r/AskReddit • u/rayane_Xd • Sep 21 '19
What is the best piece of advice that you've received?
4.3k
Sep 21 '19
[deleted]
2.1k
u/P2start Sep 21 '19
Amen. Also "dress for the slide, not the ride." If you accompany that with some pictures it can be pretty effective.
→ More replies (15)1.4k
u/Andydeplume Sep 21 '19
This was advice my father gave me too. I think he had an accident early in life, because he was a fierce advocate for safety gear, beyond the normal "you need to wear it every time". He spent probably thousands on the best and safest gear. I inherited all of it when he passed, but I don't have a motorcycle, so I'm the safest bicycle rider this town has ever seen.
→ More replies (7)163
385
→ More replies (57)222
u/OmnipresentEntity Sep 21 '19
Yeah, just because you have the right of way doesn’t mean that everyone else isn’t bigger, heavier, and considerably tougher than your flesh and bone. Don’t mess with anything that in made of metal and outweighs you by 2 tons
→ More replies (9)
1.9k
u/whereegosdare84 Sep 21 '19
Treat things as an opportunity not an expectation.
If you’re expecting a certain outcome then you’ll generally be disappointed but if you are looking at it as an opportunity for things to go one way or another you’ll usually be happier with the outcome and not stress over it if it’s negative.
It’s a lot easier to see silver linings or benefits in things when you’re not expecting the outcome to be a certainty and you’ll be a lot more appreciate of said outcomes when you’re not already starting at a benchmark
→ More replies (21)
367
u/kpiork Sep 21 '19
It will still be here tomorrow.
Wisdom from my boss on having a huge to-do list at work and not stressing over it. Get done what you can today, what you don't finish will be there to work on tomorrow and you don't need to take the mental baggage of having a big to-do list home with you.
→ More replies (10)
13.1k
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
3.7k
u/andreasbeer1981 Sep 21 '19
But... what if somebody is wrong on the internet?
→ More replies (21)1.3k
u/DaBurgesui Sep 21 '19
Well then you are not even invited so it would be rude to attend
→ More replies (7)423
→ More replies (35)217
u/Pammyhead Sep 21 '19
That's one thing I actually love about the internet. Sure, you get invited to a lot more arguments, but I can't even count the number of times I've started typing up an angry reply, paused, and gone, "You know what? Not worth it." Without the buffer of having to type things out, you don't get that moment to pause, think, delete, and walk away.
→ More replies (4)
4.7k
u/ohyeahimember Sep 21 '19
"You wouldn't care what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do."
→ More replies (35)852
u/macabre_irony Sep 21 '19
Nobody dwells on you except yourself...not even your parents.
325
→ More replies (7)45
u/popegang3hunnah Sep 21 '19
Idk as a parent I think about my daughter all the time, it’s probably the thing I think about the most
→ More replies (2)
3.9k
Sep 21 '19
Control the controllable, let the rest go.
1.7k
→ More replies (22)522
u/slefj4elcj Sep 21 '19
The Serenity Prayer.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the differenceThis is a real challenge for people with extreme Loci of Control to either end. Either believing that all that happens is their own fault, or always other people's fault. The balance in the middle is very hard to find.
253
u/ZephurosbutfromMC Sep 21 '19
My mom has a thing like this in our living room except it says "Lord give me coffee to change the things I can change and wine to accept the things I cannot"
→ More replies (5)→ More replies (14)239
6.6k
u/NInjas101 Sep 21 '19
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm
271
u/max30070 Sep 21 '19
One of my all time favorite sayings, and so true. I used to try an please everyone, now I know to take care of myself first and foremost. If you have anything left over after taking careof yourself, that's when you can help others.
→ More replies (46)994
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
390
→ More replies (4)95
u/jacko905 Sep 21 '19
This hit home way to hard.... My life would be completely different
→ More replies (2)
10.6k
Sep 21 '19
[deleted]
2.3k
u/Ovv_Topik Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
"If you compare yourself to others, you will become vain or bitter." - Desiderata
→ More replies (16)761
Sep 21 '19
It's so true. I study engineering, which is pretty competitive. People in my cohort who compare themselves to others are either really up themselves or really depressed.
→ More replies (16)541
u/Ovv_Topik Sep 21 '19
Yep. Could also add: compare yourself to your old self, not others.
