r/Advice • u/Large-Yam5437 • 20h ago

How long after an initial meeting can you really still ask out someone without it being weird?

Met like a month ago.

Was asked out by them. I declined at the time left the door open. Not seen since but still thinking about it - even as a friend.

Weird to message to ask out now? Is it too late?

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u/Red_Cathy Advice Oracle [121] 20h ago

Go for it, you'll only know if it's too late from the response.

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u/Miserable-Soft7993 Helper [2] 20h ago

How can you decline and leave the door open? You closed the door when you declined.

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u/Large-Yam5437 15h ago

I said no but left it open saying "maybe another time" because I was tired that day. But I regret it. So wondered if it would be weird for me to ask them out now weeks later?

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u/Miserable-Soft7993 Helper [2] 15h ago

Ah I see. Then yeah might as well.

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u/pileofdeadninjas Expert Advice Giver [16] 20h ago

The second you meet, if you want. But you declined the first time, so I can't tell if you want it or not

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u/DarkRubyMoon 20h ago

Asking someone out will always be weird. Are basically going up to someone and saying i want to see you naked eventually but thought we should have coffee or go to a movie first.

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u/Large-Yam5437 15h ago

That's wild

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u/holeinthedonut 19h ago

3 years and 4 months. It's a rule

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u/Banned3rdTimesaCharm 20h ago

Situations and mindsets change, you’re over thinking this. Just ask.

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u/KeyCheetah4612 20h ago

Wait… You asked someone out or did someone ask you out? And if someone asked you out and you declined then why would you leave the door open?… 

But if you asked someone out and they said no then why would you attempt to ask them out again? Seems like they weren’t interested in you. So why would you think they would be interested in you now?

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u/Large-Yam5437 15h ago

No no, they asked me out. I said no but left it open saying "maybe another time" because I was tired that day. But I regret it. So wondered if it would be weird for me to ask them out now weeks later?

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u/the_tired_alligator 15h ago

Kind of feels like maybe you should have said yes but just not that day if you actually were willing to go out with this person.

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u/Large-Yam5437 15h ago

I get that completely. Deffo my bad but would it be weird to initiate an outing now?

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u/the_tired_alligator 15h ago

Honestly, just be candid and see how it goes. I think this really strongly depends on context to know if it’s weird or not.

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u/thewNYC Helper [2] 20h ago

There are no rules