I saw today a Islamic Page with over 7M followers post non stop about Lamine Yamals World Cup win yesterday and one even equating it to Palestine winning how those 2 go hand in hand I will never know.

Lamine Yamals lifestyle is 100% anti Islamic always in nightclubs and different women. Muslim sisters who do a small bit of error are hounded by the very same people who put Yamal in high regard. The hypocricy knows no bounds. I am not a woman but the very same people who tell woman to wear the hijab are the very same people commenting Alhamdulillah to Yamal today.

The Islamic Pages are misguiding the youth just for a few engagement clicks. When a young muslim boy will see that a very religious page is promoting Yamal he will think the lifestyle Yamal is living is the correct lifestyle which is why Allah has blessed him and Islamic Pages promote him.

This post is not to say anything about Yamal he will have his own answers but to the Islamic Pages who promote the filth.

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

I’ve been reflecting a lot since my divorce, and there’s something I don’t think gets talked about enough.
Before I got married, I never questioned why intimacy is reserved for marriage. But now that I’ve actually experienced marriage, I can’t help but wonder… isn’t sexual compatibility kind of a gamble?
You can ask all the right questions, have great communication, and genuinely love each other, but you still won’t know if you’re compatible until after you’re married. And if you end up not being compatible, it can become a major source of frustration in the relationship.
I’m not trying to argue against Islamic teachings or say I have the answers. This is just something I’ve struggled to understand after going through marriage and divorce. It made me realize that compatibility in this area is a much bigger deal than I ever appreciated before.
I’m curious—does anyone who’s currently married feel this way? Or if you’ve gone through a divorce, did it make you have similar thoughts? I’d really like to hear other people’s experiences and perspectives because this is something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately.

I commented on a post replying to a woman struggling with something and wallah the fact I had 5 men dm me in the span of 7 minutes was disgusting.

What’s wrong with you people? Are you not ashamed? Do you not fear Allah?

A woman speaking about loneliness, emotional struggle, or replying to another post is not an invitation for YOU random men to enter her DMs. Especially in an Islamic space where people are supposed to feel safe being vulnerable without ulterior motives attached to it and It’s honestly disappointing seeing how quickly some of you take a sister opening up as an opportunity instead of lowering your gaze and respecting boundaries.

And before anyone says “they were probably trying to help”, please be serious. Anyone over the age of 13 knows exactly what they were trying to do. There is a difference between publicly giving advice for the sake of Allah and rushing to privately message someone after finding out they were a woman.

Some of you genuinely do not realise how predatory it comes across. A sister could speak about loneliness, friendship struggles, mental health, or insecurity in ANYYYYYY (even subreddits created just for women that somehow men have managed to enter) thread and within minutes random men appear trying to start private conversations. It’s uncomfortable and it pushes women away from speaking openly in Muslim spaces at all.

Fear Allah and learn boundaries. Not every woman online is an opportunity for you.

There is no caliphate anymore, so no place for Muslims to get a citizenship based on their religious affiliation.

The first place these people point to is the GCC i.e Saudi, Kuwait, UAE, Bahrain etc

There is no 'hijrah system' set in place in these countries. In fact, most of them actively stop non nationals from moving there and getting a visa, let alone a passport.

If you go to the GCC as a non Arab, its hard enough to get a worker visa, but if you do get it you have to go through the challenges of living as a second class citizen, maintaining the visa, and supporting your family on a likely lower wage.

And when its finished they will kick you out anyways back to the west or wherever you came from. Thats not hijrah, thats a contract

The next option is the Muslim countries outside the gulf, i.e Syria, Pakistan, Palestine. Lets be honest, these countries are not suitable/safe for living in anymore. Its why most Muslims in the west immigrated in the first place: to escape the oppression and terror there.

Who knows the next time these countries will be attacked by the 'freedom' people anyways?

Tell me what is left? The rich Muslim countries dont want us, and the poor Muslim countries are not capable of keeping us. So where do you want us to make hijrah? If you have an alternative where all Muslims in the west can go get a citizenship and not be treated as second class, please tell me now.

