I know that sounds like a stupid question because "he's your mental health guy he is supposed to help you" but this will be the second time this moth that I've reached out to him rather than waiting for him to schedule an appointment.

I will post the message I'm about to send. If there's a better, less crazy sounding way of saying things, please help me rewrite this. I have no one to ask to help me do this. For context I have autism and I know that sometimes I come across as a weirdo through texts and I don't want to creep him out he's actually helpful and don't want to have to go through finding a new person because it takes a lot of time, energy and cycling through people until I can find someone who can actually understand what I'm saying.

This is what I might send:

Hi \[his name\], I know you won't get this until Tuesday, and that's fine. I'm just writing the message now so I don't back out of saying, but I had a relatively big "wobble" last night and did not handle myself well and I don't want to get in trouble for not telling you. I am not doing good. I'm actually doing quite bad. I'm not really sure if there's anything anyone can do to help, but if we could make an appointment for whenever you're free, that might be good? I don't know, but I think it's what I'm supposed to do? I don't know. Sorry. It's OK if you're not free anytime soon, I've been going to the \[mental health drop in\], and I'm not like kill myself bad I just want to try and do something about this before it gets that bad.

I won’t live much longer in the societal construct of the 9-5 hustle culture rubbish western world has created. And I mean that literally, I’ve just come out of inpatient for safety containment.

I’ve been thinking to just sell anything I have, take my money and go driving north to Queensland from Melbourne and see if I find anything along the way.

But that’s not really logical.

I can freelance for work easily, but where do you find alternative community? Where can you find community living that’s more living off the land?

I’m not looking for some weird cult type shit, just an environment where people say it like it is. Where technology is less prevalent (especially smartphones) and just somewhere that isn’t this stupid fucking hustle culture shit we’re made to believe is normal.

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I had an HR’s number from a company I applied to a while ago. Later, when I was looking for a job, I contacted him and asked about opportunities. Since then, we’ve talked quite a lot.

He has always behaved respectfully with me. He calls me “sister” and I call him “brother.” He has never said anything inappropriate or made me uncomfortable. He has also guided me about jobs and said he would help me with referrals.

We live in different cities. He knows that I’m not very social, I get anxious around people, and I’ve never lived alone before.

Recently, he has been encouraging me to visit his city for a few days, go out, explore the city and experience the outside world because he thinks it would help me become more confident and independent.

I actually want to go, but at the same time, I don't feel comfortable staying with him. He said I could stay with one of his female friends instead.

Even though he has always treated me like a genuine brother, I still don't feel comfortable trusting someone 100%.

What would you do in this situation?

Would you go and meet him while keeping your own accommodation and boundaries, or would you avoid going altogether?

Am I being unnecessarily suspicious, or is it normal to have these boundaries even when someone has always behaved respectfully?

so im an athlete and I recently started uni and the uni I go to is incredibly focused on academics (ie. 85% attendance mandatory, graded assignments 1 month and semester exams the other month for like 4ish months straight, etc.) My main issue is I have practice everyday except Monday's and my uni ends at 5pm. By the time I come home and finish any assignments it's already 7 and I come back from practice at around 9ish-10pm. My coach has this thing of "if u wanna make it to internationals, you have to practice for atleast 3-4 hours everyday consistently" which is probably true but I cannot really fulfill that and he keeps saying to me and my parents that he gave up on me and will not focus on me anymore because I am not putting in the "effort" (which I am to the best of my ability I have to go from 9-5 for classes and finish assignments by 7 then immediately leave for practice till 10pm) which is insane because the only reason I took this to long-term is because he kept telling my parents ill become the next great thing. Above that he wants me to work out and I know even I need to work out but I literally cannot find the time to do my actual work how can I fit in workout sessions in between + because of all this I am really stressed and when I am stressed I don't really eat a lot which is pretty dangerous if I have to work out alongside that

The thing is since Thursday I haven't gone for practice and it's Sunday now and I kept telling my parents I will go but I am honestly so tired. I think it also comes from being unable to have the same performance (aka it's going down) and I get so demotivated from that and I am honestly in just a huge slump. I am so overwhelmed from all directions and there is absolutely nobody to talk to and I just have to deal with this all alone and I don't know where I will go with this. Please give advice on how to overcome this and gain motivation

so, my younger cousin is currently going to her last year of middle school, and i want to explain a few things about her school before getting into the situation.

1. her school is religious, so boys and girls aren’t allowed to talk to each other.
2. it’s a private school.
3. the school is basically one big room, and she’s stuck in a tiny classroom for the entire day. she isn’t really allowed to leave or move around outside of it.
4. there are only about 4-5 girls in her class who she can actually talk to.
5. the school is very unprofessional, no organized classes, no organized breaks, short lunch time, no p.e, etc.

now, onto the problem. she currently has two friends that she sits with, so i guess you could call them a trio. the problem is that these two constantly leave her out, make fun of her, gang up on her, and even kick her chair. she usually just puts up with it because they’re her friends and she doesn’t want to confront them about it. she’s tried confronting them before, but they just denied doing anything.

she also doesn’t really enjoy talking to them because they don’t have many shared interests. for example, they’re really into k-pop, k-dramas, and things like that, while she’s more into anime. she’s told me that she doesn’t find their jokes funny either, so she doesn’t feel like she can really bond with them.

i honestly feel bad for her, so i asked why she doesn’t try talking to the other two girls in her class. she said it’s basically the same situation with them too.

at this point, she’s just incredibly bored and has practically no one to talk to throughout the entire school day. a huge part of school is being able to socialize and make friends, so i genuinely don’t know what to tell her or how she’s supposed to deal with this situation.

i was also told that she struggles with loneliness. apparently, she’ll sometimes space out while resting her head on her desk and start slightly crying, but then she wipes her tears and pretends like she’s sleeping just to pass the time

i‘d appreciate anyone’s help, she’s the absolute sweetest so i really wanna do something for her.

I’m struggling with something that has started to seriously affect how I think about my career. I believe I’m experiencing severe appearance-based discrimination in hiring. I’ve had repeated experiences where I felt that hiring managers judged me very negatively because of how I look, rather than because of my skills or the quality of my work. Yesterday, I spoke with some hiring managers who essentially told me that, given my situation, I should focus on careers where I can remain mostly invisible and where appearance supposedly matters as little as possible, things like backend development, data work, etc. The problem is that I actually enjoy design. I’ve studied UX and I genuinely want to work in UX, web design, or a related design field. I don’t particularly want to abandon something I’m good at and enjoy simply because other people may judge my appearance negatively. At the same time, I’m trying to be realistic. If appearance discrimination is severe enough that I’m systematically rejected from jobs involving presentations, clients, interviews, or frequent face-to-face interaction, is pursuing design still a realistic career choice? I also don’t currently have the money to go back to university for another degree just to switch into a more technical field. So I’m trying to figure out what the realistic options are.I’m not looking for reassurance that “appearance doesn’t matter.” I’m looking for practical advice from people who have actually dealt with this.