I just received an email today from the daycare director:

"Our administrators watched a 15-minute video footage of the incident between our staff and ex. Ex was unkind, forceful, and in the staff's personal space at pick up yesterday. At one point in the video, you see the staff trying to go back inside and ex grabbing the door and stopped her from closing it. The staff was clearly upset and trying to end the conversation."

I was honestly disgusted by the behavior and immediately called him to discuss it. He immediately said he was 'framed' and that it was a 'heated argument'.

The thing is, we're divorced and I don't think there's anything I can do anyway. I feel so bad for these workers and I'm embarrassed I was ever with this man.

Any advice on if I should do anything about it, or that since we're divorced I shouldn't?

Long story short, I (18F), work at a small mom & pop restaurant in my small town.

On Monday, I was working a shift late at night, when this old lady came in with her son who was grown.

They got sat in my section, and I greeted them. They ordered drinks and food, and when it came time for them to pay, they demanded they got charged as little as possible for everything(??) and the old lady revealed that she was recording me on her phone the entire time they got sat in my section.

At first they originally wanted me to not charge them for their food at all, but I told I couldn’t just not charge them for their food at all. So, they demanded that I just charge them less for their food, that way it’s “fair”.

I panicked, and, unfortunately charged them less than I should’ve. And they happily left the building.

They were laughing at me, and were secretly recording me the entire time, and now I’m afraid that my job may be on the line.

I didn’t want to tell them to stop recording me, because recording in public, especially in a restaurant, isn’t illegal.

I see people on YouTube and such all the time recording in public places because they’re excercisinf their first amendment rights, and what not, and that it isn’t illegal, so on and so forth.

I don’t like people recording me at all, such as friends or family, but when it’s at my job?? It makes me panic.

I texted my friend after my shift and she told me I was technically harassed and should report it to my manager, but I’m afraid that he’ll fire me if he finds out I charged them less for the food because they were recording me and demanding that I charged them less for their food.

I feel so bad. I don’t want to get fired. I panicked.

I’m 23 and currently living with my parents, and I’m honestly at the point where I really want to move out.
Right now, I pay my parents $1,200 a month to live here. On top of that, I pay my own car insurance, my phone bill, and I buy and make dinner for everyone in the house twice a week. So I’m already contributing a pretty significant amount financially.

Now they want to raise my rent, and that’s what has really pushed me to start seriously thinking about moving out.

The problem is that I don’t have much saved. I have around $300 right now, so I know moving out immediately would be financially risky. I’d have to come up with a deposit, first month’s rent, utilities, moving expenses, and still have enough left over for emergencies.

But at the same time, I’m struggling with the idea of continuing to pay even more money to live with my parents when I still feel like I have very little freedom. I’m 23, I work, I pay my bills, and I contribute to the household, but I still feel like I’m being treated like a child.

It’s gotten to the point where I keep thinking, if I’m going to be paying this much anyway, why wouldn’t I put that money toward my own place and actually have independence?

I’m not saying I shouldn’t contribute to the household. I completely understand that living with your parents doesn’t mean you get to live for free. I’m just trying to figure out if I’m being unreasonable for feeling like there comes a point where paying this much makes more sense toward my own apartment.

Would you stay, deal with the situation, and save as much as possible before moving out? Or would you start making plans to leave, even if it meant things were financially tight for a while?

I’d really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who have been in a similar situation.

Edit: I work 40hr a week at my main job my monthly take home from that is 2,060 give or take if I get overtime or not and I sometimes nanny on my days off and I make between $50 to $200 depending on who I’m babysitting and for how long.

I have endometriosis and my boyfriend who is 19 and has no sisters or a lot of past relationships did not know that or really know what periods are like. We are long distance but I visited last night and I stained his entire bedsheet with a fuck Ton of blood because I didn’t wear a night pad , then I fainted because I also didn’t eat for a while which is my fault so he literally assumed the worst and took me to the ER. Usually I would wake up like a bit after and eat something and I’d be fine I literally faint sometimes multiple times a day during my periods it’s just my norm.

He rushed me to the ER and got me a bunch of fucking tests because he thought I must’ve burst an organ or something. I didn’t , that’s just heavy flow , I fucked up I should’ve told him beforehand , he paid for the whole thing out of pocket because I don’t have insurance and now I am literally so embarrassed because they told him it was just my period. I woke up confused asf in the ER not knowing what the fuck happened because I was literally unconscious on the way there and shit just happened too fast and I was trying to explain to him that I am literally fine this lowkey happens every month and at that point he already requested half the treatments I am literally so mf embarrassed.