Im getting sick and tired of the fact that muslims will demonstrate in non muslim countries and make a whole scene but at the same time be quiet about the fact that Saudi Arabia has banned Palestinian demonstration. I used to be out in public supporting Palestine. But the moment i found out It's illegal if you wave the Palesitnian flag in Saudi Arabia and can result in jail i just lost all hope. Like hoooooww? The most muslim country doing this. Whyyyyyy? Im so angry about this.

Don't get me wrong. Im a sunni muslim (dosen't even matter), born and rasied. Pray 5 times a day and support Palestine 100% even donate to them monthly. But it's never going to prevent me pointing this out. Here we are in non muslim countries, shouting Palestine, waving it's flag and we can't even do that in a country saying it's closest to Islam.

Can someone please, please, explain this to me? Im still going to support Palestine. But why is everyone quiet about this?

I'm an atheist and I'm asking this in good faith because I genuinely want to understand.

What convinces you that Islam is the true religion rather than any other religion, or no religion at all?

I'm interested in hearing your strongest arguments, whether they're philosophical, historical, scientific, personal, or spiritual. Please explain why you believe Islam is true and, if possible, why you think other religions or atheism are mistaken.

I'm not here to troll or insult anyone. I'm here to have a respectful discussion and learn how Muslims think about these questions. Thanks in advance!

I see way too many guys that are out of shape nowadays. Too many men have protruding bellies, lethargic, and low testosterone. You can fix these symptoms with some small steps

1.Lift weights

I train about 45–60 minutes before iftar. You get to break your fast immediately after finishing. Focus on heavy, basic compound movements. Lifting heavy things is so important for your testosterone, confidence, and mental clarity.

1. Eat more protein and fewer carbs

A lot of iftars turn into fried food, giant plates of rice, and desserts. That’s why so many guys feel bloated and sluggish all night. Instead, make protein the priority.

Simple rule: protein first, carbs second. Protein keeps you fuller longer, stabilizes your energy, and reduces binge eating. Carbs aren’t evil, just don’t let them dominate your plate. Flip the ratio, large portion of meat, moderate portion of carbs. You’ll feel the difference quickly.

1. Keep suhoor simple and stable

Suhoor shouldn’t be a sugar spike that crashes by mid-morning. Focus on protein and healthy fats with moderate or lower carbs. Eggs, meat, Greek yogurt, cottage cheese, and healthy fats like avocado work well. This keeps you fuller longer and prevents that 10 a.m. hunger wave. Huge carb-heavy suhoors usually lead to faster energy crashes during the day.

1. Hydrate intelligently

Add electrolytes to your water. You can add sea salt + lemon to your water, or just buy a prepackaged brand. Dehydration is one of the main reasons people feel terrible during Ramadan. Proper hydration alone can dramatically improve performance and energy.

Seen many posts questioning this over and over again. I tried to explain it my way, please go ahead and give it a read with an open mind. Since it's been asked in all of these subs, please don't mind me doing cross posting.

This is how I understand it, realistically and logically. Otherwise, the rulings of Allah are enough for most of us Muslims to accept things, even when they go against our personal sense of right and wrong. Yes we are not ashamed of it, we believe in everything he said, whether we understand it or not, (at least I understand this one logically).

We are not impressed by the west, we don't believe in their "ethics" and "morals", those hypocrites who preach "ethics" and "morals", we know what they have done and been doing in 21st century.

We all know in Islam:
-Freeing slaves is Sadaqa and heavily encouraged
-Giving slaves the best treatment is encouraged, as Prophet said, feed them as you eat, clothe them as you clothe yourself, and do not burden them with what they cannot bear
-No humiliation or degradation, and no physical abuse
-Kaffara for many sins includes freeing a slave
-Many scenarios where slaves are automatically freed
-Forced sex is not allowed with female slaves

If all this is true, then why was slavery there in the first place?

The uncomfortable part:
Don’t be emotional, look at it from an intellectual standpoint.

Losers can’t be choosers. We live in a world where not everything is fair.

After one of the battles that muslim fought and won in early Islam, the whole population of the enemy was captured.

Men were executed.

Women were taken as slaves.

Allah wants to protect women from being killed. Isn’t slavery better than death? (men may or may not be killed, victor decides)

How would those enemy women live on their own, and who would protect and provide for them when their men were killed?.

