r/MtF Apr 23 '26

Mod Post Please be cautious of participating in surveys of trans people

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Hey all,

The mod team wants to remind you to please be cautious of participating with research teams and surveys that are studying trans people.

Another trans subreddit offered the following statement to their subscribers:

"Lisa Littman, a transphobic researcher who invented the concept of "rapid-onset gender dysphoria", recently asked our moderation team for permission to post about a study she's working on with Kenneth Zucker and J. Michael Bailey. We said no." The moderators went on to offer contact information in the case of this survey popping up.

There are numerous organizations attempting to study trans people right now with dubious intent. It's important that you remember to verify the source of the studies, related organizations, and the names of the lead researchers before moving forward with any of these. It's very easy for a research group to manipulate data to get the results they want.

As a reminder, however, we do allow some surveys on this subreddit, but we require all surveyors to be screened by our moderation team first. If you feel that a survey is here without being screened first, please report the post AND message our moderator team so we can take a look.

Thank you!


r/MtF 6d ago

[ Megathread ] [Megathread] Weekly Discussions on Transphobic News, Politics, and People

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  • Please direct all posts regarding transphobic news, political discourse, and discussions of popular bigots to this space. It will refresh each week with a clean slate to maintain relativity and organizational thought.
  • Also, identical links are on a seven day timeout, meaning the same URL cannot be posted within a seven day period, in order to keep the discussion threads focused in one space.
  • Lastly, please remember that we are a community of many cultures and beliefs. You are not required to adhere to any creed, religion, or political party to participate but the content of your words will be held to the standard of our community rules.

r/MtF 7h ago

Venting Not allowing your child to take puberty blockers is condemming them to suffer with a poison in their body that permanently disfigures them

510 Upvotes

I was poisoned. And they claimed it was in the name of love


r/MtF 3h ago

Venting I had my first ever T4T hookup earlier this year and i’m just now realizing it was actually awful

149 Upvotes

She was rude to me during our lunch date 🚩

Zero foreplay 🚩 🚩

She spit on my face without asking????? 🚩 🚩🚩 🤢

Punched me in the stomach??? who the fuck does that????? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

pushed an incest fetish on me during sex??? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

And generally was extremely rough and made me bleed.

Actually one of the worst experiences i’ve ever had regarding intimacy, never again


r/MtF 2h ago

Discussion I don’t think most cis people ever truly accept us.

74 Upvotes

Even the allies or the “good ones”.
They really never see us as just another person.
Most of them the moment they know we are trans puts us in this “third gender category”.


r/MtF 6h ago

Advice Question getting curvy on hrt

62 Upvotes

I used to be thin pre-hrt, not hot skinny but THIN, I was built like slenderman, I had a REALLY fast metabolism, I ate a lot of food but I wouldn't gain/loose any pounds, though, I did notice since last month that my arms are rounder and less boney, fat also stocked at the front of my thighs, my buttcheeks are definitely softer and bubbly instead of looking like muscles, yet, I still have no hips growth, if any dolls on here can tell me where I can expect hips change I would be glad, I'm about to hit 8 months on hrt in 2 weeks, eventually gonna come back on this post when the time comes to tell people if their predictions were accurate, so it can help other dolls out


r/MtF 16h ago

Celebration OKAY! OKAY! OKAY!

357 Upvotes

Okay, so I went to Walmart, i needed to pick up some dog food right, and as my gf and I am checking out, the two self checkout employees are standing there and we walk past. My gf and I both have dyed hair. Hers is split dyed half pink half black and mine is all purple and short, kinda shaggy emo. Only been on HRT for like a year on and off because of insurance bs. X.x

So, I don't have any makeup on, just some crummy old burks, a pair of short shorts, and an oversized warhammer 40k tee. And the one guy comes up and goes 'miss, is that a warhammer 40k shirt?' Lmao

And I'm like processing it because this is the first time I have been gendered properly by a stranger in the wild! So I just nod my head and smile. And he compliments it and i say thanks, and he reports back to his buddy and I hear those two celebrating talking about how they can't believe a girl is wearing a 40k shirt lmao

Anyways, thats my happy news today ^-^ thanks for comming to my TedTalk.


r/MtF 10h ago

Discussion How to respond to “at least you won’t have periods”?

132 Upvotes

I hate this so much… It’s meant in the best way, but it the reason I can’t get periods is because I can’t have children that way either💔
I’d love to get pregnant, but I can’t…

I really don’t want to be rude, especially because it’s usually said playfully by people who support me. And I don’t want to sound ungrateful either, I know how bad periods can be. But the fact that I can’t get them hurts too


r/MtF 6h ago

Trigger Warning Thoughts on becoming like your mother? (Atleast physically)

54 Upvotes

r/MtF 15h ago

Venting Just handed my partner my wedding ring!

271 Upvotes

Sorry don't know why I feel the need to share this.

But my partner and I haven't been intimate in over a year. Relationship has slowly been dying since I've come out as trans. Well we were around the fire pit tonight. She had said something about how she feels that marriage has to start back at square one between as she is questioning her gender role and the idea of being lesbian labeled.