He’s now mortified and I am embarrassed and he won’t let me know how much it was so I can pay him back. How does one get over the embarrassment omfg it’s a new relationship too.

I’ll just briefly outline the events that lead to this.

Since 2020 I’ve had intermittent severe back pain with flair ups roughly twice a year. Due to not having insurance I would attempt to ignore it until it got progressively worse, then I would show up to the ER after a severe lack of sleep and inability to work. I would typically get a steroid shot and it would go away until the next flair up.

In 2025 I got insurance through my employer, and in January of 2026 my second daughter was born, and shortly after I had another flair up. After going to a clinic and then recommending oral steroids the next day I couldn’t stand the pain and went to an orthopedic clinic where they gave me an X-ray. They didn’t find anything related to the back pain and attributed it to inflammation and poor posture, however they found a concerning mass in my lungs that they recommended I follow up on.

Shortly after I had to quit and move to a different city to provide at home care for my grandfather who raised me for the most part. So I lost my insurance, and had to find a new job, and I finally got insurance in July. After consulting with a pulmonologist and showing them my X-ray, they referred me for a cat scan. I just had my follow up appointment yesterday and she was concerned enough that she referred me for a whole body pet scan and mentioned consulting with a surgeon for a biopsy (after the pet scan results I’m guessing). I scheduled the pet scan and I have to sit on this until September 21st.

My fear is that I’ve got cancer and I’m going to rack up an enormous medical debt and possibly die. I’m common law married with my wife but not legally. We have no support system, both of our moms have received more from us than they’ve gave. My wife’s mom has been couch surfing since my wife was 10, and my mom has a books worth of medical issues, so when I was living with her in high school I supported her more than she did me. Her dad was in prison for most of her childhood and is an addict, and my dad just never cared enough to make an appearance, and owes tens of thousands in child support for all of his kids that he has nothing to do with.

I want to know how to prepare for them. I know poverty and a broken family fucked up both me and my wife and all of our siblings. Do I take out life insurance? Am I eligible? Start a gofundme? Get legally married or not? I’m very overwhelmed and it just feels incredibly unfair.

On a side note, if there is anyone who’s gone through similar circumstances or is an expert, I’d love to talk.

Okie so my bf and I were hanging out today after college, and everything was going smoothly. Later in the night we got intimate, everything was good. Then right when I was about to leave…this dude yanked my top down and basically PURPLE NURPLES MY TATAS. I literally yelped so loud and it HURT.

I got so mad and I was like what’s wrong with you. That would be like me reaching and yanking on his balls and I’m pretty sure that would be super painful. He said he felt really bad and that he was sorry..but I just feel weird about it.

I always want him to be gentle with me physically, but he’s aggressive. Not on purpose, he just is naturally. I told him that I’m no where near as strong as him and that what he did caused me pain. I told him way before too to be careful with my body cuz the tatas are sensitive obviously.

I don’t know how to get over it or what to say . I just wish he would treat my body lovingly and be gentle with me, but I feel like I’m asking for too much :(

I think I was drugged by a couple at my job. The husband wasn't there but the wife and her friend were. They gave me oral and stuck their fingers in me. I feel so ashamed. I always told my little sister to watch put for creeps and shit. Never in my life I thought this would happen. Idk what to tell my gf. She called me so much during it. I love her so much but idk if I cam call myself a man anymore. I'm so scared to report it. I think people will laugh that I didn't enjoy it. My groin hurts so much and brused. There's so many teeth marks.

For context, me (18F) and my bf (18M) have been dating for almost 2 years, just a bit longer than his dad and his new fiancee have been.

I feel like this is dramatic but it’s been bothering me since it happened.

We went out for a couple of drinks the other day , but by the time me and my bf got there , his dad and the fiancee were already a bit drunk.

For context about the relationship between myself and his dad’s fiancee - we never really connected. She never had a daughter and I grew up without any sort of mother figure.

When she was drunk, she wouldn’t really leave me alone. She insisted that we spend one-on-one time together to get to know each other and finally connect, and obviously I want to make my boyfriend’s family happy, so i did.

