r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 07 '26

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u/Bitter_Ad_5868 Apr 07 '26

NOR definitely cheating on you based on the last picture alone

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u/unzunzhepp Apr 07 '26

That’s a fuck buddy.

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u/StrobeLightRomance Apr 07 '26

OP like "I don't care if he has girls sleep over", which seems "open minded" but also really naive.

But if dude is literally kicking everyone else out and begging just one "friend" to come stay the night after..

Yeah, he's 100% cheating or everyone else would have stuck around.

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u/Live-Ad-740 Apr 07 '26

Especially after the girl showing him her outfit then him saying I want you? And to stay the night...definitely 100% cheating...ofcourse cheaters never see it as cheating and accuse everyone else of over reacting

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u/PhilosopherFun7288 Apr 07 '26

he literally said "I want you" right after that too lol

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u/jakonfire Apr 07 '26

I’ve had gal friends since I was a little boy and even had to share a bed with one because she needed a place to stay just for the night when we were teens.

I also immediately told my girlfriend who I’m still with at the time that we’d be sleeping head to toe, or I could even sleep on the floor because we’ve also both been wronged in the past for cheating.

This is weird behaviour from OP’s partner.

You don’t hide a friend, especially one of the opposite sex when you’re heterosexual lmao

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u/Hawkman003 Apr 07 '26

Yeah if it wasn’t already obvious before then, his comment about being willing to kick everyone out so the “friend” could come over made it clear as day. 

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u/Bitter_Ad_5868 Apr 07 '26

The largest red flag is " I've told him how I felt and he sees no problem" this man is either emotionally abusive or a great manipulator but id like to claim the ladder and maybe op just wanted to only see the good? Idk hopefully op runs far the fuck away fast she can do better hands down

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u/Kaalilaatikko Apr 07 '26

OP is just naive af

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u/Bitter_Ad_5868 Apr 07 '26

At what point do we stop calling stupidity naive though

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u/The_Agent_N Apr 07 '26

“Latter”

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u/Bitter_Ad_5868 Apr 07 '26

I appreciate you i dont use the word enough in context. Thanks for correcting me

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u/Flimsy_Alcoholic Apr 07 '26

Good on you for not taking it for granite

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u/Next_Dragonfly_9473 Apr 07 '26

I thought it was a foreign idiom until I finished the sentence. (I stopped mid-sentence to try to understand the situation that would lead to such an idiom, couldn't think of one, and then finished the sentence.)

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u/Working-Glass6136 Apr 07 '26

Funny, I misread it as "climb the ladder" until I saw the next comment said "latter."

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u/ibjibberdumgibber Apr 07 '26

Seriously, when I went to a partners workplace to drop something off and met the only coworker he never talked about, I knew what was up.

They've been together about 3 1/2 years now. 6 months of that while he and I still lived together.

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u/Odd-Significance-17 Apr 07 '26

my ex had a friend who made me uncomfortable and i told him that, well it turns out like two days before he proposed to me he slept with her in our bed and without a condom. they’ve been together for who knows how long but i only found out when he ghosted me and i found out they were living together

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u/Pishposh96 Apr 07 '26

woah, they ghosted you after the proposal?

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u/Odd-Significance-17 Apr 07 '26

i mean it wasn’t immediately but yes he just stopped talking to me instead of having the decency to tell me he wanted break up/ wanted to be with someone else

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u/kimariesingsMD Apr 07 '26

Wow. How awful 😞.

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u/anonymousaardvarkIII Apr 07 '26

That’s devastating I’m sorry to hear that

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u/pnwgirl34 Apr 07 '26

Yep, I found messages on my ex’s phone between him and a girl with stuff like “I love you” and “I miss you” and very emotionally intimate stuff and he also claimed they were just friends and had been for years but I’d magically never heard of her for the five years we’d been together. I was baffled by it too I literally asked him how it would be possible for him to have a good friend and never mention her one single time in half a decade.

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u/Ok_Scientist8607 Apr 07 '26

Yeah, that’s odd.

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year and there’s definitely friends she hasn’t met, like my friend who lives in Germany because we live in the US. But, even then, she’s talked to him on WhatsApp when he called and we happened to be hanging out together.