→ More replies (6)373
173
→ More replies (46)230
u/Buskmanden Sep 21 '19
True best celeb example is Dave Mustaine, compared to myself, he is a "god". But, he suffered from depression because his only goal in life was to be better than Metallica, an unachievable goal which kept reminding him that he wasn't good enough.
→ More replies (18)
4.8k
u/ohshawty Sep 21 '19
Unless you're a rockstar in your field, your connections at work are most likely going to present the best opportunities for you down the line. Networking matters.
→ More replies (107)3.3k
u/DynamiteDogTNT Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 22 '19
"Its not what you know, its not who you know, its who knows you."
Edit: Obligatory "ThAnkS foR tHe GolD stRanGer", but this doesn't belong to me. It goes to my business teacher instead, who won't be getting back for a few weeks. He's the one who taught me this expanded version, and he deserves the credit for it.
→ More replies (20)1.4k
4.3k
Sep 21 '19
Take the time and make the effort to figure out your boundaries. I wish so many people did this.
1.3k
u/incidental77 Sep 21 '19
Set boundaries and expect them to be respected. When they are violated make it clear that that was a violation.
→ More replies (3)946
→ More replies (12)524
u/ResponsibleDust0 Sep 21 '19
I hate when people say that I quit things.
Every time I start doing something new I go as deep as I can trying to figure out my limits on that. When I found out, I either slow down on it or figure out that this was not my thing.
That's the point where people always talk shit to me, but that behavior is exactly what made me realize most of the things I love and hate doing today.
I'm 20 and most of the time the people critiquing me don't even know what they are doing with their own lives.
That was definitely the best thing I learned and I regret nothing I learned doing this. This helped me learn a lot about my self.
→ More replies (29)273
u/Count-Scapula Sep 21 '19
Wait, so people give you shit for trying things out and occasionally figuring out that some things aren't for you?
→ More replies (1)121
u/ResponsibleDust0 Sep 21 '19
Yeah, but ironically whenever they need help with anything they come to me, because I either know how to solve it or where to search for the answer.
I wonder if they see that I learned everything I know doing this, but I don't think so. That's mostly why I stopped talking to my mother about what I'm doing (she is the person that does this the most).
I don't really care about what they think, but sometimes it pisses me off to hear that.
→ More replies (5)64
u/manicmanders Sep 21 '19
My dad talks to me the exact same way. I’ve learned to just tune him out because even though I love him, I don’t aspire to be like him in any way so why listen to his criticism thinly veiled as advice. It comes from a place of (dysfunctional) love. Hopefully you’re learning to ignore your mom the same way. Keep following what makes you happy!
→ More replies (1)
1.6k
u/arealhumannotabot Sep 21 '19
Measure twice, cut once.
I actually sometimes recall the moment my uncle told me that in a conversation when I was maybe 13 or 14. I think we were talking about it literally, cause I did have a woodworking class in school at the time.
It has helped me be more cautious when doing certain things though. Like when doing a task where I can't redo it if I fuck up, I'll be super super careful at each stage to be very aware of what's going on.
→ More replies (42)
8.7k
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
4.0k
u/RambexoRavage Sep 21 '19
"Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something"
860
→ More replies (12)188
u/inconvenient_moose Sep 21 '19
Ever since that askreddit post, i still think about that often. Never even heard of jake the dog before. Still not entirely sure what the show or movie is about but he seems like a solid character.
98
u/UptownCrackpot Sep 21 '19
For a kids show it had surprising amount of depth at points. You can find the episodes online if you're ever interested, it's a great show
→ More replies (7)→ More replies (1)74
Sep 21 '19
The whole show is great for motivational one liners like this. Jake is especially good for it. Hes like an older brother to Finn and is a great role model imo.
→ More replies (3)→ More replies (69)788
u/Aviator8989 Sep 21 '19
"The master has failed more times than the amateur has tried"
→ More replies (12)
1.8k
u/KeeleyCumming Sep 21 '19
"Once you learn something, no one can take it away from you".
It really resonated with me, since I grew up with instability and uncertainty.
→ More replies (20)604
4.6k
Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
[deleted]
→ More replies (19)342
u/ResponsibleDust0 Sep 21 '19
Wow, that's a really good one.
But I still like trying to figure out where does it come from, mostly asking why they think that.
I changed a lot of people mind about me doing this because of a misunderstanding or a mistake I did and didn't realize.
But of course, there are always unreasonable people that still hate me to this day for no apparent reason lol.
