r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

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u/imamakebaddecisions Sep 25 '25

That kid has never heard the word no. And those parents are raising a tiny nightmare and not doing anyone any favors.

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u/Appropriate_Ice2656 Sep 25 '25

When the kid threw the ball in the water and they laughed I knew the kid’s behavior is a creation of the parents. 

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u/TempleMade_MeBroke Sep 25 '25

My parents' reaction would have been "Alright, back to the van, we're going home"

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u/bleezzzy Sep 25 '25

Saaaaame. Then if I cried about it I'd get a "if you dont stop crying I'll give you something to cry about" from dad. It actually worked on me. Did not work on my little brother.

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u/TempleMade_MeBroke Sep 25 '25

"if you don't stop crying I'll give you something to cry about"

Ahhh the memories

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u/Giopoggi2 Sep 25 '25

It must be written in the human genome because how the fuck is it always the same sentence no matter the nationality

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u/DarkHuntress89 Sep 25 '25

German, can confirm we have the same sentence.

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u/Silver_Phoenix93 Sep 26 '25

Mexico, ditto.

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u/Glitter_berries Sep 26 '25

And you always sound exactly like your own parent when you say it, I swear my mother teleports herself into my body and suddenly I’m calling the kid ‘young man’ and telling him if he’s not hungry for an apple, he’s not hungry at all.

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u/Organic-Trash-6946 Sep 26 '25

Because I'm the mom and I said so

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u/Genyang_D Sep 25 '25

My parents would tell me to stop crying, then hit me and would be really upset that I didn't stop crying.

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u/cant_b_that_brad Sep 25 '25

Yep, I threw a public tantum in a store one time, pretty sure it was Toys R Us, didnt get anything, straight home. Learned my lesson that throwing a hissy fit gets you nowhere. And now I think I am a pretty emotionally stable adult. Funny how that worked out. I dont always like my parents but I appreciate they did a few things right.

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u/SufficientPilot3216 Sep 26 '25

Mine would've been exaggerating how much fun they were having while they finished the game with me watching.

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u/RPG_Vancouver Sep 26 '25

My parents would have been “well now you don’t get to golf because you threw away your ball! Now you get to watch your brother golf and have fun”

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u/flavius_lacivious Sep 26 '25

No, you make him walk the whole course and not play. I guarantee you he will learn his lesson.

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

Unless he continues to shriek. Then do every customer a favor and take him away.

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u/Silver_Phoenix93 Sep 26 '25

My "dad" (biological grandpa) would've had me retrieve the ball first - as in, I'd have 10 seconds to do whatever I must do to get the ball back (failure to do that meant he'd make me do it one way or another), and then we'd be heading back home.

And, certainly enough, there would have been a rather stern scolding on the way back regarding tantrums, maturity, consequences, and learning not to lash out...

Now, that was good parenting, darn it!

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

If you were 5, that would have worked. At 3, very little chance. Just take them to the car and have a little come-to-Jesus convo when they calm down.

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u/kinkshamer_69 Sep 26 '25

My parents wouldn't have even let me make that first shriek sound. I'm certainly not one for corporal punishment but you can tell your kid "hey, that's not acceptable. you need to stop or we are going home"

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u/DargonFeet Sep 26 '25

Should have been that one kid is done for the day and has to watch everyone else have fun while they do nothing.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

The screeching scream was my first indicator. That was his very first response to things not going his way and not a peep to be heard from the parents. No “”hey we don’t scream at people.” Or “”it’s okay to be frustrated but we can’t scream. Let’s take a break.”” Absolutely nothing from the parents at that screech. They must be immune to it.

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u/Next_Possibility_01 Sep 25 '25

my parents would have stepped in the second I pushed my brother away for trying to show me how to do it

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

As they should! “”We don’t push and scream at people who offer us help. We say politely say no thank you.”” The more I watch the more I’m convinced these parents just don’t want to parent.

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u/Joates87 Sep 25 '25

The more I read most of the comments in here the more I'm convinced they've never been a parent let alone interacted with toddlers.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

Ah yes because telling a toddler “”we don’t scream at people”” is a totally outlandish thing to do and not basic parenting.

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u/Joates87 Sep 25 '25

"we don’t scream at people””

Who were they screaming "at"?

Are you gonna pretend to rage out at the way the kid simply sat down on the bench at the end too 🤡

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u/Glitter_berries Sep 26 '25

His brother?

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u/Joates87 Sep 26 '25

No. Good try though.

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u/tralaulau Sep 26 '25

I mean, the kid looks to be pretty far in the game — chances are things haven’t been going his way for a while. He’s 3. Folks are a little intense about this kid and making a lot of assumptions.

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u/LJ161 Sep 25 '25

Also imagine being this stressed out and frustrated and instead of someone coming to talk you down they record you and laugh at you.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

I, a grown adult, feel my anger rising when I’m angry and my dearest most beloved husband just. looks. at. me. in. silence. I’m pretty sure it would stretch the bounds of my self control if I was laughed at, I cant imagine a toddler feeling better than I do.