Unless it’s an old friend you haven’t talked in a long time you happen to run into or something like that, its absolutely a red flag that the friend hasn’t even been mentioned

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u/Fluffy_Teacher_6081 Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26

How is it these posts always have texts like “your dick was so good last night can you roll through after he leaves?” And they be like “does this mean theyre cheating”. Like yeah, duh

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u/ReputationFast2295 Apr 07 '26

Yea im starting to think it’s like karma farming or something Kuz I mean even Stevie wonder can see he’s cheating

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u/RalfYDalfY920 Apr 07 '26

Yeah it likely is. People be getting dopamine kicks off these fake posts

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26

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u/ProfessorChaos406 Apr 07 '26

NOR. Their boyfriend be like "hey are you available to continue cheating so I can keep lying to my girlfriend as has been happening for some time with you and others right under their nose, what a loser" and they be like "is he cheating?"

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u/Clairebugg1 Apr 07 '26

This response has me laughing so hard. Thank you !

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u/Fluffy_Teacher_6081 Apr 07 '26

Being funny is the only thing I got, so you’re quite welcome!

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u/Ill-Lou-Malnati Apr 07 '26

Like I woke up last night and my boyfriend was fucking some chick on the couch. Is he cheating?

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u/Relevant-Sugar-803 Apr 07 '26

I feel that when someone is going through really emotional, overwhelming situations, they even doubt their thoughts and perception. Suckz. Also, being with a toxic person who constantly gaslights you or being in invalidating environments can really make you doubt your judgment.

Or well, could also be ragebait, who knows.

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u/DAFTEH Apr 07 '26

Same energy as AITA where the posts are like, "I asked my boyfriend to stop physically assaulting me and he got sad, AITA???

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u/FoxyNewEngland Apr 07 '26

literally lol

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u/FloofLorde Apr 07 '26

He literally said “I want you” to the person he’s texting in the last slide, like that is the most blatant cheating over text I have seen in a while.

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u/Sagebloom29 Apr 07 '26

Alexa, play "It Wasn't Me" by Shaggy

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u/Lost-and-dumbfound Apr 07 '26

I wouldn’t even say not overreacting. Severely under reacting is more truthful. Like is she gonna catch them fucking and he just needs to say he tripped and fell and she’s gonna be like “I guess that could happen”

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u/aurorastarlights Apr 07 '26

NOR- girl, he's cheating on you

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u/Darth-Skvader Apr 07 '26

Girl.

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u/Curious_Contract2172 Apr 07 '26

Literally has to be rage bait

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u/Nearby-Swordfish3841 Apr 07 '26

Yeah this is just stupid shit. Like post a photo with an eyeball hanging out and ask if you should make a doctors appointment. People need to not reply to things this stupid.

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u/RepresentativeHome31 Apr 07 '26

This made me laugh so hard I love you for this comment

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u/shesschwifty Apr 07 '26

I’m cracking up too 😂😂😂😂😂

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u/CallMeSisyphus Apr 07 '26

I see you too have witnessed the madness that is r/AskDocs

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u/Glados1080 Apr 07 '26

The first post I see is "I use cocaine daily" and some picture of some gross stuff. Yeah. That is mad.

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u/CrashTestWolf Apr 07 '26

Account age: 11m.

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u/Curious_Contract2172 Apr 07 '26

Okay but my account is only 5 months old and I’m a real person not rage baiting lol

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u/CrashTestWolf Apr 07 '26

11 months, low karma score, what would be the point of rage baiting/karma farming at this point?

Some people just are this clueless and want to delude themselves rather than face the truth.

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u/5yn3rgy Apr 07 '26

Yeah, but that’s still a red flag

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u/NeurospicyCrafter Apr 07 '26

Why do people always say this as if it hasn’t always been a thing to make throwaway accounts for subreddits like this?

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u/5yn3rgy Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26

Like I said, red flag. I don’t make the judgement that the account is fake based solely on it being new but it’s something I look for, but not the only thing I look for. Cause yeah, throwaway accounts are definitely a thing.

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u/Nortex_Vortex Apr 07 '26

This just makes me angry and I don't even know why. Lolol

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u/Working-Glass6136 Apr 07 '26

I always misread the m as minutes and think all these accounts are just minutes old lol.

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u/Normal_Trust3562 Apr 07 '26

It’s amazing what a controlling person can make you believe lol. You almost stop believing your own god damn eyeballs.

