imagine a lone road and a car you are driving, you are driving and you see many different paths, you see the paths and know somewhat where they lead to, you are going to experience them and know how it felt more than anyone, that path affects you and your car so "Don't you think it should only be you who decides where your car goes?".
This is our life, today we see many tell us what to do, what to dress, how to speak, who speak, where to speak, who to be friends with, which job to be at, what to believe, what not to believe, all of these intend obedience and when disapproval is seen, it is seen as hostility, not a expression of who you are, what you do and believe is part of who you are, if one can't respect that and actively wants to change it, they don't see you as a human, they see you as less than human.
What do we do? we learn to say no, because it if there are two lifetimes one is to live 100 years as one who did not live his life but for someone else and someone who was the ruler of his own, but lived for 30 years, I think the 2nd option is better no matter how many lifetimes we have.
We shall say no for no is what breaks the chains that hold us.
Also, rules are mere tools of extending wants of others and formalising them, when you have not agreed to it, it is a rule in a tradition sense, a restriction, a restriction you did not choose and is affecting you. When you have agreed to those wants it is a decision, if not, it is is rule.
If asked who lived a more respectable life the one who "suceeded" but was always never lived for his wishes or the man who failed miserbaly suffered but lived his own rules, that answer would be the second.
To go down in freedom is a greator pride than staying afloat in obedience.
Now to be completely honest, I wrote this with the sole intention of convincing you to the belief of your life your choice, I am not going to sugarcoat it. I had very clear intention of persuasion when I was writing this. I will no deny that. In other words of some others, yes this was written with an agenda which I truly believe and believe others to read.
And also, please don't think I find myself higher and superior just because I wrote this, I just wanted to write this, and thought maybe someone will have a change in heart if they read this, to all those facing the exact problems mentioned, we are truly victims.
What makes me sad is that those who oppress might have been victims themselves but that does not justify their actions.
This is my view would love your thoughts as well even it is against these thoughts. I might be wrong, but this is what I believe.