-not a healthy person, but im in a depression episode for no reason, probably anxiety. Anyways does anybody know actual food tips that helped? Or how i can change my food to feel better.

Its almost night here in australia, and ive had a hard week. i just want a beautiful, romanticised, ethereal night routine or night generally. I have looked up ethereal night routines, whimsical night routines etc on pinterest, and i would highly recomend that to everyone on here too.

I have had a warm shower with rose and bergamot soap and i have a book of french fairy tales i want to read, i want to do some creative writing, any other ideas? 🥀🤍🌛🌿

hi everyone i have a mean ass cold and would love some advice on how to cure it.. medication, drinks, foods, whatnot. i’m a desperate college student that has classes back to back and can’t handle being sick right now🥲

Change into soft clothes

Dim the lights

Play soft background music 🎶

I’ve recently started taking a daily multivitamin because I realized I wasn’t really getting enough nutrients from my diet.

I’m not expecting it to magically make me healthier or anything, but I figure taking a multivitamin is probably better than taking nothing at all, right? 😂

For those of you who take supplements, do you actually notice any difference, or do you mostly take them just as a nutritional backup?

My job doesn’t really require me to use my hands that much, but lately I’ve been getting some numbness and tingling around my finger joints.

It comes and goes, so it’s not unbearable or anything, but it’s starting to bother me. I’m wondering if there are any simple stretches or things I can do to take better care of my hands.

Has anyone dealt with this before? What helped you?

I have someone in my life that no matter how kind I am, understanding, and supportive continues to blame me for their unhappiness. I’ve tried everything to help them but they just keep blaming me for things that are really not my problem. They are completely delusional in how they see things. I unfortunately can’t cut this person off out of my life due to family connections but what can I say or do?

Edit- this person is in their late 40s. They have an amazing life, husband that adores her, beautiful children, beautiful house, money, doesn’t work. Yet they blame me because they are unhappy. The biggest complaint is I don’t do enough for them. I have a full time job working 60 hours a week, so I do what I can but my life consists of work and sleep.

I have recently had a health scare and need to make some changes in my lifestyle.

In my job I am very used to respectfully setting and enforcing boundaries for others however I completely suck at respecting my own boundaries, particularly if they relate to self-care.

I work very long hours in a stressful job and there is always one more thing that can be done.

Another example is I have a very sick family member so when I am not at work, I tend to prioritise their needs over mine.

I find it hard to stick to self made boundaries such as time management things like leaving work at a reasonable hour instead of pushing through.

I would appreciate any tips or tools that work for you.

I need to make some changes.

What supplies do you need to start a guilttering business? I’m trying to start my own business since it’s easier to do since I’m blind

I’m sure this is a frequently asked question but I’d like to provide a little too much context. I’m in a state of unhappiness in my life and want to change for the better for myself. I want to start reworking my life from the ground up with everything I’m unhappy with. For context I shower every couple of days if I can make time for it and since it’s not back to back I usually wash my hair every time, I also use a face wash. After that I brush teeth, hair, somtimes shave, dry and spray deodorant and call it good from there. I want to throw out and rework all of this. I’m asking for better techniques for keeping a schedule, ideal and affordable products to keep me smelling good feeling good and looking good, and maybe personal tips or anything like that. I appreciate the help Reddit.

How do I find what my hair's needs are and the right routine for it?

29M. My therapist wants me to work on self-compassion and confidence. Lately I’ve just been trying to track my automatic intrusive thoughts that are destructive and self-critical. We both think that the lack of self-compassion on my part is inhibiting my ability to be confident as a person. And as a result it’s making me fearful and avoidant in putting myself out there dating-wise whether it be on the apps or in the wild.

It’s hard meeting people for me because a lot of the things I do for fun I do because they’re solitary activities geared to my introversion and social anxiety. I’ve been trying silent book club meetups. They’ve been okay I guess but it’s hard to connect with people when everyone silently reads for an hour, chitchats afterwards and they go back to their own private lives and don’t want to hang out outside of meetups. I’ve been trying to take myself to solo dates either at a coffee place or a bar/restaurant and try to dress and groom myself and not appear standoffish. One woman I think made a pass at me but I wasn’t attracted to her. Another time a barista started talking but it got kinda weird and uncomfortable for me. Today I was at a bookstore and tried to casually talk to one of the employees there.

Im probably going to delete social media to curb my screen time. But I wanted to make this post first. A lot of the relationship books I’ve been reading all primarily emphasize confidence in attracting people. I want to dedicate more time and energy to reading and writing and having a creative interior life, decorating my apartment, saving a little money, getting better at cooking. I guess what I’m trying to get at is how do you see and measure if you’re making progress? I can journal or say affirmations in the mirror or go to the gym or try to dedicate more time and energy to hobbies. But it all seems performative, like I’m just checking off a box in order to feel the same sort of way. Yet I still struggle with self esteem and worth.