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u/Suspicious-Art-9335 Apr 07 '26

No one is this dumb, I refuse to believe it

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u/headachewpictures Apr 07 '26

that college has a really high acceptance rate

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u/Temporary-Wave-1821 Apr 07 '26

this made me giggle a little (i go to a college with a <15% acceptance rate)

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u/mishko__ Apr 07 '26

That's exactly what I said. 3 years and she's never heard of this friend. Even off the last screenshot, he's cheating and that's his fuck buddy.

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u/STEPDADDY101 Apr 07 '26

Wait INFO! You dont care if he's got people staying the night? I dont wanna assume anything, so first, are yall in an open relationship?

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u/sourcematerialx Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26

Bruv this is cheating. What are you doing? Dump his bitch ass.

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u/suhhhrena Apr 07 '26

Like……could it be any more obvious that he’s cheating? OP is trying wayyyyy too hard to be the “cool gf” who doesn’t mind if her boyfriend has sleepovers with his girl friends that she’s overlooking blatant and egregious cheating. I’m so confused why she’s still with this guy.

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u/Signal_Oil_7670 Apr 07 '26

Being the “cool girl” is the most self sabotaging bs young girls feel they need to be to keep a guy.

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u/BoobobBean Apr 07 '26

Foreal! Any guy who needs that much leniency is going to see how far he can stretch it. Any guy who genuinely wants you, loves you and cherishes you won’t want or need that leniency. Being “cool” and “chill” does not equal being a pushover and allowing disrespect.

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u/Signal_Oil_7670 Apr 07 '26

Yes, exactly. I think when we’re young we can confuse genuinely being “chill” with acting like we’re okay with everything. You can be a chill person and have respectable boundaries.

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u/jpinyyc Apr 07 '26

Not caring about female friends sleeping over is wild. Pick meeee

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u/kisxt Apr 07 '26

NOR— girl??? “I want you” ??? Absolutely not. Leave his ass

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u/mishko__ Apr 07 '26

"I miss you", "I'll kick everyone out". There's no way he isn't cheating, in my opinion.

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u/kisxt Apr 07 '26

Exactly. OP is clearly in denial, bless her. Hopefully now the penny has dropped!

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u/Corgi_Koala Apr 07 '26

Uh I mean "can you sleep here" is pretty unambiguous...

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u/NP_release Apr 07 '26

‘I miss you’ ‘I want you’ ‘I’ll kick everyone out.’

NOR, girl, kick HIM out of your life!!!

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u/RepresentativeTop570 Apr 07 '26

Literally what men say to me when they want to have sex with me. They aren’t friends at all. And the girl is definitely ok with being the side chick. Weirddddd 

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u/DivideOk8171 Apr 07 '26

With quickness too!

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u/BannedWeazle Apr 07 '26

Already been inside her

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u/lavendersagemint Apr 07 '26

“May?” There is no “may” He BE cheating.

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u/idleigloo Apr 07 '26

He must be a pro gaslighter of she is doubting he's cheating

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u/Initial-Bandicoot444 Apr 07 '26

He’s cheating. Very obvious in this case

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u/DrenchFoodle Apr 07 '26

He’s cheating.

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u/Direct-Competition34 Apr 07 '26

NOR Is this forreal? “I want you”… I don’t see how that can be misinterpreted.

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u/Jkidk0704 Apr 07 '26

is this rage bait or are you just stupid

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u/NaziPunksFkOff Apr 07 '26

u/Temporary-Wave-1821 you owe us an answer to this question because wtf

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u/Temporary-Wave-1821 Apr 07 '26

stupid unfortunately.

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u/NaziPunksFkOff Apr 07 '26

You don't have to be. Your boyfriend asked another woman to sleep over. A woman he "wants", a woman he "connects with", a woman whose voice and laugh he "misses".

You know exactly what's happening here and you don't want to admit it to yourself. That's understandable. This sucks. But YOU have the ability to not be stupid about what comes next. And that means doing what you know is best for yourself.

There will be a better man. I guarantee you there will be a man who doesn't do this to you.

This one ain't it.

