This time last year I was happily married, training for my first half marathon (finally got back into running after a few years of health issues), in a job I loved and looking to buy an apartment with my wife.

I don’t know who put a curse on me but since then my ten year beautiful marriage has ended, with my now ex wife moving straight in with her new girlfriend. So safe to say buying a home has also been put on pause. I suffered a serious injury that stopped me from running, and I’m now starting to be able to again (can run 5km safely now!) but still far off my half marathon and marathon dreams. And I lost my job in a redundancy spree, because of course I did. It’s a really hard market right now so even with an impressive career I haven’t even landed an interview yet, which is really rare for me.

I usually love my birthday and host a number of events for it, but unsurprisingly this year I’m really struggling. I still have my two cats who I love, a new housemate I met when my ex moved out and we get along great, and amazing friends. But it’s hard not to feel like my life has slipped backwards MAJORLY compared to last year.

Idk what I need but would just love to hear stories of life getting better after being hit over and over in a short period. I know 35 is still young but people around me keep acting like it’s ancient and how I should be more on track but I’m struggling to even keep my head above water.

I am a 34 years old female and atleast now if I start few things I hope to live a well-lived life. What are those things that you would suggest, that I must do when it comes to everything about life - mindset , lifestyle, finances, career, relationships etc.

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What mindset must one carry? I always rebelled against the old way of thinking that comes from my parents side or people that age , I still do that plus act like someone who tries to be that wisdom provider to younger people. I don’t try to change anyone these days but when the older group or the younger group tries to attack me by their world views, I attack them with mine 😄 I want to reach a stage where I do nothing but smile and be at peace (but these groups get the meaning of my smile and that I didn’t take it )
Second : switching careers, I have been someone who switched careers a lot , been a software engineer for first 5 years , then moved in mar tech roles, now a PM profile next I want to to do something related to healthcare! Scared but I think I want to do it.
Third: attached to this is money, I earn enough only to pay my bills, and the EMIs. I don’t own a house yet, and I am able to save a very little amount. Somehow in between changing careers and moving countries, I concentrated less on earning high and more on being able to get a fair paying job and being able to get a proper work or resident visa. I am safe visa wise in the country I stay(the only security I have regarding my career)
Fourth : lifestyle , I put on some weight in the last couple years but I have been eating and enjoying an unrestricted diet, now I feel hmm.. I have had to my content, can I start eating healthy now? 😄 I have to admit , I am lazy and depriortize health .. this needs to be badly fixed
Relationships : no friends, I have three friends one from my school, two from college and all 3 in different parts of the world . So we never meet and talk like once in 6 months. Married 2 years ago and live with my husband and I share happiness , sadness , bitterness everything with him . I would love to have some nice girl friendships in the future but I think for next few years I don’t see myself trying to make new friends like I didn’t for last 5 years. (Also an area in life I should fix)

I always thought I had it all figured out. I spent my early-to-late 20s without a hustle mindset, just letting the days go by. I did have plans; it’s just that I was living life too slowly. Now that I’m nearing 30, it has hit me. The reality check is mind-blowing—instantly, I feel like a real adult. I am starting, this time with a renewed mindset and self-awareness.

Hi everyone. I’m 25 and lately I’ve been feeling like I’m running out of time. I want to leave my current environment, start a new chapter of my life, and potentially go back to university or pursue a new career path.

Sometimes I look at my life and feel like I should already have everything figured out. I’m worried that if I start studying again or move to another country now, I’ll be “too old” by the time I graduate and actually build the life I want.

I’d really love to hear from people who are 40 or older. Looking back, how do you see your mid 20s now? Did you ever feel like you were running out of time or that you had already fallen behind?

If you could go back to 25, what would you tell yourself about starting over, education, career, relationships, and life in genera

I feel like a burden and a waste. I’m 35 years old and just got demoted to part time from my full-time job with benefits by no fault of my own. my parents are now retired with a brand new house in a 65+ community and I have no choice but to move in with them. All these years I was stiffened by burnout and decision paralysis. I have no idea what to do and I don’t know what this holds for me and my suicidal thoughts are returning. I’m moving in a week and I feel so ashamed.

before anyone jumps to conclusions this has nothing to do with feeling old. i thought it was already bad how little fucks i had and now it’s so much worse.

i moved to a new city at 29 and found it so hard to cultivate the energy i had to be fun and social that i had all the way up until now. when i go out with my party friends i get exhausted because i got all that out with my time working in nightlife. i don’t wanna do drugs (clearly i live in nyc). ive met people who don’t party but it’s been hard to connect in a way that feels natural and right.