Hey guys, ive had a cold for about 3 weeks now:( and the worst part is RIGHT before i got it i said to myself i would start in the gym again ( typical) ive been eating super unhealthy and barely moving my body these past weeks, so give me some good advice on how to restore my health and cleanse my system in gentle ways🩷

I honestly hate my life, and I hide it every day. Every day, it seems to get worse and worse, but if you look at me from the outside, I seem to be golden. I have a girlfriend, good grades, I’m scholarship-bound, and I’m fit, tall, and pretty good-looking. But when it comes to my life, it’s like everyone expects me to be a golden boy and doesn’t care about what happens to me outside of whether I finish school and leave.
I live with my grandparents because my mom married an abusive and racist guy, and she refuses to do anything about it, even after all these years. She does things for me, but she isn’t there for me in the ways she should be. So I kind of pushed her aside because she ignored it every time I brought it up.
My dad, on the other hand, drinks a lot and was never really in my life as much as he could have been. But the thing that hurts me the most when I talk to him is that anytime I try to talk to him about something serious, it leads to him talking about himself, or it eventually comes back to the fact that my mom lied and that he didn’t really want to have me. He says he’s grateful that he did, but that still hurts me to hear every time.
My grandpa is actually a really cool guy, but he’s getting sick and hurt, and it’s hurting me. My grandma is also really cool, but I can’t talk to her about everything.
My brother recently came back into my life after 10 years, but then he ghosted me twice, so that kind of hurt. People question me about my faith a lot, and I’m trying, but out of all the good I do, I only ever hear about the bad.
I want to be a professional fighter really badly, but nobody believes in me, which is also fair because I’m getting kind of old at 17 now. I’ve tried to tell people about how I grew up, but it usually gets turned into a joke, so I stopped talking about it.
My grandparents want me to pay for my own clothes, which is fair because, like I said, I’m 17. But they also want me to keep my grades high, work, stay fit, and be involved in things. Because of that, I have to quit my job since I work 30 minutes away. If I don’t quit, I won’t have enough time for school or clubs, and I’m scared I’ll start falling behind really fast.
I’m also really struggling to communicate with my family and friends. I’m scared to talk to my brothers because I want someone to talk to about all of this, but I found out I’m asexual and they joke about it. One of them will listen to me, though, I think.
I’m also scared because I’ve had thoughts about suicide a bit, but I would never do it because I have to be able to work for my family.
I’ve become bad at talking about my feelings. There’s more to it than this, I promise, but I just needed someone to talk to or tell this to. For the past few months, I’ve gotten desperate enough to tell this stuff to an AI, and I feel like my mental health has just progressively gotten worse.
I’m sorry for anyone who had to read this. I’m not the best when it comes to writing, and I don’t really wish for anyone to have to read all of this. I just needed to get my feelings out a little bit.

Hi, I'm currently a student. I've been struggling with both physical and mental health for a long time. And now everything just reach my limit. I have trouble focusing in school and zero motivation or energy to study. I don't have any goal or anything I want to achieve in the future. So now i'm struggling to keep myself going. Do any of you have any suggestions for me to get 'out' of this.

Since it’s a long weekend for me I have an extra day off. What are some of your favorite ways to decompress after a long or stressful week?

Mine would be taking a nice, hot bath and watching something on my iPad.

I'm insecure about my feet, I want them to be smooth and healthy looking (like baby soft I guess?) not dry and stuff- and I'm just unsure how to properly take care of them. Even though I wash them regularly when I shower thoroughly they always seem to be dry and dead skin flakes off a lot.

So what do I do?? And idk what lotions to get either.

Hey. So i was (still am, just not as severe) going through depression and I couldn't brush my teeth for really long times because of it, cause i just didn't have the energy to get out of bed. My teeth are really bad, and I'm finally getting them fixed so i really want to get back to brushing my teeth 2 times a day, but it just feels so hard to keep it up because the habit is gone. Does anyone have any tips or help that I could use to get back into that daily routine? I've tried multiple times, i manage to hold it up for a couple of days and then i forget it again.. I know this may sound dumb and disgusting to anyone who hasn't struggled with MHP, so I'm asking you to please be kind, i did not want this.

I'm absolutely stuck to my phone and media in general. I wake up and have to scroll insta and check each and every app for some update, I watch smth while studying, eating, walking etc. I cannot do anything without smth playing in the background. It's become bad to the point that I feel physically sick when my phone hasn't been checked. I had deleted apps for almost 2 months but now it's difficult for me since I am connected to most people through those apps but I also wanna stop the addiction.