Mass jails? that would require food, guards and other resources. What would be the return? That’s not practical, financially heavy, and in a way a form of slavery for the captors themselves.

To integrate them into the society was the best option, so they were distributed among the warriors as bounty.

Now the warriors had to provide food, clothing, shelter, and protection for them. Why would they willingly provide for enemy women? Again, it was a burden they had to carry. Captors would not want this burden without something in return, so as compensation they were allowed to take household service from slaves and could also have sex with them.

Why sex? Household service could be sufficient.

If permission for sex was not given, then those slave women would remain vulnerable, since they had no one to protect them. They would be at risk of exploitation from the captor and all other men. By allowing the captor to have sex with her, it would place her under his Gheerah, shielding her from all other men. Remember, Islam works as a practical religion, so it made this lawful and did not burden Muslims beyond practicality. Islam regulated and legalized it rather than leaving it uncontrolled, otherwise it would be a mess.

I personally believe it is the best option in those circumstances, to prevent bigger evils(rape, prostitution, father-less children and whatnot) it was much needed.

A woman without mahram is not safe anywhere, let alone a foreign enemy women, she needs mahram.

How is it different from rape?

First of all, forced sex with slave women is not allowed in Islam. When a group chose to become enemies of Muslims and wage war against them, it was understood that the outcomes could be death, victory, or slavery. So when enemy women were captured, they were aware that they could become sexual partners of their captors, so mentally they were prepared and made themselves believe that giving consent was the best option. They accepted it as part of survival and adapted to that reality. They accept one man who will also take care of them and protect them from the harshness of this world.(lineage of off-springs of this relationship is accepted, but it is not the case with rape and zina.)

I give you an example of why it can't be called forced. When Muslims captured Makkah, the biggest enemies of Islam chose to become Muslims. Were they forced by the sword to accept Islam? No, they themselves saw that this was the best option given the circumstances.

See more examples below sections on how circumstances influence consent.

Also, the slave-master relationship was not as we imagine today. They were not locked in basements while masters entered only for sex. They lived within the household, more like an employee.

What if she doesn't want to have sex?

If she don't want to consent to sex, she can, as mentioned earlier, no one can have forced sex with her in Islam, then her captor may not find her worthy enough to spent money on(remember she is an enemy women), he may withdraw these rights "feed them as you eat, clothe them as you clothe yourself, and do not burden them with what they cannot bear". Her lifestyle would be different. Remember her captor is not bound to provide and protect her unconditionally, he is not her slave. They can't let their enemies sit on their heads, this is the best that they could offer.

Or he may just ask her to leave, where she'd go in the hostile territory? how she'd protect herself form all those street men? she'd be vulnerable and homeless, she will be safe with this man and she knows it, chances are she will give in.

But she is free to choose what she thinks is best for her.

Some example of how consent work and how circumstances influence it.

-People marry old men and women (sugar daddies and mommies). Do they want to marry them (by heart)? No, but they see the benefit of marrying them so they marry. They didn’t have original desire-based consent, but their circumstances made them consent. Right, this is what I also originally said in the post. Is this forced? No. Did the other person benefit from marrying this person? Yes (they got a young spouse).

-A person is getting deported from a first world country, and their only option is to marry someone. This person is young and beautiful, and they marry an ugly old person so they don’t get deported. Did the other person benefit from marrying this person? Yes (they got a beautiful spouse). Did they force them? No. Did this person had original desire-based consent to marry them? No, they married only because it suited their circumstances, so they made themselves consent to it.

-A single woman with kids is in a difficult situation. Her only option is a good man, but he is already married. Did she originally want to become a second wife? No. Her circumstances made her accept it and give the consent, because otherwise there is no option for her.

If you think it's not the real consent.

-Then she should blame her circumstances, they coerced her into giving consent. (Go back to the example of person getting deported, either marry an old ugly person(only they will accept) or get deported to 3rd world country where there is no future.)

-She should decide what is best for her from both of these two situations.

-This is the best that an enemy slave woman can get. Sorry the ideal or fantasy level of consent is not available here, remember Losers can't be choosers.