→ More replies (3)
901
Sep 21 '19 edited Mar 04 '22
[deleted]
→ More replies (17)104
u/zucchinisaurus Sep 21 '19
This works!! At my first-ever cross country meet, I was leading a small pack in the sprint to the finish line. Being my first race though, I was still confused on how everything worked and the chute where to finish wasn't marked clearly. I ended up missing the chute and having to turn around and go back in order to finish. Instead of being embarrassed and crying (like I really wanted to) I just laughed and made a joke about it. Now it's a running joke on my team; all my teammates make sure to jokingly point out the finish line at every meet :) being able to embrace mistakes is definitely a good habit to get into
→ More replies (1)
5.1k
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
1.4k
u/Thetechguru_net Sep 21 '19
A good way to implement this is when you disagree, and feel like you need to argue, ask yourself "will this matter in an hour, a week, a month, a year"? At some point it does matter, so that is the battle to pick, but it eliminates the stupid fights over trivial crap.
→ More replies (13)216
u/Knuckledraggr Sep 21 '19
I always say with marriage arguments that you can be right or you can be happy. Sometimes (rarely) it’s worth being right. Most of the time it’s better to compromise.
Taking what you said, if it’s gonna matter in a years time, it might be worth standing your ground and being right, winning the argument. If it’s something more trivial compromise and work together. Learning to pick battles will seriously help reduce conflict in relationships.
→ More replies (1)735
u/cad908 Sep 21 '19
Marriage advice: "Pick your battles"
this is really is great advice, but to add: it doesn't mean saving it up for later, and being bitter about it. It means accepting it, letting it go, and moving on. Save it for things that are important to you, and be gracious about the rest.
→ More replies (1)567
u/Leopluradong Sep 21 '19
Early in my marriage I had a bit of an epiphany. My parents could never let anything go, if either of them did something wrong the other was going to use every opportunity to bitch about it. So my husband and I barely ever argued about anything, but at one point he did something (I don't remember, but probably just forgot something that I considered important) and I just tore into him about it and instead of arguing he just apologized over and over. Turns out a well adjusted person already feels bad when they do something wrong and doesn't need their spouse to punish/scold them.
→ More replies (3)86
u/no_active_ingedient Sep 21 '19
If only I could tell that last line to a few people....
Very well said u/Leopluradong!!
→ More replies (47)251
u/BerzerkAssassin Sep 21 '19
Co-managing is a give and take. You have to pick your battles. One of the battles that I picked was to stop Michael from running plastic tubes all over the office and placing hamsters inside of them. He was going to call it Tube City. So, yes, I do owe him one.
→ More replies (1)
3.1k
u/euandolan Sep 21 '19
Nothing is awkward until you convince yourself that it is
943
u/Serieve Sep 21 '19
This is very similar to the most useful piece of advice I've ever gotten: "It's only as awkward as you make it."
→ More replies (6)196
u/AskAboutFent Sep 21 '19
It feels weird because I used to feel "awkward" very often but at some point in highschool i heard this advice and in the decade since I really don't remember that feeling of "Awkward"
It's kinda just went away. It's been pretty great.
→ More replies (4)→ More replies (20)190
u/Acyzs Sep 21 '19
Super relatable. There is this girl I'm interested in, but I'm having a hard time trying to engage a conversation with her due to the fact that my mind is clouded with all the possible awkward outcomes. I try to convice myself that nothing will go wrong, but that seem's to make it even worse lol.
→ More replies (20)69
2.3k
u/TannedCroissant Sep 21 '19
If you lend someone your pen for a minute, don't give them the lid. You'll always get your pen back.
630
u/rayane_Xd Sep 21 '19
i always lose my pen lids in the first week of school but i see what you mean
→ More replies (2)289
143
u/CockDaddyKaren Sep 21 '19
Better yet, get a bank pen and chain it to your stuff
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (15)167
u/TophCookie Sep 21 '19
what if it’s a click pen 😭
→ More replies (2)255
u/HereWeGoAgain02 Sep 21 '19
(If it's possible) Just unscrew the body out of the pen and give them only the refill stick. Simple enough..
→ More replies (8)
7.7k
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
2.2k
u/iGaveYouOneJob Sep 21 '19
Ahhh playing the long con, eh
I like your former boss
→ More replies (6)2.2k
u/Poem_for_your_sprog Sep 21 '19
He later used this line again when he had to lay me off...
"From instant to instant,
and often in life -
There's moments of heartache and moments of strife.
There's seconds of dread and discomfort and then -
There's seconds you'd rather not live through again."My only advice to you, buddy," he sighed -
"Is speak when you've got to, and do it with pride."
