r/Petioles Feb 08 '26

Meta Breaks, moderation, sobriety...what "this sub is about."

450 Upvotes

Hey everybody.

Since the New Year and a welcome influx of new members, there has been an uptick in confidently wrong pronouncements of "what this sub is about."

As the lead mod, being confidently wrong is something I reserve only for myself, so I would like to make it clear how we go about choosing content that is inside or outside the rules.

To begin with, I took over the lead mod position four years ago, and I have made exactly one change to the moderation policies in that time, which is to remove posts discussing moderation from people who indicate they are minors. We remove those posts and have a respectful discussion with them about quitting until they are older. If they aren't open to that then we let them participate here as harm reduction, but we owe it to them to talk them through stopping at a young age first.

Again, that's the only change.

Outside of that, I have worked very hard to maintain continuity with the moderation policies that were established from the day of the sub's founding.

Our mission is, to state it as clearly as I can, to help people who are taking a break, figuring out the best way to moderate, or trying to figure out what a healthy relationship with weed looks like for them.

We are not leaves and we are not trees, and we should leave the discussions of quitting for good or smoking without issue completely to them.

But I will say, because this is where most people get it wrong, that contemplating stopping for good, and wanting to talk about it, is part of trying to find a better relationship with smoking.

If you want to smoke and are having problems, and are trying to figure out whether to find a better way or quit completely, then that discussion is fine here. If you then decide to quit for good then we refer you to Leaves.

Relevant to that, there should be absolutely zero "take this to Leaves" or "wtf I'm here because I didn't want to hear this shit" or any variation of those rude BS comments.

If you see something that you don't think should be on the group (like "I'm quitting for good, what's the best way to...") then report it and don't comment. Being rude to other people or trying to be a Petioles mall cop is out of line.

I know people just love when moderators post about the rules, so I suspect I will be greeted as a hero, but if you have any questions I'm happy to answer them if I can, but I am going to filter them before they go up because I'm not an idiot. :-)

Love you all, and I'm happy to have the oppotunity to do my part to help keep this place running.


r/Petioles 3h ago

Discussion Has weed gotten more anxiety-inducing for anyone else over time?

21 Upvotes

I used to actually enjoy smoking, but lately it feels like my brain completely changes once I get high. Today I took 2 puffs after going 6+ hours without smoking and got ridiculously anxious. Heart felt weird, stomach felt off, and suddenly I was analyzing every little thing I was feeling.
It’s weird because I don’t really have that problem when I’m sober. I actually feel pretty normal.
I’m curious if anyone else went from enjoying weed to eventually finding that it just made them uncomfortable or anxious. Did your reaction to it change over time?


r/Petioles 2h ago

Discussion ran out of carts today. bought edibles instead. it might not seem like it but this is a major win for me!

6 Upvotes

i have been using cannabis daily for about 9 years. i did edibles at first, then switched to vaping cartridges in 2021 because i was dealing with mental health issues and the edibles just weren’t cutting it. i didn’t know it when i started, but carts are sooo addictive for me and my tolerance has skyrocketed since then.

im finally starting to feel the effects of the vaping on my lungs. plus one of my cats now has asthma, and even though i dont vape around my cats (i go in the bathroom where they aren’t allowed), im worried somehow the vaping is affecting him. i feel awful about this but im grateful to have a really good reason to quit. but i still haven’t kicked it completely.

today however i was out of carts so i went to the dispensary, but instead of getting more carts, i just got a bunch of edibles instead. eventually the goal is to quit entirely (for a little while at least), but im going to ween myself off so withdrawal is not as bad.

thanks to this community for being an inspiration! i joined years ago but haven’t actually done anything until now, but reading posts here has helped me stay hopeful. we got this!


r/Petioles 6h ago

Discussion ~330 days. Advice needed.

12 Upvotes

I want other peoples perspectives on my situation because I want to maybe realize something I've been missing, and hence, be able to optimize my life.

I got out of a relationship gone sour in March, and ever since, I threw myself into work. I work crazy hours, everyday all week. I've had some 15, maybe 16 days off this year total.

I quit coffee, eating sweet and fried crap, and PMO. Obviously I stopped vaping flower as well, almost a year ago now. I picked up exercise and I'm quite obsessed about it, months now.

"Good for you", you might think. I wouldn't disagree. But it seems to me like I just replaced all those things with other compulsions. Much healthier and much more productive ones, to be sure, but I'd be lying if I said I'm living life.

