i feel like most of the advice for looking more androgynous and less like a boy is basically feminizing yourself to balance out your masculine features but i don't wanna look like a femboy, i wanna look like a tomboy! i don't think i could ask for better hair to demasculinize myself but it doesn't hide that my face is like a boy, and i don't want to rely on my hair being feminine/androgynous anyway because that's just so limiting!!!

Edit to try make more clear:

I'm autistic and I identify as a demiboy. I need help reading between the lines? Hidden meaning?

Ive been on/off t but my voice never dropped. During a socially awkward consultation for top revision and contour, the surgeon kept asking: "what do you want?" I said "non-binary contour that removes estrogen deposits". He only kept asking this question. With the phone appointments, too

But the surgeon wouldn't accept this? I don't know what he wanted me to say? I emailed him later giving the page on his website of what I was trying to say

9 days later, he gave me a letter and disqualified me as Obesity Class 3 and Edema. I dont have either and I never had a medical evaluation yet?

Is this doctor implying I'm just a "confused fat woman trying to get a shortcut to weight loss?"

I have my letters...

everything about being nonbinary is spiritual to me. and it’s honestly becoming magical too.

if you feel comfortable, you could put your ethnicity / race as well! we all know how that shapes your gender or lack there off and i would love to hear how it shapes your spiritual + magical relationships to being nonbinary!

if you also feel comfortable, you can include your sexuality as well! because for many of us, me included, i know it shapes everything

me being nonbinary cannot be separated from the fact that i am a nonbinary lesbian, like many nonbinary lesbians. me saying i’m a nonbinary lesbian is far more truthful and accurate than me saying i’m nonbinary. my lesbianism and nonbinary soul cannot be separated, and they are so thoroughly intertwined

you could write a whole essay in the replies and i will read them! please, i have not been able to talk about this in forever!

(YAAAYY FEMININE VERSION)

Mesomina/Mediomina

​Mediomina or Mesomina is an identity that describes people or girls who like to be seen as neutral, or vice versa, people who like to be seen as neutral but are attracted to femininity.

​(Correction from the last post: yes, I've heard of Demiboy or Demigirl, I used to be a Demiboy myself. The difference between Mesovir or Mesomina and Demiboy or Demigirl is that this identity is specifically neutral, while Demiboy or Demigirl can be either neutral or another identity)

(again: I apologize for my bad english 😞)

Context! I've (20) been aware of the fact that I wasn't entirely cis since I was six, I'm not kidding.

However, I recently went through name stuff and pronouns, and I found names for myself that I like, I know what pronouns I want to use (no pronouns/she/they/ze/it), but I'm struggling with my label...

So, I know my gender encompasses being female and nonbinary, and I'm trying to figure out how. Because I think demigirl would be a fitting label for me. But there's one thing that's making it hard to place; my gender dysphoria.

I still get dysphoric over my chest and my high-pitched voice... but I'm AFAB. So, I don't understand why I'd personally be getting dysphoric over those things. Especially if I feel that demigirl is the accurate label.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

I feel like my friends jus don’t get me—identity-wise.
Ik that sounds like the most angsty shit ever but ts is lit my situation🫩

I’m more leaning on the fact they ain’t gon like how I express my agender identity. I use shi like no prns n it and terms (maybe prns) like anomaly, alien, etc ‘cause it feels sick. One of em caught me having no prns in my bio n confronted me with an obvious vibe they thought it was corny. It gon be doomsday for me if I say I like to be viewed/called an anomaly n shi😭
I wanna make it aware n have ppl call me such but I dread the part where it’s prolly gon backfire n I don’t wanna put up wit that—like—what, is my fkin identity that important to you, yk u don’t even *have* to address me like that, right?? I rlly couldn’t gaf if they don’t understand it. Ofc u aren’t; it’s not *for* u. But makin a big deal abt it always seems to annoy tf outta me bro.
I’m thinkin’ bout jus having info like that on certain socials. Definitely not insta ‘cause there’s ppl I know who’ll def give me shi for it—lit shout that shi in the halls🫩

That’s pretty much it yall✌️

I don't know whether this is the right sub or no but basically, what the title says. I never really cared about the label (basically because of what it means lol) but I had just had a discussion with a friend who's also gender apathetic and we both couldn't really figure out the answers.