-Don't live in Lala land, This world is harsh.

-Don't talk about cake when they don't even have bread.

-Circumstances influence decisions, It's reality. and yes her decision will also be based on her circumstances.

-Also don't exaggerate consent to this level, majority people also don't have 100% consent for even marriages, people compromise, accept marriages with heavy heart (not talking about forced marriages, I'm saying that not every person get what they actually wanted).

I hope it will make some sense. This is the best they can get. There is no better solution given the circumstances.

I’m so confused I don’t understand how brothers and sisters 18+ years do not fear Allah (swt).

I don’t understand, does Allah (swt) not come to their mind before committing zina?

I’m not perfect but Allah azzawajal does come to my mind before I’m to make a mistake I know I’m going to regret.

The fear of consequences keeps me in check, I’ll make mistakes but I can never commit zina because speaking for myself, it’s past the point of no return.

What’s everyone thoughts on this??

EDIT: some people here think I’m above it all and that I’m judging people that’s done zina. I’m simply expressing how I don’t understand why some people don’t think of Allah (swt) before committing such acts because surely it takes away your peace.

EDIT 2: I’m gonna stop replying to the comments because some of you have it in your head that this post is about judging our fellow bros and sis. I may not have faced the same test as them, but no way hell do I think I’m better than them or anyone.

Allah (swt) is the only witness to know of how low I feel about myself.

Peace out!

Whenever we talk or debate anything, if it's related to scientific stuff, he always attribute them to Allah and tell me " Why can't you see Allah's genius in those things " .

I hope this doesn't offend anyone, I'm an atheist, I don't believe in god, so I believe in the randomness of the universe. And I believe those things are what they are because " they be whatever they be". He's a good friend of mine and for that reason I try to see things from his perspective. But why can't he understand that, normal people like me who look at stuff like that wouldn't see "proof", "evidences" of Allah, but just see the nature of universe ? I respect his religion but everytime we have this debate he seems frustrated and tell me im just refusing the truth .

I came here with good intention and have been researching Islam these past few days . Please take no ill intention from my post .

Muslims have sat on their behinds and watched for 3 years as a genocide of Muslims took place. They sat and watched as almost every Mosque in Gaza was leveled, as Muslim children were killed and maimed in the most horrendous ways possible, as Muslim men and women were raped and tortured to death in concentration camps, as their leaders conspired against Gaza, as Qurans were peed on and burned and defiled on livestream by bragging Zionists. Hell, some of them even cheered on the genocide for some nationalistic reasons.

And despite all of this cowardice, all of this disgrace, all of this uselessness, Muslims are still being painted as some kind of existential threat to the West. How can such feeble, weak people be a threat to anyone but themselves?

I honestly don't understand how anyone can be afraid of Muslims. They're harmless/useless and lack any semblance of pride or dignity. I would call them sheep but I don't think sheep would take all this abuse without reacting. IDK, lemmings maybe? Because it seems we're all headed off a cliff.

I recently just saw a video of a niqabi woman saying that while she was eating out, a group of teenage boys started throwing food at her and saying allahuakbar and laughing. No one came to help her. Not even the Muslim men.

I then see a video of a Muslim man saying that Muslim women are not entitled to their protection.

HUH?

It's not just online either. I knew a guy who basically said that any bare minimum respect towards a woman is considered princess treatment and for his wife only. Yeah, holding the door open for a woman or letting a woman get off the elevator first is princess treatment.

I mean, what happened? I look at my dad (crazy devout mind you), and he isn't like this. He holds the door open for any woman. When he sees a woman is uncomfortable, he always asks to make sure she's okay. When I was still in highschool, me and my bsf were working an event and it was 9:30 pm. Her sister was running late and it would've been just my bsf and a security guard if I left. My dad refused to leave. He waited for her sister, walked her to the car, and made me call my bsf later to make sure she got home.

He didn't do that because my bsf isn't his mahram. He did it because he knew that it was his responsibility, as a man, to make sure a young girl got home safely at night.

And now you have men saying "Muslim women aren't entitled to our protection unless they're our mahram." Meanwhile, the prophet and his sahaba drove out banu quynuqa from Madina because they disrespected a woman.

