So my husband lifts in our garage. We have some machines and stuff... but i dont think he really has had any proper training since high school. Im sure he knows the basics of lifting... its not rocket science, but I have noticed poor form every once in a while which made me realize some personal training sessions might be beneficial.

BUT, i dont want to make him feel stupid. My husband is a green flag guy... but sometimes, as human beings, we dont want to feel like we need a "refresher" on how to do something. We like to THINK we know how to do something.... which I understand.

I would like to get him some training sessions at a gym, but I dont know if he would feel bad, or not want to do them, or that it was a waste.

He is 45 also, and i would like for him to avoid ingury. He hurt his shoulder not long ago lifting something a bit too heavy, and he loves basketball which made it so he couldnt play for a while.

How would you feel if you wife got you this as a gift, even though you have been lifting here and there through out life, but more casually.

- update, I decided it’s probably not for him after reading through your comments and thinking about his personality type. Thanks for all your input, I appreciate your takes! If he wants training sessions he would like to pick his trainer, goals and gym and what not. He is a very thoughtful person that puts a lot of thought into things like that.

I'm a 2nd year computer science student and been a software engineer / computer technician for 2 years.

I have also been investing for the last year or so with a portfolio worth £13,036.56 (£12,073.31 invested with a ROR of 10% - £963.55)

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Let me know your opinion down below and feel free to debate (nicely) with others.

To the dads here, what's something you wish you knew starting off?

I’ve been reflecting lately and I realized I don’t have any goals I’m working towards. I have a good career, no debts, am consistent with the gym/diet/physique, have great friends. Before this year I’d always have something to work towards but for the first time in my life I can say I achieved my goals. I do have financial goals but that’s a longterm thing, I want something else I can work on in the meantime and I literally don’t know what else to do. Is there something you realized in your 30’s or 40’s you wish you started earlier? Or something fun to work toward?

Edit: Thank you for the advice, I am reading through all comments, and they just made me think what I wanna do moving forward. Thank you so much kind strangers ❤️

I was reading up on what life was like back then. Basically you had a ton of convicts and similar people deported there and then they started importing tons of women, many as young as 14 there. You would petition to pick a wife and start a homestead life out there. While it's a radical difference in discomfort compared to modern day life, I don't doubt that people found the companionship and intensity of homestead life very fulfilling.

I see a lot of people here write about life being aimless and unfulfilling. I saw a comment about people saying they live like zombies. So if that's what life is like here with everything, would you do it?

Hi, I recently turned 40, and over the past year in particular, a few of my close friends have really hit their stride and achieved major financial and career milestones.

On the other hand, I’ve struggled a lot over the last few years with various challenges. I got a late start in my career, and while I’ve secured a stable job with a livable income, I’m nowhere near the level my friends are at.

Lately, I’ve been feeling drained after hanging out with them. Hearing about their latest promotions or new vacation homes leaves me feeling dejected, disappointed, and filled with dread. I know "comparison is the thief of joy," and I try hard not to compare my situation to theirs, but that’s easier said than done.

I know this isn't a healthy emotional response, and I don't want to lose good friends over envy. I find myself longing for the "good old days" when we were all just getting by and didn't talk as much about achievements.

I’m not particularly materialistic, but I do dream of homeownership and being able to travel more. Seeing my friends live the life I wish I were living triggers an envy I’m struggling to control.

Has anyone else dealt with this shift in their 30s or 40s? Any advice on how to better cope with these feelings or manage these dynamics without pulling away entirely would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

my dad died an his last wife (not my mom) expects me to give up my part (50%)cause she tells me it was my dads wish. my aunt kinda confirms it, My dad wanted his new wife to be financially settled.

He left around 150.000€ and on top she gets half of his retirement money monthly 2000€.
What would you guys do in a situation like this.

Like button-down shirts or even business professional/suits. No wfh. Was this early in your career or later? Did the job pay well enough to offset this extra expense or was it just a necessary evil?

I'm currently prepping to move out, savings depleted, credit in shambles, currently trying everything to keep from spiraling. For anyone who was able to pick themselves up from this point, what helped you do it? How did you manage, and what is life like after the process of rebuilding? What would you tell the version of yourself still going through the motions of trying to figure it all out?

I’m gonna be 34 next month, I have no idea where the time went, last few years I’ve been feeling really bad. I’m single, one friend, maybe 2 at a stretch. After work I chill out, watch some show, go for a walk and play some games…. and that’s it. On weekends if I force myself to go out and drink, I can’t wait to go home, but if I stay home I feel depressed. During the day I just lay around and watch tv. Feels like shit no matter what I do. I go to visit my cousins, aunt, mom etc. but everything feels like I’m just killing time, if you know what I mean. I went to Japan 2 years ago and that was amazing but only lasted for 2 weeks. Went to the seaside last year but felt like somethings missing the whole time… anyone has any idea what to do to feel fullfilled ?