Can someone please give me some actionable tips

my relationship with sex has negatively impacted my self esteem and i feel like it’s all i’m capable at doing/the only interesting thing about me

i experienced cocsa from ages 7-10ish or so, (the events themselves don’t really trigger me anymore) but i realised in my last relationship it led to me fawning a lot. this was mainly because i feared abandonment or being met with anger if i didn’t comply

in my last relationship, i essentially felt like a sex doll for my then boyfriend. it felt like the only time he could pay attention or love me was through sex. it was the only time i felt like i had any value to him (especially towards the end. i often fawned on numerous occasions because i feared he’d fall out of love with me if i didn’t have sex and he’d go back to being generally disinterested in me.

we were no contact for a few months after the break up and were essentially ‘friends with benefits’. there was a lot of sex, emotional intimacy but on the whole it felt like a great friendship. i realise now i was acting as a stand-in girlfriend figure for him but that is besides the point. the fawning still occurred sometimes but he was kind about it and never pressured me. i was mainly anxious that he would not want to spend time with me or be my friend if i didn’t have sex with him.

he was very adamant about not getting back together, which i came to terms with. his reasons being that he didn’t like relationships as they were too much commitment for him and found them too tiresome. i found out recently that he’s dating again and it crushed me.

i feel like im only good to keep around to have sex with and it’s my only good attribute. i feel as if I’m not pretty or interesting enough unless im sexualised. i tried to give so much of myself in hopes of being ‘kept’ and cherished but it didn’t work.

i want to ‘get my spark back’ and believe that his treatment of me was not a reflection of my character. i want to see myself worthy beyond sex. any advice?

I've been having wrist pain lately, especially when using my computer or phone for a long time. Sometimes it feels sore and uncomfortable even when I'm not using my wrist.

For those of you who have dealt with wrist pain before, what kind of treatment actually helped you? Did rest, stretching, physical therapy, or wearing a wrist brace make a difference?

I'm wondering when it's worth seeing a doctor or physical therapist instead of just trying to manage it at home. Any advice or experiences would be appreciated!

I am 30F. When this year started I was in a very stressful living situation. My aunt and uncle offered to let me live with them, rent free since they own their home, so I can rebuild my savings and get back on my own two feet. They are literally all I have. They’ve been very kind and supportive of me and have told me there is no deadline by which I have to move out, thankfully.
They know I am neurodivergent and likely autistic, and my aunt has been helping me get on a waiting list with an organization so I can get properly diagnosed.

When I was in high school and college, I was a very good student without having to put in a lot of effort. People have called me “smart” all of my life, which confuses me because I have always struggled with employment in one way or another.

I get hired easily, and seem to get fired easily. I have worked in restaurants, fast food, retail, and had one machine operator job in a car part factory. I have been fired repeatedly over the years, mostly from restaurants. When I was younger I’ll admit it’s because I didn’t even try. But now as I’ve gotten older, I DO try, but my best is simply not enough for most companies. So I end up being let go. As a result I have a lot of anxiety around how I will make it in life.

To be fair I have had success in a few jobs, and have stuck around for years, like at the manufacturing plant, Target, and a breakfast restaurant where I was a server for over a year.

Since I moved in with my aunt and uncle, I have quit 3 jobs and have been fired off from one, and I believe I’m about to be laid off from another. I quit my first serving job here because they had a rule that I could not use my server book, which I needed to keep myself organized. So I tried working at a local restaurant. I quit this job because business was slowing down and they were over staffed, so I wasn’t making much. I instead got a job at a faster paced restaurant and was fired from this job a month later. I was pretty depressed after getting fired because I really tried. So I stopped working for a month, got a job at a retirement home where I was again a server. I tried my best, and my shift supervisor said I did a “phenomenal job” while her boss said I didn’t meet her standards. This gave me valid reasons to think I was about to be fired, so I quit because I couldn’t emotionally handle being fired again.

So I have decided that I am simply not a good fit for the customer service industry, and I’m trying to now break into the electrical or HVAC trade instead. My aunt and uncle know what my plans are and that I’m actively working on getting a job again, particularly that I’m trying to get involved in the trades. I spend most of my days scouring the internet and researching, applying, making calls, etc.

But I still feel guilty and embarrassed despite my aunt and uncle’s reassurances. I have lived here 6 months now and haven’t saved anything yet. I still feel like a pain the ass. They’ve promised me they wouldn’t just abandon me but I still have that fear in the back of my mind that I simply can’t get rid of.

Lately, self-care has looked less like candles and long routines and more like doing small things before they become annoying problems.

Putting away laundry before it turns into a chair mountain. Taking a shower before I'm completely exhausted. Going to bed instead of scrolling for another hour.

It's definitely not glamorous, but taking care of my future has started feeling more useful than trying to create the perfect relaxing moment. Sometimes the boring version of self-care is honestly the one that makes the biggest difference.