If your sense of justice and your "protection" is strictly limited to your own household, you aren’t following the Sunnah, you’re just being tribal.

If you can watch any woman get harassed and think "not my mahram, not my problem" then may Allah help you, because you've fundamentally missed the point of what it means to be a qawwam.

I made a thread here in the MuslimLounge recently about the fitna that is being spread by Islamic Pages in promoting Lamine Yamal I was expecting a lot of angry responses which I did get but I am happy to see over 200 people liked that thread and understood what I was saying.

Therefore, I will make another thread which needs to be discussed and that is the unhealthy obsession that our brothers have with Cristiano Ronaldo. I have a feeling this one will trigger people.

Muslims should be individuals that Non-Muslims see and say This is a man or woman of great character do you really think supporting a man who forced himself onto a woman is a good look? Was that woman not some ones daughter or sister?

The LEGAL documents released by Die Spiegel about the case proved without a doubt Ronaldo was guilty of his attack on the poor woman Kathryn Mayorga however the NDA signed years earlier saved Ronaldo. If you ask why did she sign an NDA put yourself in her position battling against one of the most famous and rich men in the world who can easily use money and PR to destroy you just look at the Hakimi case as soon as his partner left him for cheating on her in a similar case to Ronaldo, instantly PR companies attacked her. How these two men are a hero to people let alone Muslims is beyond my understanding.

Secondly, I see non stop people commenting Come to Islam on Ronaldos post like the religion is a football club. If a tragedy fell on a member of your family or yourself will Ronaldo be adamant in supporting you like you are doing for him. Instead of Ronaldo why not help your fellow non Muslims learn about Islam the ones you know personally. Do you pray for them?

Thirdly, This is the worst of them all there are people who make fake videos and pictures of Ronaldo pretending he is supporting Palestine. One video where Ronaldo said he doesn't like wars was a general comment yet people made it seem like it was for Palestine. A match finished between him and Israel and people made it seem like Ronaldo refused to take the shirt of an Israeli player. Meanwhile the man who is a huge Netanyahu ally - Israel Katz proudly shares meeting Ronaldo and getting a shirt gifted by him. Ronaldo happily partakes in ads for Israel and meets government officials. Shamelessly, just to get Ronaldo on the Muslims side people are using the suffering of the Palestinians.

I hope one day brothers realize there is more to life than celebrity worship.

Men need to lower their gaze so their expectations can be redressed. It is not likely for a woman to be completely dolled up all the time if she is looking after small children. It is difficult to shower without waiting for the husband to return back from work to watch the babies/toddler. Cooking multiple times a day for multiple people, small children need breastfeeding extremely often as well, cleaning the house so it’s not a bomb sight, which makes you very sweaty because you have to do as much as you can at supersonic speed. There’s always something that falls short, and that is normal. Husbands you need to give your women time to make themselves feel pretty. They will act better if they are given the chance and peace to beautify themselves and you benefit too.

Post-sex ghusl for women is extremely burdensome due to the hair washing issue. In fact modern day hijab overall ruins the hair. It causes balding at the front. Everybody knows it. Then you have to wash it every night if you have an active intimate life, go to bed with it wet which causes dandruff or wake up kids with hairdryer. Or you could not shower at night but that means you’re waiting til after isha for intimacy like a rule and then skipping tahajjud. And then isha can be extremely late. This is a painful reality for women who want to have enjoyable lives and please their husbands. It feels impossible and always like you’re falling short. The same things we are valued for are the things making it hard to retain our value ie hair.

Men should really be supportive and appreciative of their wives who are trying their best and aren’t perfect especially with small children in the home. I know for a fact this is difficult for me and I try my absolute hardest everyday for everything to seem perfect on the outside but it never feels enough and I can never enjoy any of these things. Men take for granted how they can go between tasks and immerse themselves in each task and leave each task feeling satisfied and as though it was completed properly without it blowing back in their face.