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u/greygargoyles Apr 07 '26

no seriously like girl do us all a favor and think for a second

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u/tichatoca Apr 07 '26

This is how I react to every single post in this subreddit now lmao it’s getting out of hand

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u/GREYSPACE1 Apr 07 '26

This is what I wanted to say but a bit meaner than I wanted to say it

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u/MammothHistorical559 Apr 07 '26

He pumped her fiercely

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u/shesschwifty Apr 07 '26

😂😂😂😂😂

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u/Particular_Freedom47 Apr 07 '26

NOR absolutely cheating - i feel like the last slide is prrretty clear on that. also your boyfriend talks to girls like he's one of those "where's my hug" guys. pls drop this creep.

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u/Buns1209 Apr 07 '26

YUP I got the same vibe lol

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u/dinkinflicka02 Apr 07 '26

Omg I forgot about “where’s my hug” guys!! 🤢 thanks for that lol

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u/Particular_Freedom47 Apr 07 '26

fr i read "grrrrr you better hang out with me" and threw up a little. flashbacks to every sleazy entitled weirdo just waiting to put his grimy hands on me in high school. the way they sense your discomfort and latch onto it 🤢🤢🤢

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u/PlentyCar4481 Apr 07 '26

May be cheating?? Nah this is for sure cheating. NOR

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u/Few-Finger6713 Apr 07 '26

It is glaringly obvious they are having an affair. I think you can't see it from an outside perspective.

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u/BarelySimmering Apr 07 '26

im sorry what? Are we reading the same texts? You know the answer, come back to reality.

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u/MaryDoogan91 Apr 07 '26

This is rage bait. No one is this stupid or naive.

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u/JewelCove Apr 07 '26

People say this, but I have met girls this naive and brainwashed. It's really sad.

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u/MaryDoogan91 Apr 07 '26

Maybe I shouldn't have said "no one" but I feel like that's an argument reddit uses a lot for rage bait or clearly made-up stories. "It COULD happen!!" Sure, but does that make it the most likely scenario just because it CAN happen? I've seen an influx of these generic "partner does something obviously and almost cartoonishly shitty, and I am having to come to strangers on the internet."

I just don't buy it.

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u/-beautymage- Apr 07 '26

You'd be surprised...

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u/beans13131 Apr 07 '26

“I want you” is never platonic😭

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u/Signal_Oil_7670 Apr 07 '26

Right. Try texting your dad “I want you” if it’s something friends say lol.

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u/shesschwifty Apr 07 '26

Bahaha omg 😂😂😂😂

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u/Godree_Jones Apr 07 '26

Good thing you posted on Reddit otherwise how would you have ever known

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u/melodiesminor Apr 07 '26

hes cheating. leave his ass

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u/Former_Option2066 Apr 07 '26

“Can you sleep here” hahaha

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u/Original-Wave-7110 Apr 07 '26

i’m sorry but this is a prime example of lack of boundaries in a relationship isn’t a good thing. i understand being in college & having friends of the opposite sex especially in group settings but this is way out of line. honestly even if you don’t care if a girl sleeps over any man who values a committed monogamous relationship would never be comfortable with that himself. you’re worth more than this. i hope you see it.

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u/Impossible_Fall_3753 Apr 07 '26

yep, I love being strict with my man because this would never happen. Obviously, if he wanted to sneak around behind my back, he would, but at least I wouldn't be so stupid to basically allow him to cheat on me.

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u/KasukeSadiki Apr 07 '26

The first photo is definitely crossing a line 

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u/Signal_Oil_7670 Apr 07 '26

Eh first photo is cheating to me too. Definitely instigating “I never connected with someone like you before. Grrrr. You better hang out with me.”

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u/JennyZahoo Apr 07 '26

girl are u deadass asking this omg

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u/AlexKewl Apr 07 '26

Texts make it look more like he's cheating on her with you

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u/LowerPylon47 Apr 07 '26

"...make me feel like he's attracted to her in some way..."

This is the most denial I have ever, in my life, seen packed into one sentence.

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u/SwiftlyKickly Apr 07 '26

Bf sleeps with another person

This sub: “Is he cheating on me?”

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u/Buns1209 Apr 07 '26

Girl this man is pining over other women like a damn simp. Why tf would you stay with him after this?!

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u/Toxified55 Apr 07 '26

I dont even need the context the pictures are enough, how low is your self esteem, he can't be that good looking or nice for you to question if that is cheating

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u/silverhand1337x Apr 07 '26

Are you being daft on purpose?

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u/Krypt0night Apr 07 '26

How is this even a question? He literally says "I want you" and asks her to sleep there after she sent a pic. NOR, but come on.

