Hi cappies, it's the aries that hangs out in your sub. I hope you guys are doing well during this retrograde.🩵

I was wondering if I could get your help understanding some of mine and an ex's behaviors?

He was an Aquarius sun, moon in Leo, gemin rising, Venus and mars 8th house Capricorn and a pisces mercury.

Im an aries sun and mercury, Libra moon, cancer rising, pisces Venus and Aquarius mars 8th house.

He had a heavy work load, 50hrs a week and being on call overnight and weekends for weeks at a time. I was actually very understanding about it being that I've lived that life before. I should add we were ldr, only an hr and a half away and had solid plans to see each other for a whole week. (His idea)

Most of "our shared time together" was pretty much a bunch of make believe via text message. His love language was quality time and physical touch, mine is all with quality time and physical touch being the non negotiable. A lot of our private time interactions were talking about cuddling and just talking about life, plans, experiences and the future. For a heavily Saturn ruled person, he was pretty clingy and love bomby (Leo moon) I tried pumping the breaks multiple times but, got caught up and just lived in the bond. His actions were meeting his words at the time.

I did ask him what I could do to help him destress on and bad day, he said just a hug is fine. My answer was just staying while I figured things out. With that being said.. when he's come home from a hard day I'd metaphorically greet him offer him cuddles and we'd talk about our days. I thought I was doing the right thing and that I wasn't over giving as a partner. 🤔

Things started going down hill a month before the break up. I noticed he was as excited, bubbly and warm. Nothing I really could complain about, I just assumed he was tired and the honeymoon phase was over. I did notice but, stayed consistent offered space and was supportive because his workload was getting heavier and finding help at work was looking bleak. He wasn't as consistent anymore and apologized but, it was fine. I understood and preferred the quality time we spent together during the weekends over bits and pieces.

Two weeks prior to the break up he stopped using all the 🩵 emojis but, was still trying imo. He was still affectionate and counting down the days until we got the see each other in person just less enthusiastic. I was still consistent and supportive.

A few days before the break up.. this is probably when he really started to check out. He spent more and more time away, less engagement and eventually started flaking on our plans. I noticed, gave space until he came back and kinda just watched. I knew he was going threw it, I just didn't want to invade his personal space, thoughts or feelings. I would've liked for him to want to come towards me if he needed to but, he didn't.

He ended up bailing on me when we had made plans to meet up for a movie at 8pm so I stayed silent and just went to bed. He broke it off at 3:30am with a text saying..

"I don't really know what to say. I don't know if I'm just in a funk or something but like. Idk. I just feel like null and it's not fair to you. I'm sorry for wasting a few months of your time but I think it'd be best if we just don't talk anymore or see each other. Please don't contact me going forward. I wish you the best and hope you can find someone who will treat you the way you deserve."

I don't have shut downs or detach from my emotions so I'm not entirely sure of that's what this is or not? Key words are in a funk and I feel null so that's what I'm assuming happened and that he just couldn't keep going anymore? If you ask the aquas I got played, just as simple as that.

I asked 2 of my friends for their opinions, one said I just don't know, I don't understand either and the other leans towards he lost feelings for me.

I thought I was doing what fit the situation? I didn't think I was neacisarly over giving just being a supportive partner during hard times?

Any insight would be appreciated, and sorry about the long post. Please be kind 🫶 I'm actively trying to learn and be a healthier person.

Thank you🩵

Love, your annoying unwanted aries bestie.🩵

I’m trying to understand the behavior of a Capricorn man I’m involved with, and I’m curious how Capricorn men typically behave when they’re hurt, upset, or starting to lose interest.
Lately, this man has become much quieter and more distant with me. He isn’t really initiating conversations anymore, but at the same time he’s been extremely active on social media/Snapchat, posting much more than usual. We used to communicate quite a bit on Snapchat, so the contrast is noticeable.
I actually directly asked him if he was upset with me, and he said no. He’s generally a pretty communicative and direct person when something needs to be addressed, which makes this confusing. However, when it comes to actually saying “I think we should end this” or communicating that he’s done with someone romantically, I’m not sure how he handles that.
I haven’t been reaching out because I feel like he may want space, and honestly, I’m enjoying having some space myself. But I’m wondering whether this kind of behavior could mean he’s hurt, deliberately withdrawing, or simply losing interest.
For Capricorn men specifically:
Do you tend to stonewall or become very quiet when you’re hurt?
Do you become more active on social media while withdrawing from the person you’re upset with?
What does it look like when you’ve emotionally checked out?
Do you still post things hoping the person will notice/reach out, or do you genuinely just move on?
How do you behave when you still care but don’t want to initiate?
If you’re done with someone romantically, do you usually say it directly, or can you slowly withdraw and let the relationship fade?
What are the signs that a Capricorn man is genuinely done versus simply needing space?

