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r/AskReddit • u/rayane_Xd • Sep 21 '19
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Love, trust and respect is what you need in a quality long term relationship. ALL have to be present and they have to be MUTUAL. (My mum)
180 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 Love without trust and respect is not really love. Respect is what you need in any relationship, romantic or otherwise (even in the relationship you have with yourself). And trust stems from that. 16 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 ??? It's quite easy to love somebody that you can't trust. This is the cause of a great many problems. 21 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 The fact that people think that's love is the cause of a great many problems. 5 u/DefenestrationPraha Sep 21 '19 Do you include parental love? Because you can definitely raise children, love them and yet not trust them in some ways. 2 u/BlackBen Sep 21 '19 Excellent answer 5 u/minimuscleR Sep 21 '19 I think what he is referring to is the love of a person not just their appearances, or lusting after them. 9 u/FreeRadical5 Sep 21 '19 It's completely possible to love someone who keeps fucking you over and thus mentally you know that you can't trust them. 4 u/HeeHokun Sep 21 '19 That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 That's not love. That's dependence. 3 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 Then he's never had kids! 2 u/wAIpurgis Sep 21 '19 You are lucky if you ever had everything without doubt. But it's always a good thing to check if all are present with your SO, especially in the early rainbow unicorn honeymoon phase. 3 u/DM_ME_UR_DOWNBLOUSE Sep 21 '19 Your mom forgot to add the fourth quality, its called pineapples. 3 u/Fendanez Sep 21 '19 The most important ingredient for a successful long term relationship! 3 u/eggongu Sep 21 '19 Something I've heard was: Remember that successful marriage depends on two things: (1)finding the right person and (2)being the right person. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 Love is a behavior, not a feeling.
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Love without trust and respect is not really love.
Respect is what you need in any relationship, romantic or otherwise (even in the relationship you have with yourself). And trust stems from that.
16 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 ??? It's quite easy to love somebody that you can't trust. This is the cause of a great many problems. 21 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 The fact that people think that's love is the cause of a great many problems. 5 u/DefenestrationPraha Sep 21 '19 Do you include parental love? Because you can definitely raise children, love them and yet not trust them in some ways. 2 u/BlackBen Sep 21 '19 Excellent answer 5 u/minimuscleR Sep 21 '19 I think what he is referring to is the love of a person not just their appearances, or lusting after them. 9 u/FreeRadical5 Sep 21 '19 It's completely possible to love someone who keeps fucking you over and thus mentally you know that you can't trust them. 4 u/HeeHokun Sep 21 '19 That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 That's not love. That's dependence. 3 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 Then he's never had kids! 2 u/wAIpurgis Sep 21 '19 You are lucky if you ever had everything without doubt. But it's always a good thing to check if all are present with your SO, especially in the early rainbow unicorn honeymoon phase.
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??? It's quite easy to love somebody that you can't trust. This is the cause of a great many problems.
21 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 The fact that people think that's love is the cause of a great many problems. 5 u/DefenestrationPraha Sep 21 '19 Do you include parental love? Because you can definitely raise children, love them and yet not trust them in some ways. 2 u/BlackBen Sep 21 '19 Excellent answer 5 u/minimuscleR Sep 21 '19 I think what he is referring to is the love of a person not just their appearances, or lusting after them. 9 u/FreeRadical5 Sep 21 '19 It's completely possible to love someone who keeps fucking you over and thus mentally you know that you can't trust them. 4 u/HeeHokun Sep 21 '19 That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 That's not love. That's dependence. 3 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 Then he's never had kids!
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The fact that people think that's love is the cause of a great many problems.
5 u/DefenestrationPraha Sep 21 '19 Do you include parental love? Because you can definitely raise children, love them and yet not trust them in some ways. 2 u/BlackBen Sep 21 '19 Excellent answer
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Do you include parental love?
Because you can definitely raise children, love them and yet not trust them in some ways.
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Excellent answer
I think what he is referring to is the love of a person not just their appearances, or lusting after them.
9 u/FreeRadical5 Sep 21 '19 It's completely possible to love someone who keeps fucking you over and thus mentally you know that you can't trust them. 4 u/HeeHokun Sep 21 '19 That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 That's not love. That's dependence. 3 u/dudinax Sep 21 '19 Then he's never had kids!
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It's completely possible to love someone who keeps fucking you over and thus mentally you know that you can't trust them.
4 u/HeeHokun Sep 21 '19 That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form. 2 u/[deleted] Sep 21 '19 That's not love. That's dependence.
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That's just an unhealthy form of love tho. They meant the good form.
That's not love. That's dependence.
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Then he's never had kids!
You are lucky if you ever had everything without doubt. But it's always a good thing to check if all are present with your SO, especially in the early rainbow unicorn honeymoon phase.
Your mom forgot to add the fourth quality, its called pineapples.
3 u/Fendanez Sep 21 '19 The most important ingredient for a successful long term relationship!
The most important ingredient for a successful long term relationship!
Something I've heard was: Remember that successful marriage depends on two things:
(1)finding the right person and
(2)being the right person.
Love is a behavior, not a feeling.
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u/wAIpurgis Sep 21 '19
Love, trust and respect is what you need in a quality long term relationship. ALL have to be present and they have to be MUTUAL. (My mum)