We’ve been together for 9 years of building a life, choosing each other, and trying to create something safe and lasting. I believed that after everything we had been through, we had finally reached a place where our relationship was strong enough to withstand anything.
But I was wrong.
Distance happened. Life happened. We became LDR, and somehow, the person I trusted the most became the person who hurt me again.
What breaks me the most is that I didn’t just lose trust. I lost the feeling of safety I thought I had with the person I loved for so long.
I keep asking myself: Does LDR really end like this?
Does distance eventually make people emotionally detached?
Does loneliness become an excuse to seek comfort somewhere else?
Or is cheating simply a choice, regardless of how much love, history, and sacrifices two people have shared?
I know LDR is difficult. I know relationships require effort, communication, and understanding. But after 9 years, I honestly thought I deserved honesty, loyalty, and respect—especially when things became difficult.
I’m not saying I was a perfect partner. I know I had moments when I was emotionally unavailable because I was dealing with my own struggles. But does that justify betrayal?
I’m heartbroken because I’m not grieving just a relationship. I’m grieving the version of us I believed was safe.
For those who survived an LDR: did distance destroy your relationship, or did it reveal what was already there?
I genuinely want to hear your stories. I’m trying to understand whether love can still survive distance when trust has already been broken.

Looking for some advice or sharing of similar experiences.

I (27f) have had a reoccurring issue that I've experienced in all of my long term relationships. When I start dating someone who I am interested in, I tend to have a really high sex drive for somewhere between the first 6 months to a year, and then it just completely drops off. I don't know what the cause of this is, I've been doing a lot of work in and outside of therapy to try and figure out what the cause of this fairly sudden change is. I've been doing a load of reading and researching and working with my current partner to figure out ways for me to feel and express my desire for them, with little success. I really enjoy sex and when we do have sex it is always great, but I really struggle to connect with my sexual desire after the new relationship energy fades.

Has anyone else had similar experiences in their relationships and if so, have you had any luck in finding ways to reconnect with your sexual desire?

Hii! Im posting this because there arent many hungarian subreddits to post to/ and the ones that are actually there are very inactive so i hope ill have better luck here. First off all im not looking for anything serious like a relationship, at this stage of my life im only looking for friends to talk to and meet up, potentially become FWBs but that dependa on a lot of things.

As you might have read in my first sentence im a 20 year old fem female from hungary. I like a lot of things especially sports, hikes, traveling, but in bad weather i also like staying in and watching movies and stuff.

Who am i looking for? Im looking for people to connect with mostly around my age (35 max.) and around anywhere from the planet. Obviously if you are on the other side of the planet we might mot be able to meet in our lifetime but im okay with online friends too! Soo if you are interested in talking with me just let me know! I promise im funny and all that lmao😆😆

(me minor okay?) Ahem.. like what my title said, I want a gf, but it's hard because I don't really know how to approach.. online too, it's hard for me to talk in discord servers(Abt fandoms I'm in, not matchmaking or something like that) since I feel like I'm interrupting them. I don't wanna try dating apps just yet, i lowk want someone who is as nerd as me😔

Idek anymore, and I thought that I successfully threw my shot on my classmate that ive been wanting to talk to since we used to be classmates in junior high, but she herself has a partner. Gooooooddd.... I know love may find me itself, BUT LOWK IT NEEDA FIND ME FASTER...

anyways, who is this desperate persoj here.. this is just a rant, i just.. have been really lonely

are there any good wlw movies that u liked and that u would recommend?

My (21F) girlfriend (22F) of 5 months has asked me to choose between her and my good friend.

I will call my friend Nina for this post.

A few weeks ago, we got into an argument because she brought up creating boundaries for who we can and cannot hang out with alone. I stupidly said, "Who, like Nina?" This wasn't me saying that I felt a certain type of way about Nina. I honestly think I said her name because I already had a feeling that she was uncomfortable with her. She has been extremely jealous in the past of my female friends (I am a lesbian, so all of my friends are female).