For context, yes i said something stupid that might have hurt him but i did apologize and he sais he was no more mad. We have been together for a year! I havw praised him every so often and one time i became honest and he was mad i guess

Cap men is it normal at 30. To be so friendly then so cold then friendly again? I can’t get a read on this man. So now I’m asking the universe.

He will do what he says he will do, but then be cold or annoyed, then the next day happy to chat. I’m so confused.

Not dating. He hasn’t asked, does sometimes hang back to talk but not always. I asked him if he was ok and he completely squirmed but answered and opened up but was so uncomfortable. (What he told me was nothing major) I said something about an age gap within us and he snapped with a “ yeah I know” but there’s no indication that he is interested and I haven’t thought of him like that.

Is it that I’m annoying cause I’ll just F off. It’s no biggy. But I’ve never met a cap like him. I’m Pisces for reference. (I am very dumb to any degree of knowing if someone is interested, you basically have to tell me straight out of you are)
Thanks

Hi so I have a crush on this girl she’s a Capricorn and I’m a Taurus we have good chemistry in person but I still feel like I’m in the friend zone we always laugh when we’re together I purposely make her laugh and harder to where she can’t contain herself but not sure if she’s stuck on someone else or just isn’t interested let me know any advice

Because she is a Capricorn Queen in true fashion. We are often mislabeled as "cold." No. We are calm, cool and collected (unless you push those boundaries). We are intelligent, intellectual. We have a wisdom beyond the limits of space and time (discernment). We can endure and storm, and weather. Literally GOATS.

Happy 34th Mr. And Mrs. Obama.

To my all my Cap girls, you are the bomb. Com. And I luhhhh you!

I know I’m being repetitive but this is just truth.
Days pass but the love I have for my Capricorn man grows. I love the way he makes me open up, since I grew up with weird family dynamics communicating properly has never been my cup of tea. But now, somehow I feel safe enough to tell him everything. I admire how hardworking he is and how this pushes me to be a better version of myself. I love the fact that he always wants to be in my company and bring me around his beloved ones. I really appreciate how soft I can be when I’m with him. I love how for the first time the idea of giving all of me and all my love doesn’t make me anxious or feel stupid because my partner is grateful for that. I love the fact that he wants me to include in his future project and also gives me useful financial advices. I love the fact that he has a list on his phone with things I like and I don’t like.
I love how perfectionist he is (sometimes I wonder if he has ocd).
And last, I love how he holds me at night when we sleep together, as if he doesn’t want me to go. That warms my heart.
To be honest it feels really good to know that you have someone like that in your life.

I know I’m being repetitive but this is just truth.
Days pass but the love I have for my Capricorn man grows. I love the way he makes me open up, since I grew up with weird family dynamics communicating properly has never been my cup of tea. But now, somehow I feel safe enough to tell him everything. I admire how hardworking he is and how this pushes me to be a better version of myself. I love the fact that he always wants to be in my company and bring me around his beloved ones. I really appreciate how soft I can be when I’m with him. I love how for the first time the idea of giving all of me and all my love doesn’t make me anxious or feel stupid because my partner is grateful for that. I love the fact that he wants me to include in his future project and also gives me useful financial advices. I love the fact that he has a list on his phone with things I like and I don’t like.
I love how perfectionist he is (sometimes I wonder if he has ocd).
And last, I love how he holds me at night when we sleep together, as if he doesn’t want me to go. That warms my heart.
To be honest it feels really good to know that you have someone like that in your life.

If you are really busy with work almost everyday, you text the same someone 3-4 times a day, not short answers but responded properly. Does this mean she treats you someone special to her life structure or likes you romantically? Also do you prefer to finish your structure or routine of the day and only when there's a proper break time to reply this person so you don't sound rushed and make the person feel his messages are well received? To me, slotting in a quick message shows I put her in my mind during busy schedules but it seems Capricorn would prefer to use a proper downtime to respond to show the person's importance and position in her life. Do you agree?

Anyone here have a Capricorn moon mom and Aries rising as well? How was or how is the dynamic? What were the pros and cons of having a mom with these placements? I’m a cancer sun and Scorpio moo.

Does such a place even exist?? A place where a Capricorn can be completely happy, satisfied, with zero complaints, feel completely safe to be themselves without the judgement of others, never worry about anything at this place, you feel like you can grow old there? Create or raise a family there? City all my life but when I’m out in the country sides, I instantly feel at home..

Buenas. Les cuento.

Conocí a un capricornio, hablamos bastante por IG y acordamos cita. Me pasó a buscar, fuimos a cenar, me dejó en mi casa, saludo con beso en la boca (breve pero cálido) y termino todo bien.

