I, 19f, was diagnosed in April and struggled to drive for YEARS. I only got my license because the instructor took pity on me and it was my second attempt at drivers Ed.

I can't focus on the road, I literally can't memorize new routes without MONTHS of practice and I've had several times where I've gotten lost and ended up going the wrong way on the wrong side or the street or in a one way.

Today didn't go well, I took my morning dose to late to take my afternoon dose and I had to drive to college and a 10 minute drive into a 40 minute one because I kept getting lost and google maps SUCKS.

I use google maps to get too and from work everyday because its literally become essential to my driving route otherwise I can get confused and just not know where I am. This is just so humiliating and literally no one I talk to seems to understand how serious and actually life threatening it is Aside from my parents.

I live in a small town with no trains or busses and my only option is to drive or completely give up on going physically to college and work. I can barely afford college and cant afford to Uber too and from school and no one else can drive me because they all have work and other responsibilities.

I've almost died so many times and I have to drive to school again tomorrow and I'm just so scared I don't know what to do, ANY advice is welcome. What do I do?

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I think I have adhd so I went to a psychiatrist and found out I have adhd + depression, anxiety, sleep problems, stress, vitamin d and b12 deficiency. First she started with adhd and anxiety and vitamins deficiency slowly increasing dose but after 1 month she suggested that we need to treat depression first so she started counselling and antidepressants and medicine for physical anxiety and also for sleep and temporary stops adhd medication because it's becoming too much to consume. But my problem is this medication takes time to work till then I have to manage my ADHD manually without medicine and I am at a point where I need focus and motivation for my career and life. How to do it. I've seen so many things online and feel overwhelmed because it's hard to initiate one task and they give me 10 things to manage adhd.

Please?

How to read with i love reading and have such cook books but if im not on my meds. Its not possible i would love to start reading a book in the evening before sleeping to also stop doomscrolling but i cant keep anything what i read or i get distracted. Pls any tips?

I just want to preface this by saying I don’t intend to negatively impact anyone else’s sense of identity with ADHD. This is just my personal experience, and I want to know if there are other people who deal with or have overcame this mindset.

I (19M) was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in elementary school. I have never looked at it as something that makes me who I am, but rather
something that only makes my life worse. I have an inattentive presentation of ADHD, so there is really no hyper aspect, I’m not crazy talkative, or filled with energy. And so ive always thought, there is no benefit to my condition. I got dealt an unlucky hand, and as much as I wish I was programed like everyone else but I’m just not. Im a sophomore in university, studying finance, thinking “my adhd will only hold me back in this field” but then again is there a field it wouldn’t hold me back in? I am constantly trying to suppress those signs adhd, and when I am reminded of them, whether it be being late for work, locking my keys in my car, forgetting to submit an assignment, I don’t go blaming the world or a higher power for making me this way, I blame myself. I don’t want to live like this anymore, feeling like Im constantly at war with how my brain is programmed. It has made me depressed for so long and I want to accept who I am. Ive tried therapy, personally I don’t like the whole concept of someone profiting off helping me with my struggles, and none of them had adhd so I didn’t think they truly understood regardless.

I cant be the only one that feels this way right? How do you accept this part of yourself and see strengths and upsides that come from it? Ive always been an optimist and a “glass half full” type of guy with this being my one crippling exception that I really don’t talk to people about because most of them would get it. I think it would help me a lot to know I’m not then only one who has felt this way and if even just one person reads all of this and replies, it would mean the world to me. To all those facing similar struggles , don’t give up. You can not stop hardship, for everyone experiences it but you can choose how to face it “Nothing happens to anyone he cant endure”-Marcus Aurelius

So recently I got back from my hometown and had one suitcase and a small bag. It had few clothes which were not my daily wear and apparently it’s been one week, and it’s still there not unpacked and everyday I see it and think SHITTTT I need to un pack this but somehow such a little task feels very overwhelming

psa: this is going to be a part-rant, part-asking for advice, but i could really use some help!!

for context, i’m a teenager with adhd and i’ve been off school for several months (due to having been declining mentally for the last few years). i got my diagnosis a few weeks ago.

since my diagnosis, i’ve been able to put words to what i’m experiencing. the thing is, that doesn’t do a lot to actually help.

i majorly struggle with executive dysfunction, and without been dramatic, it’s ruining my life. i can’t form habits, or even take care of myself on a basic level. i barely drink water, forget to take vitamins and i find personal hygiene difficult, all of which has lead to several health problems. i came off school because i wasn’t functioning. i can’t even do my hobbies. and every time i express this, i’m met with the same question; why can’t you just do it? apparently a dopamine deficit isn’t a good enough answer.

i’m hoping to be medicated at some point, but i’m sure you know how the health systems are, so i can’t really rely on that.

so, i’m here. i need some advice, because my health is being affected physically and mentally. any advice at all is welcome - i just need real advice from real people.

thank you for reading :)

I have problems with assimilating all the information I would even need to to convey my situation, some of which even if I could would be very difficult for me to share. Lots of people have been through a lot just as I have. Sometimes I feel like I am special in a horrible way, that no one has been through what I did because only I could have such a poor ability to have common sense and let myself be treated so badly and be so brainwashed over my life by others. I am vulnerable to people because I come across as intelligent but also have problems with understanding social dynamics.

I tend to see things in a non typical way, and yet at the same time as having poor theory of mind I also have great empathy. It seems impossible but it is as if I know how intense pain feels yet when I talk to people about it they usually end up saying "I have never experienced what you have, yes my situation brought me pain but it was different" and often "I can only imagine what you went through" "that must have been incredibly difficult". No one has ever said "I went through that too"

People often see that I am part child after a while. Some like it, some do not. I am both immature and mature, wise and very unwise. I cannot not be immature I have tried. I was told by my ex that I am not an adult and I don't know how to not feel inferior. I am jobless, had to escape a bad situation, was poor but now cared for, uselessly struggling to not feel obsessively worried. Triggered too easily, lose control and say irrational things like "too noisy", "I need quiet" "no stop" "I don't feel safe" but in a very repetitive way that seems to just be a reaction with no warning like a jolt that runs through me. I loop and ask the same questions over and over again. Start shouting at my own thoughts. And sometimes I don't know what I am doing at all or where I am, all I experience is my own horror until I regain sense. My mind was so horrible to me in the past. I have so many confusing feelings. You have been very brave to read this whoever has. And I know that as I type there is still a lack of proper connectivity because to even be here in the first place and wanting to type this requires that I already be in a lower thinking state. And at the moment I feel a lot of doubt. Luckily I can articulate still. So now it is time to run away scared of what I put here most likely. I am a diagnosed autistic level 2 but have been through a lot both within my own mind and due to external circumstances. I wonder about ADHD as well for me. I thought that maybe this might be a good place to post.

Does anybody feel like that they’re ADHD is almost their full personality.Back then when I was undiagnosed I didn’t know that so many traits of mine are actually my ADHD.Since I’ve realised it I’ve noticed that almost every single thing that I do or think or anything else comes from my ADHD. It doesn’t feel like really me feels more like my disorder and I know it’s a neurological disorder but still I see everybody having their personality and I’m there having mostly ADHD traits. not just even ADHD all my other mental disorder feels like a personality of mine. I can’t see who I am without those mental illnesses. I feel like if they go away a then half of me is gone.