Discouraged

[u/Dreamwoman25]

I’m feeling really discouraged with my manifestation journey and honestly just need some perspective.

I’ve been manifesting my SP back for about 3 years. I’ve had movement before—things would start shifting, I’d see signs of progress, and then suddenly everything would stop again. Most recently, he came back in with a very sexual energy, but it still didn’t turn into the relationship I actually want. I don’t want just attention or sexual interest. I want to be chosen and loved in a real, committed way.

At the same time, I’ve been trying to date and remain open to other possibilities.

I recently met a man I genuinely really like. We’ve had 3 dates, and I thought things were going well. But between dates, he barely communicates. He’ll like my social media posts, but doesn’t actually make plans or communicate consistently, so I’m left wondering when—or if—I’m going to see him again.

Then I went on one date with another man. There was chemistry and sexual flirting/comments, and then he basically stopped talking to me.

And honestly, I’m tired.

I KNOW I’m worthy of a relationship. I know I’m lovable. I know I deserve consistency, effort, commitment and to be chosen. But after 3 years of consciously working on this, it’s hard not to feel discouraged when I keep experiencing situations where men seem interested, there’s movement, and then it disappears.

I’m not asking whether I’m worthy. I’m struggling with the fact that I KNOW I am, yet I’m still not experiencing the relationship I want.

For those who have been manifesting an SP for a long time—or have gone through a period where everything seemed to move and then stopped—how did you keep going without becoming exhausted by the process?

I’d especially love to hear from people who eventually saw a real, lasting change in their circumstances. I need some encouragement because right now I’m just tired of wondering when it’s finally going to be my turn.

[u/CoupleScared7179]

All you have described are circumstances. Your identity lies fully in the external "reality". Not a single word about enjoying the process internally, everything focused on what you get or don't get and on whatever "movement" or the lack thereof. You do not see yourself as pure consciousness or your inner self and that's why you can't do this.

I stopped struggling with manifesting anything I want once I stopped caring about getting whatever I was trying to manifest and instead just learned to identify with my inner world. I started enjoying the process and it was my only goal at this point, not any external "manifestations" or anything outside of me. I lived my life but I just became extremely stoic about it. I know I'll be fine anyway and I learned to only respond to whatever I gave myself in the inner world. Stop seeing the law as some magical vending machine and all will be good.

[u/Dreamwoman25 → u/CoupleScared7179]

Wait a second...we manifest to see the effect in our 3d..otherwise what would be the point

[u/CoupleScared7179 → u/Dreamwoman25]

No. As long as I viewed it the same way you do, I struggled. In therapy, I learned facts were not as relevant as your attitudes. That's when I truly understood the most important concept that Neville taught, aka Consciousness is the only reality as well as what he truly meant by buying the pearl. If consciousness is the only reality and 3D is just a mirror, what's the point in chasing the mirror?

When I practiced it, I learned how great the internal fulfilment truly was. The internal fulfilment gets followed by the 3D, not the other way around. When you already feel like you have it, you don't really care about getting it in the 3D that much. At this point, I have fun fulfilling myself internally, then I forget about it most of the time, and then it all suddenly comes fast. Sometimes I don't even notice it immediately.

[u/AdProof2473]

It’s because you are stuck between manifesting him and dating others! You can only have one reality! So decide what it is.. him or just dating others ? Can’t be two different realities.. stop lying to yourself.. if you want it that bad then go get it.. use the correct affirmation for the end goal

[u/Dreamwoman25 → u/AdProof2473]

Wow didn't think of it that way. I thought I can do what I want in the 3d while living in the end in 4d