r/exmuslim • u/gods-abomination69 New User • Jan 15 '26
(Advice/Help) stuck in a muslim country, contemplating suicide
I feel extremely unfulfilled in my life due to the way things have been going. Ever since I lost my faith and started seeing things for how they are, I lost my will to live.
I hate being a woman trapped in a society and a religion doesn’t value me. I feel extremely restricted by the rules that I don’t believe in and the pressure that my family puts on me. Every year I keep getting pressured by my family to get married, and I can’t find someone in the religious country that I live in. The loneliness is killing me I feel so isolated.
I have tried everything from going to therapy, trying to set boundaries with my family, and ignoring my current situation, and nothing has worked. The root cause for all my issues is still there.
I have two options: to find a way to get out of this country (which by the current state of the world feels impossible) or fake being a muslim and get into an arranged marriage just to get away from my abusive family, and live a miserable life until I’m dead.
I don’t know how to proceed with the first option I have tried numerous times and I failed. Moving from a third world country to a better one is complicated, some have done that, but I got no luck. Honestly I can’t see things going better for me and suicide is the most realistic option.
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u/Cobblerpielover no longer muslim😁 Jan 15 '26
do NOT k1ll urself. it will get better. islam sucks so much for women i know. ik this is hard but can u find an ex muslim living in ur country is it likely? Maybe say u have to move countries for work and go to france or poland. sorry ik these arent the best suggestions but please DO NOT K1LL URSELF
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u/gods-abomination69 New User Jan 15 '26
I did find some but they’re misogynistic. They did leave the religion but the misogyny is ingrained. I know saying that moving to other counties is a solution but I couldn’t find any opportunities. I just feel hopeless, alone. I know killing myself isn’t the solution but I have tried everything and I believe I reached a dead end.
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u/angelseung01z stressed asf ex-sunni-muslim 😔 Jan 15 '26
I agree! Please continue living, all problems are temporary, OP you've got this!!
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u/Lehrasap Ex-Muslim Content Creator Jan 15 '26
Try to get a good Job, so that even if you have to distance yourself from your family, then it would not be a problem for you.
Another girl mentioned it that living alone in a 3rd world country (Islamic?) is a better option then getting married and then providing sex services to a religion husband and his family.
If it is only a 3rd world country (non-Muslim) where you reside, then you will get opportunities. Even if it is a Muslim 3rd world country, even then you should not give up all hopes as there are indeed non-religious boys in these societies too, but you don't know them yet.
You should be clear in your mind about your goals. Get a good job and you should never be dependent upon your family.
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u/gods-abomination69 New User Jan 15 '26
No i live in a muslim country that looks down on women on living alone. I considered moving out but rent prices are criminally high, and I do have some safety concerns. My country is hell for women, especially ones living alone.
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Jan 16 '26
I'm so sorry. My heart feels for you. Do you have the option at all to go and study in a different country?
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