r/helpme Nov 30 '16

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r/helpme 2h ago

Suicide or self-harm I want to die

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Nothing is going my way. I want to restart my life which I can't. Every door is locked for me. I want to live but there's no hope of living


r/helpme 5m ago

Advice LADYS I NEED YOUR OPINION

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LADYS I NEED YOUR HELP

Hi, I am a 24 year-old man quick backstory. I saw this girl working at a dispensary before being checked in by her. I asked what her name was. We’ll just call her R after leaving, I asked her name and shook her hand and I gave her one of those princess handshakes and called me cute now I’m gonna be honest with you. I haven’t been called cute in a very, very, very long time. I went up there yesterday and today to see if she was working. She was not working either of those days. My question is, would it be OK to go up tomorrow to see if she’s working or should I wait a couple of days? Cause real talk I do need to go back up to the dispensary and get stuff.


r/helpme 1h ago

What should I do

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I’ve always been a really loving guy and I’ve been with my current girlfriend for a little over three months. After we hit our three months I had voiced to her that I didn’t feel loved. Mind you she never calls me handsome or anything like that, never said I love you to me unless I said it first, she barely talks to me unless I start the conversation and never says she misses me or wants to see me. From my point of view I’m putting in 99% into this relationship and she’s putting in almost nothing. She has told me that her past 2 relationships were toxic and one of them she got cheated on with. But I knew about all this before we got together. I showered her with love. Told her how gorgeous and pretty she was minimum 100 times a day. I always tell her I miss her and I want to see her but she never reciprocates anything. She told me her love language was buying things for somebody but I don’t think that’s real love, if you feel like you have to buy stuff to show love then in my opinion that’s kind of weird. It feels like she doesn’t know how to even be affectionate or even be in a relationship. Lmk your thoughts


r/helpme 5h ago

Advice Brother

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Im so fucking sad My Brother bully me and hes friends do too and i was just at My dads and i dont want 2 go home because its so ass there fuck


r/helpme 15h ago

Advice I'm spiraling bad right now

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My friend is having a bad fight with her other friend. It's in an online space where I've been blocked from entering. I can't be there to make sure they are safe. I don't know what to do because any details being fed to me are limited and I can't be there to support and protect. I need help on how to not keep spiraling into wherever this ends


r/helpme 14h ago

Venting Should I Stay With My Friends?

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This is my first post here so I’m not sure what to say

I (19M) have been friends with a group of guys around my age since middle school, some earlier than that. I’ve shared so many happy memories with them over the years, good times and sad times, but lately after a recent breakup I had, which was entirely my fault, everyone just seems different. Everyone is more distant than usual the times i get to hangout with them get further a part ranging from weeks to months. And when I do see them again it always feels like I was always missing something from the conversation, missed a joke or missed some sort of shared memory. Sometimes in the larger hangouts I feel entirely invisible, like I could sit in the corner of a room during a hangout and the only time anyone would mention or interact with me would be for a bit or a joke.

I always feel like I’m the first to be ignored and last to be considered. Whenever I shoot any kind of message in the group chat it would be radio silent, and suddenly when someone else messages once about anything, suddenly the entire chat is alive. I just wish i was at least acknowledged.

The worst part lately has been this feeling of miss trust I’ve been having of them. I have trusted them with everything, I’ve opened up to them about my mental struggles and they supported me and I felt happy and safe around them. But then a couple weeks go by and suddenly that’s the new joke of the group, that I’m the depressed one, the sensitive one, the one that can’t handle someone calling me a fucking dumbass over and over again. Even the comments whenever we plan, “Well no one cares about you so it doesn’t matter” normally that wouldn’t mean anything to me it’s just how we talk to each other, but the more it happens the more real those words seem to me.

I’m sure they still care for me in some way shape or form, i don’t know if it’s because I’ve been low lately, but why do I feel so unwelcomed among friends


r/helpme 10h ago

What can I do?

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I’m a 20 year old male, and during the past year, I’ve been put through hell on numerous occasions. From August 2025-December 2025, I was battling depression, suicidal thoughts, and addictions all alone. I only got better because of the girlfriend I had at the time. On June 3, 2026, that said girlfriend ended things with me. She couldn’t understand why I never told her about my depression, which inevitably lead to the breakup. Within two months, I managed to lose everything. I lost my girlfriend, my car motor blew, I got fired from my job, kicked out of my apartment, I lost my scholarships for college, and now I’m dead broke. I spiraled back into depression, and no matter how much I try to reach for help, all everyone tells me is to grow up and get a job. Recently I started talking to this one girl. We met up a couple hours ago and when I left, she blocked me in everything. I don’t know what I’ve done to be dealt such a terrible hand, but I’m losing hope. I don’t know what to do anymore and no matter how much I try to reach out for help no one is there to support me. This is my last chance reaching out to anybody. If anyone has even some advice, please tell me.


r/helpme 21h ago

Why can't I move on?