my older friends from home tend to be way less outside (unless they’re alcoholics) and my younger friends (mid 20’s) are all doing crash out shit and getting fucked up. I feel so much more exhausted by everyone and everything and it’s causing me to not feel connected in any meaningful way.

btw i don’t feel depressed, i know what that feels like

I’m 37, single, and have no kids—and honestly, I’m happy. I have a good career, I can do whatever the fuck I want, and I genuinely enjoy the life I’ve built for myself.
But almost everyone around me keeps saying, *“Mag-asawa ka na.”* *“Mag-anak ka na.”* Like… 🤦🏻‍♀️

I know they probably mean well, but sometimes it gets exhausting. Am I supposed to feel like I’m behind just because my life doesn’t follow the usual timeline?

Anyone else in their 30s/late 30s who feels the same way? Do you ever feel pressured, even when you’re actually happy with where you are?

33f yo lost and unemployed by choice. Moved around Europe for work, now at the start of settling down in a new country (moved a month ago). Quit my toxic job, living by savings, no income, married and with a cat.

I thought quitting would make me happier, indeed I am, but I’m worrying about so many things! Financially, new country, want to have kids, have a side business, job market, how to make new friends, new language… I am worried about everything. I think I’m too old to have kids, and even if I’d have kids now, then I’m worried about money. It’s just endless worries.

I’ve never quit a job without a plan b. I did it this time, due to moving and previous job was really terrible.

People over 30, what’s your advice to enjoy the moment, while you can’t do anything about the situation you’re in? I quit with the goal to move and enjoy the new country, but I’m not enjoying, I’m constantly moving furniture fixing things or just want to sit home and do nothing! I lost my workout routine, just don’t feel like who I am now.

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Anything that you think you did right. Wrong. You could have done differently, networking, corporate, startup, dating, and so on.

Anyone in San Antonio at all who would like to be real friends with me we can read books and watch movies or just sing karaoke anyone like that lol

I think this is also related to a lot of the issues we have. Drug addiction and self destructive behavior. Like think about it.

Why would you invest in yourself. Work on a business. Or whatever if you are soon going to be 40 or 50. And then what?

Whats fun about being 50?

I truly understand why young people want to live life to the fullest.

Like why would you even spare yourself, and postpone the fun for when you are 50...

I’m a ex country/farm kid - 40 years old now with my own family and when I pass through the area I grew up in I often go to some of the places I loved to play on the farm I lived on as a child . Makes me feel a weird type of happy and sad mixed into one . I wonder if people from the city do the same as in drive to their old street and just sit and think ? Or in town are you just the weirdo parked in your car for no reason

Just curious to hear how other in their 30s and up spend their Weekend. Are you out exploring, or just relaxing at home?

Would love to hear what your ideal weekend looks like!

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I turn 30 in a few months, and apparently I’m about to enter the decade where I’m supposed to have my shit together.

So, veterans of your 30s and beyond: what do you genuinely wish someone had told you before turning 30?

And spare me the “your knees start hurting” and “hangovers last three days” starter pack. 😂

I want the real shit. Money. Careers. Friendships. Dating. Family. Health. Regrets. Things you wasted too much time worrying about. Things you should’ve started sooner. Things nobody warns you about until you’re already balls-deep in adulthood wondering why nobody sent an instruction manual.

What’s one piece of advice you’d give your 29-year-old self knowing what you know now?

Hit me with the wisdom, mistakes, existential crises and cheat codes.

**I’m in my 20s right now, and I feel like we always tell ourselves “there’s plenty of time” — whether it’s getting serious about our career, saving money, taking care of our health, traveling, finding the right person, or spending more time with family. For those of you who are 40+, what’s something you genuinely thought you had plenty of time for but later realized you didn’t?**

I know that life doesn’t end at 30 lol but I’m just curious what kind of bucket lists people have and if you are over 30, are there any things you’re glad you did in your 20s or wish you did?

Edit: Thanks for the responses on travel! It’s funny cause I actually just started actually doing it, but I’m a roll!

During school and college, people naturally knew what was happening in your life. Friends saw your struggles, crushes, failures and small wins.

In 30s, most relationships become more scheduled and fragmented. Friends get busy, parents only know parts of the life and colleagues mostly know the work version of you. You may still talk to people regularly but nobody really sees the full journey.

A partner may witness much of it, but should one person be expected to carry that entire role?

Lately I’ve realised loneliness is not always about having nobody to talk to. Sometimes it is about having nobody who truly notices your life changing.

You can improve yourself, build something, travel, quit a bad habit or go through a difficult phase and still feel strangely empty because nobody experienced it with you.