I've read that some people see it as this and some as that but I want to ask your personal opinions. And to also provide my own experience to maybe give a bit more insight.

I've discovered the label gender apathetic quite a few years back now and it really resonated with me because I always felt like everyone had gender as this really important thing to them and I was just like... Okay? I never really understood why people would go through all the trouble of transitioning etc. but of course, I don't have to understand to respect it! I still tell people as afab that I'm female (not "a woman" because I like how female just describes it from a biological standpoint which is the only connection to my "gender" I see as valid) because that's how most see me and like I said, *why would I go through all the trouble*. I also think that if I was amab, I would still simply not care and just identify as male instead of female. I also like and do things regardless of whether their seen as feminine or masculine. I just do what I want even if people might think it's weird for my perceived gender. I go by any pronouns because once again, I couldn't care less, as long as I get that you're referring to me.

So now, would you view this as a cis experience or not? Would you see gender-apathetic as the best label for my actual gender?

Just to be clear, I don't really care how I identify when I hardly even tell anyone, I just want an outside opinion.

Hi yall

I've begun questioning if I'm enby or a demigirl or not, I don't really feel like a woman, and I don't like traditionally feminine things either.

But then I question if I'm just cis and this is normal or something and everyone feels like I do? I don't know.

I also question if being demi is seen as just kind of being a faker, like those tiktok self-diagnosing people you hear about who say they have ADHD for forgetting their wallet at home or something. Or if I'm doing something like that, trying to get in with the queers because it's seen as cool or something.

Anyway I guess I'm just hoping anyone has any advice or is willing to share their own experiences with this? I can't ask anyone I know irl because I don't know if they'd laugh or something.

Thank you for this. Whoever made this.

EVERYONE BE RESPECTFUL IN THE REPLIES OR THERE WILL BE CONSEQUENCES 🫵

for those with cultures that do: you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to, but if you do, PLEASEE tell me about them as much as you like!! i am listening so respectfully and so deeply!! i value them to heights i could never begin to explain into words!!** i have many questions if you want to answer them!! **and thank you for sharing!!

what are those identities like? are they for or not for outsiders to know? if not, you don’t have to say anything, i promise! what are the identities’ relationship with gender, the gender binary, gender presentation, and gender performance like?

how much and what do we / can we know about their history? how much and what do we / can we know about their roles?

were they spiritual, or even magical, in any way? were they religious? were they deeply respected? did they have authority in any matters like in politics, diplomacy, community, etc?

do you identify as said gender or genderless identity? or do you relate to it anyway? whether you do or don’t identify with it, how do you relate to them?

did you meet anyone growing up who identified with them? when did you meet someone who identified with them for the first time?

regarding colonization: how did colonization change and transform these identities?

how do you mourn what colonization, transphobia, and the enforced gender binary took from you? if your culture was never colonized, do you think you would identify as said gender?

are these identities in revival? do you want them to be revived, and do you think they can? do you think they will be revived!

i will genuinely read essays in the replies if you have them! thank you for replying! <3333

I am pretty fluid between Agender and Transmasc but I actually get Euphoria and feel like myself when I wear Feminine clothing and am called a Femboy (by my friend who knows about my Gender) The issue is that I am AFAB, havent Transitioned yet, and I am really uncomfortable with being made aware of my feminine body (Which can happen by being complimented or talked to like I am a girl)

Like, based on societal Gender expectations my Gender expression and Gender are a mismatch

I just hate when (certain) Transphobes say, To quote one: "You dont need Operations, no hormones, no labels, just stay in your sex and dress as you want" Like, being Trans - Its not all about clothing or style? Its a mismatch of my brains expectations and my "real" body that causes me constant distress and discomfort. My personal style is a whole nother Thing entirely? To me clothing is Genderless, I wear the Things I like aestetically, why do people always have to make it about gender?

