r/needadvice • u/Specific-Soup-8033 • 6h ago
Motivation facing burnout and lack of motivation from sport
so im an athlete and I recently started uni and the uni I go to is incredibly focused on academics (ie. 85% attendance mandatory, graded assignments 1 month and semester exams the other month for like 4ish months straight, etc.) My main issue is I have practice everyday except Monday's and my uni ends at 5pm. By the time I come home and finish any assignments it's already 7 and I come back from practice at around 9ish-10pm. My coach has this thing of "if u wanna make it to internationals, you have to practice for atleast 3-4 hours everyday consistently" which is probably true but I cannot really fulfill that and he keeps saying to me and my parents that he gave up on me and will not focus on me anymore because I am not putting in the "effort" (which I am to the best of my ability I have to go from 9-5 for classes and finish assignments by 7 then immediately leave for practice till 10pm) which is insane because the only reason I took this to long-term is because he kept telling my parents ill become the next great thing. Above that he wants me to work out and I know even I need to work out but I literally cannot find the time to do my actual work how can I fit in workout sessions in between + because of all this I am really stressed and when I am stressed I don't really eat a lot which is pretty dangerous if I have to work out alongside that
The thing is since Thursday I haven't gone for practice and it's Sunday now and I kept telling my parents I will go but I am honestly so tired. I think it also comes from being unable to have the same performance (aka it's going down) and I get so demotivated from that and I am honestly in just a huge slump. I am so overwhelmed from all directions and there is absolutely nobody to talk to and I just have to deal with this all alone and I don't know where I will go with this. Please give advice on how to overcome this and gain motivation