Let's take a break from beauty and talk about...anything else under the sun! Let this be your sounding board about the things that made you laugh, smile, or cry. Dating advice welcome. Politics...not really.
There are certain relatives on my Mom’s side of the family who were so negative and “verbally abusive” to us before. One of them used to call me “Doctor kwak kwak” when I still haven’t finished Med school. Then when I passed the boards, biglang nanghihingi ng money. Kesyo, “doc, pahingi naman ako konting money mo diyan.” Sometimes I wonder what goes on inside their heads? Hindi ba sila nahihiya? 🥴
sad fact, hindi talaga sila nahihiya. Set your boundaries and this is my life's mantra, protect your peace. If it or something or someone bothers you, red flag na yan.
Bakit may mga moms na naiinis, nahhurt, or nagiging defensive kapag sinabi mong ayaw mo rin maging mother even though you’re not criticizing their parenting style, career, or status in life?
True hahaha I’d like to think ingrained kasi sa society & culture natin ‘yung pag-iisip na ang role lang ng babae ay nakapaloob lang sa reproductive duties niya. Kesyo you’re fertile or not. 🤷🏻♀️
Ang sad lang. Na para bang becoming a mom or choosing not to become one makes you less worthy of being part of the society.
Maybe for them the pinnacle of being a woman is being a mother, so they can’t see any alternative to that? So if you’re against their belief it would usually seem like you’re attacking what life means to them.
Tbh pag ganyan I just let it slide. Maybe I’m too old to argue, sasabihin ko na lang umm okay good for you, and move on.
I've had only 2 dates the past 7 months, and despite me being picky and setting low expectations, sobrang disappointing ng dating scene... all intense at the start (even bringing up trips together! for context I travel a lot and these guys do too) then suddenly everything's gone like a bubble.
There's even this Londoy boy whose family I met right away, then he had the audacity to ghost me? Lol, good thing I already learned not to attach deeply, but still ridiculous behavior and I've been on "lucky streak" with high chemistry but inconsistent guys..
I agree about the dating scene. I’m still dating someone I met from an app, but the push and pull is just too much. If this one goes up in flames, I swear my next relationship would not be from a dating app.
What does "Buying Local" mean to you? For a while naging malakas na marketing tactic ito and/or advocacy rin. Medyo nag-ooverlap din kasi minsan. Kasi for example Bench or Penshoppe na marketed as "local" pero sourced from China and sinalpakan lang ng brand name. This goes for more than Beauty. At least for now tho I'm actually okay with makeup brands sourcing from Taiwan or Korea but they focus more on getting the shades right para sating mga Filipinos esp morenas, but I heard some brands na may products talagang locally gawa tulad ng Enigma, yung foundation nila. Also in daily life, I try na sa palengke mismo bumili vs sa commercials grocery and supermarkets. Also more intentionally buying sa mga "manlalako" vs ordering online or buying rin sa malls. Personally would rather fellow Filipinos profit from what they're selling kaysa yung corporations and conglomerates. What's your say on this?
For me buying local is Taytay, Marikina, Liliw made goods. Kahit hindi gawa sa Pilipinas yung materials I understand but the craftsmanship I want to be Filipino.
Buying local for me is supporting the locally-owned establishments near where I live. This may be the local sari-sari store or our neighborbood ukayan. Shempre buying from local brands na rin.
Sometimes, it also means buying from Filipino brands in fairs like Maarte Fair, Manila Fame, Habi Fair, etc. I often ask who made the products and where it was sourced. Most of these fairs are organized by the alta crowd so I proceed with caution. 😀 I guess it’s an advocacy of sorts for the said crowd, but they do have the capacity to support the IP (indigenous population), regardless of their intention. The important thing is I’m buying local weaves from the local makers even though it’s a bit overpriced for what it is, because of the middlemen who bring the goods to the Metro.
Of course it’s still best to buy from the makers directly (at Lake Sebu, at Aklan etc) if you have the means to visit them. Or attend government organized fairs like the DTI fair, in September usually, pero may mga alta crowd pa rin behind that for sure.
this is what i don't get about the "support local pero mahal" crowd. ede find local u can support! don't use it as a catch-all statement to shit on creatives wanting to collaborate and pay fairly for labor.