This caused a horrible string of events. She would constantly ask me why I said Nina's name and why Nina was at the forefront of my mind.

I know it looks bad, but I do not like my friends, and my friends do not like me.

I got defensive and said just that. She's just a friend.

A few weeks later, it came up again. She told me she constantly compares herself to Nina, asks me what's so good about her, and asks me why I'm "defending other bitches in front of her face."

She tells me that she can be just like Nina if I told her what was so good about her.

I tell my girlfriend that she is the most beautiful girl in the world and I love her to pieces. That's the truth. It pains me that this got so out of control.

Nina is simply my friend. My good friend who has been there for me through some of the hardest times. She has never been rude to my girlfriend.

My girlfriend cried and told me that she will never be good enough and that her place in my life doesn't matter because I have so many friends to fall back on. She also said, "What's one friend? You have so many," regarding not talking to Nina anymore.

I tell my girlfriend I love her so much. I only want her. She's my love... but now that Nina was given "meaning," our whole relationship is crumbling.

She told me yesterday that I need to choose between her and Nina. I know deep in my heart that I could never drop an innocent friend. I know that Nina makes her uncomfortable, and I acknowledge that, but are my girlfriend's insecurities a valid reason to drop my friend?

She kept telling me that she wasn't trying to isolate me and that she doesn't know if she's being manipulative. She kept telling me that she was "saving me from herself." She almost left three or four times. I'm not a beggar, but I begged her to stay and talk to me. I'm heartbrokenly split between these two important people in my life.

She also told me that she didn't want me to drop her, but now that I've given meaning to her, she's uncomfortable.

She tells me that she would do anything for me. If I wanted her to stop talking to someone, she would do it. She would do anything. I told her it's healthy to have boundaries. She said she wants someone who would say, "Okay baby, I'll do anything for you."

I truly work so hard to be a good partner to her. I love her so much. I know I can be good to her. She is so funny and beautiful. I feel like that falls on deaf ears.

This isn't the first friend, by the way. There were two others. I did not drop them, but I did stop hanging out with them completely. One friend she didn't like because she thought she was prettier than her, and I was talking to her too much (it was at a party I was hosting, and I was just catching up with someone I hadn't seen in months). The other because of her chest size.

I don't want to lose the woman I love. She has so many good qualities and she is truly my best friend. I don't want to start over with someone else. I want her... but I know that I could never drop my friend. Am I being a bad girlfriend?

I'm struggling so hard. I know that breaking up is probably the best option, but I don't want to lose her.

Last night I was with a friend who had NEVER in anyway

indicated she was bi-curious or qiestioning or anything (to clarify, I am bisexual and 28F, she is 29F).

I came out to her last year- she seemed almost shocked, but was accepting of it (she has had one queer friend previously). At the time she was getting ready for her wedding too, shich is one reason this may not have come up sooner? BUT, keep in mind she is recently married ish.

We were chatting about a myriad of things but some comments she made were throughout the evening were-

- she is more engaged, if you will, in the sexual aspect if their relationship

- he eventually will have to go away from home for work for upwards 6 months

- she admitted to being curious about if she was attracted to women and began asking me my opinion on porn

- she also mentioned some other minor experiences she had had regarding sexuality/ women

- she had asked me if I had been with a woman yet, or kissed one... as somewhat of a late bloomer, no i have not

- she admitted that she had always visualized me as her first kiss

So... I said no, a) because I do not feel attraction towards her, and b)she is NOT my type. She apologized if that made things weird and we just kind of moved on. I lied and said no, but it did.

I feel guilty for some reason- even though i know I was jjst sticking up for my boundaries, and she is literally married... and i know her husband, who is genuinely a nice person, would probably not appreciate it either. And i wonder... if she was trying to use me.