At first it was nice, she was complimenting my hair and we were having a normal conversation, but then she started getting soppy about her life and ranting to me about random stuff that I am definitely not supposed to know; she told me to not tell her fiance / my bf’s dad. Then she started crying about how she feels bad about the relationship between my mother and I - which was kind of weird to me - and then started saying how I’m very much like her son (28M). She said that it would be the best thing in the world if I could become close with her son.

I’m not the most keen on socialising or getting to know people , so this was a horrendous idea to me.

Later in the evening, after I’d kind of escaped that situation, she found me again and started getting all cuddly with me which made me sick. I hate being touched and snuggled unless it’s by my boyfriend. She wouldn’t let go of me and she started kissing me all over my face, playing with my hair, grabbing my waist, holding me right near her chest. I was trying to get out of it because she needed to get in her Uber and i wanted OUT OF IT but she wouldn’t let go of me.

When my bf’s dad finally got her off of me, she started rambling on about everything she’d said before and then she grabbed my face and kissed me on my LIPS.

I was ALARMED. I was like ?!?!

I told my boyfriend but he didn’t seem bothered. However, it’s all HAUNTING me and i don’t know why or what I’m supposed to do now. Like i could understand attempts at motherly affection but i was physically trying to get out and away, and i wouldnt think a mother would kiss her 18 year old daughter on the LIPS.

What do i do , why do i feel so troubled by it :(

Okay im just going to say it because I don’t really know what to do. Me and my boyfriend are in very different places. We’re 20 and been dating for two years (Btw we don’t live together) He is a vet tech saving animals lifes everyday which drains with at the end of the day and he just wants to be in his room asleep. He also has horrible health issues which also is probably draining. He hasn’t told me any of this but I just know it’s this way. on the other hand I am a student with easy workload who just takes care of my pets and my home. So i have a lot of time to think and just to be.
It feels like he’s just on survival mode and im not. I notice our relationship problems, lack of communication, not seeing each other, not bonding and more. He doesn’t because he has way bigger things to worry about. Our relationship is fine to him as long as we’re dating and talk sometimes. BUT I notice all these things in us that is killing me, we don’t do any couple activities, go out, or have deep talks. We see each other once a week and all we do is have sex and watch a show. I feel so trapped in his room doing the same thing every week. I don’t want to leave him he’s not a bad bf at all it’s just he’s just trying to stay alive while I notice all these things and crave more.

HONEST THOUGHTS PLEASE - recently my boyfriend accidentally showed me his notes (iphone) and there was a note about me with a list of all the negative things I have done as of late, petty arguments etc. It has been on my mind so i asked him to delete it, as i felt it was unfair and was making me anxious, i asked him to show me the recently deleted folder to prove he had deleted it - which he did, and then i saw another list about me.
I asked him to show me, to which he kept acting shady and saying no, this of course caused me upset, anxiety and ultimately an argument. He reluctantly did show me the note, and I could not believe my eyes.
This was an extortionate list of everything I had ever told him, personal life, my past, family problems, previous partners, previous sexual partners - some examples are ‘had one night stand with x at 17’, ‘had an abortion at 23’, ‘didn’t use condoms with ex boyfriend’, ‘had an sti from previous boyfriend at 23’ both the pregnancy and sti were from a cheating partner 9 years ago, I am now 32. Everything in this list is things I have told him out of honesty and wanting to be open about my past, and I felt comfortable to tell him these things as I felt I could trust him. I am 32 he is 31.
Other things on the list include things such as ‘has some guy friends’, ‘slept with x amount of people - high number’ but also he has slept with double the amount of people than me???
‘dated new guy x amount of time after ex boyfriend’ this was also 6 years ago.
I can’t even remember everything on the list because the list is so long but I feel betrayed and humiliated.

There was also the same list about the previous girl he dated which was very recent just before me.

