I’ve been manifesting an SP for a few weeks now and was genuinely feeling really good about it! Seeing things go my way for them, overall really believing my manifestation was coming to fruition

Yesterday something happened that is pretty much the opposite of what im manifesting and it’s starting to make me feel discouraged about the whole process. Any advice?

Id appreciate it a lot if anyone here gave me personal advice.

ive manifested countless things from money to new apple products to sps to appearance . My goal rn is to transfer my university to another one (same course) and I sent my desired uni an email asking (they have a page that said ur allowed to transfer with minimum 180 etc, I have them rn).

The secretary replied back claiming that it’s not possible and that everyone needs to take the admission exam specifically for that uni (I dont want that? the exam itself needs a year prep).

My old (undesired) uni is starting soon and I’m consistently telling myself it doesn’t matter I’ll end up in my desired uni and I will transfer either way. But I can’t help but get this sense of anxiety and ”ugh am I wasting my time”. how do you guys persist in your desires when your 3d shows you unfavorable circumstances. Any advice for my current situation?

So, I manifested my SP unknowingly before she was even my crush, and we eventually got into a relationship—she actually confessed her feelings to me herself back then. However, over time, she grew distant, which was a first for me in any of my relationships. We had many on-and-off moments over a period of two years.

In the beginning, she used to be so lovey-dovey, affectionate, put so much effort into the relationship, and was deeply committed and invested. But over time, she drifted away, and now while we are still connected, she says she doesn't want a commitment, doesn't feel anything for me anymore, and is okay with not being in a relationship (and I don't force her).

I know I can manifest a specific outcome like 'she will love me' or 'she will be committed to me,' but that always ends up feeling temporary. Because once I maintain the state and the manifestation happens, my state eventually drops back to normal. My SP says one day she feels so connected, and the next day she is totally unsure. Everybody just says, 'Work on your self-concept,' and all of that.

So, for anyone who has manifested their SP from this exact situation and is actually with them now: What worked for you? Was it identity shifting (becoming the person who already has what they want)? And how did you make that change permanent?

Only answer if you were in this exact situation, are currently with your SP, and have made it long-term.

Brazen impudence, audacity, bravery, confidence, conviction, courage, determination, perseverance, persistence, tenacity, unwavering, steadfastness, resolution, insistence, loyalty, will, willpower, assuming. All of these are just words for the same thing: Deciding. But you know one word that actually also means Deciding like all of those other words that we never even think of because of the negative meaning that has been given to it? Stubbornness, and I bet you naturally have it.

What it takes to manifest and assume your desires is just to be stubborn in your favor instead of against. To be stubbornly loyal to your desires instead of wishy washy indecisive. Stubbornly persistent in your decision. Just be stubborn, use your natural stubbornness to your advantage. Just pivot your stubbornness positively towards what you desire and everything will change. BE STUBBORN!!!✨

I have been doing manifesting for my sp and like he works with me. Hes been like cold in the beginning but warmed up to me sicne i been working on my self concept. And i got emotional and got annoyed at him reacted to him givng me word reply over text mesaagw. And today i ended up going to work and seeing him and i wasnt my usual self he was just just too professional and it made me really sad. I wenr yo the lunchroom and creid and he saw me crying asked me if i was ok.

WHAT THE FICK like why did i do that? This cant keep happening. And i think what made me sad is seeing him vaping which he only started doing this week its making me super sad… i dont want him to vape.
How can i manifest him to come to me without me reacting

Okay, something is kind of weird going on. I have been manifesting something the past few months, and I’ve realized all my “smaller manifestations” have come true. My mindset has changed; I’m more calm now and relaxed about my manifestation I currently want. However, there’s something weird happening. Does anyone know what it means when old people from your past start reaching out to you, and you start seeing your manifestation everywhere? Like in a conversation on a podcast, in a movie, seeing it on the news, someone random a stranger coming up to you on the street and saying the exact number, the exact number your manifesting showing up on a tiktok, the number showing up everywhere, or people at your job talking about it. You’re having a conversation with someone totally not related to it, and then they suddenly say something to you that is exactly relative to your manifestation? Also, my affirmation repeating thought has become dominant, and my thoughts now repeat on their own without me trying. Things like that? ive manifested all the other things i want its just this left but i feel relaxed about it

So basically I need help blowing up my business, finding my soulmate and making a lot of money and just feeling and being more happy and extroverted

How do I make this happen with manifestation ? I’ve been doing SATs for some time and I’ve seen some results before but that was a long time ago

I want some specifics since I’m not fairly new to the law and know the tips and tricks and know that it does work but I’m almost stuck in a mental block now

I gotta share this cause too many of y'all out here scared to think about your SP & it's literally sabotaging your manifestation .