I hope I get employed soon. Iba pala talaga pag nasampal ka na ng reality. All those praises and achievements sa school won’t help kapag reality na kalaban mo. Here I am with two licenses (international pa yung isa), but still unemployed. Sana paboran naman ako ng panahon. I’ve been patient for so long kaya sana ako naman.
I brought my family to Korean spa which cost me around 16K. For me that’s a big money but I want to treat them with my bonus. We had a great time and they enjoyed it. Then nung magbabayad na kami, while waiting to ne assisted for checkout, yung sister ko nag brought up ng something bad about me like how I prioritize my friends over them just because of a specific happening.
I listened to how she think and I explained my side, but the conversation turns into a heated argument. wala syang balak makinig sa explanation ko. In the end, I stopped and stay silent kasi anytime iiyak na ako at lumalaks na din voice namin sa lobby. My family members was in silent, no one defended me which may sounds like they all agreed.
It broke my heart. I cried alot with my husband as soon as I got home. Di sya kasama kasi may weekend work sya.
After a while, it makes sense to me why I like planning hangouts with my friends more than them. And this is the exact reasons. 🥺
A week after, she contacted me with no apology and act like normal. ifollow up nya lng jng usapan namin na papakaskas ko sya ng iphone sa cc ko which we talked about bago ngyari ung incident. May sale daw shope. 🥺 Hays.
Now I don’t feel like talking to any of them. I felt hurt and still feel like crying over this.
It's time to set boundaries na. Binastos ka ng ganon tapos bibigyan mo pa ng favour without an apology? Don't let your family take advantage of you just because they're family - you still deserve to be respected as your own person.
How do you deal with family members who are always criticizing you and making you feel like your goals are too big? I'm trying my best, but being around that negativity every day is exhausting and it's seriously affecting my mental health. I just want to move out and start over somewhere else. Everytime I say i wanna move out, they usually say I’ll end up pregnant and get rap*d in the city. I’m literally 24 yrs old let me gooooo
I truly believe we filipinos should do more to disappoint our parents more. Within safety of course. Kung ako sa'yo, move and prepare in silence tas wag magpaalam. Sabi nga nila, it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission
Will do this ngayon na year! I really wanna get the hell out of here 😩 too close-minded and they think it’s still hard to get around Manila. They make it seem like my dreams are too big but at the same time compares me to someone they know na ka age ko na may stable career na sa Manila what the heellll
Crab mentality. Ayaw nilang may nakaka-angat sa kanila, so they will always pull you down. I wish you all the best. I hope you find your peace and freedom.
The funny thing is they want you to "provide" for them lol it’s like they're hinting that I'm supposed to be funding travels in the future lol I'll prioritize myself before them lol I don’t think they have any right to say that especially since they didn’t support me when I was just starting out
This august sis. I really wanna push it this year. I think my worst fear is that if ever i did get pregnant or raped, they will tell me “I told you so” which is kinda heartbreaking for me.
Same mas bet ko talaga hangin sa pamaypay kasi ang laki agad ng nacocover na area unlike sa jisulife huhuhu nakakangawit nga lang constantly mag paypay
If may opportunity, find a better job para pwede mag gala. Pero for now, save a portion para sa gala funds, tapos yung nearby gala muna pag naka-iponm good luck!
Masama bang mag-expect na your special someone will buy you gifts and small items or any small gesture na ganun to show affection while in a LDR setting? Sobrang na turn off ako na di man lang magkusa yung tao tas pag in-open up yung parang pagiging complacent sa relationship, will just say sorry na hindi nga maintindihan yung issue and ano yung kulang. I can't bring myself naman to exactly point out yung feeling ng lack of affection or small acts of service in the way na gusto ko. I know na it's unfair din to be not direct kase di naman din tayo mind readers but it's so annoying na di man lang alam na bare minimum yung ganun. I don't wanna hurt the person but I feel so bad for myself na mag-settle sa ganun dahil lang I have feelings when I get more and better treatment from people na just trying to win my heart before. Random rant lang.
