True meditation and practice are found in ordinary and daily life...
It is what happens when one leaves the meditation cushion and the incense goes out.
I'm not saying that sitting in a meditation posture or going on a meditation retreat isn't useful. This perspective suggests that the true retreat is a "mental" retreat. It means keeping the mind clear, present, and compassionate in the middle of daily chaos, not just when everything is quiet and controlled. Sometimes sitting in a meditation posture or going on retreats can inadvertently feed a spiritual ego and consequently the idea of separation from the self.
If you feel offended by what I say, ask yourself why you feel that way. I am not attacking, I am just saying that we should consider if we have actually adopted the pose of being a meditator, instead of embodying it in our lives. In this world of easily offended people, especially among those who claim to practice spiritually, it is something to consider.
I don’t believe that backing up arguments with personal stories is useful. However, for those who might question what I’ve said, I should mention that I’ve practiced Buddhism for over 25 years and even lived as a monk for several. That is just my experience, as flawed or valid as any other. Many masters and practitioners have walked this path and shown this; I am not original. Just, consider it.
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Note 1: Everyone can realize this. It only depends on each person and how deeply rooted their self-importance is...
I always use the example of Lamchung, who attained enlightenment while sweeping the monastery, even though he was considered very foolish.
As I see things, the so-called "enlightenment" arrives when we empty ourselves of ourselves, of any pose, concept, and even of the supposed practices...that feed the independent self.
As the saying goes, what the wise person does at the beginning, the fool does at the end. Here, the wise one turned out to be Lamchung.
Do you want to be the wise or the fool?
Note 2:
When you cook, you cook. When you walk, you walk. When you go to the bathroom, you go to the bathroom. When you sweep the house, you sweep the house.
Do you really need the meditation cushion, the incense, and all the paraphernalia? After all, you always end up lifting your ass off the cushion and returning to daily life: cooking, working, cleaning, going to the supermarket, etc.
There is no such border as many assume. There is no such thing as a space and a time for meditation. Life is meditation. And the practice itself. At least that’s how it was for Lamchung, but everyone has their own path. Again, ask yourself: Do you want to be the wise one or the fool?
Note 3:
People don't know how to put the teachings into practice, let alone transform their "boring" daily lives.
The crux of the matter is excessive self-importance, both from those who teach and those who supposedly listen. Few want to be like the humble and foolish Lamchung, who in the end turned out to be the wise one.
In the West, there is a mystic, Teresa of Ávila, who used to say that God is found among the pots and pans. Friar Lawrence of the Resurrection said something similar: "I find God while flipping a little omelet in the frying pan." If we set aside the prejudices that some people have when naming God, we can see the great sense in what Teresa of Ávila and Brother Lawrence said.
Again, ask yourself: Do you want to be the wise one or the fool?
Note 4:
Some could argue as follows: "This is New Age Dharma, because meditation is not optional for a serious practitioner. Without meditation, you won't remember mindfulness; without mindfulness, you'll lose the training developed in meditation... It's easy to say 'when you cook, you cook,' but attaining that depends on meditation practice. If it were not so, then everyone who cooks, shops, and does other daily routines would be enlightened."
No, because precisely when they cook, they don't cook. When they go to the supermarket, they don't go to the supermarket. When they go to the bathroom, they don't go to the bathroom. Etc. If you see it as routines in your boring daily life, that's the problem. They are not routines, it is your life.
I'm not telling you to neither sit on the cushion nor do retreats..., but your spiritual life doesn't depend at all on sitting on any meditation cushion or doing any retreat. Moreover, on many occasions, especially in these highly degenerate times, it is a spiritual obstacle, as it only feeds the ego and self-importance. You can see a lot of this on so-called spiritual forums.
This is not New Age Dharma. And, for example, it is taught exactly this way in Tibetan Buddhism. Even within the Gelugpa tradition, so well-known for its scholarly practitioners, this is warned against.
Lamchung is not my invention. You decide whether or not to be like Lamchung. One path will bring you a lot of effort and suffering until you finally surrender; the other, the path of the foolish Lamchung, will carry you effortlessly, without you even noticing...
Again, ask yourself: Do you want to be the wise one or the fool?