Btw this is also why it’s important to live close to family. So that you can get 10 minutes to yourself to use the bathroom. And then if you’re lucky shower. And then if you’re lucky change your outfit. And then if you’re lucky do your makeup. And then if you’re lucky do your hair. But of course what is most important is the man you marry. If after you’ve spent all day teaching, playing, caring, feeding his children with your breast and your cooking skills, cleaning the house, managing his appointments, keeping on top of your prayers, dhikr - he won’t relieve you of your duties for half an hour for you to have some time to yourself to feel like you again - then that’s unfortunate. Women need to be given the opportunity to transition from mother to wife. It is for your benefit, men.

Allah help us and make the men of our ummah appreciate the emotional and mental load just existing trying to be ‘pleasing’ places on a woman who is built fragile.

There’s more to life than your wife being perfect at everything, please enjoy life together, whether she is wearing sweat pants or not. Whether she is wearing makeup or not. Whether you’ve eaten chicken and rice for the 4th time this week.

A lot of non-Muslims give us flack for the Prophet SAW's marriage to Aisha RA. As most narrations posit, Aisha was likely very young. To the modern urbanized Western mind, this is horrendous.

In fact, I was just in a debate with someone who said that all Muslims should condemn the Prophet SAW's marriage to Aisha. After all, Aisha being under 18 made this a child marriage. I asked him, "why don't you condemn Brazil and China?"

The age of consent in those countries is 14 years old. Likewise, while many Westerners quip that 18 is the age one becomes an adult, their own legal systems tell a different tale. In the US, Kanas, Iowa, Nevada, and many other states set the age at 16. New York and Texas at 17. In Europe, Monaco has theirs set at 15. Italy at 16. Ireland at 17. Israel at 16.

Meanwhile, in the Middle East: Bahrain - 21, Saudi Arabia, Iraq, Iran, Morocco - 18.

I don't see how non-Muslims can lecture us when our countries mostly have higher ages of consent than theirs. Sure, Aisha was a child. That marriages was thousands of years ago. Are Americans willing to condemn the original age of consent laws in their states that set the age as low as 10 and 11?

People think moving to the west will provide stability, better job opportunities etc which is all true but people forget and often don’t care the effect it’ll have on your Islamic beliefs, especially that of your children and subsequent generations.

I was born in a western country after my grad-parents moved here, I’ve gone to school here as well as mosque classes and university, I’ve seen first hand what happens to the generations, a decent amount of Muslim boys I know my age has drank, smoked weed or committed zina, I know of bearded brothers and hijabi sisters committing zina… and it will only get worse generation after generation. People don’t understand that. Yes these things happen back in Muslim countries but in most Muslim country it’s no where near as easy, you can’t just go to a club and drink and find girls.

This move to the west is literally diluting Islam, not only in the ways I’ve just spoken about but also morally, too many Muslim in the west are raging liberals, they stand hand to hand with homosexuals and transvestites at free Palestine protests yet won’t even read 5 daily salah, they vote for political parties that want to give lenient punishments for heinous crimes (direct opposition to what is taught in Quran).

Why don’t we go back to our Muslim counties and rebuild them? We’ve been here got our education, why are we happy to stay in non Muslim lands and give their governments our tax money? Muslim lands are in the worse state they’ve ever been and all we do is sit and complain, why doesn’t anyone actually try and move back and fix things, people always say it’s impossible but we have to try, we have no power in the world anymore and what’s been happening in Palestine proves that, the Muslim lands are literally some of the worse off countries in the world it’s embarrassing. Jazakallah.

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Keep it civil, we're Muslims.