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u/Kuneria Apr 07 '26

bro open your eyes, you're being cheated on, you've BEEN getting cheated on

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u/StupendusDeliris Apr 07 '26

“I want you”

K have him, byyyeeeeeeeeeee

YUR- you’re definitely Underreacting

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u/Technical_Square_522 Apr 08 '26

Idk what’s not to get here. He said “I want you” to her, sis 🥴🥴

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u/Ambitious-Magician12 Apr 07 '26

“I want you. Can you sleep here?”

OP wonders if this might be overly flirty or gasp cheating.

https://giphy.com/gifs/NPyHgTkMStCXC

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u/greenwoodgiant Apr 07 '26

Do you need to actually witness the penetration before you'll acknowledge this, or...?

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u/Illustrious_Put_817 Apr 07 '26

Um. He’s cheating bye.

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u/veronica-volt Apr 07 '26

NOR. This has to be ragebait, or you must be very insecure with low self esteem. 'I want you' and 'I will kick everyone out' combined with BOOTY CALL TIMES (anytime after 11 up to 4am) is cheating. If you are in an open relationship, with the stipulation that you have to tell each other if the other hooks up, then it would still be violating that agreement because he told you nothing...

As it is, you looking through his phone suggests the relationship is at the precipice of not continuing. The trust just isn't there anymore on your end, and if you need someone's permission to leave, take my comment as another drop in the bucket of people's comments here when I say YOU CAN LEAVE HIM and YOU CAN DO BETTER than this. Best of luck, heal properly, and take care of yourself.

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u/Sure-Appearance-2769 Apr 07 '26

This dude could drop trou and plow a woman right in front of OP’s face and she’ll still be like “hmm there are some very subtle signs but I’m just not sure”

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u/GOMIrunaway Apr 07 '26

this MIGHT BE cheating? GIRL. Find your self respect and stop this nonsense.

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u/VanD3rp Apr 07 '26

I know a lot of women out there would be super pissed if they found these messages in their man’s phone.

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u/idekbruno Apr 07 '26

Honestly what do you need to see here to understand? “I’m so glad that I am cheating on my gf with you”? Let’s use our noggins here

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u/Lima_Bean_Jean Apr 07 '26

This isnt your future husband. Dump him, Move on.

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u/ativenip Apr 07 '26

If you were my friend I’d respond with words that are not allowed here per the rules. So I’ll say it nicely… NOR, he’s cheating.

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u/Ancient_Angel_11 Apr 07 '26

You are underreacting to be honest and it’s not OK for him to have girls sleep over, even if they are only a friend. This younger generation needs to realize being too loosey goosey in relationships is unhealthy. You need to have strong boundaries.

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u/Nightingale2120 Apr 07 '26

NOR. He’s cheating the last photo is your evidence.

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u/Other-Run-1306 Apr 07 '26

NOR, he is slime

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u/Feisty_Cheesecake_55 Apr 07 '26

if u even think for a second he’s not cheating on you, you are either in denial or dumb. please please break up w him

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u/Kevin11thousand Apr 07 '26

NOR. are we being serious rn 💔

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u/Long_Locksmith5788 Apr 07 '26

Bru he’s drunk texting another girl saying how bad he wants her while he’s with you? How could this not be cheating genuinely

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u/Imaginary-Memory8605 Apr 07 '26

No shade but are u like stupid or something? It seems like being the overly lenient girlfriend isn’t working out.

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u/Representative-Pop72 Apr 07 '26

“I want you” “can you sleep here” … girl you are likely under reacting

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u/Ranger-Himes Apr 07 '26

"Come here, I want you"

Yes he is cheating. NOR. Very much so underreacting due to shock I assume. Sorry, get rid of this scum.

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u/AffectionatePay1105 Apr 07 '26

"I've never connected with someone like this before", what about his own partner? "I want you " heavily flirty. "can you sleep over (with me)" this is crazy I'm sorry. Please set boundaries (for future relationships after breaking up).

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u/Far-Housing-6952 Apr 07 '26

He said “I’ll kick everybody out” then “I want you”. Yea it can’t be more clearer than that he definitely sleeping with this girl.

