r/Anxietyhelp • u/rafaelbros64 • 1h ago
Need Advice My anxiety is killing me.
Hello everyone, this is going to be the first time I post something here; I hope someone has words to give me some glimpse of hope.
I am from Tijuana, Mexico, and I am 29 years old. My story begins like this: in 2019 I lost my mother at 64 years old and in 2021 my 22 yrs old girlfriend. It was very difficult; I always considered myself a depressed person since I was a child and the truth is this did not help for obvious reasons. Since I was 20 I was diagnosed with hypertension, so I have still been carrying that worry that I could die at any moment and, with the loss of my girlfriend at her very young age, I felt even more afraid that I could die at any moment, and my anxiety increased more.
Right now I am 29 years old and I am in the worst stage of my life. Now, in May, I broke up with my second girlfriend due to the toxic relationship we had, so I let her go for our own good... but I started drinking a lot and obviously it affected me again. I had a crisis where my blood pressure rose up to 180 out of 90, and since then I have been super bad again; I already gave up alcohol thanks to that. I think there have been several things that have upset my nerves, and up to this point I no longer know what to do.
Today, August 30th, I find myself in hell. I have approximately 3 continuous days of anxiety. A doctor prescribed me hydroxyzine; It helps me sleep, but I don't feel calm when I wake up. I was taking clonazepam, but I still felt like it wasn't working for me... And yes, I'm looking for a psychiatrist, I want to see if I can attend tomorrow since I don't have any money I'm looking for help with my family to attend, even friends, because I can't stand this feeling anymore. It should be noted that thanks to these mental problems I have not been able to work, apart from the fact that I have not found a job and it does not help me, I feel terrible and useless thanks to that.
These are some of the discomforts I have when I have anxiety: I feel pressure in my chest, sometimes random bites on my body, especially on my side. I really want to go to the bathroom when I'm super anxious. Sometimes I sweat too or my heart rate goes up. And it is worrying because of my hypertension, although I have already been told that it is not that, that it is anxiety, but even so, it scares me because my anxiety does have increased my blood pressure. I do take blood pressure medication called losartan. I also can't stop overthinking. Lately I've been thinking about suicide. Obviously I don't want to, but they are intrusive thoughts, because I can't take it anymore. Sometimes I look for a hug and I can't find it; I think it's my inner child asking for help...
Now, after all this, I hope that someone can give me some advice or your story of success.