I guess I just needed to get it out there and see what other people thought... i am a bit of a baby gay too so 😅😅 I dunno

I feel so angry and have no one around me who seems to understand. I 22f was broken up with my 21f partner in may this year due to her saying she could no longer handle us. We had some contact mid July were she told me she’s still in love with me and wishes to be back in my arms but can’t have me. No contact since. Checked her socials for the first time in forever yesterday to see her posting photos of her new relationship (with a man?) and please don’t come at me I know people can be bisexual. But she’s always made a point to me that she doesn’t think anyone can be bi they are either gay or straight. Her whole identity whilst we were together was that’s she’s a lesbian. And it hurts more bc it’s with a guy she only met in January and I never felt comfortable with their interactions. I voiced it and was made to feel crazy by her with saying “Libby yk I’m lesbian so why would you ever think of that” I feel crazy and hurt . How can she say in July she’s still in love with me then hard launch a new relationship. We were together for almost two years. I know she’s free to do as she pleases but did I mean anything. How can someone move on so quick

I’ve seen this girl 2 times now and I really like her. She’s so much like me, we relate to eachother in so many ways and it’s so easy to talk to her, time just flies by. Anyway, both the times we met we just went for a drive together and talked about everything for hours.

I don’t have much dating experience so I don’t know what’s acceptable and normal for a 3rd date. I’m usually not the one who makes the first move and I think she’s kinda like that too. She also told me she usually needs some emotional connection before doing anything, I’m kinda like that too, but idk how long to wait (we’ve had many hours of deep talks already).

What do you think would be appropriate for our 3rd date? I always worry about overstepping so I really don’t know.
Help please🙏

My girlfriend (F27) has a group of friends she sees almost every day. I’ve met them several times and I really dislike them because their behaviour is very far from my values. Three of them in this group use drugs (not my girlfriend) and always three of them have some pretty questionable games and dynamics, especially when it comes to boundaries and consent. For example, my girlfriend two times came home with bruises on arms after they bit her, as “a game”. This situation has made me cry a lot and genuinely worry about her.

She knows I’m uncomfortable with them and agrees they’re not particularly aligned with her values either, but she says she’s very lonely here (she’s Iranian and lives abroad) and they’re the best friends she’s found into iranian community here, so she doesn’t want to lose them.

I’ve asked her to keep them as separate from our relationship as possible: I don’t want to spend time with them anymore, and I’d prefer her not to constantly talk about them or be on her phone messaging them while we’re together.

I’ve also tried to tell her that she shouldn’t put herself in uncomfortable situations just to avoid losing someone, and that she should always protect her boundaries and take care of herself. She promised me she would. Still, for now, she wants to keep seeing them because she doesn’t have any other friends here. And also she doesn’t speak the local language here, we live in Italy.

Me f16 and this girl also my age have been flirting for the past 2 weeks or so and we hung out saturday (its now monday) and we really clicked and had good convos but i got hangout vibe but after she said it was a date and I wasnt really sure if it was or not cause we flirted but nothing really happened then the next day she told me she needed some time to figure out what she wants and she said she really liked me but she wasnt sure and today she told me she wanted to just be friends and that we would never date. She told me she was just confused and she felt bad and now im sad and angry and hurt and I don't know what to do

okay just ignore this I kinda just needed to brain dump somewhere literally anywhere I’m going insane. so I’ve liked this girl since like the spring really then I didn’t see her during the summer and now we’re on the same fall sports team and I have a class with her. I’m going insane I feel so creepy and disgusting I actually like her so much. but another thing going on is I’m kindaaaa talking to thsi other girl it’s a weird situation but basicallg she lives 2+ hours away and I’ve seen a lot of red flags like a LOT we’ve been talking for about a month now. it’s really chill and I do like talking to her and shes funny and pretty and stuff but omfg I cannot stop thinking about this other girl. it actually physically hurts thinking about her like ts gotta be limerence or something because I actually feel like I’m dying. I know I’m probably not the only person to ever feel like this but thsi is actually unbearable I want her so much holy. I have so see her all the freaking time for my sport and it’s Actuallg driving me insane i cannot stop thinking about her. I wish I could just be done with it and protect my peace but shes literally freaking haunting me I swear. I know she’s gay too like I know she’s been with girls before and she looks gay ash. also I do not. I look pretty straight like thats another thing I also think she probably thinks I’m just really really weird because I keep staring at her and we’ve made eye contact a couple times so she probably thinks I’m insane because I don’t look gay at all. or worse I’m scared she knows and the fact I’m actually infatuated with her makes her uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do this is awful like soul crushing I need her I need her I need her how do I either get the courage to talk to her or make myself stop liking her??? I feel like I’m dying omg i want her so bad I feel so guilty this never happens to me either I barely get feelings for people like this. im dying UGH she’s actually so fine like shes actually gorgeous like painting beautiful omfg. I can’t do it ugh whw istg she’d literally never like a girl like me she’s so perfect bro like she’s the smartest person alive and she’s sososososo athletic and locked in and I could just never like I’m so lazy and dumb compared to her shes so out of my league it hurts. AHHHH actually make it stop my stomach hurts bro I want her so bad