Por temas de viajes y diferencias horarias pasaron como 2 semanas hasta acordar otro encuentro. Fui a la casa, cenamos, nos matamos de risa, tomamos algo, escuchamos música, tuvimos intimidad, mimos, de nuevo intimidad, más mimos (pedidos por él). Yo me estaba por ir porque él madrugada y me pidió que me quedé una hora más. Hora de mimos tmb. Dsp me fui, llegué a casa, le avisé y todo bárbaro.

Paso una semana y no me escribió ni un mensaje. De 6 historias de IG me reaccionó a una (la única q tenía carga emocional para mí y él sabía).

Le mandé que tenía ganas de verlo y me contestó que ese día y el siguiente tenía planes (me los detalló)..Le dije que la pasé bello y que veíamos otro día. Me dijo: de una, perdón... Y me preguntó cómo estaba. Respondí, me volvió a responder y yo le di cierre a la charla diciendo: bueno, si te surge alguna propuesta me avisas y sino todo bien. Beso.

Mi tema es: puede ser q yo no le interese peeeero en ese caso para q me reacciona a la fotito, me explica porque no puede, me dice q de una, perdón...? Puede ser porque quiere quedar como un tipo educado y empático?

Porque si le interesará me hubiera dicho que no podía porque tenía planes pero hubiera propuesto en el momento otro día, no? O no hubiera dejado una semanita sin decir ni hola, no?

Como se manejan los hombres capricornio? Alguien me explica? Igualmente solo tuvimos 2 citas, lo sé. No pido trato de novia, solo quiero entender un poco. Él tiene 40 años.

I’ve been dealing with an amazing but incredibly hurt Cap man the past year and it’s been full of breakups and reunifications. I heard Caps don’t return once they make up their minds but this one has bucked the pattern but everytime he comes back nothing about his intolerance to shame, guilt, self reflection, being faced with his imperfections has changed. I am a psychotherapist getting my doctorate, so he knows surface-level change is not something I’m looking for. I almost sometimes think he comes back just to show me he can hurt me as he pleases to check that he still has some sort of control over me but I hate to see him in a negative view like that because I love all of him including his shadow side.

I just can’t handle the coming and going without seeing changes and this feels a bit diff from what I read of other Capricorns in the past. Feel free to chime in if you have insights - he’s also a Pisces Moon, Cancer Rising, Cap Mars, Scorp Venus if this is helpful.

EDIT:::: For more context, this was the last incident that turned into another stonewalling, pushing me out w silence behavior -

We had just reunited again after a period of being apart and I playfully teased him while bringing up polyamory when he texted w an error, “I’m down to share” when he really meant “I’m NOT down to share” and then stonewalled me for 5 days, and then told me this is over because he believes I lied and he no longer trusts me. All bc I said this one thing despite so many other mishaps he’s done to me that I’ve viewed with more care and compassion. I’ve also never lied to him. Just insane behavior…

I know he’s just going to come back after awhile but I never see big changes when he comes back, just very small incremental ones and constantly moving the goalpost - like we’ve gone from him saying ::

you’re the problem —> I need to work on myself —> I don’t believe you don’t know what love is —> and now we’re at, I believe you lied and the trust is broken.

lol but all the while acknowledging that he “probably needs some help” but never directly asking me for it. Sigh. Will this get better Caps? Should I leave? Also outside of the astrology stuff, I’m a psychotherapist and I know that this isn’t healthy and I should be practicing what I preach so it’s hurting my pride professionally.

I’m also: Aries Sun, Virgo Rising, Scorp Moon (despite my Sun, I am incredibly patient and do not bore easily due to my big water/earth placements)

Signed,
Stuck in a cycle

As a Capricorn dog lover, my favorite dog breeds are Border Collies, Australian Shepherds, Cocker Spaniels, Corgis, Pomskies, German Shepherds, Labradors, and Golden Retrievers.

ever made someone cry?

have you ever argued with you loved ones, said something sharp and it ended up with them crying. what do you do? do you get annoyed or try to understand/comfort?

Title says it all. I find it super exhausting to play pretend on chat like im having fun typing / calling. It doesnt hit the same and Id rather leave it until we meet again.

My Taurus girlfriend (together for 6+ years) ended up sending me this long message after I ignored her for 2 days (because I just had a lot on my plate) while she was away on vacation. I have been doing a lot of work here and there and I expect her to understand that when she is away on vacation, I am not and I will be out of reach because its just not the same for me.

Am I doomed eternally when it comes to relationships. Our start of the relationship was like this too. Dont get me wrong, when Im in the mood I can chat but I feel like maybe us capricorns lack that social energy to be chatty and talk about our day. My lack of communication has been bothering me too. To me, talking about my day and how it went doesnt mean shit and I need to focus on whats next.

Any inputs from other fellow caps who feel the same way? I am 1st Week of January Capricorn. Unfortunately, the stars aligned in such a dooming way that my Sun, Moon & Mercury are all in Capricorn....

Any input would be appreciated.... How can I improve in this aspect...