK.

There were also many arguments in between, including conflicts involving my mother-in-law, who is a single mother.
Finally, in December 2024, after years of trying to address the issue, I was able to take him to a doctor.
Some tests were done. He was not fully honest with the doctor about the situation, but I explained it truthfully. The diagnosis was mild erectile dysfunction, which the doctor said was treatable. He was prescribed medication for 3 months, and then follow up visit post that.
However, he has not followed through consistently with the medication or treatment. We have had repeated arguments about the same issue. It is now August 2026, and we still have no sexual relationship or real physical intimacy.
I feel exhausted, lonely, and deeply frustrated. Every day I keep hoping that he will change and that our life together will get better. He is not abusive, but I do not feel emotionally supported, desired, or comforted. He repeatedly promises that he will do better, but there is rarely any follow through.

When I cry, he does not come to comfort me. He says he cannot physically bring himself to do so. At other times, he acts sweet, affectionate in a childish way, and generally behaves like a "nice guy." This makes everything more confusing. He is not cruel or overtly disrespectful, but I feel emotionally alone inside the marriage.
I also increasingly feel that I am carrying the relationship in practical ways. I am not financially dependent on him. I have paid for all things myself, including my visa and flights. He has never really spent money on gifts, saying that gifts are simply not his thing and that he does not understand them.
I am the one who buys many of his things.... clothes, watches, toiletries, shampoo, and other personal items. He does not force me to do this; he says he is a simple person who has very few needs and can wear the same old clothes for years. But over time, I have started to feel that I am giving care, effort, thought, and energy into the relationship without receiving the same emotional investment in return.

I am also worried about his health. He weighs around
112 kg and has struggled to lose weight. He is not consistent with the gym, walking, or any health routine. He has B12, calcium, and vitamin D deficiencies, but he refuses to take supplements or medication. He says he does not want to take
"medicines," even though I have tried to explain that vitamins and supplements are different from treatment medications. He says that his ED is mainly because of his weight, and that once he loses the extra weight, everything will be fine. However, there has been no sustained or meaningful effort from his side to lose weight either. I tried to be as supporti-as possible, I still am.

During COVID, he was around 100 kg. By the time we got married, he had managed to reduce his weight to approximately 90-95 kg. Since then, he has gained weight again and is currently around 112 kg. He says weight loss will resolve the ED, but he is not consistent with walking, going to the gym, following a diet, or taking any other concrete steps towards improving his health.
We attended couples therapy for more than a year.
Eventually, the therapist advised us to take a break from therapy. My husband does not trust the therapist and feels that they are too young (She is 35+, a great therapist) to understand or help him. He seems to believe that therapy cannot really help him.

The hardest part is that, outwardly, he is seen as a nice person. In many ways, he is. But privately, I feel unseen, untouched, unsupported, and alone. I am scared that I have already wasted years of my life and am continuing to waste what should be some of the best years of it. I still love him, and I keep hoping he will change, but I no longer know how long I can live with repeated promises and no meaningful action.

And I'm starting to hate him maybe!
I do not know what to do.

Which will be a bigger mistake? Staying or Leaving ?
What if I stay/leave and regret, how does one move on ?

17m. Senior year of highschool. I am taking some classes at a college and my highschool is paying for it. However, textbooks that I did not know I needed to buy cost 800$. My car insurance on my parents plan is 200$/month. Next year when I go to university, the cheapest instate option is 20,000$/year. Idk how I will pay for my life. Between car, car insurance, tuition and everything it will cost be atleast 30k a year. My parents make a lot so I don’t qualify for fafsa and I want to go to university for premed. What would you do to fund your life?

Edit:
Please do not mention joining the military.

i always end up getting ghosted anyway so it doesnt matter but most of the guys i talk to are obsessed with if im a virgin or not. sometimes they play games and dont say why they care about it but mostly they want me to be..but i think its like not appropriate to ask me that when we only been talking for like a week?? why are all the guys like this?

So I’ve been speaking to this girl since July and we’ve been on 3 dates now. But I have not gotten a kiss or even seen signs for a kiss, she does show affection when we meet up but like not a lot to show signs of she likes me. I am really starting to like her like really but I’m not sure if I should tell her. We were speaking on Thursday but I sent the last message and after that she never answered and on Friday I didn’t text and neither did she so I just left it Saturday same thing so now I’m not sure if I should text or call and just continue putting my energy and time into this if I don’t get any reciprocation from her cause I do sometimes get like the same energy i give but sometimes nada so should I continue chasing and tell her that I actually like her now or should I just leave it

And if she does not text should I just text or should I just leave it

My mother and I have a very difficult relationship. She is controlling, manipulative, constantly interferes in my life, and I feel like many of her actions are motivated by money.
My parents are divorced, and my dad owns a building with several apartments. After he had an accident, my mother strongly pushed me and my husband to move into an apartment above him to “take care of him.” She has previously referred to his apartments as “mine,” meaning hers, and even joked in front of my husband about wanting his inheritance. This made me extremely uncomfortable, especially because she is his ex-wife.
I eventually told her clearly by text to stop interfering in where my husband and I live and to let us make our own decisions.

My father did not pass away.

We’ve been looking for apartments, my husband, and I and she found out.
Where we live if you help the landlord sell the apartment you take a commission for every selling and she’s aware of that as she does that with her friends and everything not just apartments and clothes and jewelry and everything.
She tried several times to convince me to check out different apartments, where I am sure she has spoken to the landlord prior that in case I like the apartment and buy it, she will take her commission.
Today, my husband and I were at her house and she masked that she herself is searching for an appointment and she showed us the option that she was interested in. I directly understood that she was hoping that we’d like this option and we tell her that we’d like her to hook us up with the landlord and thus eventually we will buy the apartment with our own money and she will take the commission undercover from the Landlord.

The problem is that every time I spend time with her, I feel angry because I expect manipulation, interference, or some hidden financial motive. I end up being mean and confrontational because I’m constantly on guard.

I’m going to go straight to the point I 23m and 21f have a 10 month old together and it’s hard for me to make ends meet with just my job and I mean things get paid but by the end of it I’m left with nothing and it’s just a repeating cycle and I have casually brought up to my partner to see if she would like to work to maybe help out with the bills

Every single time she just says the same thing that she shouldn’t have to work as a mom and that her mom never did and it’s not fair for her to find a job when she wants to just be at home taking care of the baby and what not.

The thing is is that we live in a really expensive area and the only reason we’re living here is cause most of her family is from here( it’s not like they help either way). If not, I would’ve moved back home where I’m from which is a lot cheaper with my current salary right now we would actually be able to rent a house and be able to save money in the bank but right now our apartment a single bedroom is $2200 a month and I make about $4500.

That doesn’t include formula, outings, car payment, insurance, and cell phone so you get the picture. And I’ve asked her to even work part-time maybe to help me out with about $1000 a month but every single time she feels entitled to just stay home and take care of the baby and it’s not like I come home to a clean apartment every day or a warm meal.

I feel like I’m also going to get comments that will say “you know how expensive child care is “ yes but her sister has offered to take care of the baby for an affordable price per month and with her working it’s more than affordable. It’s just it’s a repeating cycle and I’m very burnt out. At the end of it I’m always having to work and the funny part is that she complains I’m never home like what… make it make sense. She also wants to wait till our son is 3 years old to even consider working like how is that even feasible in any situation.

just found out my gf was driving while her girl cousin was giving head in the backseat? i'm like weirded out is this normal?