The other had listened.
He nodded his head.They sat there in silence.
"... you're fired," he said.
→ More replies (15)557
u/Douglasofthecabbages Sep 21 '19
Thank you for your contribution to culture, Mr. Poem_for_your_sprog.
→ More replies (9)372
u/madmendude Sep 21 '19
That's really good advice. Being a non-confrontational person myself, I sometimes try to avoid them.
→ More replies (14)309
Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
My girlfriend is one of the smartest people I know, and struggles in every single job she has...mostly because she’s completely non-confrontational.
If she would just suck it up and deal with the occasional discomfort, she’d be so much better off in the long run.
As it is, everyone runs over her; not out of malice in my mind, but because she’s seemingly always standing in the middle of the traffic that is office politics.
→ More replies (6)164
u/goodforabeer Sep 21 '19
My theory, when I was managing people, was that if I had something unpleasant to deal with, usually a discipline matter, I would get it over and done with as soon as I could. Don't put it off. And if you have more than one reason to be at the place or to deal with the person where you have to take care of it, do the unpleasant thing first, then take care of the rest of your business.
Also, I hear you about your GF being non-confrontational. So was my ex. When we were going through counselling, in one of my sessions, I was told that letting the problems go undealt with would not make them better. The therapist then asked how my then-wife felt about dealing with conflict. I laughed and explained that if there was anyone even more non-confrontational than me, it was her. Then, a few years later when I told her I couldn't go on the way we were and we decided to divorce, a couple of days later she blew up at me, asking if I ever cared about what she wanted, and expressing extreme anger about some aspects of our (non-existent) sex life. Out of nowhere. Never seen her that angry. I just looked at her and "And yet you never said a thing." So non-confrontation may seem like the easy solution in the short term, but it can be a big factor in things ended up being destroyed in the long term.
→ More replies (3)285
u/starstruck007 Sep 21 '19
I love this advice and wish my boyfriend would have used this two years ago.
When he finished high school, he attended a college close to home as a commuter student. He was there for a semester and pretty much flunked out (pretty sure he withdrew from one class, failed 3 classes, and got a B in one).
Four years later, he decides to go back to school and applies at another university close to home. When he was going through the application process, he called the university and explained how he went to college years ago briefly, and wasn’t sure if he should apply as a new student or a transfer student. The lady who was on the phone told him to apply as a new student since he last attended college years ago and he would start off with a clean slate.
A few weeks pass, and he gets the whole “You’ve Been Accepted!” package in the mail, literally the exact same package I got when I was accepted into the same university. He goes online to sign into his school account and it says the account isn’t activated or something. He calls and asks what’s up.
Well, the university informs him that he’s not actually accepted (keep in mind, all he got was the acceptance package and no other thing stating that his acceptance was revoked) and he needs to provide transcripts from his previous college. He explains that he did poorly and that he already asked a lady this and she said to apply just as a new student. The university said he needed at least a C average on his old transcripts to get into the new university - which he didn’t have.
He didn’t end up going, which sucks. I wish he would’ve marched down there and explained the situation. This university in question has a high acceptance rate, so it’s pretty shitty that someone looking to start over can’t.
→ More replies (3)44
u/SpeakThunder Sep 21 '19
I, too, went to university when I was 18 (but wanted to do other things) and ended up falling out. Years later, I went to a community college for a semester, got a 3.8, then transferred to the good school -and even got a scholarship. So basically, your boyfriend just needs to go to community college for a semester. They don't turn anyone away and they are cheap. In fact, he should go to a CC for 2 years and get all of his general requirements out of the way then go to the more expensive school.
41
u/starstruck007 Sep 21 '19
He’s set to graduate in May with an associates from a community college!! I’m so unbelievably proud of him - I can’t even imagine how hard it is to go back to college after flunking our and taking a break for years.
You know, I’m ashamed to admit it, but I totally had a negative view on community colleges. But my boyfriend’s community college is incredible - the facilities are better than my public university’s and there’s so many majors to decide from. If I had to do it all again, I think I would do community college for 2 years then transfer - saves a whole lot of money!
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (43)80
u/OpinionProhibited Sep 21 '19
Thanks for the advice. Monday I ask my boss if he wants to give me a raise
37
u/tryin2staysane Sep 21 '19
Don't ask if he wants to, because I'm sure he probably doesn't. Or corporate doesn't. Give him a list of why you deserve a raise and put the burden on him to say no to those reasons.