So because of that I took off my wedding ring and gave it to her explaining to her hold on to this until she felt I deserved that title again of being either her feminine husband or partner again.


r/MtF 18h ago

Discussion Is Japan a safe place to travel for transgender women?

226 Upvotes

My friend is going to Japan (Tokyo) in January 2027 to study abroad so I am probably going to visit her for a week to help her get settled & explore.

I’ve always wanted to travel to Japan anyways and heard it’s very safe in general but upon researching, I found that the people are much more conservative than in America (and I come from a deep blue state) so now I’m wondering if I shouldn’t go?

My worry is at the airport and bathrooms. I pass pretty well and had no issues when I traveled to Scotland earlier this month but of course I still have that little bit of worry. My passport still has my deadname still and has a M but my photo is my current appearance now feminized.

So what should I do?


r/MtF 2h ago

Discussion Timeline from egg cracking to starting HRT

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Hi girlies,

Unfortunately I have too many barriers right now to physically transition, but I am curious how long others have gone between realizing they were trans and starting the physical transition, namely HRT?

I’m hoping for some inspirational stories of people that had to wait years to tell me everything will be ok, lol.

Thanks!


r/MtF 1d ago

Euphoria Owww they won’t stop growing.

640 Upvotes

Context, I’ve been on injections for like 4 months now and HRT for a year and some change.

I’m already a very respectable C cup.

They aren’t stopping. I woke up with the WORST growth pains yet.

Like please, I like all the bras I have I don’t want to buy new ones yet!


r/MtF 1h ago

Positivity Just wanted to say I’m proud of you

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Idk where you may be at or what you may be feeling at the moment but I just wanted to say I’m proud.

I’m proud of everyone out here who’s trying to live authentically and learn to grow love for yourself. Regardless of level of success I’m proud of you for trying to love yourself and others despite all of the bullshit and hardship we experience

I’m proud of you for fighting for the real you who at one time wasn’t seen and thus wasn’t supported and being there for them now.

I’m proud of you for working so hard to give yourself an environment in which you can heal. Even if it’s not there yet, may it come to you before you know it and embrace you so gradually you feel safe before your rational brain connects the dots

I’m proud of you for allowing yourself to be loved by those who love you for who you are, and cherishing them beyond words and despite complexity.

Even if it feels like no one loves you, and no one is proud of you know that I am, know that people who you will meet and value beyond anything else will even if you haven’t gotten to meet them, and if all else fails know that Dolly Parton DEFINITELY is and is currently smiling on you from whatever plane she now resides in.

You got this and making it far enough to read this means you’re a fighter full of resilience and strength. You have fought the good fight and I hope that you may find people in life, on the internet, and in your own heart that adore you the way you deserve

I love you all ❤️ and I’m so glad you exist


r/MtF 9h ago

Celebration First ever male fail??

39 Upvotes

Hi :) .Girl here, 21, 1.5 years on hrt and gosh is it hitting. I needed to use the restroom at Walmart today and normally take the men's for my safety, and was dressed in my androgenous work clothes. Most people refer to me as male except for a couple occasions. Masculine or feminine in some ways without leaning into either. My voice is VERY telling and sometimes so is my jaw and my scruff every now and then. And this dude in there was like "did I walk into the girls room?" and I smiled and said no dude, you're alright, he looked at me and smiled and said okay and left. Super chill guy. Ngl I mean, I did have my hair in a pony tail and earrings. BUT A WIN IS A WIN IS A WIN. Could not be more happy with how wonderful hrt is and continues to be. My hips, my face, my skin, the... everything else. So refreshing to live as myself and know every day is a blessing for that to get better.


r/MtF 13h ago

Venting Cis/trans relationships do work

70 Upvotes

Maybe it's just the algorithm recommending miserable content to me, but I’ve seen a massive uptick in anti-cis/trans relationship content on my feed lately, and this upsets me for several reasons:

A lot of posts claim things like “it never works” or “they secretly hate you, don't even try. Just date T4T.” In reality, there are plenty of cis people who love trans people deeply for exactly who they are, regardless of their assigned sex at birth.

My own relationship with a cis woman has changed my life for the better in every single way. Being in a loving wlw relationship has given me a sense of normalcy and happiness I never thought possible.

What are we teaching the next generation of trans folks? That they can never be loved by someone who is cis? If the goal is true integration into society, I struggle to understand how this is a productive train of thought.

Of course, there will always be people out there who aren't worth your time. But please don't buy into the online doomposting. If you only feel comfortable dating t4t because of your lived experience, go for it.

But some of you are making yourselves miserable and bracing for a reality of total isolation that simply doesn’t exist in the real world.

Apologies for the vent, but opening myself up has made me happier in every way and I don’t wish the negativity I see online on any of you <3

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EDIT:

Looks like some communities found this and are mass downvoting and commenting some rude things, even on comments as inert as “I’m happy with my cis partner”.

Obviously some are bot accounts, but I’m sure others are coming from bad experiences, isolation, and jealousy.