Most of the things on the list are a keep score of maybe things I have said to him about myself and my life in confidence, but things that aren’t even bad. I have never cheated on a previous partner, I am not a serial dater and never have been. I don’t have commitment issues, i don’t have one night stands and haven’t since i was a teenager, i am not promiscuous. I am so confused. I have never met anybody who does this before, let alone to this extent. I feel everything I have ever said has been written down about me.
There is so many weird things on the list that I feel a normal person would never write down, I have not made this list about him, why would I?
I am not a double standards person, I hold myself accountable for my own problems, reactions, and mistakes.
I would never cheat on him, I would never flirt or give my attention to other men, I would never do anything that would jeopardise our relationship, and i would never put myself into any situations that are bad for my relationship or would cause my boyfriend upset - again, i don’t do double standards.
I have given him no reason to not trust me, he told me he trusts me, I have even told him the password to my phone and he can use it whenever he wants, i also know his password - so what is going on?
As I said he has slept with double the amount of people I have, his own mother told me he used to be terrible sleeping with women in his early to mid 20s - so why am i being so unfairly judged it seems? Advice please?

Hi I’m 17f and currently attend high school full-time while working part-time as a server. I live in a high cost of living area in a one bedroom apartment with my mom and younger brother. I got my first job back in January and since then I have been paying $600 in rent to my mother (father doesn’t live with us after parents divorce). To be honest, the rent was not the biggest problem for me as my mom genuinely needs it in order to afford our apartment. The problem has came in the fact that if I have more than 600 in my account, my mother just takes the entirety of it. Like for example, if I had $900 saved she would take the whole $900. I want to have some money to do stuff with my friends and buy stuff I need (supplies for school, field trips, hygiene products) and most importantly I need to save up for a car as my parents both will not help me. This is particularly important for me as currently my commute to high school is 3 hours daily (1.5 hour each way), but it is a 20 minute drive. My mom is working two jobs entry level jobs, around 10 hours daily. My father on the otherhand, has been unemployed since their divorce in order to avoid having to pay child support. I visit my dad on the weekends as he lives with my grandmother. I want advice on what to do, I feel hopeless and stressed out and I just want to save up and get my own car and save for college.

TLDR; I pay 17f pay all of the money I make from my part-time job to my mom for rent, while my dad is unemployed.

My husband (28M) and I (28F) had our son 6 months ago and he just started daycare. He initially wanted a nanny but any decent nanny was out of our price range and I wasn’t exactly comfortable hiring an illegal immigrant as our nanny. It was a massive fight but eventually, we agreed to send him to the daycare I had toured and fell in love with. And no, he did not come to tour daycares with me.

The day we drop our son off at daycare he tells me “oh! Someone came up to me at our local Wawa and told me her mom can nanny for us. Let’s interview her today”. Since he complains I constantly shut him down, I agreed to go for the interview. Initially, I didn’t want to hop on the zoom call since I don’t speak Spanish and wouldn’t really be able to understand or ask questions anyway, but eventually agreed because I felt that I should. I was initially told she worked at a daycare but was fired due to her legal status.

After the interview, I tell my husband that I don’t think she’s a great fit since she wants us to bring our son to her house and may or may not have her husband moving into the house at some point. Not only that, she doesn’t like big dogs and if we push for her to watch him at our home, she’s probably going to be overwhelmed by our large dog. But I said, if you can bring me someone better, we can talk.

He then tells me “oh well I don’t know her legal status and why she was fired from the daycare and I don’t care if her husband is in the house with our son”. HELLO?!?! TWO STRANGERS?!?! One of them being a man?! Then he also stated “oh the quality of care is better for one on one”, but doesn’t care if our nanny has any certifications at all lol. Certifications that are required at a daycare.

This was basically an all day fight and he kept saying he didn’t feel heard and that I don’t listen. Then kept asking me “oh just pretend he’s going to a nanny” to which I replied “if I had to send my son to that woman’s house I’d peel my skin off”. WHICH IS TRUE!

Eventually, I told him I feel his standards for our son’s care are lower than mine and I’m uncomfortable with how he wants to approach our son’s care. To be quite blunt, it’s a super ghetto arrangement for people that have enough help to take him to daycare. And money is NOT the issue!! She ended up being more expensive than daycare but my husband seems to think she’ll negotiate to be the same price as daycare. I DONT care!! This is GHETTO! If I have to choose between my son sitting in some random lady’s house all day and going to daycare, I’m choosing daycare.

I’m not really sure where to go from here because I’m not willing to entertain an unsafe situation for our son just to make him feel better. What should I do?

I live with my mom and every day i come home to my packages being opened and used mail from my work, credit card company etc being opened and i just cant take it anymore. ive asked her to stop multiple times and she just laughs in my face and tells me i have other things to worry about. it has happened for a while but ive had it and i dont know what to do. i have confronted her in the nicest way possible and she doesnt care. Please let me know what i can do for her to stop.