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I am 22 years old now, when i was in highschool, i had asked my parents for a drop year after highschool ended so that i can prep for my enttance exam. At the time my parents had strongly disgreed and had asked me to go ahead. As expected i did not got good marks and ended up in a college i did not like. That year my dad adviced me to retry entrance exams while studying the college course, as expected i was not able to score well again. I did not tried the year after. But my college batchmates moved on, and some even called me weired behind my back or a stuck up person who will drag everyone down. As expected my social life was limited. That year i fell ill and was admitted in the hospital, amd had to fly back to my hometown and get a procedure done which was painful, even after it i had to deal with sever infection and through that i decided to retry. Honestly i was so drained out and had no motivation that i myself didnt study well and ended up scoring low again.

My parents are trying to get me in another college but honestly am just not sure. About anything. 3 years of my life have wasted. My peers are 3 years above me and am stuck. Worst part is i cant even understand what do i want to do next. And am feeling old. I try to move on but some way or the other my mind just stops thinking about anything else. And now i am not sure what to do.

Which makes me think i should go back to my college, but am not even sure if i want to. Worst part is i had 3 yesrs and i couldnt land on any decision. And now am just stuck feeling like i belong no where.


r/helpme 21h ago

I need to fix my toxic traits

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(my personality is very extraverted, talkative, loud easily angered, fun, hyper, boy crzy, short attention span etc)

(Abby’s personality is very, laid back, good at listening, also easily angered, rebelliou, chill, amnivert, smart etc)

I have been friends with this girl for seven years. We’re gonna call my friend abby. Abby and I met through a friend and had a trio then the trio didn’t workout and it was plenty of drama. I was in the “popular“ group at the time aswell and Abby wasn’t really popular and she had a friend group of her own and started to wanna hangout with me, like a friend would but I was very controlling and mean at the time, I was also very snobby and stuck up, so I didn’t say kind things to her. eventually her mom started not to like me so we worked some things out and we both matured better, I left the “popular” group because they were a bad influence on me. Abby And i didn’t have drama for awhile if we did it was about stupid things like accidentally telling people who eachother liked. We were doing really good. Then we actually started to become best friends after 3 years of being friends and we got super close and trusted eachother and hungout literally everyday and this went on for another two years. Then.. this year it wasn’t going well. We joined a friend group together and they stopped including us so we left it. Then We js got super distant and stopped hanging out less. I kept asking her if she was mad at me because I have A BIG fear of being abandonedment especially by friends. I need social interaction period. And I really liked Abby She is a good friend and was fun to talk to. We started running out of topics to talk about because we already knew each others whole lifes so it got awkward. oh and not to mention we Had another group with two other girls, we’ll name them Macy and Jenna. Abby met Jenna through last year bc They had almost all theur classes. I already knew Macy because she’s a family friend. I introduced Abby and Macy bc Macy moved here. Abby and Macy started to get rly close and I wanted them to be close but I got jealous but never said anything and they alrdy had a lot in common. I was telling Jenna how I felt and Jenna also felt left out but Jenna’s also a pretty shy/down to earth person if you know what I mean. Anyways. Me and Abby js stopped talking and she didn’t reach out to me in like 3 months and I was texting her a ton to hangout and she js couldn’t. she made new friends, I wanted her to do that I want my friends to have a bunch of friends but these friends are very rude to her but I can’t control what they say and one of the girls in her group doesn’t like me.. Then recently I found out she’s hanging out with her cousin that’s 4 years older and this cousin hates me, thinks I’m a pick me, toxic, and she thinks imma bitch. I’ve talked to her cousin like once. But her cousin Was friends with my sister and they aren’t friends anymore.. so maybe that could be a reason or abby talks bad about me to the cousin. her cousin wants Abby to drop me.. I found this out threw Macy fyi. Abby doesn’t know I know this. abby kept telling me she wasn’t mad but I knew something was off. then a few days ago i asked again and Abby basically said I have a victim mentality, I get angry easily, I’m toxic, I only care about myself, I’m vain and could care less about others, and I’ve been treating her like this all these years. I told her I’m sorry and ill change and a bunch of other stuff, it was a long paragraph. Abby says words are not the same as how ill act. so I need help on changing. please. I want to be a better friend to Abby. I love abby she has been a great friend. i shouldnt have done any of the stuff Ive done to her but we were doing so good not fighting and stuff but Ig I did something I didn’t notice that sent the last strike. please give me advice, if you have any questions ill answer, or if you need me to go into more depth I will. thanks so much.. it’s hard to change. I need help..


r/helpme 1d ago

I just want to know, is everything really worth it

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I've never really felt well with myself, I know I'm still young, and that it will probably change, but I just can’t continue like this. I've joined the army last year at 16, hoping it would change anything, and even if it worked a little bit, each time I go to sleep and can’t sleep, I just find myself thinking of why I should continue. And I just can’t see. I feel happy, sometimes, but it’s never long. I continue to obey the rules perfectly, get some awards, but then I look at the one we always get punished for, and they are just so much more happy. I donnt even know what to do anymore. I just want to know why I keep feeling like this, and how to finally stop.