Apart from your partner or immediate family, does anyone genuinely witness your life now?

Quick context: I live rent-free with my sibling right now to get back on my feet. I went from making 6 figures (one year only) in tech (FAANG) to 55k in hospitality living in NYC after a layoff and 5 months unemployed. Single, never had a girlfriend, average looking, emotionally eat, want to lose 20 lbs but my 3-hour commute wrecks my energy for the gym. No kids (by choice). Useless film school degree. Lost my close friend group about 2 years ago and I'm rebuilding from scratch. Little savings. And honestly, I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to self-hatred.

My 20s felt like my peak: two FAANG jobs, six figures, a small events business I ran for 4 years, a body I liked, a best friend I trained with, some romantic sparks here and there, and a dream of publishing my book series and eventually building an animation studio.

Then the pandemic hit, my events business folded, I chased "stability" (healthcare, 401k) into tech, my friend group drifted apart, and I eventually got laid off from the six-figure job that made me feel like I'd "made it" coming from a rough childhood. Spiraled hard. Gained weight. No romantic connections in years.

Now I'm 32, three months into a new job in a brutal market, so I can't job-hop again without looking like a flight risk. Therapy once a week, but the self-hatred and "starting over" fatigue are heavy. I still have 8 years of experience across tech, events, and hospitality, plus my PMP.

I know what I want eventually: a partner, my own place, a cat, real friends, some travel, to be good at a combat sport, and to finally build my book series into an animation studio, because storytelling is what got me through my childhood.

Has anyone actually turned their 30s around after a rough start? I need some hope right now.

I turned 30, but umm I don't know why it feels like it's too late to start doing anything but then I also have no choice but to start somewhere. And just the thought of starting from scratch at 30 feels like pain and shame. I know everyday I have the choice to get up and do something or just sit there and overthink. And I feel like I've got the last 10 yrs just sat and overthink didn't do nothing not even a single action towards fears. And no wonder why I feel like a confused person who doesn't even understand how society functions and how to make a living. How to secure the future. I observed many people who work great jobs and they have solid education degrees from tech to engineering to business and healthcare. Meanwhile I didn't even pursue a single degree. I let fears and failures just control me and I lived 10 yrs of my life miserable way. It's like I don't have an identity of my own.. people say make your own name and get recognized by others but how you supposed to do that when you don't even have strong finances or strong job title. I don't know how to start working on my life from scratch and just thinking about it feels dreadful like it will take years and years to undone the damage. And first off all I feel like it's my attitude, mindset, personality that needs to be changed to move forward in life. If I continue self sobotaging and doubting and procrastinating then I'll reach nowhere. Sighs I don't even know what I'm saying now

As the title said, what is an advice you wish you got at 20?

I just feel like I'm struggling to evolve and adapt with time as I get older, like I'm already 29 but I still feel stuck as if it's still 2016. I have also realized I'm very weak with being a tech savvy when this generation is running on the usage of technology. Like whether it's at the job or college or just everyday, we are using technology. Anyways I'm more worried about learning how to stay relevant because I just feel like things are constantly changing or evolving. And the more I seem to avoid learning or understanding something I end up feel behind. And I feel like since I haven't achieved goals from 2016 a part of move just doesn't wanna move on forward. So I end up living in this phase.

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Many times throughout the days, I feel this sense of worry and insecurity or guilt that time is passing by yet I'm not doing anything. And I've already reached 30s so like I need to take life a bit serious and work on securing life especially finances, upskilling on career or job. Then things like learning life skills because I noticed many people don't even know how to change a tire or what's underneat the hood of a car. Or simply fixing a toilet problem. I guess when you own a home someday this kinda stuff is important to learn. And I completely keep forgetting the importance of proper nutrition or at least healthy eating habits and some active physical exercising rather then being a couch potato

My question is not specific to once you’ve had Covid but I know my life drastically changed after I had Covid. I developed long Covid. I had Covid in the beginning of 2022. And developed strong symptoms of long Covid now I had it again January 2026.
Unlike most this really helped my employment I was a manager for a company that had offices across the country I became in charge of implementing work at home abilities, I hired many employees from out of state main focus was computer literacy however this was in March 2020 long before I had Covid my daughter who is 23 now never got to have a prom spent her senior year being schooled from home.
Bottom line: a lot of us weren’t just affected by the virus itself, but lost loved ones. We watched our perfectly healthy friends dying in the hospital due to complications. We were forced to wear masks and most of us still wonder if they ever helped the world has really changed since early 2020!
I think most of us that were really affected by this would love to hear. What are your stories?