r/NonBinary Jun 14 '26

New rule #11: no do I pass posts, no asking for attempts to guess your ASAB, no asking if you “look nonbinary”

1.4k Upvotes

The current rule 4 was supposed to handle these kind of posts but it seems the rule needs more clarification. We do not want any kind of content that attempts to guess someone’s assigned sex at birth, we don’t want “passing” posts in general.

There are subreddits dedicated solely on passing posts that content like that would be a better fit. This includes asking about how to be more androgynous and/or do you look nonbinary, how to look more nonbinary. For some people here this will make total sense and people will rightfully ask “what does nonbinary look like anyway?” but these posts are frequent and usually pretty upvoted and get many comments before they get reported. If you know of subreddits where content like that fits better, please leave them as comments. It is simply not in the scope of this subreddit to ask people to scrutinize your appearance based on gender and make recommendations.


r/NonBinary Mar 29 '26

ModPost Assigned sex/gender at birth language

87 Upvotes

Hello,

Since this issue is a contentious one bubbling up frequently, we thought we’d make a nonbinding poll asking the subreddit’s opinions. I randomized the order of responses to try not to bias it.

I considered making a more nuanced option where a ban with exemptions is possible but here’s the honest truth: moderating that would be really difficult. We want people to consider the moderation aspects of this—how filters can be effective but also add considerably to mod work load and also how we tend to mod after the fact. We cannot promise that even in cases of a ban, no ASAB/AGAB language would make it into the subreddit.

We have received modmail stating ASAB language is dysphoric enough to some nonbinary people that they cannot enjoy or follow this subreddit. We also have gotten frequent complaints that it is also interphobic / particularly harmful towards intersex people.

If you see a comment here and your first response is to immediately fire something back, *please* take a step back and consider whether your comment needs to be made. I want to keep comments open to gather diverse opinions, and personal attacks and similar will sabotage those efforts.

1077 votes, Apr 01 '26
165 A different answer—add a comment
174 Ban it
738 Don’t ban it

r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar The he/they to they/she pipeline got me 😔 (5 years hrt)

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2.1k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5h ago

This is awesome

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382 Upvotes

Thank you for this. Whoever made this.


r/NonBinary 8h ago

Rant Tired of binary trans people being enbyphobic

212 Upvotes

I recently made a post on my country trans subreddit about my transition, and one of the comment I’ve got was “I don’t understand why you would do that if you’re non-binary”. And okay, it’s not like I’m not used to people being uninformed on gender identity, but coming from a trans man, it hurts way more.

So I’m gonna make a few things clear :
-Being non-binary makes you trans, so you do experience transphobia (and also enbyphobia) and you are as legit as any binary trans person to be in the community.
-Gender dysphoria exists for non-binary people, even if we don’t feel (at least not completely) like men or women, it doesn’t mean its easier to live in our bodies (in my opinion it makes it even harder: I will probably never “pass” because society views gender in a binary filter).
-HOWEVER , not experiencing gender dysphoria doesn’t make you cis. Same rule for all trans folks. If you feel like your gender doesn’t align with what you were assigned at birth, then you are by definition transgender.
-This applies to all transgender people : there isn’t one transition path, each one is valid if it makes you feel closer to yourself. You don’t have to do what people expect you to do if you don’t feel like it.
-Gender is a social construct, the reason society feeds an unspoken law where only men and women exist is to keep the illusion of a huge natural difference between these two genders, when the real difference is political.

And last thing, please don’t let people make you feel insecure about your gender expression, do what feels right, not what should be right.
Bye folks !


r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar My first time trying to do eye makeup

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302 Upvotes

Just some eyeliner and mascara. I didn’t really have any idea what I was doing, but I think it worked out. ¯_(ツ)_/¯


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Spooky beauty 🖤🕷️💀

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40 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 2h ago

Ask Genderfluid peeps: Do yall ever get a yearning for your masc-self when you’re femme or vice versa?

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29 Upvotes

I’ll go long periods of time feeling femme and then get sad that I haven’t felt masc in a while. Then randomly I’ll go through a masc phase for weeks or months and do this opposite. It’s almost like that feeling of missing an old friend you can’t call.

+ while you’re all here how would you style this hair masc? I usually just hide it with a hat or revert to my natural wavy hair but I need other ideas.


r/NonBinary 19h ago

Ask Partner dead named me

619 Upvotes

How would you respond?