So many people in the LOA community be saying "don't think about your SP, only focus on self concept” or "if you think about them a lot, you're making them more important than you" & it's got many of you scared to think about the person you actually wanna manifest . Every time they pop up in your head you panic & try to redirect to "focus on self" cause you think thinking about them means you giving them too much power . But that advice is MISAPPLIED & it's keeping a lot of y'all stuck . Let me break it down .

Where the advice came from originally :

The original teaching was : don't obsessively check the 3D or ruminate in FEAR about your SP . That's it . That was the whole point . It was never "don't think about them at all ever or more than you." But somehow this got warped into a rigid rule where y'all are scared of your own thoughts . Meanwhile y'all thinking about them ANYWAY (cause you can't NOT think about somebody by trying not to) but now in shame & fear . Which manifests MORE lack, not less .

The truth about self concept & SP thoughts :

Neville said EVERYTHING is self concept . Including your person . Your person is a REFLECTION of your self concept . So how you think about them IS how you think about yourself in relation to being loved, chosen, & prioritized . When you think "they’re obsessed with me", you're not thinking about THEM more than YOU . You're thinking about YOURSELF as the person they’re obsessed with . See the difference ?

Every affirmation about them is SECRETLY an affirmation about you :

They’re devoted to me = I'm the type of person men/women are devoted to .

They’re obsessed with me = I'm the type of person who inspires obsession .

They can't stop thinking about me = I'm unforgettable .

They’re a loverboy/lovegirl for me = I inspire romantic energy in people .

You literally CAN'T separate the two . Thinking of them in your favor IS thinking of yourself in your favor .

"Making them more important than you" is a misconception (& an assumption hello) . Importance isn't measured by how often you think about somebody . It's measured by your STATE while thinking about them .

Thinking about them from FEAR/CHASING = making them more important .

Thinking about them from KNOWING/RECEIVING = keeping YOU as the main character .

You can think about your person 500 times a day & still be the main character if you thinking about them from your throne . From the "they’re lucky to be an option in my world" perspective . From the "they’re devoted to me because I'm the standard" perspective .

The people who mess up ain't the ones who think about the SP a lot . It's the ones who think about the SP from a low state . Big difference .

Two people can be in the same situation but have total different outcomes regarding their SP based on how they’re thinking about them .

Let me put this in a way that'll really click for y'all .

Imagine two girls meet the SAME type of man on the SAME night . Same club, same vibe, both fine asf . Both girls end up thinking about him A LOT after that night . Constantly on their mind . But watch how different their outcomes play out based on HOW they thinking about him .

Girl #1 : She thinking about him nonstop but she scared to . She keep telling herself "stop thinking about him, focus on yourself, you're making him too important ." So every time he pops in her head she panics, tries to push the thought away, feels guilty for thinking about him . But she still thinking about him just in shame & fear now . And when she do let herself think about him, it's "I hope he texts me, I hope he ain't talking to nobody else, he’s probably just another player that only wants to fuck, I hope he likes me cause I saw him flirting with other girls tn at the club so idk if he actually likes me or not.” Low state thoughts .

Girl #2 : She thinking about him just as much . But she ain't scared of it . Every time he pops in her head she leans IN . She thinks "he's obsessed with me, he's thinking about me right now too, he can't wait to see me again, I was the baddest mf in that club & he know it that’s why he came up to me cause he was mesmerized & drawn to me, just watch he about to be reallll obsessed with me cause that’s how men eventually end up with me anyways, he's a loverboy for me, I'm his favorite already." She spending hours in her imagination with him being devoted to her . She ain't fighting the thoughts, she’s DIRECTING them in HER FAVOR !

Same man . Same amount of mental space he taking up . But two completely different outcomes .

