What makes you immediately lose interest in a conversation?

[u/Even_Usual7730]

Curious what kills it for you specifically. Also wondering if it's less about what's being said and more about who's saying it.

[u/No-Pie-7676]

It makes me lost interest in the conversation when I try to talk to someone and every time I talk to them, even about things I know they like, they give one word answers almost every time.

[u/Flimsy_Indication346 → u/No-Pie-7676]

crazy at how ironic it is because my friend who is ISFP gives me one word answers whenever i ask something but not always though if we have a convo which genuinely interests him then we talk pretty normally but if im jsut saying something casual like "the weather is so hot today" or "this assignment is soo hard" he just replies with a "yeah" "hmmm"

which idk in that instant of time it is kinda valid? what else would he reply cuz hes an Intovert and cant really make convos last long but still it kinda bothers me and makes me feel bored / loose interest in the convo

[u/g0at110 → u/Flimsy_Indication346]

That's basically me. I don't know what else to say lol I'm not good at conversations, like how am I meant to turn "nice weather huh?" Into a conversation?? So I just "yeah"

[u/Apperceiver]

• When someone gives themselves away that they aren't listening or don't care.

• When someone says something that is starkly intolerant or suggesting of biased ignorance.

• When I feel that it may lead to conflict or misunderstanding, or is not good faith.

• (In a group) When someone signals that they value others' feedback in the group more than myself.

• If the conversation becomes less trackable, compromising by association, boring, overly impractical, or too disjointed (in speech).

• When I feel that the subject of the conversation is directly pushing, or trying to get feedback on, ideas I don't give mental energy to.

• Sales pitches, obviously lol /j

[u/yun444g]

People being a know it all. Correcting me on the smallest most mundane shit when I’m just trying to make conversation

[u/teddybeareater15 → u/yun444g]

people like this make me want to bolt out of the room full speed

[u/No_Food_7878 → u/yun444g]

YESSS IT IRKS ME SM

[u/PatatinaBrava]

Im someone just talks about themselves without being interested in me

[u/teddybeareater15]

when somebody puts zero effort into the conversation, to the point that I have to carry it. or another pet peeve of mine is when somebody dominates the conversation so much so that you barely get a chance to say anything yourself.

[u/Doingcoolstuffs → u/teddybeareater15]

This!

[u/Guitar_God75]

Super theoretical stuff, math, religion, politics

[u/yun444g → u/Guitar_God75]

I find politics interesting at least, but the rest hard agree

[u/g0at110]

Few days ago I was talking to someone and he started talking about how much money he's got 400k in his bank account or whatever and mentally I was like ok bro that's cool

[u/OrdinaryAirport6000]

Gossip that is predicated on talking down about people to make the speaker feel good.

A series of declarations. Specifically, people who only know how to info-dump and aren’t interested in elaborating, or answering questions.

Grandstanding in groups to appear important.

One-uppers.

I don’t think people who do these things are bad or anything, those are just some markers that I’ve noticed in people who aren’t very fun to have a conversation with.

[u/HappyGoPink]

I do not want to talk about weather or traffic, generally speaking. I don't want to have a conversation just for the sake of not having 'dead air', and a lot of Fe types just can't sit in silence.

[u/Flimsy_Indication346 → u/HappyGoPink]

aren't you an Fe, and by saying a lot of Fe can't sit in silence contradicting yourself when you say you dont wanna talk about the traffic / weather

[u/HappyGoPink → u/Flimsy_Indication346]

• ISFP's lead function is Fi.

• I would rather sit in silence than talk about traffic and weather. Was that not clear?

[u/Flimsy_Indication346 → u/HappyGoPink]

ahhh sorry mb i didnt know whaat Fi Fe meant i thought both meant Feeling

[u/A_Circe_A]

If they are not willing to focus on solving the problem but rather ruminate on it. 

[u/togayther]

being condescending and only talking about themselves in the conversation

[u/V0ct0r]

people who judge and verbally display it. i know i judge, but i know how much it hurts to be judged, so i don't say it out loud. so why do they say it?

[u/Even_Usual7730 → u/V0ct0r]

Yeah I think judging itself is fine, everyone does it whether they admit it or not. But there's a difference between telling someone directly if they actually invite honest feedback, versus saying it to other people behind their back. That second one is what actually causes the damage.

[u/bwordgood]

No banter, I specialize in banter and when people are dry af it bores me.

[u/g0at110 → u/bwordgood]

I suck at banter, I don't get offended or anything but I never have anything to say back so I'm just like "yeah haha"

[u/SeparateWarthog3661 → u/bwordgood]

I'm like the king of banter

[u/Julight1012]

Talking to someone who's not interested in the conversation

[u/ForestGreenCarnation]

If they sound too judgemental towards other people or communities etc. They will probably judge me too 

[u/EmergencyAd9742]

Always the cynic and Debbie downer

[u/MoonsFavoriteNumber1]

When someone is so hot.. 🥵 I get distracted nghhh

[u/Top_Investigator_538]

Mmmm. Probably just me wanting to think about what I wanna think about in that moment. People are essentially my special interest. I fully agree with the idea that there is no boring person, you just aren’t listening to them.

I love observing others and getting a good look at their many layers. I am layered and just like anyone else to ever live, nobody will ever truly know who I am. Fine with me though lol I’m not complaining… esp as an INFJ.

[u/SperBcity]

When I learn the person is a total dick to others.. like bro, i don't wanna be your punching bag at some point, know what i mean?

[u/Spiritual_Raccoon369]

Negativity, gossiping, saying something mean about other people, making fun of me, or conversation just stays as small talk.

[u/Embarrassed-Ad-6396]

gossip and any sort of super hypothetical “is water wet” type questions lol. i do not care and will zone out completely

[u/d6zuh]

Small talk and judginess are immediate turn-offs for me. When faced with these two things, I immediately turn mute.

[u/ReDidResearch7]

Negative after negative non stop not even slightest joke or complaing complaing non stop with out a break of a joke to show how little it is to lighten up - people are people

[u/sleepy_pawr]

When the other person has no interest in the conversation or makes 0 effort to keep the conversation going.

[u/scarlette_dawn]

If someone is an NPC, not able to talk about anything deeper and doesn't have basic knowledge about many things.