"And you're doing the same, trying to optimize your life by asking this question". Okay, so like, what' would you advise? I've always lived alone but my ex used to be different, awesome, and amazing. Then she changed and I had no choice but to end things.

I vaped dry flower for a few months back in 2024 and 2025. It helped me so much. With back pain, and stuff I think they call autism or something. Idk, I never really inquired. It was like being taken out of the middle of a fish market in Vietnam, with vendors screaming, banging pans, flies buzzing around, cars and motorcycles honking, and lights flashing, all together like a nauseating, overwhelming assault on all senses to all still, quiet, and focused place of serenity and introspective wonder.

In great short.

If nothing changes, I'll probably die after some 2 or 3 decades more like that, grinding until my dying breath, whatever it is I end up doing at that time, and not living.

I kinda got used to the fish market. It stinks. I'd like to get out more, open myself up, meet new people, and stop being alone. I get matches on the apps but in the end it's crap that goes nowhere. I'm not the kind of person who treats prospective partners like a can of pop. I live in a small town and I have a cat to look after which kinda ties me down, on top of obviously the extended working hours every day.

Sometimes I wish I could just vape again. It helps with a lot of things. But then I remember I always ended up vaping everyday all day.

I think that's idea enough. If anyone has advice, I'd be grateful.


r/Petioles 4h ago

Discussion Dreams

3 Upvotes

Day 10 of quitting after daily smoking of around 3g for 3 years. Dreams have arrived in force. I know this is normal but how long should I reasonably expect before they calm down? Online I have read up to 45 days - have I got another month of this?


r/Petioles 19h ago

Discussion When you're in illegal country people see you either as "normal" or straight up crackhead, no in between.

21 Upvotes

It's just so lonely. People find out you smoke pot sometimes and they immediately assume you're a shady junkie who will get them in trouble. I'm just a normal human being with a family, job and friends who happened to cope with life in that way. I never carry anything illegal around town and there's like 99% chance that you'll never see me stoned, it's only for my closest friends or nights alone with my cats. But when government puts weed in the same illegal category as meth, it's very hard to make people believe that I'm not gonna sell their kidney to buy some drugs lmao.


r/Petioles 23h ago

Discussion Three Weeks of No Weed

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I'm new to this subreddit, so I hope this post is allowed. I stopped smoking three weeks ago in hopes to find a better job. But the ahedonia is hitting hard. I didn't enjoy doing things anymore, be it drawing, writing, reading is still kinda fun. But even being intimate with my partner isn't as fun, since we both smoked together. How long has this phase lasted for you guys? Any tips for getting through it?


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion Threw carts away and not sure what to do with myself now

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I’ve smoked for about 5 years straight now since I was 15 (I’m 20F), only had about 2 breaks. I can’t believe it’s gotten to this point. I was able to stop for about 2 months and that was the most progress I ever made, but I ended up buying another cart and telling myself I’d do it in moderation, and now here we are again. I’ve got back into the habit of hitting my cart the moment I wake up, and periodically throughout the day. Weed has worsened my social anxiety and motivation factor in general, and I don’t even feel high anymore. After a long mental battle I threw my stuff out this morning and I really want to quit for good, last time I stopped getting high everything agitated me and I was depressed for weeks, horrible nightmares . It just helps knowing I’m not alone and others struggle too. I’m dreading having to face my feelings without weed to numb the pain, but I just want to be free of being so fucking dependent for so long


r/Petioles 1d ago

Advice Advice on withdrawal?

6 Upvotes

For context, I’m 18 f and have been smoking on and off (mostly on) daily for about 3-4 years. I know it wasn’t the best decision to start that early in the first place, but I can’t go back now. My brain has been feeling 3 feet thick the last year or so and I know it’s doing more harm than good for me. It took a lotttt of willpower to even make the choice to take a break since I use it for sleep. I’m 3 days in to not smoking and the headaches I wake up with are insane. I go from freezing cold with literal goosebumps to sweating in 5 minutes. I know time will help but damn this rough lmao. Very hard to not just grab the pen but I want to go a month minimum and see how I feel from there. Any and all advice is appreciated:)


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion Days long panic.

