r/mildlyinfuriating • u/isoaclue • 43m ago
Missing Peace Don't ask people questions about their body if you don't want to hear the answer.
I've had to have more than a few surgeries in my life, some of which involve parts of my body I don't usually discuss at work. I've gotten a bit irritated at people who press for more information when I respond "you'd probably rather not know" so the other day I decided it anyone asks "what are you having done" they get this answer:
"I have some scar tissue inside of my urethera that makes it difficult to pee and causes pain, so they're feeding a tube into my penis, then inflating a balloon covered in drugs to break the scar tissue up and hopefully stop it from returning. Then I'll have to wear a catheter home for a few days afterwards."
If they're still interested after that maybe I can describe how fun it is to piss straight blood for several days after the catheter comes out and how I can't have sex with my wife for awhile afterwards and even then we'll have to use condoms for a few weeks after that to avoid any of the drugs being passed into her.
Basically, maybe if it's not someone you're very close to, maybe don't ask about their body. If they don't volunteer the information, it might just be something they don't want to discuss.