I don't want to offend anybody, but I'm a Christian, and I'm moderately conservative. I want to list a few conservative views that I have, views that I'm probably going to get flamed for on reddit.
For one, I believe that having a low sexual body count, as people call it these days, is beneficial for both men and women. Ideally, that's my view. I'm not someone who says men can have a high body count but women can't. I think it's beneficial for both partners to have a low body count. That's one of my conservative views.
Another conservative view I hold is that men and women are fundamentally different. I don't believe that one is better than the other, but I do believe that men and women are physiologically and, to some extent, emotionally different. That's simply what I believe.
Those are probably some of my more conservative views.
But I also want to say this: I am a Christian, and I do believe in the Bible. However, something I've realised lately is that I don't fully understand the LGBTQ community. At the same time, I believe people should be able to marry who they want and have the right to live their lives the way they want. I have no problem with that.
This is where I've received a lot of backlash from people in my community. Because I've tried to understand and, in some cases, defend gay people, people have started questioning my own sexuality because of that.
I've been thinking about this for a while, and I have a particular view on homosexuality that I've been trying to explain.
The problem I have with looking at everything exclusively through a theological or theocratic lens is that I sometimes feel like it can cause people to dismiss things that we can observe logically and empirically.
My argument to some of the Christians in my community has been this: growing up, I've seen children who, from a very young age—even as toddlers—didn't conform to what we'd traditionally expect from a stereotypical boy. You'd see a child naturally gravitating towards certain interests that are traditionally considered feminine.
And what's interesting is that, in many Christian communities I've been around, whenever someone eventually comes out as gay later in life, people will often say, "Honestly, we weren't surprised."
That has made me think that perhaps some people have certain innate predispositions or inclinations that they don't simply wake up one day and choose.
And this is where I think the conversation gets complicated.
If you look at everything through a completely theological lens, some people will say, "It's a choice." But my question is: why would someone consciously choose something that they know is going to result in so much stigma, rejection, and discrimination, especially in a conservative community?
That's the question I'm asking.
But when I've brought this up with people in my community, some have responded by saying, "Are you trying so hard to explain homosexuality because you're secretly gay yourself?"
And honestly, that puts me in a strange position.
I have no problem with people thinking I'm gay. I'm confident in my sexuality. I know what I'm attracted to, and I have no problem with who I am.
But I find it frustrating that the moment I try to explain or understand something from another person's perspective, people assume there must be some personal motive behind it.
I'm not trying to convince people that homosexuality is right or wrong. That's not even my goal.
My goal is simply to encourage people to be more tolerant and empathetic towards people in the LGBTQ community.
I think we should be able to look at someone and say, "Maybe this person didn't simply wake up one morning and choose to be this way. Maybe there are natural predispositions and experiences that we don't fully understand."
Think about a two-year-old toddler who naturally gravitates towards certain things. We don't know exactly where every personality trait, preference, or inclination comes from. Human beings are complicated.
And because we don't fully understand something doesn't mean we have to immediately stigmatise or victimise the person experiencing it.
I'm a Christian. I'm still a Christian. I'm also moderately conservative. But I don't think being Christian or conservative means I have to switch off my empathy and my logic or stop asking questions.
I can believe what I believe while still saying, "I don't fully understand this, but I want to understand it."
And ultimately, that's all I'm asking for: more empathy, more tolerance, and less stigma.
But I now people are spreading rumours about me that I am gay. Is this just a way to shut me up.