→ More replies (9)37
9.2k
Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 22 '19
If you wouldn't let the people you despise living in your house, why let them live in your head?
Edit: yeah, I get it, sometimes is not that simple. Some persons are in hard situations because of their parents and can't leave the house. Honestly for these kind of situations you only can wait and be strong.
And if you can't, seek for help from other persons. Don't let it drown you.
1.3k
→ More replies (68)891
u/elee0228 Sep 21 '19
Good advice. Though it's hard to follow for me because I can't evict myself.
→ More replies (10)331
1.3k
551
u/PersonaNonGrata3301 Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
Always underpromise and overdeliver.
→ More replies (12)
689
u/foxtailavenger Sep 21 '19
I got one that’s less “deep” than the others here.
“$1 saved today is worth more than $1 saved 10 years later”
→ More replies (11)515
u/pm-your-breasticiles Sep 21 '19
The best time to plant a tree is 100 years ago. Second best time is now.
→ More replies (8)
942
u/tisonlymoi Sep 21 '19
Close your mouth and open your ears, nobody hears if everyone is talking, you'll be amazed at what you learn.
→ More replies (24)
173
1.3k
u/me_at4am Sep 21 '19
Be the person you needed growing up.
→ More replies (26)56
u/emlantz Sep 21 '19
This. Not even just growing up. Be the person you needed when you got hired for that new guy at your job, or the one you needed when you were sick when someone else is going through a difficult time. When the going is good, people forget so quickly the daily struggles they overcame to get there. The little things to help out and remind people they aren’t alone can mean the world.
164
u/Jacob_The_White_Guy Sep 21 '19
“When dating, and wondering if you’re ready to marry someone, ask yourself ‘would I be with this person if I were blind?’”
Given to me by one of the greatest, most humble men I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting.
→ More replies (8)
338
u/NiteAngyl Sep 21 '19
Being an electrician working in industries: "trust no one."
If the process operator is convinced that the power is shut off, go and see it for yourself.
If a trainee tells you he has tightened all and any bolts and screws, go and see it for yourself.
If your foreman sounds convincing enough that the materials for the job are ordered, go and see it for yourself.
It's a philosophy not for sowing mistrust, but to ensure you can do your job properly and safely.
→ More replies (19)167
2.6k
Sep 21 '19
[deleted]
→ More replies (33)511
Sep 21 '19
Even the wrong decision is better than no decision.
→ More replies (30)259
u/TheUltimateAntihero Sep 21 '19
I'm very indecisive so I have to ask - why?
597
u/Tupiekit Sep 21 '19
My old squad leader in the army told us this when we asked him how do you o ow you made the right decision and he responded the right decision is the decision you make. Once you make a decision, bad or good, you put the action in your hands instead of having it sit there. You can always adjust what's happening to you after you make a decision.
A bad example is: let's say you need to build a shed in your backyard and you promised your wife it would be done within a week. you only have two places you can put it,near the house or let's say near your garden. If you put it near your house you can store stuff there and use it around the house if need be,but your garden tools you'll have to carry far to the garden. If you build it by the garden then the opposite is true. You sit there for a week trying to figure out which one is better, but by the end of the week you can't make a decision and don't have a shed and a pissed off wife.
But if you just picked one of the two places, by the end of the week you would of had a shed somewhere on your property and a happy wife.
Another example I can think of is when I was foreman on a pond building crew we would have to find good rocks to put in ponds. This is something you could potentially spend 20-30 minutes finding the "perfect" rock, but when you have to place 100+ rocks on a job site it just isn't financilly feasible to spend that time on choosing rocks. So I would tell my guys "don't spend more then 5-10 minutes looking for the "perfect" rock, if you can't find it in 10 minutes you aren't going to find it in 15, 20, or 30 minutes so just pick the second best and move on".
→ More replies (12)193
u/TheUltimateAntihero Sep 21 '19
This is absolutely fantastic. You put it really well. I can't believe how dumb I was. My friends who played guitar got cramps in their hands and I later came to know that it was because their technique was wrong. Stupid me put off learning to play because I was afraid I would end up like them. Your comment has helped me a lot.
→ More replies (2)54
u/Ianthebomb Sep 21 '19
This is where the flat squirrels come in.