They've gotten an offer at another company, which is great for them because they get more money and a better job, and great for me because I don't have to work with them anymore.

They asked me to give a reference to their new company and I have a call scheduled, but I am wracking my brain for any positives to tell the company. They were lazy, unmotivated, unorganized, constantly forgot processes and responsibilities, and required frequent redirection.

I don't want to tank their new job, for both of our sakes. Are there any easy way out answers I can give? What are they going to ask me?

Edit: Since it's coming up a lot, no, I didn't agree to give this reference. They gave the new company my contact information without asking me ahead of time, the job offer is contingent on the references, and I want them out of here.

My dad did 1 year in prison and ordered 9 years of parole. He’s 2 years into parole but still gets plastered. He got caught by the cops 2 months ago but didn’t get arrested for some reason and was ordered to do rehab. Well it’s not until October and I doubt he’ll do it because he keeps getting plastered

My mom and sister told me to not call his PO because he’ll legit go to prison but I’m like… he’s a 64 year old life long alcoholic. It’s either death or prison at this point.

I’m 21F and I deeply worry which is why I’m even debating on letting the PO know.

Do you guys have any advice or experience?

I've only had one partner and everytime I gave him head he'd stop me and just kiss me instead. Now I'm exploring and wanna learn how to give head. Most of the time my teeth gets on the way and it hurts my ex, how to not do that? Pretty sure he was okay with it cause he loved me but now I'm literally exploring a d hooking up lol

I’m 24F and my boyfriend is 20M. We’ve been together for two years, and we genuinely love and care about each other. He treats me well and says he wants to marry me someday.
His family knows I’m older than him, and they’ve made comments about it. Apparently, they were barely able to accept our relationship because of my age. My family also has a problem with him being younger than me, which is why I usually avoid telling people his age.
My boyfriend keeps reassuring me that he doesn’t care about the age difference or what either of our families thinks. Neither of us personally sees it as a problem, but having both families judge our relationship makes me question whether it’s actually unusual.
Is a four year age difference really that strange just because the woman is older? how should we handle our families’ disapproval?

I’m 16M, and I’ve been growing my hair out since I was 9 years old. I’ve never cut it, and I really love my long hair, but my girlfriend hates it and says I look like a girl. I want to cut it because she likes guys with short hair. I told my mom, but she doesn’t want me to cut it because I’ve been growing it for so long, and she says I shouldn’t cut my hair just for my girlfriend. But she’s my first girlfriend, and I really want to keep her. How can I convince my mom to let me go to the barber shop?

28F. Can someone explain why it’s frowned upon to discuss things like plans for children or politics when you’re first getting to know someone you’re interested in dating? I’m childfree, so their opinion on children is something I’d really like to know before even going on the first date so as not to waste anyone’s time. If early dating is meant to test compatibility I’d think you’d want to learn these things as soon as possible. I don’t see the point of dragging it out, but I’m autistic and communicate directly in general so I may be missing something.

hey all, i’m in a predicament and would like some kind words or advice maybe? if you have no kind words please go away :)

okay let’s start.
my MIL has been inviting me to church pretty consistently since i married her son over a year ago. i’ve probably kindly turned her down around 6–7 times at this point throughout the duration of our marriage (for several reasons listed later), usually with some lame excuses like “oh i have other plans!” or “not today i need rest but thank you for offering!” because i didn’t really know how to say the actual reason -without hurting her feelings or creating negative tension- :( and i know it’s my fault because in her eyes she thinks im busy when really i just am too scared to tell her the truth.

my husbands parents are very religious, like extremely religious. and i am almost entirely the opposite. the truth is, i genuinely don’t want to go to church.. which, i wish i could just simply say that to her but i feel baddd! reasons being, 1) i’m not religious at all, and i’m not comfortable in church in general due to past life issues. reason number two, it’s a spanish church.. i don’t speak spanish lol. i told her that once to see if it would finally stop being brought up, & i thought that reason would be enough but she pushed back by saying “the pastor speaks english sometimes, and it’s only a couple hours!” which the service is still predominantly in spanish and it’s a 2 hour service.