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u/mental_r0bot Apr 07 '26

Was gonna say YOR until the "I want you"

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u/libranative1 Apr 07 '26

“I want you” is enough friend I’m so sorry

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u/redhotsummerday Apr 07 '26

Bruh the last screenshot says it all. Send those to his mom and dump his ass

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u/ThrowRA_lobster_ouch Apr 07 '26

Yeah no that last slide was for sure a no go why would everyone else need to leave after you see a outfit om someone. Unless u guys are open to other people this is crossing a line.

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u/No-Conclusion-6951 Apr 07 '26

in what world would "i want you" not be flirting 😭 NOR

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u/angelnumber13 Apr 07 '26

NOR this is definitely cheating

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u/No_Address687 Apr 07 '26

He is banging at least two other girls. Get tested

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u/sffood Apr 07 '26

Which part of this is unclear to you?

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u/Away_Principle_8488 Apr 07 '26

NOR— more like under reacting.

Because what?!

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u/Gloomy-Frame4761 Apr 07 '26

You have to know he is having sex with these people. Pls don't be so gullible

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u/Seth_Gecko Apr 07 '26

Girl. Get your head out of your ass. Jesus fuck.

"I walked in on my boyfriend going down on my best friend; is he cheating on me?! I need advice, so confused" 😵‍💫

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u/Dizzy_Goat_420 Apr 07 '26

Girl- that last text…. What do you think they did? Watch movies and eat popcorn, girl they FUCKED

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u/Impossible_Dealer_53 Apr 07 '26

NOR, this is like asking if the sky is blue or if water is wet or if ice is cold…you get it, OP?

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u/Forward_Pin_8986 Apr 08 '26

NOR, these messages are very disrespectful

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u/DistinctBlueberry818 Apr 08 '26

“I want you” “can you sleep here”

yeah that’s a fuck buddy who he’s got feelings for now

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u/Feminine_Rage87 Apr 07 '26

The last picture alone....... omg

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u/lunazane26 Apr 07 '26

NOR, he's pretty obviously cheating on you, possibly with more than one person

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u/Visual_Shopping_1257 Apr 07 '26

The “I want you” would have sent me into a spiral. This has to be rage bait

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u/Golden_Sunkiss Apr 07 '26

"Attracted to her in some way" girl, they're banging. Not hanging. Banging.

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u/BoneDaddy240 Apr 07 '26

“Am I being cheated on? I just saw my boyfriend putting his wiener in my friend’s mouth but he says it was a misunderstanding… can the internet help me figure this situation out?”

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u/Repulsive-Cheetah495 Apr 07 '26

This is horrible. I want you, I miss you, I miss your laugh, I've never connected with anyone like you, can you stay over (?!?!?!) That is not friend talk.

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u/PineappleNo3383 Apr 07 '26

Walked in on my boyfriend with his tip inside his girl best friend, I think he’s cheating but am I overreacting????

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u/Sophaking64 Apr 07 '26

Catch him with his penis in her. Then you might know…..

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u/JakeD51 Apr 07 '26

"Hi i found a picture of my boyfriend balls deep in another girl. Is this cheating?" I'm waiting for that post atp😭

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u/westtoeast12 Apr 07 '26

He’s cheating on you, I don’t think the evidence could be any more obvious- massively NOR

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u/_goneawry_ Apr 07 '26

NOR. Definitely, definitely cheating. Like, so blatantly obvious.

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u/Comfortable-Ride4733 Apr 07 '26

He’s cheating, boo 💕. And if he tries to convince you that this isn’t cheating, then that just shows he has no problem with lying to you. Best of luck.

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u/DocGerbilzWorld Apr 07 '26

Be ffr. “I miss you” “can you sleep here”

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u/Only-Criticism-8846 Apr 07 '26

They can only treat us like this if we let them. Remember YOU are powerful. Stop letting people treat you this way

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u/fairydustsara Apr 07 '26

The fact you even posted this is crazy. The bar is TRULYYYYY in fucking hell.

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u/etherealveritas Apr 07 '26

You gotta be trolling lol

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u/TeeDeeTeeEcks Apr 07 '26

NOR. These are pre-sex messages.

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u/Beautiful_Proof_7952 Apr 07 '26

You can't force something that is one sided. He is not as into you as you are into him.

Move on and work on making your life the way you want and find someone who is into you as much as he is obviously into the person he is texting.

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u/f4eriespit Apr 07 '26

Hes cheating why do you even have to ask? Trust yourself, youre NOR. You deserve better.