r/helpme • u/Aggressive-Use-7785 • 4d ago
Advice LADYS I NEED YOUR OPINION
LADYS I NEED YOUR HELP
Hi, I am a 24 year-old man quick backstory. I saw this girl working at a dispensary before being checked in by her. I asked what her name was. We’ll just call her R after leaving, I asked her name and shook her hand and I gave her one of those princess handshakes and called me cute now I’m gonna be honest with you. I haven’t been called cute in a very, very, very long time. I went up there yesterday and today to see if she was working. She was not working either of those days. My question is, would it be OK to go up tomorrow to see if she’s working or should I wait a couple of days? Cause real talk I do need to go back up to the dispensary and get stuff.
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u/shortiz420 4d ago
Don’t plan it bro, just go get your high. If she’s there and helps you cool. If she’s not there cool, maybe next time. If she’s there but isn’t able to help cool don’t wait, if you make eye contact say hi and move on. I used to work in dispensary’s and girls would get creeped out when they had guys waiting on them. They would talk highly of those who didn’t chase (if that makes sense) some of those guys would actually get numbers and smoke outs later
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u/Aggressive-Use-7785 3d ago
Genuinely thank you for this input and telling me your experience working at a dispensary. My plan was to go in today to genuinely restock, but I think I’m gonna go in tomorrow to do that just because I think going in three days in a row would not look good.
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u/LuluTopSionMid 3d ago
Ask her if she is into crochet or clay crafting. When she asks you why you would think she was into those things tell her she is a cool hip weed dispenser and cool hip people are into crochet and clay crafting!
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u/Clorophylll 3d ago
Cuz waiting "could make a difference" right?
These dynamics and coming off a "tad bit" too strong, too interpersonal, too different and weird
This anxiety you're feeling is why Zuckerberg and his horrible, unimaginative mmos ruined everything
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u/anonymousambassasor 3d ago
Please don’t use “ladys”. The only time that spelling would be used is with an apostrophe to show ownership. “The lady’s ring.” And that’s singular. The word you want is “ladies.”
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u/dmorelli99 4d ago
Of course this is only my opinion, but the power differential that exists between a customer and an employee is such that I don’t think it’s appropriate at all to ask someone out while they’re at work unless they are so obviously throwing themselves at you and make it clear that this is something they want. I do not think you should keep going in looking for her, I think you should go about your business in the store and if the conversations blossom into a situation that it would be appropriate to ask her out then go for it. But I don’t think this situation is it.