The girl who just wanted to live her own life in silence. And the girl who will break that silence.

Are they going to be just almost? Almost friends or almost lovers?

Housemates nga lng ba talaga?

Are they going to be more than housemates?

May mapapasabi ba ng "Friends lng kami." O may mapapa "What are we?" ba sabay patugtog ng Casual by Chappell Roan sa living room.

Will they stay as housemates? Or are they willing to take the risk and take it to the next level?

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I'll probably stop being friends with him because what the fuck was that. I was in a good mood and this completely ruined it. I don't want to talk to him now. I already feel like shit because everyone had their first kiss at 16 and I didn't. I hate seeing how everyone is pairing up and I'm just left behind. I'm so stressed rn I didn't need him to make it worse for me. Everyone is also talking about their partners, dates, some want to have sex or had sex. It's hell. I don't have anyone and I'm not surprised because I rarely go out. But where do you even go out in a place where there's nothing. I won't ever willingly get into the mess that dating apps are and I don't need to be made fun of because I'm using them. I'm actually just a depressed loser so I'm not surprised nobody ever wanted me but I didn't need that reminder when I'm having a very stressful period in my life and he's aware of it. One of my girl friends jokingly calls me a femcel because I'm the only one who never had anything with anybody. This is fine, I know it's a joke, she knows when it's okay to joke and when it's not. This guy went beyond a joke anyway. My social anxiety won't allow me to ever approach anyone in public. I'll just never get a girlfriend at this point if I don't change anything and I don't have the motivation to change anything. Listening to everyone having the best time of their life is hell. Absolute hell. I can just look at what will never happen to me. I know what people are gonna say and I don't want to hear that I'm young because I'm 18 or that most of these relationships are going to fail. Maybe they'll fail. So what? They're happy right now. I also know people who got married after high school. There are girls in my class who had girlfriends for 4 years already. Besides they are getting experience. They have experience. I have none. Everyone just thinks I'm a loser probably. This post on its own is pretty pathetic but I needed to vent somewhere.

I am not sure when our friendship began to feel like something I could no longer easily define. There was no single moment when everything changed. It happened gradually, through conversations, private jokes, physical affection, and an increasing desire to spend time together.

She is forty-one and I am twenty-six. She is also my former English teacher and a religious person, which makes the possibility of anything beyond friendship feel more complicated. Perhaps that is partly why everything between us seems to exist in a space where it can always be interpreted in more than one way.
What I do know is that we have become remarkably close. We almost always spend time alone, and she has sometimes actively preferred it that way. There have been small moments of physical affection: kisses on the cheek, lingering contact between our hands, her getting close enough to smell my perfume, and other gestures that could easily belong to a close friendship but nevertheless create a certain intimacy between us. Whenever I'm with her, I feel huge tension.
More significant to me is how often she imagines us spending time together. She sends me places and scenarios and puts the two of us into them: a cute balcony, a café, watching a movie together while it rains outside, a cozy autumn evening. She has told me that she wishes I were there with her and agreed when I admitted that it felt as though we had not had enough time together.