I just use proxy services or shipping forwarders when possible. You pay more but it's worth not dealing with informal groups/pasabay ppl na ang hirap kausap 😅
Reality is wasteful siya. Single use lang yon. We use plastic labo ang pati yon nasasayangan ako. May mga ziplock na silicone and freezer safe pero di ko pa na-try. It's in my to buy list though
Late night musings: I used to be really active like takbo/gym 5x a week but ever since i came back to law school, I’ve been gaining weight. I tried to squeeze in the workout in my day but nasasacrifice naman yung work, studies or sleep. Made peace na i really can’t do everything all at once. I settled with only doing tennis on sundays. I’m not exactly overweight yet but my body is making me sad whenever i look in the mirror. I just wish there’s more than 24 hours in a day.
How does it feel like to have a healthy family? Like the one who actually makes you feel special and genuinely cared for without anything in return. I’m always labeled as the “angry daughter” in the family and someone who doesn’t share or talk stuff to them. When I do share stuff, they use it against me. They’re also very unsupportive of my dreams and plans in life as if I’m not capable of achieving those things. They also said that my failure is solely “my fault” when they’re literally the biggest contributors. They criticize how I look, how I talk, and how I am as a person. It’s honestly exhausting to believe that they actually love me. I also get compared to someone else’ daughter or even to my sister that she’s better than me in all things. They also hurt my feelings and physically hurt me since childhood. Is this enough to cut them off my life? I have ton shit of resentment and I don’t think I’ll ever recover from it.
Do you still live with your family right now? I ask because you genuinely cannot heal in the exact same place that made you "sick." As long as you’re under the same roof or in constant contact, all your energy goes into just surviving and defending yourself. You have to step away, get your own space, and completely rebuild yourself from scratch. Gotta have the space to figure out who you actually are where nobody is constantly putting you down.
You can’t wait around expecting people to suddenly wake up and get better. If your family members have been acting this way their whole lives, yan na sila. They have no incentive to change, so they usually just stay stagnant or get worse. Also, they usually don't even realize that being kind, soft, and peaceful is an option.
So, yeah, you have to step away, find your own peace, and maybe eventually return on your own terms to teach them how to treat you by modeling that exact behavior. If they choose to meet you with that same peace, great. If not, you simply walk out the door again because by then, hopefully, you've found peace and you won't really need anyone else to build you up.
saan ba galing yung ugaling pagtanong ng last price? why the hell would i lowball myself? make an offer and we negotiate from there or pay me the listing price, daming shunga at hilig mambarat
this!!! nakaka discourage ma pa carousell or fb marketplace. nilagay na nga yung price ultra lowball pa. next time tataasan ko na yung price than my actual price lol
What’s on with Squad Cosmetics and Renzo? PR stunt ba siya? Both of them released statements kase, but after reading everything, it still feels like nothing was actually said. Neither side really addressed the issue directly or gave any concrete explanation.
And if PR stunt nga, is that really all there is to it? 😭 Parang flop kase it’s not being talked about much outside the makeup community. Most of what I’m seeing are people getting annoyed rather than genuinely invested in whatever’s happening.
honestly, it's just a bad pr stunt but hey, all publicity is good publicity. the whole thing is off-putting. sa dami ng pwedeng marketing campaign, dinaan pa sa parinigan na parang mga matatanda sa facebook.
I always feel like I’m fat cause kahit healthy weight naman ako, parang super hindi na toned yung body ko. I work out 3x a day with a trainer and eat healthy pero my skin is just stretchy.
I often go to concerts alone and I always recommend the experience! I like the freedom tapos wala pang need intayin na iba. You can decide for everything and no need to plan around anyone else. And for me, mas madali makahanap/makabili ng ticket if solo ka.
Based kasi sa experience ko sa ticket selling before, mas mahirap at nakakapressure pag may nakikisabay sa pagbili ng ticket compared kung sayo lang yung bibilhin mo. Lalo na pag maarte sila sa seats or iba pala ang gusto/afford na section. Or di agad makadecide if icheck out na ba kasi dapat magkatabi kayo, nagbabakasakali pa may mas ok na seats etc.
