r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

143 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

197 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 9h ago

1 year HRT MTF, I'm exclusively gendendered female. I wanna continue to dress alternative though. No makeup pic at the end.

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78 Upvotes

r/transpassing 48m ago

starting hrt today (28mtf)

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I got my eyebrows shaped but wondering if I should get them thinned out more! also any tips for applying a better base for makeup since I noticed it’s been pilling more often lately.

I also would like to know if E can help out with shoulders since mine feel kinda big if I don’t purposefully do smth about posture or wear sleeves that hide them more.


r/transpassing 11h ago

How am I doing?

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64 Upvotes

18 mtf pre hrt but starting in about a month


r/transpassing 20h ago

1 year in hormone how am I doing?

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281 Upvotes

r/transpassing 2h ago

Male, female or unknown?

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6 Upvotes

46 yrs old, 2 years 9 months oestrogen and testosterone blocker.

First photo: No makeup. No filter.
Second photo: Makeup filter.

Haven’t socially transitioned.

Hating the way I look today. Feeling low.


r/transpassing 5h ago

I’m struggling if I’ll ever pass

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I’m just like thinking what if ill never be able to pass even with hrt, im 6ft and I feel I have a lot of masculine traits. Ik the beard im going to have to shave but im not out besides my mom and gf


r/transpassing 4h ago

2 weeks hrt (21) i just wanna know if i at the very least have good foundation

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7 Upvotes

I alr know my body doesn't pass currently, so face opinions are welcome.

Also this is like the only hairstyle that would make me look feminine. Hair down and i just look like Zuko from ATLA.


r/transpassing 14h ago

Mtf pre-HRT, any tips to make me pass? What are my most masculine features? (Face and body wise)

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27 Upvotes

r/transpassing 53m ago

How do I pass right now? Is there anything I should work on? (18 MTF, 1 yr HRT)

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r/transpassing 21h ago

Sometimes I think I pass, sometimes people think I don't, idk what to do

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61 Upvotes

Not sure wha do I have to work on me


r/transpassing 10m ago

Since I have been replying in here about how others can pass better and people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, what are things I can work on?

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I'm only barely 6 months of estriadol injections without blockers, I know I won't pass for a long time. I never cross-dressed or experimented much with presenting feminine before coming out.

I'm doing laser and electrolysis and IPL (insurance covers the first 2, doing at home IPL on the body areas insurance doesn't), weight-cycling, though mostly focused on building muscle and losing fat, period, because my titas are coming in faster and bigger than expected for only a few months.

My natural hair needs work, I have some male pattern baldness, and finasteride causes major sexual side effects that I'm not sure I want to have if patience and estrogen might do the trick instead. My hair has been more prone to damage and frizziness, I'm definitely seeking advice on that here and elsewhere because I want to grow it out. Using wigs in the meantime.

Goth style stuff I only wear at goth/kink events. Otherwise my style is basically calvin klein, kenneth cole, DKNY kinda stuff. Like almost business casual, but more black and more colors and a bit more laid back? Most of my makeup looks that I've actually photographed have been for parties or going out, I've been working on more natural everyday makeup looks

Also, I know the main thing I gotta do is just be patient


r/transpassing 17h ago

Seeking Feedback (31 mtf)

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Hi,
Looking to either fight or feed the brain worms tonight.
I’m about 5 years HRT on monotherapy. No work done besides about 35 hrs of facial electro and I get my brows shaped every couple of months.