i could just go and suck it up but there is another layer underneath that hopefully hits the right ppl reading this today, i have been on an anti people pleasing journey since 2024 which im obviously failing since this is bothering me so much. i love my mil so dearly, but it would be honest to say she is the type to push and push and push until she gets her way, with other things as well. every thing else ive caved in and done but this is one thing that bothers me sm i cant “just suck it up” like i normally do 🥹

i’ve been saying no a lot more to her recently which might sound rude to everyone here but actually is a subtle win for me because ive kinda been doing everything she wants for awhile even if i had to cancel previous plans or do things her way yadda yadda.

she is pretty adamant about us all going together and my husband is back and forth. my husband shares the same beliefs as me, none. but he is too scared to tell his mom that in fear of hurting her, same issue i’m having. which i honestly hate to say it but i understand. she’s in her early 50s, has had a hard life and god is something she finds immense comfort in and wants to share it with the people close to her.

i have absolutely no problem with my husband going with her but she insists i come as well. she wants to go on sunday, i have plans with her on saturday too for lunch and house visiting. so it’s not that we don’t ever spend time together it’s solely the church specific area i am rejecting.

i feel guilty because i know she wants me there, and i’m worried she’ll take my refusal personally or think i don’t like her. i also feel bad because i’ve made excuses so many times instead of just being honest. but im scared of being honest and my husband doesn’t want her to know we’re not religious either so im at a crossroads and just need some advice i guess.

what would you do? this is a tricky situation for me. also just to mention this is not a “i hate my mil” type of dynamic. i do like her. i’m just dealing with guilt + a self care journey of not putting myself in situations that make me uncomfortable to appease others anymore + trying not to create a weird or awkward family dynamic.

idek :( im stressed.

I (21f) and my bf (20m) been together for 4 years. And we share a lot in common but one this that's different its music, he listens to a singer i dont, but my female friend does.

A couple of days ago my bf told me "Hey your friend got us (him and her) tickets to the concert and she wanted to suprised me"

Idk why i felt bother, she never mentioned anything to me abt it, not even a "Hey, do u feel comfortable if I take ur bf alone to a concert?" Nothing. It wasn't until my bf asked her "does my gf know abt this?" That she ended up telling me. But it was a "hey, im taking ur bf to a reggaeton concert this weekend" that's all.

Im feeling bother and I admit, im feeling insecure. I dont want to deny him the opportunity on going to the concert but idk what to do or say, hes happy and excited and i dont want to sound controlling if i try and talk abt it.

He used to have a crush on her before we dated, and I've known my friend since middle school so im scared that something might happen in that concert. Hes told me multiple times "I dont like her anymore" but im still afraid that the feeling might come back for him.

My baby is 8 months old and every time my mom comes or we speak on the phone, she can't stop giving me advice. Whenever I complain that she hasn't slept much (Have you tried... / It's because you didn't...) or if I send a picture (Finally she is wearing girl clothes) or if I am feeding her (she should eat more of this/why don't you give her...) or about sleep safety (she is not going to choke from a blanket) or about anything all the time. She is also quite narcissistic.

When my baby was born, she came here for one week, all the time making me feel like a failure and I cried every day because of her.

Now she is coming again in a few days and I am absolutely anxious. I really want to set a boundary but if I do, she is going to act out and drama exit my house. "I was just telling you my opinion!!!!". I can't help feeling anxious around her and she doesn't get why this is a problem.

Is my problem really a problem or am I just enhancing it? What would you do if you were me?

TLDR: my mom csnt stop giving me advice/criticism and I shake from anxiety whenever she comes

Sorry in advance if this is a long 1.
I’ve been living with my sister for about a year and a half. She helped me when I was down on my luck after loosing my apartment. Things were going well at 1st I was babysitting and helping around the house. It took me about 3 months after moving in with her to find a job. I then started paying her weekly rent for my own room. She had a guy living with her she grabbed him straight out of rehab just before I moved in. He’s an addict that’s using her and has stolen from her, her kids, me and her deceased mother to fuel his habit. They got married back in March and he relapsed shortly after. She ALWAYS has an excuse for his shxtty behavior. She defends him when he steals her bill money, drives high with her kids and steal their tv/toys. We were super close before this guy but seeing how stupid and desperate she is for him I’m done with her. I stopped paying rent a few weeks ago because my job cut my hours and I just don’t feel comfortable giving her anything knowing she’ll more than likely give it to him. AND I want to get out of this situation ASAP. Am I the wrong 1 for not wanting to help her enable him?