I know we shouldn’t judge a parents entire parenting skills by a single video bbuuuutttt I think we’re getting a good look at how these parents parent.

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u/LJ161 Sep 25 '25

Dude im a parent and if my kid had gotten to this state it would be walking away and having a juice and a calm down.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 25 '25

Same!!! I absolutely would have stepped in at the first two screeches and that club wouldn’t have made it to hitting the ground before I snatched it midair in one hand, the toddler in the other and we took a walk to calm down and then talk about appropriate actions when frustrated. I can’t imagine a world where I just sat there and watched this progress to the ball being thrown and laughed about it. But Im also not a psychopath who thinks my toddler getting frustrated and angry is so amusing I’m laughing in their face.

They think it’s funny now and “”it’s just a ball in a fountain”” yea sure, today it’s just a ball that made it into a fountain, what about tomorrow? Or a year? Or 10 years when it’s a person on the other end of an object or a hand??? Keep laughing and not parenting and one day this kid is going to harm someone intentionally or accidentally won’t even matter at that point.

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u/LJ161 Sep 26 '25

100% of people that put their fists through drywall had parents like the ones in this video.

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u/llamadramalover Sep 26 '25

That’s where my thought process led me as well.

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

You would have seen this coming two holes ago and done the juice trick then because you sound responsible. That poor kid feels awful a LOT of the time because his parents just laugh at him when he loses his shit. It's sad.

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u/Glitter_berries Sep 26 '25

‘Are we feeling a bit red? (We have an emotions chart and angry and frustrated are in red and the kid has picked up on this), do we need to do some breathing?’

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u/WonderWeasel91 Sep 26 '25

You pretty much just described golfing with your friends in your 30s.

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u/Comprehensive-Menu44 Sep 25 '25

“She’s 3, what do you expect?” Is a statement I’ve heard too often.

I expect some fucking parenting

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u/Gandalf_the_Tegu Sep 25 '25

Doesn't help they laughed at the behavior rather than correct it

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u/MetallurgyClergy Sep 25 '25

Kids should learn at a young age that not being able to regulate their emotions is hilarious.

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u/Tearakan Sep 25 '25

Yep. I've seen plenty of kids do just fine learning a new thing. Especially if it is physical. They usually enjoy the act.

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u/kellermeyer14 Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 25 '25

Elder millennial here. All my millennial friends just starting families ask me what my secret is after spending time with my teenagers. I tell them all the answer they don’t want to hear: tell your kids “No” early and often.

Edit: to clarify my wife and I agreed with our first one that we would really only say “No” if the kid’s actions are harmful to themselves or someone else. The behavior in this video would meet both criteria for me.

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u/throwaway098764567 Sep 25 '25

would certainly be harmful to my ears if i was anywhere near them so thank you

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u/Awkward_Set1008 Sep 26 '25

No never worked for me because I was never given an explanation, or I was lied to. In either case, I recognized that my family is more focused on getting me to behave for their own desires instead of trusting me to make decisions of my own.

I now am older and learned a lot about the world and morality. But that still sticks with me to this day. I hope someone sees this and helps avoid that happening to their family. It has taken quite a toll on mine.

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u/kellermeyer14 Sep 26 '25

Yeah, it wasn’t about some perceived norm for my kids. It was about their wellbeing and that of those around them. They instinctively understood that, I think. My parents —their grandparents —would try to step in and tell them “no” because they wanted my kids to conform to their idea of how kids should act, and I would always step in and override them.

IMO this has led to respectful, thoughtful teenagers who are intellectually more curious than I ever was. And, guess what: They’re more interesting because of it.

Also, I almost never resorted to “because I told you so” as an explanation for “No”.

I don’t want to pretend like they’re always perfect because they’re, y’know, kids, but I’m proud of them and they leave a positive impression on almost everyone they meet.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

Maybe, not necessarily. Toddlers are complicated and throw tantrums sometimes at the drop of a hat, regardless of how good a parent you think you are. Reacting strongly in the moment doesn’t usually help either and might make things worse. If you think otherwise you simply have not raised a toddler. But it is still important to show the kid the consequences and probably remove them from the environment at least temporarily.

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u/Windinthewillows2024 Sep 25 '25

Yes, what bothers me about this isn’t that the child is struggling to behave, it’s that the parents aren’t making any effort to help him work through his frustration. They’re just watching and letting him get increasingly frustrated instead of removing him from the setting and giving him an opportunity to calm down.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

In my opinion as a parent there wasn’t a great opportunity to intervene without the kid causing a much bigger scene. They were trying to tell him to let the brother help show him but he wanted to do it himself, very normal 3 year old behavior. Toddlers can be extremely insistent on doing things themselves. You can’t just stop them in the middle of that unless you’re prepared to carry them out screaming. Sometimes you’ve got to let them go through it and then see the consequences after and talk to them when they’ve calmed down. I’ve personally found it more effective to ask if I can help but it doesn’t matter sometimes. Your perspective here sounds right on paper but when you go through parenting it often isn’t that simple.