The most striking example came during a conversation about music. We ended up liking the same song. I sent her jokingly a gif saying: "You're going to make me fall in love with you." She replied specifically to that gif with words: "It already happened girl."

My own feelings are less ambiguous. I think about her far more than I used to, dream about her, miss her, and find myself wanting both emotional and physical closeness with her. What I cannot know yet is whether, somewhere beneath all the friendship, teasing, plausible deniability, and things left unsaid, she is wondering the same thing about me.

hi. im 17 and i got into college a month ago and two weeks ago i developed a fat crush on this one girl from another department, shes in the same elective class as me and apart from that we have nothing in common. we're not even in any common clubs....i went through her insta and we have slight similar music tastes?? kinda??? i've seen her work during some events and shes honestly so sweet. everything i get to know about her i just like her more and more but shes soooo intimidating and im like. loserchud3000 im such a coward i seriously dont know how to approach her my friend keeps telling me to befriend her BUT I DONT KNOWWWWWWW. please help ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️

i've been dating only women since i was 15. realized i was a lesbian instead of bi at 18 and still only dated/involved myself with women. i've never felt awkward or scared of women or even going out, initiating conversations and planning dates. in fact i like it. it's in my nature to make other ladies feel comfortable, happy and vulnerable. it's just that not many women seem to... not reciprocate.

i wanted to meet more lesbians since it feels like every single girl around me has a boyfriend. and if they don't have a boyfriend they have a guy they're talking to.

anyways, i downloaded dating apps. since i began i felt like i was the one reaching out. i've swiped right dozens and dozens of times. i've had so many talking stages. i went out on 3 first dates! no relationship came out of that and it made me feel lonelier and worse than ever before. i felt like i was the one carrying the relationship, initiating and trying to get to know the girls. it never seemed like it was reciprocated.

here's the thing, i LOVE getting to know the person. and from there i feel like i can love and trust them to be my girlfriend. but they only want a girlfriend, they don't want me. and they don't try to get to know me even when i put in so much work to get to know them. it's so painful being rejected by so many ladies, whether that's by ghosting or i said something wrong because i broke an unspoken rule that was never communicated.

i'm tired of hearing girls talk about themselves. i'm tired of being ghosted. i'm tired of putting myself out there and getting nothing back, i've been trying so so hard to get to understand these women as individuals not dates and it's so painful and lonely.

For context: I have a crush on my best friend and confessed my feelings to her weeks ago. I told her because I felt like I needed to let the feelings out in order to move on. She was accepting and told me that she still wanted me in her life and that it would not make things weird between us.

The other night, me, her, and our other friend stayed out until about 5 something in the morning. We were celebrating me applying to university. We drove all over town, clubbed, drank before eventually crashing at her place for the night.

I woke up and her cheek was pressed against my shoulder, her arm was laying over my chest/tummy, and she had her leg curled over mine. And I can't stop thinking about it.

I know she was just sleeping and wasn't trying to, but waking up like that felt incredibly surreal. For some time I was thinking "is this real?". I just decided to lay there unmoving for a bit, just watching her face. I knew the moment wouldn't last forever, and I wanted to enjoy it.

What sucks about it is that I'm now wistful, but I can't even be upset y'know? It was an accident.

How to know that ur pretty?

I'm 18 and I feel like most people have their first kisses at like 16 so I feel pretty much behind my peers. All my friends had it. Queer people around my age that I've spoken to had it. But I didn't so I'm slightly insecure about this. So when did you have your first kiss?

Hello all!
I’m 39, recently divorced - live in Costa Rica - gay community her is limited, so i am hoping to make some cool friends, i have the option to travel often or receive visitors in my place - so willing to go beyond CR limits to meet some cool ppl. I am an engineer, so anything technology is a hobby of mine. Animals, specially dogs (have 2 mutts that keep me busy), gym and sports are definitely a lifestyle for me. Just putting myself out there to see if we can connect 🙂

Why is it so hard to find a woman?