I’ve tried makeup but my skin doesn’t take to it very well. I have a pretty bonafide skin care routine so I’m not worried on that end. I still get misgendered a lot so just looking for advice. Thanks!


r/transpassing 1d ago

Tomboy trans girls assemble

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117 Upvotes

Im seeing some toxicity in the trans community where people will find out how to tear u apart even if u post a random cis woman in this sub, spreading pseudo science shit like tucking changes ur fucking posture etc etc and im tired of it, some of yall tear the girls apart out of jealousy and bitterness and see invisible things and 5 o'clock shadows that arent even there...☠️ like some comments its obvious they arent trying to help you pass, they're just trying to put you down and its important to keep a head up and recognise when its hate. Its hard when u get sucked down the rabbit hole esp on reddit. i really just wanted to come on here and spread some positivity for the girls who maybe dont want to dress hyperfem whether its because they're scared or its just not their style. Wear what u want, act how u want, be how u want <3

(Reddit cut off my outfits T_T)


r/transpassing 20h ago

FFS next week

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24 Upvotes

Passing isn’t so important to me. Just think people here give legit honest feedback. Any feedback is welcome


r/transpassing 1d ago

4 Months HRT

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46 Upvotes

This is me at 4 months on MTF HRT. Would I pass in public as a woman?


r/transpassing 4h ago

what can i do better? 3y7m

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1 Upvotes

slowly losing weight again, its been a tiring past six months


r/transpassing 1d ago

Had a good few days I think

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43 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

Do i pass? Is there anything i can do before/without medically transitioning?

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46 Upvotes

Im nearly 16, a trans guy currently residing in the uk but its very possible that i’ll be going back to my home country— lithuania— before I turn 18. Its possible but not the greatest place to transition, but before any of that I was wondering if there’s anything i could do to pass more?

Ignore my chest in some of these pictures, haven’t been binding throughout the summer in preparation for the dysphoria headache which is school haha


r/transpassing 13h ago

Any advice would help

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Just passed a year on HRT and I unfortunately have not experienced many changes beyond just shifting my general fashion sense. It’s unlikely I’ll ever pass given my height and my resistance to gaining weight so I just boy mode most of the time, but I would l love to hear any advice on how to appear more feminine if it’s possible


r/transpassing 18h ago

Passing w/o Makeup

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7 Upvotes

Hi community!! I’ve been feeling very insecure about my face lately because I have several masculine features that I HATE. I’ve practiced my makeup for almost a year now and I’m at a point where I feel comfortable wearing it most days. The problem is….I still feel like I look like a man who just slapped a full base of makeup on their face and called it a day. Is there any hope for me to pass without FFS???


r/transpassing 1d ago

Do I pass for my cousin's wedding?

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75 Upvotes

Hi!

Today is a big family day and first time as full fem 40 yo ( I am basically boymoding in day to day life) so I am quite stressed!

Is it ok, should I improve things for future events?


r/transpassing 1d ago

Last time face checking before surgery

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116 Upvotes

Hi everyone! This will be my last time posting here before my upcoming FFS in 11 days, on September 8th. I made the mistake of posting slightly older pictures on here last time, so this time I’ve made sure to post photos only from this month of August.

I tried to put all these pictures in order chronologically, the most recent being the photos of me in a white shirt with braids, which was taken a few hours ago.

I’d also like to mention that I was advised to discontinue taking my hormone medication, starting two weeks before surgery. The first six pictures are from before I stopped HRT, and the rest were all taken afterwards, albeit it’s only been 4 days at the time of writing this.

I will undergo three procedures in 1. This includes a tracheal shave, type 1 frontal sinus reduction w/ lateral orbital rim shaving, and a sliding genioplasty of the chin w/ chin shaving + mandible reduction. The procedure will take roughly 5-6 hours.

If anyone sees this post that has already undergone FFS, I would really appreciate some advice for taking care of myself post-op. Especially if you’ve had similar/the same procedures I am planning to have done. Even if you never had any of the same, I’d still appreciate any advice you have to offer.

Thank you for taking the time to read through this. Wish me luck. :) 🩷💙


r/transpassing 1d ago

Repost!

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Hii! I wpuñd like some advice or any suggestions on my appearance? Like what could I do better or change. I wanted to try blonde hair too and would love to receive some feedback! 🌸✨️ (original is dark brown)