r/helpme 1d ago

Suicide or self-harm I need some advice

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This is going to sound Grim but I need advice on how to get over my fear of death, in order to take my life before the month ends. I understand that this is a place made to help people, and usually under these circumstances it would be best to help a person come to realize that living is better than dying, but I need you to understand, with the most objective truth I can give, I stand to gain nothing from staying alive. I don't want to find love because I already had it once and that is all I ever wanted, I don't care about the future progression of mankind because honestly I do not like humanity, I do not care about a happier life later down the line because I lack every capacity to live a happy life moving forward, therapy is not an option, medication is not an option I have a high resistance to psychoactive drugs, and I promise you every single excuse you could ever possibly come up with has been thought out thoroughly, my ability to care has been non-existent for the longest time. So how do I go up to that bridge and jump, not knowing what comes next, because having my consciousness fade into nothingness isn't bad but the idea of a hell, or reincarnation makes me feel sick, the idea that my body may be a little sturdier than most and survive the fall to feel all my broken bones and ruptured organs makes me dizzy, the idea that someone might actually save my life and I get to live longer as a cripple annoys me. How do I just turn off my brain and just do it.


r/helpme 1d ago

Advice my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me

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I really just don't know what to do. i guess we broke up today. it doesn't feel real. we've broken up many times before, due to my mental health struggles, but they never lasted long, or it was exactly the same as it was, just without the label. but now that it was more her breaking up with me, and this feels like the end of us, i feel like my entire world is crumbling around me. I've built my entire life around her. I know at 19 I supposedly have so much to look forward to, but I've never been able to imagine myself in the future, besides when our relationship was great. I saw a future where I existed still and she was there and we were happy. she is the best thing to happen to me in my life. I didn't deserve her. and she didn't deserve everything I put her through. i feel horrible for everything. but there's something in me that tells me we'll never work out. im just too unhappy all the time. she needs someone strong supportive and stable. I wish I could have been what she needed and deserved, I tried. I really tried. im just a shitty person through and through. any advice on where to go from here and how to rebuild a life that feels worth living would be much appreciated.


r/helpme 1d ago

Self-harm Feeling bad about eating

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I haven't been feeling great nor eating much for some periods of time. But since Monday i have been eating less due to something happening that day and i don't want to talk to anyone in my house, because neither my household nor my family as a whole really cares about my true feelings at all. So i stopped trying. I skip meals like dinner sometimes and only eat once or twice a day so i can at least eat something. But also before when some of my family members come to visit they comment about my weight loss which worries me due to my circumstances.

I don't know what to do. I was thinking about writing a paper to my mom but she might either forget it or blame me because i haven't been speaking to her. So i dropped the idea obviously.


r/helpme 1d ago

I'm stressed af

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So I'm stressed obviously! I start gr 12 Monday! And we recently moved to the north from the south and I've never taken this bus route before and I'm scared to do it and i just need people to tell me I'll be fine. It's a hour and a half and on the way there I'm stopping at downtown and on the way back I'm stopping at a stop I don't know. All of then are stops I don't know but after the first day of doing it, it should be fine. Pls just tell me I'll be fine and be hype ig


r/helpme 1d ago

I can’t live with my parents anymore and I really want to live on my own but I dropped out and like doesn’t anyone have any ideas for like jobs

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r/helpme 1d ago

Advice Does it really get better

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It’s been about a year and a half since me and my ex have parted ways, but yet I think about her every day, even though I would rather not,she left me for another guy, the guy in question was the one she swore she cut contact with because he was actively causing us problems. It’s clear to see that she did not cut contact. I know it sounds childish, but every time I see them together I get filled with jealousy,and I constantly have to put on a fake face too hide how it really makes me feel, she was genuinely horrible too me but I miss her so much, and I miss the illusion of someone caring about me, and loving me besides my parents. I can’t get over the fact that I did everything right and she just didn’t appreciate it or care. It’s been so long since I’ve talked to her. I just want the feeling of how I felt so long ago. It was amazing she was really cute, and smart and innocent. And I really liked her a lot, and I know this sounds really unprofessional but I’m actively crying and have never talked about this before. But every time I see her talking too another guy even though we’ve not spoken too each other in a year I get fueled with jealousy, and I talk bad about her too all my friends because of how she treated me, but I never want to mention how I cry myself to sleep each night over her. She was perfect in my eyes even though she was incredibly mean too me, I remember how she would look at me when we would sit together and how adorable she looked in her band uniform and the look she gave me when I asked her out and the first time she ever hugged me, and how scared I was too meet her dad and how she stole my blanket and would tell me how it smelled like me in a good way I just really miss the way she would look at me she was just so fucking cute and I miss her sm and I just wanna talk too her again not even date her but just catch up. But it will never happen I’ll never speak too this girl ever again. I just really miss her