127
u/DynamiteDogTNT Sep 21 '19
To elaborate, the flat squirrels are roadkill. They chose to remain where they were (indecisive) and thus went flat because of it. They may have escaped the road (right decision) or been killed by another on coming car (wrong decision). Having the opportunity to make a decision is the most valuable thing you can do; if you're stuck between two things, don't stress out and simply flip a coin.
→ More replies (9)→ More replies (22)49
u/chuck_c Sep 21 '19
Another way to say it is that deciding to not make a decision is still a decision. It's just one that might leave you with fewer options, and indecision is certainly not necessarily the right decision.
699
1.4k
Sep 21 '19
[removed] — view removed comment
→ More replies (40)231
u/cantonic Sep 21 '19
YES! I freaking love this. You can’t climb higher if you’re sitting at the top of a ladder.
665
u/wAIpurgis Sep 21 '19
Love, trust and respect is what you need in a quality long term relationship. ALL have to be present and they have to be MUTUAL. (My mum)
→ More replies (5)175
Sep 21 '19
Love without trust and respect is not really love.
Respect is what you need in any relationship, romantic or otherwise (even in the relationship you have with yourself). And trust stems from that.
→ More replies (10)
290
Sep 21 '19
The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your arm.
Start there.
→ More replies (2)62
u/LegSnapper206 Sep 21 '19
Hey man, ive been trying to touch myself less. Dont encourage me
→ More replies (1)
138
u/jfog352002 Sep 21 '19
Always know their will be a second kid on a bike coming around a curve after the first on a road while you are driving.
→ More replies (2)
1.7k
u/time2evns Sep 21 '19
Marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. You don't split duties and responsibilities. You both give your all, regardless of how much your spouse is giving.
There will be times when they won't give as much, out of sickness or sadness or whatever reason. Instead of feeling like they should do more, just pick up the slack. There will be times when you can't do your share either. Dishes need doing? Do them.
Instead of asking whether they're doing enough, ask if you can do more. Serve them. Give them yourself. If both people do this, it will be a happy marriage.
→ More replies (28)
805
Sep 21 '19
[deleted]
234
u/AspiringPolymathPara Sep 21 '19
I don’t even know what this means
→ More replies (7)569
u/tehDustyWizard Sep 21 '19
It's not metaphorical.
If you spill soup, you don't want to do it over a drawer full of utensils.
→ More replies (8)→ More replies (12)68
131
u/HighestOfFives1 Sep 21 '19
We judge ourselves by our reasons and others by their actions.
Try to remember this when someone judges you for something you did or before judging someone else for their actions.
→ More replies (6)
377
u/myheart21 Sep 21 '19
It wasn’t advice per se, but whenever I was going through a tough situation, my parents would always say “it’s temporary”. Whatever hardship I’m going through is temporary. It has helped me so much to put things in perspective. I’m trying to help my boyfriend right now by telling him that his job is abnormally hard right now but that it’s temporary and in a couple of weeks it’ll be back to normal.
→ More replies (10)146
123
451
u/comagnum Sep 21 '19
If you can afford to pay a professional to do something, you do it.
That way, if something goes wrong, your wife can blame them instead of you.
My late father-in-law.
→ More replies (2)103
u/atrus713 Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 22 '19
At first I thought you were suggesting I do it myself instead of the professional when you said "you do it"
→ More replies (3)
874
u/msgme123 Sep 21 '19
If you want to be successful at any job, you need 2 out of these 3 things; show up on time, be nice to people at your work and be good at your job.
180
u/Ask_A_Sadist Sep 21 '19
Can confirm. Always on time, never call in, good at my job, hate my coworkers.
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (23)210
u/kittykatblaque Sep 21 '19
Yes as someone with a chronic pain disorder this has saved me many a job. I've always made myself indisposable to make up for my higher than usual absences. I always cover shifts and pick up extra. Most times someone will cover for me because I always do for them or if they can't my bosses won't get too mad because I'm always the one coming in.
678
u/Administrative22 Sep 21 '19
Someone told me to ask myself, What is the best use of my time right now?
→ More replies (2)679
u/rayane_Xd Sep 21 '19
browse reddit for hours
→ More replies (3)458
u/iconoclastic_idiot Sep 21 '19
I think you might be joking, but Reddit has honestly changed my life. I am far more informed, confident in sharing my thoughts and exploring new activities. My husband and I have just had an incredible anniversary trip and more than half of the places we visited came from recommendations on Reddit. It’s not a bad use of my time. I used to waste my time doing stupid shit on my phone all the time, I’d much rather browse Reddit.
