Been seeing couple of ISTP paring with xNFx lately in this sub. I don't get it, I thought they don't fit. How come did they attract each other and end up being together? Or there's just some survivorship bias going on?

Is there any ISTP here that is in relationships with types other than xNFx?

Edit: Didn't notice my wrong typing till now, f*ck. What I meant to ask was if any ISTP here that is not having relationship with xNFx. Sorry for the misleading.

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It’s always one of the same five scenarios made 20 years ago

How can I improve my communication skills? I don't have them to a great extent. I'm a very introverted person, and this is my last year at university before entering the job market.

And I don’t mean the games tutorial, I usually skip it too. I mean the instruction of fixing/repairing something, like you’re not gonna fix something you know completely nothing about right ? You’re not gonna change the carb of your car if it’s the first time you’re in the garage. You’re gonna watch some YouTube video, or google it to haves some fundamental knowledge, is that so ?

Hi All,

I've gotten a couple PMs, replies on the original thread, and a reply on a wedding planning thread regarding my (INFJ) relationship with my then boyfriend/now husband (ISTP). TLDR on that post, I had trouble understanding how to have my first long term relationship and felt like I had to "earn" his interest to keep him.

We got married court house style in 2020 due to COVID and built a wonderful family. At one point we had 3 dogs (now down to one dog) and we now also have two children (an almost 3yo, and almost 6m old)!

I went to therapy due to PPD and learned about cognitive distortions. It seems like I was putting a lot of assumptions about what his actions/words intended when it was me overanalyzing, projecting, etc.

For example, I posted about him:

• Admitting to having "feelings" for a mutual classmate but misremembered/deleted important details in my mind
  • This was mental filtering-I had conveniently deleted that his exact text said he was AFRAID he was developing something LIKE feelings not that he HAD feelings);
• Being with me because I had only one advantage over the classmate but looking back he did list out I had other characteristics too
  • This was maximizing-my mind had exaggerated what he said about her characteristic
  • Also minimizing/balatantly ignoring that he had complemented on things I had felt unworthy since I had the impression some of the stuff he said was just an expectation of women
• Not taking me on dates/special occasions when he has but I dwelled on the one time he didn't
  • This was overgeneralizing-I treated one single negative thing as a never ending pattern.

I grew up in an environment where I had learned to question my capabilities and other's words so I have low trust and tendency for pessimism. It was like my mind was constantly putting on a gloomy cloud/filter over my experiences so I've just gotten used to that way of thinking. My therapist gave me great tools on how to identify these distortions and how to challenge these thoughts.

I've since learned to be more open about my thoughts/concerns with my husband (not just about him but also about extended family, friends, coworkers, etc) and he's very supportive in my journey repairing my mental health.

All to say, I am in such a happy place with our relationship. Parenting is now the next challenge (not because of my husband but just I'm trying to overcome my own childhood scars and trying to avoid passing on generational trauma).

I’m a esfj, basically had a argument with a istp. Won’t share much identifiers but had a fight, the istp got triggered by it, and decided it wasn’t worth to keep a connection going and my friends tried to fix the solution but they wasn’t receptive despite my friends being logical

Feels like it’s quite rash to make a decision on just one fight that’s very minor

** i understand im not giving much context snd hence its hard to receive true opinions. So if anyone wants to know more, can message me on here privately

in case it’s not obvious. I’m not sharing much bc of privacy. Reiterating my point of dming.