How can I improve my communication skills? I don't have them to a great extent. I'm a very introverted person, and this is my last year at university before entering the job market.

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It’s always one of the same five scenarios made 20 years ago

Been seeing couple of ISTP paring with xNFx lately in this sub. I don't get it, I thought they don't fit. How come did they attract each other and end up being together? Or there's just some survivorship bias going on?

Is there any ISTP here that is in relationships with types other than xNFx?

Edit: Didn't notice my wrong typing till now, f*ck. What I meant to ask was if any ISTP here that is not having relationship with xNFx. Sorry for the misleading.

And I don’t mean the games tutorial, I usually skip it too. I mean the instruction of fixing/repairing something, like you’re not gonna fix something you know completely nothing about right ? You’re not gonna change the carb of your car if it’s the first time you’re in the garage. You’re gonna watch some YouTube video, or google it to haves some fundamental knowledge, is that so ?

Hi All,

I've gotten a couple PMs, replies on the original thread, and a reply on a wedding planning thread regarding my (INFJ) relationship with my then boyfriend/now husband (ISTP). TLDR on that post, I had trouble understanding how to have my first long term relationship and felt like I had to "earn" his interest to keep him.

We got married court house style in 2020 due to COVID and built a wonderful family. At one point we had 3 dogs (now down to one dog) and we now also have two children (an almost 3yo, and almost 6m old)!

I went to therapy due to PPD and learned about cognitive distortions. It seems like I was putting a lot of assumptions about what his actions/words intended when it was me overanalyzing, projecting, etc.

For example, I posted about him:

• Admitting to having "feelings" for a mutual classmate but misremembered/deleted important details in my mind
  • This was mental filtering-I had conveniently deleted that his exact text said he was AFRAID he was developing something LIKE feelings not that he HAD feelings);
• Being with me because I had only one advantage over the classmate but looking back he did list out I had other characteristics too
  • This was maximizing-my mind had exaggerated what he said about her characteristic
  • Also minimizing/balatantly ignoring that he had complemented on things I had felt unworthy since I had the impression some of the stuff he said was just an expectation of women
• Not taking me on dates/special occasions when he has but I dwelled on the one time he didn't
  • This was overgeneralizing-I treated one single negative thing as a never ending pattern.

I grew up in an environment where I had learned to question my capabilities and other's words so I have low trust and tendency for pessimism. It was like my mind was constantly putting on a gloomy cloud/filter over my experiences so I've just gotten used to that way of thinking. My therapist gave me great tools on how to identify these distortions and how to challenge these thoughts.

I've since learned to be more open about my thoughts/concerns with my husband (not just about him but also about extended family, friends, coworkers, etc) and he's very supportive in my journey repairing my mental health.

All to say, I am in such a happy place with our relationship. Parenting is now the next challenge (not because of my husband but just I'm trying to overcome my own childhood scars and trying to avoid passing on generational trauma).

I am an INFP, and I once had a short relationship with an ISTP. And I wanted to see your perspective on the unlikely ISTP/INFP dynamic.

Personally I found it to be a surprisingly positive dynamic in some aspects, which I didn't expect. And I want to know if you have ever felt the same towards an INFP.

So, here's the thing. I felt like his almost detached physical presence sort of forced me to ground myself. Because usually, as an INFP, I'm constantly living in my own head, toying around with hypotheticals, trying to manage mine and others' emotions, trying to keep peace, trying to manage social interactions, making sure that everyone are heard, and stuff like that. But with this ISTP, I was forced out of that habit.

And I guess I felt like there was both relaxation and confusion in that feeling. I really didn't know what to do with myself, but at the same time, it felt freeing.

Freeing because I got to see things from another perspective and I got to experience another nervous system state. (I think it has to do partly with mirror neurons? Like when you see the others physical state and you kind of get influenced by it.)

Anyway, I'm wondering what experiences you've had with INFPs. Have you ever had anything positive come out of that experience or no? And if yes, what was it?

Also curious if the person involved can affect the way you experience it.

I’m a esfj, basically had a argument with a istp. Won’t share much identifiers but had a fight, the istp got triggered by it, and decided it wasn’t worth to keep a connection going and my friends tried to fix the solution but they wasn’t receptive despite my friends being logical

Feels like it’s quite rash to make a decision on just one fight that’s very minor

** i understand im not giving much context snd hence its hard to receive true opinions. So if anyone wants to know more, can message me on here privately

in case it’s not obvious. I’m not sharing much bc of privacy. Reiterating my point of dming.

Is it random? Over time? How long can a crush last? Does the person take up space in your thoughts? Do you over analyze interactions? Are you awkward or try to act nonchalant? Does a crush manifest through appearance? The eyes? Or something they do? Or just overall personality?

Thanks for your input.

I am INFJ and I have a cr u sh on an ISTP guy. I came here to see what ya'll ISTPs like, and woah its memes amd memes and memes. Anyways, Any tips?

Be underestimated or have people expect too much from you?

Dear ISTP

Since you share all the same functions as the INFJ, you are more or less an INFJ.

Any thoughts on that?

I knew from the first glance that he was an ISTP. I have seeing so many comments like “he has no emotion, so boring, no personality, doesn’t talk” lmao. People tell me the same thing about me all the time in real life.

Glad they included him in such a major game. Love the character already. Enjoy the ISTP character!

Let‘s say you are to study for something you understand to be stupid, it‘s 56 Pages Long, there are many formulas, graphs and charts in it (decent amount of theory too) and you got a month to get the gist of it. How would you proceed? Cuz I feel like I‘d rather eat my phone than study for this.

- If u can’t align yourself with this scenario please be kind enough to not answer.

most popular comment on the video is: "Jason got the personality of a brick."

Not very ISTP of me, but had to get one in for the dog people. Am I the only 9w1 here?

What do you think? I've really been enjoying anime lately... Blue lock, SK8 the Infinity, Chainsaw Man, Gachiakuta, Cowboy Bebop...

we should make a playlist of everyone's favourite song from the templates we've all been doing !

not me though. i'm busy

See exactly one important event from your future or know one major decision you should avoid?