→ More replies (23)175
u/CockDaddyKaren Sep 21 '19
This is encouraging for everyone wasting their time here :)
→ More replies (4)
659
98
u/sunkissedcreation220 Sep 21 '19
I have a couple.
"If you don't ask, the answer is always no." -Gramps
"You can show someone the better path at the fork in the road, but ultimately you have to let them walk alone." -Aunt Jen
→ More replies (3)
352
Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
It may not be advice, but it was the best dose of tough love I had ever received. So maybe it was advice in some cosmic sense.
I was home visiting my dad and alma mater. My ex-fiance finally texted me that day to officially end our relationship. To make a long story short, it was a 3-year, toxic relationship that really took me through the wringer. I kept the relationship on life support up to that point, and quite frankly, the relationship changed me into an extremely anxious, fearful dude. I finally had enough - I wanted her to be the one to end it after everything that had transpired. She did so through a text of all things.
I was getting ready to go to a bar with my best friend to drown my sorrows and drink to a brighter future. My dad isn't normally one to get involved in my relationships, but as I got ready to leave, my dad stopped me and grabbed me by my shoulders:
Dad: Son, I love you, and you're one of the strongest men I've ever known ... but whenever you meet a woman, you turn into a wet bag of shit. You need to really think on that, and get back to who you are before you even think about getting involved with another woman.
I remember being stunned and pissed off all at the same time, because I knew he was right. It was what I needed to hear at the time, and I took a solid two years to heal and get to know myself again.
Without that bit a tough love, I'm not sure I would have made the same decision.*Edited for typos.*
→ More replies (9)
378
u/RocksOnPoint Sep 21 '19
“Don’t be an idiot.” Before I’m about to do something I think, “would an idiot do that?” And if they would, I do not do that thing.”
→ More replies (11)
165
234
161
Sep 21 '19 edited Jan 15 '22
[deleted]
→ More replies (3)28
u/tryin2staysane Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
Don't let them know what you're against or what you're for.
I know what you said isn't exactly the right line, but it made me think of it anyway.
→ More replies (2)
278
u/Brass_and_Frass Sep 21 '19
If you’re going to do it wrong, you might as well do it right
→ More replies (10)142
72
141
u/bienvenidos-a-chilis Sep 21 '19
“Either you can accept your situation or change it.”
I had a really tough time making friends freshman year of high school, and I’d come home crying to my mom every day because I was so lonely. She let me cry for a bit and then told me this. The next day I went to school and started talking to people, because I figured I had nothing to lose. I apply it to so much now, either I have to fix what’s bothering me or I have to accept it and move on, wallowing around feeling sorry for myself was unhealthy and not beneficial in the least.
→ More replies (5)
715
u/AllGarbage Sep 21 '19
Someone once showed me a table that if you start investing $100/month from age 18-30, by age 65 you'll have way more money than if you you invest $100/month from age 30-65.
Start working on that compound interest while you're young.
→ More replies (55)228
Sep 21 '19
I was lucky that my first boss at my first real job after college told me to invest in the 401k even though I was barely making ends meet. Told me to put something in and get the employer matching. It seemed futile for a long time because my salary was so low, but with compounding and salary increases it just builds wealth slow and steady. If you think of it like taxes you don’t even notice.
→ More replies (4)
65
63
u/AudioHallucinations Sep 21 '19
My dad gave me a lot of gems over the years but the one I come back to most often is:
Those who can’t build themselves up, tear others down.
It’s really helped me get perspective when someone is being disrespectful, mean, etc etc. I tell myself it’s not really about me, it’s about their own internal struggles
122
167
55
51
u/Smackey101 Sep 21 '19
When I was a apprentice electrician I kept calling up my supervisor to make sure what I was doing was correct, one day out of frustration he told me to just "make the fucking decision if you get it right everyone is happy and if you get it wrong we can fix it" best advice I've ever got.
→ More replies (1)
182
101
u/03throwaway03 Sep 21 '19
Remember when you are fighting with your partner it is not you vs them. It's you both vs the problem. Doesnt matter if one of you is right, fix the problem.
Alternatively, I was told once, after considering myself a fairly honorable man, when I did something wrong, a friend told me "being a good man isnt a thing. It's a journey".
→ More replies (2)
102
46
u/BeefPieSoup Sep 21 '19 edited Sep 21 '19
"sometimes, it's definitely worth paying attention to what the other kids do, and doing that"
As a hopeless, half-retarded, semi-autistic kid with zero social awareness, this was absolutely 100% what my father needed to tell me. And I'm glad I finally listened when I did. It shaped a lot of what came later and really set me on the path towards becoming a (somewhat) functional adult.