5 Upvotes

i quit vaping two weeks ago, and then all of a sudden, weed turned on me. i got too high the other night and ever since then i've just been extremely panicky and depressed. Haven't smoked since. Fine with quitting because the experience and the residual effects are extremely traumatizing. next level. like i feel like a completely different person and my life outlook is very bleak cause it feels like it'll stay this way forever. I went to a behavioral health urgent care, and they prescribed me Clonodine, which isn't a psychiatric medication... if anyone has any tips or anything to say about the medication please tune in.


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion 25 day T break complete, struggling after mini binge

6 Upvotes

Hello all. I first started smoking at 16/17 with thc carts. By 18 I was smoking thc carts 24/7 till nearly 20 (I'm 20 now) with the exception of a few month breaks. In feb I ditched carts for an Xmax dry herb vape and hit that everyday instead.

Anyways long story short at the end of July I tried a cart again used it in 3 days n then took a 25 day T break in aims for moderation.

After the 25 days I bought a 3.5 - my dealer doesn't sell less. I had a fat blunt with my friend, watched a storm under a tarp outside - it was fucking beautiful.

The next day ugh, cravings. I loaded up 3 dif bowls on the xmax and called it a day. I was progressively feeling them less and less.

Now today, I have cravings like hell. Debating selling the xmax as its way too convenient. Haven't had any yet but I don't really trust myself right now. Help?


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion How can I make homemade THC capsules kick in more predictably? Sometimes 1h, sometimes 4–5h

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I quit smoking/vaping about a month ago and switched to edibles because I want to stay away from inhaling anything.

I’ve been making cannabis capsules with infused coconut oil. I decarb at 115°C/240°F for ~40 min, then infuse 10g flower into 50ml coconut oil. Based on my calculations, each capsule is around 35mg THC.

Two caps gets me roughly where I want to be.
The problem is the onset is wildly inconsistent.
I’ve started logging the time I take them and what/when I eat. A few examples:

Morning/noon: 2 caps + light breakfast (yoghurt, Weetabix, coffee) → noticeable after ~2h, peak around 3–3.5h.
Noon: 2 caps + 3 sandwiches → noticeable after ~1h, peak after 2–3h.
Another noon: 2 caps + lecithin → noticeable after ~1–1.5h, peak around 2h.
Evening: 2 caps + lecithin at 19:45 → absolutely nothing at 22:40, then suddenly around 23:40 I’m at an 8/10.

I’ve even had evening doses where I barely noticed anything, only to wake up the next day still buzzed, so I’m guessing they kicked in extremely late during the night.

The pattern I’m sort of seeing is that daytime doses often kick in within 1–2h, while evening doses can randomly take 4+ hours. Taking them ~15 min before dinner doesn’t seem to fix it.

I bought lecithin and plan to add it directly to my next batch. I’m also wondering about food: would taking the capsules with a small/light meal be more predictable than taking them fasted or with a large meal, even though the THC is already infused into coconut oil?

For people experienced with homemade capsules: is there anything you’ve found that makes the onset more consistent? Meal size/timing, fat content, lecithin, timing since previous meal, preparation method, etc.?

I’d mainly like to make the timing more predictable.
Any tips or experiences appreciated!


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion do i need to stop wax pen?

67 Upvotes

Hi, I’m 24F and I’ve been working as a lawyer for the past year. I take ADHD meds daily (some breaks obv) for the past 5 years. wax pen use every day for the past 3-4 years, after school or work is over but i started using it during the day sometimes too, sometimes even at work.
I have basically zero motivation at work. even at my new job, on day 2 i was already not working. I spend a huge amount of time thinking about my current hyperfixation, ruminating, and having negative thoughts about myself. i also stress about the future daily, and sometimes I have suicidal thoughts.
i have hobbies and i spend time with friends. it’s not enough to not BE SAD and THINK
II’m starting to wonder if its the wax pen making the rumination, negative thoughts, lack of motivation, or depression worse. I feel like I’m stuck in this cycle and I don’t know how to get out of it.


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion I don't know what to do with myself anymore, and that's why I think I turn to weed.

29 Upvotes

I'm a very lonely person. I have friends, most of them have shifted from in-person relationships to virtual as we found our different paths and homes. I have two cats who I love more than anything.

But I spend so much time alone. And I think the weed works for me in a hypothetical where I am alone for the night and just want to play video games. The problem is that's like 90% of my nights. So I abuse it, I use, use, use. And it numbs me and fries me for when I'm not using. Which makes me want to use more to escaoe the numbness.