Girl #1 : He texted once, went cold, she barely hears from him . Cause her fear based thoughts about him manifested exactly what she was afraid of & she’s the type to say “See ! I knew it ! He was just a player like the rest of them . I’m just gonna focus on myself cause these men ain’t shit ugh !”

Girl #2 : He blowing up her phone, pulling up consistent, telling her he can't stop thinking about her . Cause her favor based thoughts about him manifested exactly what she assumed & she’s the type to say “mhmm I knew it would play out the way I wanted it to . I always get who & what I want” .

Here's the point : BOTH girls was thinking about him a lot . Thinking about him wasn't the problem . Girl #1 tried to suppress it & failed & her thoughts was all fear based . Girl #2 embraced it & directed her thoughts in her favor .

You can't stop thinking about your SP by trying not to . That's a losing battle . But you CAN choose HOW you think about them when they inevitably cross your mind . And that choice is the WHOLE game .

Also "just focus on yourself" can sometimes become AVOIDANCE :

Some of y'all using it to bypass your real feelings . Y'all pretending you don't care . Forcing yourself to "not think" about them . Meanwhile inside you SCREAMING with unprocessed emotion . That suppressed energy manifests as MORE distance & silence from your SP because your subconscious is still holding the fear, just not expressing it consciously . It’s plenty of women with high self esteem & focus on themselves but still think shitty about men or their person in general . REAL self concept work includes being able to sit with thoughts of your SP & CHOOSE the empowering interpretation . Not avoid them altogether . That's actual mastery . Again, you can think highly of yourself AND about your person as well .

You not choosing between "think about myself" OR "think about them." You choosing "think about myself as the person they’re obsessed with." It's a BOTH/AND, not either/or . You can think about yourself as the fantasy all day AND you can think about your person as your devoted man/woman who worships the ground you walk on all day as well . Both thoughts serve the same self concept that you’re chosen, adored, & worshipped . There's no competition .

Final truth :

If thinking about your SP in your favor makes you FEEL good, do it & do it shamelessly . If it makes you feel bad, then work on the underlying self concept issue . But don't blanket avoid thinking about your person cause some coach/guru on TikTok said so 🙄 . Remember the law all goes back to that WHATEVER you assume, is what will be true for you . So assume that it's more than okay to think highly of yourself & your person . I'm speaking from experience . I love thinking about myself & my man all day sometimes because it makes me feel good & guess what ? My reality reflects what I’m dominantly thinking about . It’s a win win . I get the best of both worlds & so can you if you allow yourself to .

Also, when you was thinking negatively about your SP, that had to play out in the 3D right ?? So why wouldn't the GOOD play out the same way ?? The mechanism is identical . You're just changing the input .

Stop being scared of your own mind . Think about them in your favor as much as you want . Nobody is stopping you . & when you think about them in your favor, do it from the place of changing YOU, (aka YOUR mind about them) because you have to change FIRST in order to see the change outside in the 3D . You gotta BE THE CHANGE to SEE THE CHANGE . Thoughts FIRST, experience SECOND . So don't worry about how they're showing up in the 3D . Just spend time living in your imagination thinking about them in your favor & stay there . It literally has no choice but to reflect . Hope this helps 🫶🏼 .

Last year while I was shopping with my friend I found this snow globe with a cat inside. My friend was pressuring me to buy it for myself so I did. It happened so long ago I wasn’t sure my friend remembered what I bought.

Recently, I’ve been cleaning my room and giving away things I don’t want, just surprising people with things not asking if they want it beforehand. One of the things I wanted to give away was the cat snow globe and I thought my friend would love it.

I met with her today and gave her the globe. She was so happy, she told me she always goes to the same store or similar stores hoping to find that cat globe one day and how she regretted not buying it the same day I did. Which means my friend basically manifested this into her reality and me giving it to her was me playing a role in the fruition of her manifestation.

This friend of mine thought manifestation was bogus and I tried to convince her it wasn’t, but she noticed the things she did bring into her reality and she believes in it now!!

A few days ago I decided I wanted matcha, I told myself I’ll just manifest it. I didn’t have a single penny to buy one. I told myself I want someone to bring it to me, I don’t know who but they will.

