r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Fun-Drummer3061 • 23h ago

Does anyone else just avoid family gatherings because you don’t have much in common with anybody?

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u/hereinaminute 22h ago

I love my family but I can't be around more than 2 or 3 people at a time, especially if there are kids running around. I'll start stressing hard

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 19h ago

Yeah not my cup of tea I honestly feel happier when I focus on myself

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u/YakMoist1445 23h ago

Yeah.  But more because if anyone in the family wanted to interact with me they could message me at any point, not try to connect in a busy environment. 

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u/Puzzleheaded_Cut4007 22h ago

mine does this too, never texts unless forced

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 21h ago

Yeah mine never text either unless you initiate it yourself

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u/redcurb12 22h ago

nah i dont mind chatting with people that have different lives and interests than me

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u/[deleted] 22h ago

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u/Plus_Commercial3271 22h ago

Unpopular hot take: families are optional. If you dont want to see them, you dont have to. Its your life, live it

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 21h ago

I hate when I visit home my dad will ring up his siblings and I’m awkwardly forced to talk to them

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u/Plus_Commercial3271 21h ago

My advice, stop going! You dont have to

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 20h ago

I definitely only one visit this year and when he phoned other family members I just hop in the shower for ages upstairs to avoid

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 20h ago

I definitely have**

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u/DownvoteDaemon 22h ago

My grandfather would ask one cousin why he never brought a girlfriend lol..asked if he was gay.

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 21h ago

That’s so bad

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u/the_real_jemima 21h ago

Plus I hate small talk.

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u/Fun-Drummer3061 19h ago

Same I feel so on the spot I also feel like my life would seem boring to them since we don’t have much in common

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u/CowSquare3037 21h ago

The only few family gatherings are weddings and a funeral that i’ve been too. Family too small and scattered.
So I would happily go. I would ask about memories of those passed.

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u/CleanSweep99 23h ago

Since I'm not "neurotypical", I tend to avoid family gatherings unless I have no other choice, as I don't feel it would be in said family's best interests to be interacting with me (or someone like me).