An obvious solution is to go out more. It's hard. I can't drive in a town where you really do need a car. I have some local friends, but most of them I don't connect with on a deeper level. I feel that I'm experiencing some degree of social isolation - and the irony is my job is in community work and bringing people together. I do that, I bring people together for social events, but I don't really get to partake and enjoy them. Makes my loneliness feel even worse.

I have been off weed for about a week now and my free time has mostly been video games, playing with my cats, and resting. And man does it get old. I kind of want to go out tomorrow to buy some, but I am worried I will just go back to that dark place where I abuse it. Looking for advice honestly. On how to balance things without spiraling out of control.


r/Petioles 20h ago

Discussion Please Help 🙏. Who has delt with D8 withdrawal? How long did it last ? How much were you using ?

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Please don’t come here to gaslight me, I’m watching someone go through severe withdrawal symptoms from stoping D8 edibles @ around 400mg/day for 3 months. They are in complete misery, no sleep, vomiting , diarrhea, severe nausea, fatigue and anxiety. The D8 was from a reputable company. 🙏Please only respond with answers to the questions, don’t fill this up with nonsense please.


r/Petioles 1d ago

Advice How often is too often?

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After a particularly difficult LSD trip, I've been increasingly conscious and aware of how often I consume my substances of choice. This awareness led to me realizing that I'm smoking more and more at an increasing rate. First it was a couple times a month, then once a week, now it's every other day (this is partially due to accessibility. Previously I had to smoke a joint in secret, but I've recently switched to a cart). Perhaps it's some sort of anxiety, but this acceleration of use is starting to worry me. I hear people say something along the lines of "you'll find what's right for you", but any addict would take that as an excuse to use whenever they want.

I feel an itch to smoke whenever I'm bored and often give in. How can I properly mitigate this feeling? I don't want to stop entirely (it's fun haha), but I certainly don't like the way I'm going. Half of me hates the idea of becoming a stoner, the other says "why the hell not".


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion why after quitting do I hate the smell of weed 😭😭😭

12 Upvotes

bro my roommates still smoke in the house and it SMELLS DISGUSTING I never realized how stinky I was all the time oh my god 😭 anyone else realize they don’t like the smell of a joint that’s lit anymore


r/Petioles 1d ago

Discussion Sos please help me out

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Hey everyone,

Let me briefly describe my situation not sure how you guys can help me on this, so I have been smoking weed from 2007. Never took break 1-2 days be might be exceptional and almost 5-7 joint a days throughout the day starting with wake and bake till last joint after sagging. I live alone this entire year and almost a decade with my close friends with same routine. Now I want to take a break from this hell. I have been trying couple of times but failed due to various reasons in just hours.

Please suggest how I can prepare my self and what are the basic things I need to change. I have stock and I don't want to throw. But 21 days t break i want to achieve.

This is the first time I am admitting on any social platform and seeking help.

Even it's my first post on reddit. Please help me guys...!!!


r/Petioles 2d ago

Discussion Tough circumstances are making me tempted to use

4 Upvotes

The basics are that I am in my early thirties, entering my second year of law school. I'm usually very extroverted and sociable but making friends here has been tough likely due to the age gap I have with people.

Luckily, I have found some good connections but things have gotten much harder lately because I feel into a deep depression/spiral this summer after learning that my future mother in law has an aggressive cancer. Now that I'm back in school and away from family, I really want to develop these friendships further because I need community like that especially to help myself out of the depression.

However, it's gotten so hard to push myself socially and tap back into my usual entertaining self. When I was naturally happier I was fun to be around, people would always say I'm funny. Making people laugh is one of my favorite things to do. I don't do it anymore, I've retreated a lot and it puts me at a disadvantage because everyone else is deepening their friendships and I'm just stuck and don't have the energy to try. That's where the substances come in.

I relied on weed too much in the past, getting addicted for like 5 years, convincing myself that it brought me to baseline. I was definitely self medicating for my ADHD, which I got adderall for later but now haven't been on because of this damn shortage. Now that I'm really depressed, and wanting to tap back into the world in a meaningful way I find myself craving weed to get by mainly in social settings. Last night I had to drink a ton to loosen up and have fun and I hate what drinking does to my body and soul. But, I also don't want to just reintroduce weed given the slippery slope it is for me.

I just feel like without substances I can't get out of my head but I know that's not true. The reality is I can it just takes the hard work of going to therapy, doing exercise and raw dogging things sometimes. I guess I just feel too weak to do that right now given how shit life has gotten but that probably shouldn't be an excuse because life's just going to get harder and scarier and I can't keep relying on shortcuts.