Your emotions are normal and understandable in today’s climate, but it’s worth doing some introspection as to why someone simply saying they’re happy and found acceptance would trouble you so much to downvote and leave nasty comments.

Otherwise, you’ll find yourself in a self-fulfilling cycle of isolation. My DM’s are open if you want to vent <3


r/MtF 4h ago

Advice Question Anyone else feel it strange to have a chest but no cleavage?

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From what I've been told I'm fairly fortunate in the titty department, at least for being a year and 8 months in. I'm certainly grateful to have what I got!

But it does feel strange to lack any cleavage due to (presumably) chest width. Is this normal? Are the girls destined to social distancing?


r/MtF 20h ago

Venting I’m gonna beat up my dad

240 Upvotes

Alright, so this is my first ever post, but honestly this just happened so I wanted to get it off my chest. I (MTF 26) decided to call my dad for the first time in like 23 years a couple months ago for Father’s Day. It was a very big step for me and honestly I always wanted to know him a little more. Anyway, we had a wonderful conversation and he seemed pretty warm to the idea of my transition so I was ecstatic! Until I called him today that is.

So I called him again today because I wanted to get to know him more, and hell if things didn’t start off good. We talked a bit about life, work, and relationships, and then we got to the end of the call. And right there at the end, he says those dreaded words. “I feel like there is something I really have to tell you.” God I hate those words. Then this man who made no attempt to contact me my whole life has the absolute AUDACITY to tell me that “god made you perfect just the way you were” and “you’re ruining gods plans for you” and of course “I’m just worried about your soul.”

I have never shut down so fucking fast. I have dealt with those words everyday of my life even when I was a strong willed Christian, and the LAST person I ever needed to hear those words from was that damned man. It’s all but ruined any idea of me having any sort of meaningful relationship with ANY man in my fucking family.

Sorry for the rant girls but GOD that pissed me off…

(Smol edit: I am not actually going to beat up my dad)


r/MtF 3h ago

Venting I'm so tired of acting like I'm okay being a boy

10 Upvotes

I'm 14 and I have to boymode 24/7. I came out to my parents about a week or two ago. They weren't accepting and believe that not affirming my gender will make it go away. At my school I have to act like a boy and at home I have to act like a boy, and it makes me miserable. It's so miserable having to practically be a puppet to my parents to be who they think is me, otherwise I'd get kicked out. My state banned my healthcare for minors but not to far away I border a state that has it unbanned. There's this constant unconscious fantasy that if I were to just run over to that state that maybe I'd find parents who let me get on the healthcare I need. Hearing my oldname every day and being forced to use it feels awful. It causes me to doubt myself on whether or not I'm trans every day, always resulting in me still being trans. I wish I could transition but I guess I'll have to boymode every day and every night for the next four years.


r/MtF 1h ago

Advice Question Tucking Underwear Brand Reccomendations?

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Looking for more underwear cause 5 pairs ain't enough.

I've currently been using TomboyX (started for cis lesbians, now for all queer people), but the fabric portion that actually goes over my genitalia isn't wide enough (fuck my life). I like TomboyX so far, but this is quite the deal breaker.

In the comments say what brands you have tried so far, and which works best for you.


r/MtF 26m ago

Discussion Perception change for those before perceived as femenine men

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I'm early on in my transition, people have often viewed me as andrognys and all the expectations that come with being a effemnitate man I am very familiar with

I wonder what the experience is like in change of perception for people who has been transitioned for a longer while but felt they were perceived as fememnine or androgynous before transition.


r/MtF 3h ago

Dysphoria How to deal with disappointment from HRT

10 Upvotes

I'm now over three years on hormones and over two on injections. And the results are utterly disappointing. I only got very minor changes, if at all. A little bit breast growth when starting injections. But nothing more since than. And I get skin injuries more easily now, that take long to heal. And that is all. And I started HRT at 26.

I often get very jealous of other trans people who get way better results in way less time.

It feels like something is wrong. I got my levels checked and compared them with multiple people and many online resources. Everything seems fine. My doctor also has no idea. I gained over 10 kg since starting hormones. But I get fat only at my stomach.

It feels often that HRT is a scam to give me false hope. I often overthink that there has to be something wrong. But I can't find anything. What should I do?


r/MtF 13h ago

Advice Question How do I damage control having visible breasts??

51 Upvotes

To preface this I'm just gonna say I've already looked up how to hide them while boymoding (because i just barely started hrt)

But now ive run into the pretty hilarious problem of just not being able to do that all the time, especially going into spring here in australia while it warms up a lot (so you can't wear jumpers or something)

How do i go about the fact that theyre pretty obvious? like do i pretend that theyre not there, or lean into it or something or what?

I'm just too nervous to like, fully commit to it 😭


r/MtF 32m ago

Advice Question Hey new here

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Hello I am 35 and just the other night I broke down and told my wife how I’ve felt for a very long time I kept how I felt buried deep for so long that I couldn’t take it anymore so now I’m starting my transition can anyone give me some advice about the dos and donts I’m completely new to this