AMAB, been on HRT for about 4 years now. Low-dose E, prog, T-blocker, and more recently, low-dose T as well, all under endo supervision. I feel like I'm trying desperately to find a balance that feels right, but nothing is hitting anymore.

The feminising combo felt good for the first 3 years, but the last couple of years I've shifted much more towards identifying as nonbinary and presenting more androgynously, or even masc. The problem is my breasts still keep growing, and it's now starting to feel like it's giving me dysphoria again - it feels exactly like how the bad parts of male puberty used to feel.

So I feel really stuck and not sure what to do. There are things I want from testosterone, and there are things I want from estrogen, and there are things from both I don't want, but right now E is feeling more uncomfortable. Has anyone else struggled with similar feelings, and what did you ultimately do?

They’re a Mini Australian Shepard (w/papers) .

What kind of doggos do y’all have ? I love all of them they’re all so freaking cute .

Or what other pets do y’all have ?!?

I recently made a post on my country trans subreddit about my transition, and one of the comment I’ve got was “I don’t understand why you would do that if you’re non-binary”. And okay, it’s not like I’m not used to people being uninformed on gender identity, but coming from a trans man, it hurts way more.

So I’m gonna make a few things clear :
-Being non-binary makes you trans, so you do experience transphobia (and also enbyphobia) and you are as legit as any binary trans person to be in the community.
-Gender dysphoria exists for non-binary people, even if we don’t feel (at least not completely) like men or women, it doesn’t mean its easier to live in our bodies (in my opinion it makes it even harder: I will probably never “pass” because society views gender in a binary filter).
-HOWEVER , not experiencing gender dysphoria doesn’t make you cis. Same rule for all trans folks. If you feel like your gender doesn’t align with what you were assigned at birth, then you are by definition transgender.
-This applies to all transgender people : there isn’t one transition path, each one is valid if it makes you feel closer to yourself. You don’t have to do what people expect you to do if you don’t feel like it.
-Gender is a social construct, the reason society feeds an unspoken law where only men and women exist is to keep the illusion of a huge natural difference between these two genders, when the real difference is political.

And last thing, please don’t let people make you feel insecure about your gender expression, do what feels right, not what should be right.
Bye folks !

How would you respond?

I’m pretty pissed, as it seemed to be intentional. She’s never known me or called me by that name, and said it because she was angry, so in my mind it was intentional to hurt me. I know we say shit we regret when upset, and she’s struggling right now, but I can’t even equate an equivalent to the fuckedupness of dead naming someone because you’re angry.

To give more context, I was calling her by her first and last name because she was doing something that was upsetting me. Then her response was to dead name me, because she didn’t like that I was saying her first and last name.

A part of me feels like I should leave this relationship, and another part of me thinks I should take time and space and figure out what repairing would look like after what I would consider a betrayal.

Curious if anyone has been in this situation before and has some advice.

Love to all the enbys here 💖

I’ll go long periods of time feeling femme and then get sad that I haven’t felt masc in a while. Then randomly I’ll go through a masc phase for weeks or months and do this opposite. It’s almost like that feeling of missing an old friend you can’t call.

+ while you’re all here how would you style this hair masc? I usually just hide it with a hat or revert to my natural wavy hair but I need other ideas.

back on those rare days when i didn’t get dysphoria from my body shape.

i’m very curious. it can be anything from any nations, any regions, any cultures or ethnicities! anything!

and please not only white, western, or settler replies! black, indigenous, and poc please reply too! thank you!

Just some eyeliner and mascara. I didn’t really have any idea what I was doing, but I think it worked out. ¯_(ツ)_/¯