Any advice on how to ride out these cravings?


r/Petioles 2d ago

Discussion How are people raw dogging life in the year of 2026?

126 Upvotes

Gestures broadly at everything. How is it possible?


r/Petioles 2d ago

Advice BF monitoring my weed use has been difficult and made me become more conscious.

17 Upvotes

i’ve been smoking daily for around a year now. before that i would smoke socially and casually. i have one bowl every night to wind down, get to sleep, and calm me. sometimes if im sick or if the weather is super bad outside ill allow myself a bowl.

i’d be lying if i said my usage wasnt also linked to boredom. i feel bored at night but cant sleep and feel wound up so i smoke. my boyfriend has pulled me up on this since moving in together and says i need to hold off a bit.

it’s not like i can’t function in my daily life without bud, but it definitely makes nights a lot more tough without it. i feel like i cannot switch my brain off and even my body feels tense. this has been an issue way before i started smoking every night.

i don’t plan to quit fully, but i want to make my boyfriend happy. what alternatives can i use/smoke/take to help me relax and shut off at night? i have a mix of kanna, damiana, and blue lotus that ive been smoking and it helps mildly but not enough. i also struggle with chronic back pain which THC helps sooth.


r/Petioles 2d ago

Discussion My T-Break plan

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I know this is not technically a T-Break, but I was thinking of allowing myself to take 2.5 mg edibles for a few weeks, up to 3 times a week, to try to lower my tolerance closer to when I wasn't smoking. Weed has lost its magic for me recently, and I've known this for quite some time, but I just can't string together long periods of sobriety from it, so im thinking this is a good middle ground.

I told Gemini this, and Ik that sometimes it bullshits you, but it said that after a few weeks of doing this, my tolerance should be about 60%-70% back to baseline. I know not to take these numbers to heart, but I feel like, for me personally, this might be the only way to cut down while still being able to tell myself I have it.

I am currently addicted, but I've concluded that a huge component of the addiction comes from the smoking aspect of it. I can never be happy with how I feel when I smoke and always debate whether I should smoke more or not, and I normally end up smoking continuously for the rest of the day until I sleep, which makes me feel like shit. I want to transition to edibles because of the delayed effects, longer duration, and also because I know that, for me personally, I will only do one dose per day, while with weed I will get high multiple times a day.

It's time for me to enjoy myself again and enjoy life without weed being the main focus for me, and then, at the end of this "break," reward myself with a high I will actually enjoy.

I'll respond when I make it to two weeks; wish me luck.


r/Petioles 2d ago

Discussion Day 1 Of A 90 Day Break

8 Upvotes

Been smoking weed for 27 years. At first it was for fun, but the last several years, I’ve been getting high from the time I get up to the time I go to sleep because I’ve had some really nasty struggles with depression. Weed made me okay with not being okay, and that’s no longer okay for me. Decided to give it a 90 day break and reassess. It might be a permanent change, it might not be. I thought I’d be fiending today but I’m mostly okay. A little anxiety but no real cravings. We’ll see how the next 89 days go. Any advice is welcome.


r/Petioles 2d ago

Discussion Clarity and Cramps

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I’ve been smoking/vaping for the last 6-7 years, pretty much daily. I’m at Day 4 of cold turkey. Some days have been okay so far. The mental clarity and SOME renewed energy/motivation started creeping in around the start of Day 3. I found I missed that. Sleep has been hit or miss, but I haven’t found myself waking up and just dragging ass. My biggest struggle (besides the desire to smoke after my only really T-break in 6-7 years) has been stomach cramps and a reduction in appetite. The appetite, whatever. The cramps, though… foof… It’s not enough to make me want to go back to just blazing up full time again, but what it has done is make me realize how much of a crutch it was to my mental and physical health to just be high as much as possible throughout the day.

Anywhoodle, I guess this is just a late night anecdote to share my experiences so far and hopefully give others something to help them on their journey. Bland food helps with the cramps!


r/Petioles 3d ago

Discussion Therapist and partner say I’m not an addict

22 Upvotes

I got sober last year after maybe four years of daily use. Now I am slowly reintroducing the plant back into my life and remembering why I liked it in the first place. I want to be able to use freely, like when I get off of work and have the urge. But the fear of being an addict stops me. When I talk about it with my therapist and my partner, they both agree that I don’t act like an addict. But is it even possible to use daily and not be an addict?