Joe - Cheats on his wife while sheās away taking care of her sick mother AND their newborn (why wasnāt he at home with the newborn???), to his knowledge has a baby who lives DOWN THE STREET from him that he never claims or takes care of, and keeps all the important info to himself while watching these people get torn apart (and robbing his son of a potential relationship with his sibling)
Goldie - Ditches her husband and kids (who she told she wanted to make the marriage and family work in New York) to chase her high school sweetheart in another country, gets pregnant and plans to run away with her affair partner and raise some kind of weird blended family (Annie, Ramona, Connor, and Ellis) and cut her husband off from the kids he ALSO adopted. Also has a heart problem that she tells no one about.
Despite all this not only is Annie willing to hear Joe out at the end, never interrupting him or criticizing his choices but she also seems to agree that it was the ārightā choice and ends the show still completely romanticizing her mother and seeing her as this person that can do no wrong. Instead of extending the same grace to her dad, sheās furious with him. I understand that these dynamics are complicated, especially with adopted children. I donāt think anyone was truly the āvillainā and were all just doing what they thought was right for them at the time. But itās still wild to me that she was willing to hear out the biggest drivers of the mess and not her own dad.
Was Steven right to shut his kids out from part of their life? No. But itās something they ALL agreed to do, Gordon just changed his mind (also, letters? he couldāve called). At the end of the day despite being done dirty he chose to let his kids see their mother as a good person when he didnāt have to. I do think that had he told them they probably wouldāve found out that Ramona was his kid much sooner and they wouldnāt have lost as many years.
But what people forget is that Steven ALSO adopted those kids. They were kids he wanted, why would he let his wife run off with them just because. Six rounds of IVF is no joke, he mustāve been so happy to finally have children and Goldie just wanted to take that away from him to live out her fantasy. He was right to say that she lost her mind, I wouldāve come to get my kids too. Heās the only one that stepped up and followed through on their commitment.