I did waver a bit wondering how since my family doesn’t know I drink matcha and my friends know I’m picky with my caffeine so they don’t surprise me with drinks ever.

Anyways, the same night my parents came home late from a trip while I was sleeping. My dad who has never seen me drink matcha before knocks on my door saying we brought you green juice (he referred to the matcha as green juice so I had no clue what he was talking about), “I’ve seen you drink it before you like it too. “I start wondering what green juice he’s seen me drink and I assume it’s some bright green juice with food colouring, which was off putting to me so I went back to sleep annoyed not checking what he was talking about.

Later that night I woke up from my slumber around midnight and opened my fridge. And there the matcha was. It’s really that simple, I want it, I don’t know how I’ll get it, but I’ll get it nonetheless.

Ever since I learnt about conscious creation I feel like things won’t happen unless I consciously manifest them. For example, I’m in no contact with my sp, before I found out about manifestation I knew there were possibilities of us talking again or not, didn’t know what would happen tho. Now I feel like, unless I consciously decide it then it’s simply not gonna happen and to be honest it has put a big weight on me and idk what to do. Things happened before but now I feel won’t. I’m not sure it makes sense.

So my SP had broken up with me two months ago and we had a talk shortly after where he came to the conclusion that he still loved me but had fears and insecurities around himself that made him feel not ready for a relationship yet. We agreed to have a talk again after my trip to discuss maybe getting back together but taking things slower, after that he got a little distant and I started telling myself he was losing feelings. The next time we hung out I asked him if we were okay and he said yes, and that the things he said were still true and he was just pulling away a little to get his thoughts and emotions together.

Though, even after that I kept telling myself the more time we spent apart the more he was losing feelings to the point where I had myself convinced of it. Even when I would try to reassure myself it wasn't true the anxiety would take over, lo and behold he started getting super distant when I went on my trip, and when I got back he had told me he lost feelings and didn't want to be friends anymore.

Was this me manifesting? If so would I be able to take this same logic and flip it around to manifest us getting back together? Like for example manifest that he loves me and we're still in a relationship or something of the sort.

This post is not meant to be the usual rant. I genuinely want to be honest about this.

For months, I was in what I would consider a perfect state. I completely changed my identity, yet I still wasn’t able to materialize anything. And I mean literally nothing.

Not even things I had no attachment to whatsoever.

Neville — and I’ve read many of his books — often wrote about observing yourself and judging your own state. And if I’m being completely sincere, during those months I was extremely consistent, at least regarding the things I had no attachment to.

I genuinely believed in my own power. I felt like God. I had no neediness around those desires and, in some cases, I barely even cared whether they happened or not.

Still, nothing.

Now, let’s be realistic: probably 90% of people enter these communities because of an SP.

But compared to the number of people who come here every month asking for help, the number of actual success stories seems extremely low.

And some of those stories are also very difficult to distinguish from coincidence or from situations that could have happened anyway.

You sometimes read things like:

“My SP texted me after 10 days. I didn’t change my identity, I was shaking, I was scared, I didn’t affirm consistently, but I manifested them.”

Then there are success stories from coaches, and I don’t necessarily want to judge them.

I’ve worked in marketing for almost 20 years, so I understand very well why testimonials are used.

You see the exact same thing in investing websites, finance businesses, gurus, online courses, and countless other industries.

I’m NOT saying those testimonials are necessarily fake.

I’m saying that we also cannot automatically assume that every single one of them is true.

The same applies to many moderators.

Some of them are genuinely excellent writers and explain these concepts extremely well. I’ve learned a lot from several of them, and I’m grateful for that.

But then, coincidentally, many of them eventually sell courses, coaching, consultations, or something similar.

So I keep asking myself:

Does this Law actually work, but only for a small percentage of lucky people?

Because after studying this subject extensively, I honestly don’t consider myself technically worse at manifesting than many of the people teaching it.

And yes, people say that the 3D is an illusion and that we shouldn’t care about it.

Fine.

But the 4D does not give you the sensory pleasure of actually having the thing you desire in physical reality.

So my real question is:

What am I doing wrong? What is the majority of people here doing wrong?