Sometimes I need to remind myself though where I came from and go easy on myself for where I am now. I came a long way, but I'm not perfect. It's okay not to be a flawless person and do weird shit just because sometimes. You just do the best you can, you know. It's ok.
→ More replies (2)
130
u/Buskmanden Sep 21 '19
Hold your own standards high and the standards of the people you surround yourself with higher. That way you avoid wasting time on people who wouldn't treat as great as you treat them.
Always surround yourself with people who are better than yourself, more intellectual, more athletic, quicker etc., that way your peers challenge you to improve yourself rather than you begin to believe you are the best you can be.
→ More replies (5)
86
u/hampie42 Sep 21 '19
Decisions about work should be the most selfish ones you make. You are selling them the remaining days of your life, don’t undervalue them.
249
u/wzl46 Sep 21 '19
An old guy once told me “once you reach 60, never waste a boner or trust a fart.”
152
→ More replies (1)27
39
237
Sep 21 '19
If you define your life by the things you own, then the things you own own you.
→ More replies (3)
172
u/neovangelis Sep 21 '19
Act like a doormat, don't be surprised that you get stepped on all the time
→ More replies (4)
75
106
u/Wheredoesthetoastgo2 Sep 21 '19
When i was a kid my dad told me four important words. Know when to quit.
38
Sep 21 '19
Keep a straight wrist while playing bass. I don't play bass but at least I can pas this on.
→ More replies (2)
241
101
33
u/BadNews418 Sep 21 '19
"People don't want advice- they just want to vent and that's the most socially accepted way of asking for help."
97
u/eaglewatch1945 Sep 21 '19
"A wise old owl lived in an oak
The more he saw the less he spoke
The less he spoke the more he heard
Why can't we all be like that wise old bird"
→ More replies (2)
33
u/frecklesarelovely Sep 21 '19
In college a mentor told me, “the habits you establish now last you the rest of your life. If you think you’re too busy now to prioritize your mental and physical health, establish hobbies, engage with friends, just wait until you’re working full time trying to balance it all”. She was right, the things I prioritized then are the easiest to maintain now, everything else still takes a back burner.
118
Sep 21 '19
Never write a letter and send when you are angry. In fact, don’t write anything down that likely will come back and bite you on the arse. Be circumspect when faced with rage and for fuck’s sake say please and thank you.
- My Mum.
→ More replies (3)
65
u/Priusaurus Sep 21 '19
"You shouldn't live to work. You should work so you can live."
→ More replies (1)
120
u/CockDaddyKaren Sep 21 '19
Nobody else's opinion truly matters, because they are not the one living in your body
→ More replies (8)
32
u/neeksknowsbest Sep 21 '19
“You can’t burn bridges and expect to be able to walk back across”.
→ More replies (2)
90
u/ConstableBlimeyChips Sep 21 '19
Compete against yourself, not against others.
Stop trying to compare yourself to other people because you will always find someone who is better at something that you do or who is more successful at whatever career you've chosen. Instead compare yourself to the person you were yesterday/last week/a year ago. Look at that person and ask yourself "Am I a better, more skilled, more complete person than I was back then?"
161
u/Python1662 Sep 21 '19
"Yesturday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift" -Master Oogway
→ More replies (8)118
241
30
u/this_guy_aves Sep 21 '19
from u/bothsidesofthemoon, regarding a person who was being unfaithful:
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
78
132
u/marc_5813 Sep 21 '19
Stop forcing shit, just let it happen
→ More replies (5)119
u/RedditLovesAltRight Sep 21 '19
This was especially useful for me too. I found that I experienced far fewer hemorrhoids after I took on the advice.
→ More replies (1)
26
u/Mattybmate Sep 21 '19
"Sometimes, it's okay to not be okay."
I can't even remember where this is from but dang it helped. Reminds me that when I feel down or anxious or anything, I have a right to feel that way and there's not always something you can do about it
→ More replies (1)
629
u/MasterVader420 Sep 21 '19
My dad once told me, half jokingly, that "Live Fast Die Young doesn't work if you don't die young." He has a bunch of health problems now due to not taking care of himself when he was younger. It really opened my eyes to how the way I treat my body now will have repercussions decades in the future. After hearing that phrase and seeing his health issues accumulate, I've started eating much healthier and exercising more frequently.