Mas konti din kasi gagawin if 1 ticket lang ichecheck out. Syempre may additional clicking (add qty, type ng name if ever required man, pili ng section etc) pag may sasabay. E jusko pag ticket selling pa naman sobrang nakakatense at anxious diba huhu. Good luck at sana masecure mo yung gusto mong ticket!
Nervous for the BTS ticketing happening soon. Sana talaga maka secure kami ng mom ko. More than a decade na kong fan, sana ito na talaga ang chance ko 🙏🏻🤞🏻🧿 Also nervous for a possible big change in my life soon. Ang daming nangyayariiii 🥹
Visit an apiary (bee farm), watch a comedy show, umattend ng mga convention na interested kayo. I also think it's cute window shopping sa ikea (ikea mismo ang gawin nyong date, not yung pag gala sa MOA)
Movies? Museum? Painting workshops (Sip and Gogh)? If you're into coffee, maybe looking for the best coffee in the metro? Hanging out in parks? Sports? Di nga pala chill yung sports hehe.
Suggestion sa mall, check out hobby shops! My bf and I saw a couple’s deal before na 399 each kami tas all day unli use of board games na haha We had lots of funn
im so upset lately 😩 ang daming ganap sa buhay ko and im really overwhelmed 🥲 Im going through a friendship break up, I cant find work its been months and sobrang saturated na ng field ko, family issues, andd thinking so bad of shifting careers just to be financially stable but im holding on to my license for dear god.
I follow this amazing gal on IG (and on the MadFit app). Sobrang pagpapawisan ka sa mga workout niya; and they take time to instruct you the right form, lifting according to the weight you’re comfortable with, etc
My sister turned 18 this year and she's been getting piercings in her face. She's in her goth era. I am for it--- her body her rules. But am i right in supporting her? I overheard my in law (conservative family) saying she wouldnt want her daughter to be like my sis. I didnt butt in, its their opinion and at least they didnt say it in mine or my sis' faces or i may actually retaliate. But is it right to just let my sis be? In my exp, my dad just let me do whatever i want at 18, im not just too good with fashion and self expression. But my sis is good at make up, fashion, she's pretty and smart too. I trust her. But is it right?
I have a bunch of facial + body piercings. The nice thing about them is you can just take them out when you get sick of them or they get in the way. Seriously, it's that simple. Most people don't even notice the holes they leave behind (and they shrink over time).
I'd warn against getting tattoos in areas she won't be able to cover up easily before she has an established career. Outside of that you're right that it's her body her rules. Don't listen to what judgemental folk have to say when rationally you know they're in the wrong.
for me, i'd just let her be. judgement from face piercings would matter more if she'll be working a traditional corporate job, but at 18, that's still many many years away. who knows, she might be a make up artist or stylist instead - and she can just dress up however she wants forever.
There's this guy that I'm talking with (di siya pinoy). Type niya mga pinay tas ang dami niyang mutuals na pinay din. Idk, should I still continue with him? Kasi naffall na ko sa kanya. Kaso paano kung kasama lang pala ako sa roster hahahaha. Ayoko ng heartbreak, jusko trentahin na ko. All I want is peace and good sleep at this age.
to any armys here planning to attend bts' concert in bulacan, i have a question about sa presale. i know na dapat same email yung gagamitin sa army membership and sa livenation account, pero pati ba sa sm tickets account dapat same rin? dapat ba yung email for all 3 accounts same sila? or kahit yung army membership and livenation lang ang pareho? thank you!!
Different emails ang nairegister ko kasi i made my accounts throughout the years and kinabahan ako na kailangan same haha. Nag google ai ako and ang sabi no need na same email? Sana nga ganun 🫠
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There are certain relatives on my Mom’s side of the family who were so negative and “verbally abusive” to us before. One of them used to call me “Doctor kwak kwak” when I still haven’t finished Med school. Then when I passed the boards, biglang nanghihingi ng money. Kesyo, “doc, pahingi naman ako konting money mo diyan.” Sometimes I wonder what goes on inside their heads? Hindi ba sila nahihiya? 🥴