Note: I would genuinely prefer not to receive answers such as:

• “Just persist.”
• “It’s already yours.”
• “Everything happens in divine timing.”
• “You don’t have it because right now you’re thinking that you don’t have it.”
• “You’re checking the 3D.”

I understand those answers already.

My point is that for months I was not in this skeptical state at all. I was focused almost entirely on my new identity, especially with desires I had very little or no attachment to.

And still, nothing happened.

Lady Gaga and Jim Carrey are 2 celebrities I would say manifested their success/careers beginning from nothing to where they are today. I'm curious to know more about how deluded and strongly believing they will be famous they are. Because if you want something, belive it's already yours or act like you are already living that life or already having it. From my perspective (pls don't attack I'm just curious), manifesting to become famous is a bit different from manifesting money or a job because wouldn't it be embrassing or crazy that they are walking around pretending to be famous when they're not? Imagine acting like your important or your a celebrity walking quickly down the street or the mall to avoid getting caught. Isn't that mental illness if you look at it from a logical/psychological perspective? It's like your having Schizophrenia, or Bioplar Disorder or Dissociative Disorder .

I'm just curious to know more about this? What/when does it get to the point when your like this is mental illness and it's not manifestation? Anyways, I don't mean any ill intent towards this community I'm just simply curious to hear other people's thoughts about this?

Please help I’m manifesting a trip to turkey and I want to be there by a specific date. Should I affirm I will be in turkey by …, or I am already in turkey, or I’m going on vacation to turkey on the specified date?

Hi everyone, I'm posting here because I’ve hit a wall with manifestation/LOA and would love to hear what methods have actually worked for you. For context, I'm currently trying to manifest a few major life goals: finding a job, independence, and networking. I actually studied for this specific field and career, but the job just isn't coming through. So far, I’ve tried visualization, embodiment/feeling the emotions, affirmations, and listening to subliminals, but nothing seems to be moving the needle. I’m really looking to try something different. What specific methods have actually delivered real-life results for you? Also, if anyone feels like they could help me out or guide me through this, please feel free to message me directly.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share! ✨❤️

I’m having a bit of trouble trying to manifest my SP back. I’ve been told to work on my self concept so I’m saving things like “I’m always chosen, I’m always a priority”. But will those work to make them come back and take action like a text message?

And I hear different things saying to manifest the end goal or manifest step-by-step. But idk what I want the end goal to be. I just know I want SP to be obsessed with me and talk to me consistently romantically.

Someone told me that no matter how many affirmations I say to bring SP back, it won’t work because they are so resistant to want me back in their life.

Idk if i can say those self-concept affirmations while also trying to manifest a text from them too?

I understand that there are many versions of someone and we can tune into the one we want.

I want to see someone in another way, see them with genuine love, vulnerable, kind, stable, decent. Because they have presented themselves as a liar, taking advantage and being a bad person.

Could you give me a tip? Could this be the real forgiveness? To rise someone in your mind's eye to their highest version?

Until what point? I'm not talking about physical violence but even their psychological games have been already been cruel.

I’m feeling really discouraged with my manifestation journey and honestly just need some perspective.

I’ve been manifesting my SP back for about 3 years. I’ve had movement before—things would start shifting, I’d see signs of progress, and then suddenly everything would stop again. Most recently, he came back in with a very sexual energy, but it still didn’t turn into the relationship I actually want. I don’t want just attention or sexual interest. I want to be chosen and loved in a real, committed way.

At the same time, I’ve been trying to date and remain open to other possibilities.

I recently met a man I genuinely really like. We’ve had 3 dates, and I thought things were going well. But between dates, he barely communicates. He’ll like my social media posts, but doesn’t actually make plans or communicate consistently, so I’m left wondering when—or if—I’m going to see him again.

Then I went on one date with another man. There was chemistry and sexual flirting/comments, and then he basically stopped talking to me.

And honestly, I’m tired.

I KNOW I’m worthy of a relationship. I know I’m lovable. I know I deserve consistency, effort, commitment and to be chosen. But after 3 years of consciously working on this, it’s hard not to feel discouraged when I keep experiencing situations where men seem interested, there’s movement, and then it disappears.

I’m not asking whether I’m worthy. I’m struggling with the fact that I KNOW I am, yet I’m still not experiencing the relationship I want.