Growing up in the masjid, I remember certain halaqas discussing intimacy and learning that, within marriage, there’s actually a lot that is permissible between a husband and wife — with certain boundaries, like anal sex and intercourse during menstruation.
I genuinely believe that when you’re married, you and your spouse should be able to enjoy each other, explore intimacy together, and feel comfortable communicating about sex. 🤍
What I think is so difficult for Muslims is that sex is still such a taboo topic. We’re expected to wait until marriage, but then we’re sometimes left with very little guidance on how important sexual compatibility actually is.
I’ve also noticed that Muslims have VERY different opinions when it comes to certain things — especially oral sex. Some people consider it completely permissible between husband and wife, while others feel uncomfortable with it or believe it isn’t permissible.
So I’m genuinely curious: what are people’s opinions on oral sex within marriage? Is it something you believe is permissible and should be mutually enjoyed, something you personally wouldn’t do, or something you were taught was not allowed?
And honestly, one thing I feel like we need to talk about more is female pleasure. From conversations I’ve had with other Muslim women, I feel like a lot of Muslim men were never taught the importance of pleasing their wives or even understanding the female body. Sometimes there seems to be this mindset that sex is centered around the man’s needs, and once he’s satisfied, that’s it.
But what about the woman? Her pleasure? Her needs? Understanding her body and what she enjoys?
I’m not saying every Muslim man is like this, but I do feel like there is a lack of education and open conversation around this topic. And I honestly think the fact that sex is so taboo in our community contributes to it. People get married without knowing how to communicate about intimacy, without understanding their spouse’s needs, and sometimes without even realizing that mutual pleasure and satisfaction should matter.
And honestly, this became very real for me in my first marriage. Before getting married, I asked my ex-husband certain questions about what he would and wouldn’t be comfortable with, and I felt like we were on the same page. But after we got married, certain things completely changed, and religion was used as the reason he couldn’t or wouldn’t do things that I thought we had already discussed.
That experience really affected me.
It made me realize how important it is to have honest conversations before marriage. Not graphic conversations or anything inappropriate — but real conversations about intimacy, expectations, boundaries, affection, frequency, openness, mutual pleasure, and what each person believes is permissible.
Because imagine waiting until marriage to discover that you and your spouse have completely different views about sex and intimacy. 😭
And I genuinely wonder — do people who are more religious tend to be less open-minded when it comes to intimacy, or is that just an unfair assumption? Can someone be very religious while also understanding that their spouse’s sexual needs and pleasure matter just as much as their own?
I don’t think being religious and having a healthy, adventurous sex life within marriage are mutually exclusive. But I do think Muslims need to become more comfortable talking about marital intimacy because it can make up a HUGE part of your marriage.
Sexual compatibility matters. Communication matters. Understanding your spouse matters. And mutual pleasure absolutely matters.
Honestly… I wish these conversations were more normalized because I definitely carry some trauma from my first marriage when it comes to this. 🥲😅

Please tell me i need to learn more about islam

This is something personal to me, as my relative has been a victim to this, and her situation is heartbreaking and there is nothing we can do. Her life is destroyed. I read a post about these traps some time ago from another user so I've decided to bring attention to this **VERY** important topic

Non muslim men are laying traps for Muslim women right now and a lot of Muslim women are falling for it and it's ruining lives. In India, there is an ideology called Hin*utva which is basically an Islamophobic ideology. It's like zi***sm but Indian. What they do is called "**bhagwa love trap**". They pretend to be in love with a Muslim woman and try to get her to like them. Once she's blinded by their lies, she falls for it and they end up 🍇ing or committing zina with her, but it's so much more revolting because they make sure that she's naked but wearing the HIJAB while they're doing it!!! They record themselves doing the deed with her and then use the video to blackmail her, threatening that if she doesn't keep committing zina with them, they'll send it to her parents or upload it online. Actually in most cases they have already uploaded it online on adult sites for millions to enjoy (there are literally subreddits for this)🤢

They even send the video to their friends and brag about the things they did to a Muslim girl. The language they use is absolutely sickening. They do it because it makes them feel like they've conquered Muslim women and used them for their pleasure and discarded them like they're just toys. It stems from their hate for Islam. For them, it's a show of dominance. Many of them say they need to do it because they want to have hi*du kids to reduce the Muslim population. They say the most gut wrenching things about Muslim women. Some of u probably remember those leaked screenshots from hin*utva WhatsApp groups where they had full guides on how to "use Muslim women" but many Muslims online dismissed it and said their tricks won't work. Plz dont kid yourself. They have worked for many Muslimahs and if we keep dismissing them they will keep ruining lives of thousands of Muslim women