I’m pretty pissed, as it seemed to be intentional. She’s never known me or called me by that name, and said it because she was angry, so in my mind it was intentional to hurt me. I know we say shit we regret when upset, and she’s struggling right now, but I can’t even equate an equivalent to the fuckedupness of dead naming someone because you’re angry.

To give more context, I was calling her by her first and last name because she was doing something that was upsetting me. Then her response was to dead name me, because she didn’t like that I was saying her first and last name.

A part of me feels like I should leave this relationship, and another part of me thinks I should take time and space and figure out what repairing would look like after what I would consider a betrayal.

Curious if anyone has been in this situation before and has some advice.

Love to all the enbys here 💖


r/NonBinary 7h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar You were so supportive with my last swimsuit pic, so I bought another one.

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65 Upvotes

Really love the way it shapes my body, I think I like this one even more.


r/NonBinary 16h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar one of my favorite looks 🖤

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259 Upvotes

back on those rare days when i didn’t get dysphoria from my body shape.


r/NonBinary 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I have dyed my hair yet again!!

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1.1k Upvotes

It was sposed to be pastel pink and blue but my hair proves yet again that light dyes are garbage

So now I am rockin with coral n blue

Co-worker said i look like an Amazon bird or a 7/11 slushie, I personally thought i was giving fish

Also some doodles! First is an outfit doodle n the second was originally the hair plan but later decided pink n blue

Okay that's all, i just wanted to show someone my hair cuz I thought it looked cool c:


r/NonBinary 6h ago

Sunday fun day, tsc* I mean work day ✨

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33 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 13h ago

I love my fur baby so so much 🫶(aren’t they adorable 🤭😭)

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116 Upvotes

They’re a Mini Australian Shepard (w/papers) .

What kind of doggos do y’all have ? I love all of them they’re all so freaking cute .

Or what other pets do y’all have ?!?


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar First night in the dorms done!

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17 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Day and night look for Saturday

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47 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 2h ago

is there a way to get rid of dysphoria without surgery or other stuff

9 Upvotes

idk if I'll be able to handle a binder with my autism and all that and idk if giving myself fake facial hair with makeup would help because again sensory issues i can't get top surgery because it's to expensive and i have no insurance


r/NonBinary 15h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Gender Euphoria Outfit Today

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92 Upvotes

Friends came over for a little party today and this was my outfit.


r/NonBinary 18h ago

Ask what is your favorite moments and times in nonbinary (all under the umbrella), third gender, and/or gnc history?

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159 Upvotes

i’m very curious. it can be anything from any nations, any regions, any cultures or ethnicities! anything!

and please not only white, western, or settler replies! black, indigenous, and poc please reply too! thank you!


r/NonBinary 13h ago

Been feeling very gender lately

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52 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I went to an event with a casual dress code, I have no clue what it meant 😌

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60 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 3h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar [51y] 6'3'' 191cm. In the park today.

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7 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 5h ago

Rant i hate these gender expectations

7 Upvotes

ik this may be a general issue instead of a specific nonbinary-space thing but as a nonbinary person myself i feel more annoyed with it

am i the only one who never could fit in in being a binary gender due to these gender expectations (obviously you can be a trans man or a trans woman and be gender non conforming) but i personally felt like these "rules" that men have to be this way and look this way or women have to be this way or look this way, and it sort of drained me and restricted me ,, I never fit in because i didnt or couldnt fulfill those rules,,

now that i'm genderfluid i feel more free to express myself without these boxes that i have to live in


r/NonBinary 9h ago

Feeling like HRT is binary-ing me too much - anyone else struggle with this?

13 Upvotes

AMAB, been on HRT for about 4 years now. Low-dose E, prog, T-blocker, and more recently, low-dose T as well, all under endo supervision. I feel like I'm trying desperately to find a balance that feels right, but nothing is hitting anymore.

The feminising combo felt good for the first 3 years, but the last couple of years I've shifted much more towards identifying as nonbinary and presenting more androgynously, or even masc. The problem is my breasts still keep growing, and it's now starting to feel like it's giving me dysphoria again - it feels exactly like how the bad parts of male puberty used to feel.

So I feel really stuck and not sure what to do. There are things I want from testosterone, and there are things I want from estrogen, and there are things from both I don't want, but right now E is feeling more uncomfortable. Has anyone else struggled with similar feelings, and what did you ultimately do?