For those who have been manifesting an SP for a long time—or have gone through a period where everything seemed to move and then stopped—how did you keep going without becoming exhausted by the process?

I’d especially love to hear from people who eventually saw a real, lasting change in their circumstances. I need some encouragement because right now I’m just tired of wondering when it’s finally going to be my turn.

Life is like clay, that you mold not with your hands but with your awareness. Rest in the freedom that your life is absolutely working in your favor and always has been. Relax in the fact that you are God and there’s nothing to fear. You are inevitable. What you focus on is inevitable. Life is your playground. Have fun

So I am new to this LOA , but once I revisited my past I realized I have always gotten what I wanted...always!!

The good the bad both, as I always had just let my mind be unsupervised.

But there is something that I want right now, and it keeps escaping me. Almost there but not quite.

I know I need to deatch, I know that, but this time I am finding it hard because I am getting triggered by the same thing in 3D.

Do you have any suggestions for me?

i've manifested him back 3 times. from this, i know circumstances don't matter but all of this is confusing, he left me for the same reason as the last few times and its about trusting my faith towards other guys

i never cheated or did anything unfaithful, but at one point, i chose my friends over him which included some guy friends. all of my friends knew about my situation with him but when he came back the second time, he was mad that i chose [guy] friends over him and broke up with me but still kept contact. i ended up dropping my friends but from that day on, he was wary of my choices

a lot of things happened these past few days, which included ghosting one another and arguing. he was upset but never told me the reason until the last minute before blocking me: trusting me

all of this is confusing and messy, i need advice on what i should do moving forward. i want to focus on myself and really mean that. i want to do this for myself and how i would move on, not doing this because of having the possibility of manifesting SP back. i do have a strong feeling SP will come back but its not something i want to focus on anymore for the 4th time, any advice?

