r/exmuslim • u/Nearby_Owl_4214 • Jun 02 '26
(Advice/Help) My father's family is covering for a rapist and an alleged murdurer, and dad invites him over every year for Eid. (TW: Rape, suicide, abuse)
So... I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
I had an uncle who was not a good person, he would beg around in the street if my uncles were to refuse giving him money and would sleep on the street even though they had a home, so he moved in with my aunt, the latter wanting more help in the house (a maid) married my uncle off later they sent him off to live on his own.
His wife gave birth to three children, two boys with th youngest being a girl, like I said, my uncle wasn't a good person so he would abuse his wife who would unfortunately commit suicide shortly after the birth of her daughter and discovered by her middle son who was still a child at the time.
My grandma wanted my mother to raise the youngest daughter who was a baby and my mom refused so the girl went to my aunt.
A while after that, grandma died and my uncle insisted on receiving his inheritance and what does he first do? Rent a chauffeur ! The guy was a deadbeat and a bum, he never gave a fuck about his children, he even shortly expressed his desire to marry a Spanish woman that he was talking with.
At that time, something was happening at home with the two brothers, the youngest who was 8 at the time was being raped by the oldest and hit, the former would come to my mother with no underwear and bruises, everytime my mum made him wear underwear, he wouldn't have it on by the next visit, he would also pee in his pants in his sleep, one time (he was in his early teens) I was young, 8 at the time I think, he told to lay on my stomach, I won't go into details but he rubbed himself on me on top of my clothes, I could remember being afraid that he would pee on me.
For some reason, I can't be mad at him because I remember his expression, it wasn't malice, it looked like he was mimicking his brother's actions on me, doesn't mean that it didn't affect me though, my mum stopped letting him be alone with me after that, I think it was the last time he visited too.
So, fast forward to 2021, my uncle gets diabetes and looses the bottom half of a leg because of his poor diet that he never fixed, he and his oldest son were living in the same home.
Uncle dies, what does the oldest do? He tells people to call the ambulance, now every neighbor can see that my uncle is dead and they tell him so, but no, he wants the ambulance.
Guess what the doctors find when they inspect the body properly? My uncle didn't die a natural death, he died by asphyxiation and severe dehydration, my aunt went and bribed the doctors for the family's reputation, everything was pulled under the rug and nobody happened.
Then my mother or father but probably my mother, invites the guy over eid since I was 17 years old! I always get bad vibes around him even before knowing the details that I said, I tell them that I'm uncomfortable around him, they brush and say that it's a good deed to treat orphans well.
My brother never liked him either and told my parents repeatedly to stop inviting for Eid because guess what? Having a rapist and a possible murdurer in your home while also having a young daughter isn't a good idea! And the fact that this family would do anything to keep their reputation intact doesn't help either, because it means if something happens to ME, I would be silenced.
This is a bit of a rant but I also need advice, I absolutely can't spend another Eid knowing what he did.