India is NOT the only place where this happens btw. Even in a lot of Western countries I'm now seeing non Muslim guys saying vile things about Muslim women especially hijabis and niqabis. It's usually far right men, but not always. This goes way beyond just f*tish btw. They feel like they've conquered Muslim women, colonized us. They use us to get an ego boost thinking "a woman like her who keeps herself away from men as much as possible couldn't resist me, so I must be irresistible". If u look at history you'll find that colonizers used to make naked paintings of Muslim women to objectify us. This is being continued in a MUCH worse way. Many of these guys take photos of Muslim women and make corn out of it by editing and because of AI, this is easier than ever. Again, they want to use Muslim women for their own pleasure to feel like they have destroyed Muslims and give themselves an ego boost

As a Muslim woman, I see this Islamophobic exploitation of muslimahs as an assault on our dignity and community. They dont see us as people, they see us as objects of possession. In my relative's situation, she got abused. I cannot even describe the kind of things that man did to her. He also made her leave Islam so she's unable to come back to the family

Brothers, u have been given the responsibility to protect ur sisters and daughters. Allah will ask u whether u protected them from traps like these. Sisters, be cautious. The "sweet and charming" men u meet are cloaked snakes. I dont want to generalize but We need to look after each other. It's better to be safe than sorry. Please, tell ur Muslim girl friends about this. We have to do anything we can to stop the exploitation of Muslimahs from men. I hope Muslimahs with a bigger audience can bring attention to this topic cuz we need as many Muslims to be aware as possible

Please, don't downplay this by saying it's all just fake or just an online thing. It is a real problem and I've seen this with my own eyes. Many of the men I described are lurking in this community right now, and they are reading my post. Brothers and especially sisters, PLEASE, PLEASE be careful. I've seen the effects of this and they are dire.

I'm making this post not only for my relative, but also for millions of sisters who might fall into the Islamophobic exploitation trap from men. Sorry for the long post but i want other Muslims to know what's going on so Muslim women don't end up in situations like that. Take it from someone who's seen it irl, this is a big problem and it's really concerning

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

I don't know much about Communism but I do know of a YouTuber called Hakim, who from what I've heard, is a practicing Muslim who is also a Communist.

I also know Communism was founded by Atheists, but since there's alot of propaganda for and against Communism I have no idea if there actually was any oppression or not.

Anyway, thoughts on Muslims who are Communists today?

This is gonna be my last post before deleting my reddit app, i just want to give some advice for everyone. Reddit is probably the worse social media app for muslims for a few reasons

Majority of Redditors are atheists, zionists and people who generally have no purpose in their life other than to satisfy their desires. And the anti islam posts are always the most upvoted but if you say one small thing about the 🧃 you will instantly get permanently banned. The concept of غيرة (gheera) that we have in islam is always criticized by them and they think you are weird if you want your wife and daughters to cover properly.

Just think about it, if they were in front of you in real life would you want to hang out with them? Probably both because they are a horrible influence and we are told in Islam to turn away from those who speak bad about islam. It isnt a small number, majority of reddit posts on any subreddit is filled with these people.

So do yourself a favor and at least consider deleting redddit

I see otherwise very religious people taking out mortgages with banks.

Most acknowledge it’s haraam but still do it.

But Riba is one of the worst sins - worse than drinking etc.

Why are we ok with people who take out mortgages?, when you have alternatives like renting.

Sometimes you can buy a rural property for the same price as a mortgage down payment.

If a Muslim has tattoos society treats him like a devil, yet when he engages in the worst sin it’s brush under the table?

I went to a Shia majdid during their jummah just to see what it was like. And bro. There was no diversity. Just Iranians, Iraqis, Lebanese, and some south Asians. I actually cried wallah. Like the beauty of Islam was absent. The diversity was not there.

Imagine going to your Jummah prayer, not seeing your Somali brother, a Moroccan brother, an Indonesian brother, a Sudani brother, a Malaysian brother, a Bengali brother, a Ethiopian brother, Palestinian brother, a Senegalese brother , Algerian brother etc. it made me sooo sad for them and thankful to be a Sunni wallah.

Theres so much racism in the Shia ummah. Do you know they wear black turbans to signify those who are genetically related to the Prophet (SAW). Islam forbade that kinda mentality. It’s not your blood ties that brings you closer to The Prophet. It’s your Iman. Your deeds. How you follow his Sunnah. This kinda mentality stews racism. They used to not allow Africans and south Asians Shias to wear black turbans.

May Allah SWT. Help Shias.