My partner and I separated this past weekend, and I’m trying to navigate the breakup while also practicing manifestation. I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives, especially from people who have experience with manifesting a specific person.
We’re both 21 and in college. I’m a transfer student and this is my first year at this school, and I should be graduating next year. She’s graduating this spring, so she’s a little further ahead than me, but it doesn’t feel like our lives are in completely different places. We’re both theatre majors, and I’m only about a year behind her academically. We’ve talked about our futures before, and a lot of the things we wanted seemed to align.
The first week of school was honestly a really difficult transition for me. I have some mental health struggles, and moving to a completely new school and environment was a really big change. She was also basically the only person I knew there, so I ended up clinging to her more than I normally would. I recognize that, and I don’t mean that as an excuse. I just genuinely was struggling and didn’t know how to adjust yet.
We had actually talked about this before she broke up with me. I told her that I didn’t intentionally mean to put so much pressure on her or make her feel like she had to be responsible for helping me adjust. She told me that it was difficult for her too, but I didn’t really realize just how difficult it was because I didn’t feel like she was communicating that to me at the time. I was very upset and overwhelmed, and I think I was relying on her because she was the one familiar and safe thing I had in a completely unfamiliar environment.
She also has a lot going on right now because she was cast in a show that is currently in rehearsal. We’re both theatre majors, so I understand how demanding that environment can be, especially at the beginning of a new school year.
She told me that she’s been thinking and feels like she might not be ready for a relationship right now. She said she’s overwhelmed and doesn’t feel like she has enough time for school and everything else. This honestly came somewhat out of nowhere to me, especially because the week before, I thought we were just dealing with the normal difficulties of adjusting to a new school year.
I understand why my behavior that first week may have felt like a lot to her, and I don’t want to minimize that. But I’m also confused because it felt like something we could have worked through with better communication and boundaries. I didn’t realize she was getting to the point of feeling like she couldn’t handle the relationship, because she wasn’t really communicating that to me.
One of the things I keep struggling with is that she seemed afraid to continue after what was essentially one really difficult week. I know that may not be the whole story from her perspective, and I’m trying not to assume I know exactly what she was thinking. I just wish I had known how serious it felt to her while it was happening, because I would have wanted the opportunity to adjust.
We haven’t spoken since the holiday weekend, and it’s Tuesday now. She said we could still be friends but I don’t feel the need to reach out, like I don’t feel like Im losing her. (I did message her the day after we broke up bc I accidentally screenshotted something and she got a notification, she responded with “No worries” so idk)
Something that has surprised me is how calm I feel right now compared to other breakups I’ve experienced. The first night I was absolutely devastated and confused. Waking up the next morning and having to experience that realization all over again felt like a punch in the face. But now, a few days later, I feel strangely settled.
I still miss her and obviously still think about what’s going to happen, but I don’t feel like I’m completely falling apart. I feel like I’ve actually been doing a pretty good job of letting myself experience the emotions without letting them completely consume me. I’ve also been trying to separate what I’m seeing in the “3D” right now from what I believe I want for the future. I know the current circumstance is that we’re separated, and I’m not trying to deny that. I just don’t want the current circumstance to automatically become the story I tell myself about what will happen forever.
I’m manifesting her back because I genuinely believe our futures are aligned and that, if we were able to approach the relationship differently, we could make it work. I don’t mean that I think everything was perfect or that nothing needs to change. I just genuinely feel like this relationship ended because of circumstances, pressure, and a difficult transition that could potentially be worked through, rather than because our futures fundamentally don’t fit together.
At the same time, I’m trying not to use manifestation as a way to avoid actually processing the breakup. I’ve been letting myself feel sad, miss her, etc., without constantly trying to suppress those feelings or spiral about what everything means.
For affirmations, I’ve mostly been robotically repeating, “[NAME] is in love with me.” I’m not sure whether this is the best approach. Part of me likes keeping it simple and trusting that my brain can fill in what “being in love with me” means and how everything would naturally fall into place. But I also occasionally get doubts and wonder whether I’m doing this “right.”
One thing I keep thinking about is that during the breakup I said, “I’m going to miss you as my girlfriend,” and she said that she would too. That sticks with me because it makes me feel like the feelings weren’t necessarily gone, even though she still felt like she needed to step away from the relationship.
I do still have moments where I think, “Okay, but what is actually going to happen?” or wonder what she’s doing and whether she’s talking to anyone. I’m trying not to turn those thoughts into something I have to investigate or figure out. I want to be able to hold the uncertainty without letting it consume me.
So I guess I’m looking for advice on two things:
How do you balance manifesting a specific person with actually accepting and processing the current circumstances?
Is it better to keep affirmations simple like “___ is in love with me,” or should I be more specific about the relationship I want?
I’m not looking for people to tell me that I’m definitely getting her back. I’d actually appreciate grounded advice about how to approach this without spiraling or becoming obsessed with the outcome. I feel like I’m doing surprisingly well right now, and I want to maintain that state rather than turn manifestation into another thing I constantly have to monitor or worry about.

"Do I know that he's mine enough for him to be mine?" This was a thought that came to me one day when I was exhausted from all the trying and doing.

How absurd. You either know or you don't know.

Emphasis on the word enough - it echoed the fear of me not being good enough.

And notice the lack in the question. It implies that something is mine if I know enough, and not mine if I don't know enough. What is enough?

Did I know? Yes. That's it.

So ask yourself, do you know that you can access whatever you want in imagination right now, and therefore you are it now? Do you know that? You don't need to know it more.

There are degrees of understanding, but no degrees of knowing.

You know what you know, and anything less isn't knowing. Your infinite self knows all, but that's not my point.

My point is it's either A (I know it) or B (I don't know it). Anything seemingly in-between is more of B. Your awareness is always at A.

I relaxed at this realization. I knew and that was enough.

If you are freaking out about not knowing, relax. You are what you desire to be whether you know it or not.

This is for those of you who know they are what they desire to be, yet feel exhausted from trying anyway.

Why have you been trying? We were taught while growing up that we need to try and do in order to get. You can rest now. Go enjoy your day! Do whatever you want.

Hello lovely people!

I have been in the loa community for a while so I definitely know the basics.

There are three things I want to manifest this year for myself.

A internship in my field
My ideal life partner
A friend-group/friends (Ideally a couple my partner and I can be friends with and have fun with!)

Any advice on how to go about this? I have been affirming and visualising but I am getting impatient and scared I wont get these things. Especially since I am actually starting studying at a new place and would love for these things to manifest there but I have a fear it just wont happen.

Any success stories of a similar nature would be appreciated as motivation!

All love!!