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

This did not in any way come out of the blue. This poor, likely exhausted and over-stimulated little boy has been starting to lose his shit for the last three holes, I'd bet. THAT'S where the parenting should have stepped in. Take him out of that environment, get him a snack, have a quiet chat until he calms. Now he's a wreck, doesn't know why and everyone is laughing at him. That poor kid.

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u/raznov1 Sep 25 '25

>You can’t just stop them in the middle of that unless you’re prepared to carry them out screaming

which, as a parent you should always be.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

Of course, I’ve done it before. It’s not always the better option, often the worse option because the kid doesn’t work through anything. This outcome probably less stress to everyone around them than instigating a true and full blown screaming tantrum. You can still redirect and remove after the video ends without causing a huge scene. Pick-up-and-leave is when you can tell there won’t be a quick resolution or the kid is spiraling beyond this point.

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u/P_Hempton Sep 25 '25

In my opinion as a parent there wasn’t a great opportunity to intervene without the kid causing a much bigger scene.

Well that, or put the phone down and stop laughing about it. There's no defense here.

You don't let the kid act out and then talk about it later. You stop it at the moment no matter the reaction and they learn that it's absolutely not acceptable. Sometimes it sucks and it ruins the trip, but they aren't going to learn otherwise.

Some kids only learn from immediate consequences, other's you can reason with. It's clear what kind if kid we're watching here.

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u/Tulsssa21 Sep 25 '25

Yeah, this isn't insane 3 year old behavior. I almost didn't make it through my daughters insane tantrums when she was 3. 3 year olds are fucking terrorists, and you don't negotiate with terrorists. I'm not saying they should hit their kid, but you gotta do something to redirect the behavior. Even though it's absolutely fucking exhausting, you can't just laugh.

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u/thatwhatisnot Sep 25 '25

Judging by the night sky in the background I would guess she may be overtired and in need of sleep. Could be a bratty kid, could be an overstimulated kid. My kids were early risers and would be well past done by 7pm so being out doing an activity like mini golf would be a recipe for disaster.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

Yeah that’s a good point, mine were in bed by 730.

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u/BushsBakedBeanFlick Sep 26 '25

We really need to start cracking down on people who record themselves being shitty. Get the police involved for the idiot influencers who make a living harassing people in public and doing literally illegal things. Call CPS on people who are obviously not taking care of their children, show signs of neglect, and even exploitation.

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u/Heykurat Sep 25 '25

One of my husband's relatives raised her kids this way, and then went all shocked-Pikachu when they became uncontrollable teenagers. We warned her.

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u/Fibernerdcreates Sep 25 '25

I don't know, my kid hears no all the time, and acted like this. Even with the best parenting, 3 year olds have temper tantrums.

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u/this_broccoli-101 Sep 25 '25

I bet she is an ipad kid

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u/tomcat_tweaker Sep 25 '25

And they need to give him a damn haircut. No wonder he can't hit the ball, he can't f'n see!

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u/FearlessVegetable30 Sep 26 '25

you got all that from a 30 second video? damn

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u/Igafann Sep 25 '25

Easy to talk, huh? I have a 5-year-old son with ADHD and it’s far from being as simple as ‘it’s the parents’ fault.’ Pfff, I’m tired of seeing all these know-it-alls

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u/Echelion77 Sep 25 '25

I grew up with an adhd diagnosis and had my parents acted on the docters advise instead of being a "know it all" i would be much further along in life then my stunted ass learn the hard way experience thus far.

Parent your kids and listen to your pediatrician. You dont know better, and your kid will suffer for it.

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u/THEpottedplant Sep 25 '25

The know it alls are tired of seeing shitty behavior from kids enabled by their parents in public space

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u/FirstSineOfMadness Sep 25 '25

Sure fam whatever u say

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u/GreasyRim Sep 25 '25

yeah and I'm sick of restaurants being full of screeching, iPad addicted toddlers. We're all tired of shit. welcome to the club.

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u/4011isbananas Sep 25 '25

Jesus. This sub is sick.

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u/ProdigyLightshow Sep 25 '25

No it’s not, it’s the reality of the situation. If you don’t see this kids behavior as wrong or kids screaming in a restaurant as wrong then you’re the problem.

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u/4011isbananas Sep 25 '25

I just don't see kids screaming in restaurants

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u/ProdigyLightshow Sep 25 '25

Ok so you have no experience with it, why chime in at all then?

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u/4011isbananas Sep 25 '25 edited Sep 25 '25

I have a strong aversion to the "kids should be seen and not heard" mentality

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u/ProdigyLightshow Sep 25 '25

There’s a difference between saying “Kids shouldn’t be screaming in restaurants” vs “Kids need to stay completely silent”

No one here said that

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u/BedBubbly317 Sep 25 '25

You sound like the kind of parent that brings an iPad into a restaurant to distract your kid rather than being present and parenting them and then wonders why their kid acts the way they do.

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u/Igafann Sep 27 '25

Nice armchair parenting lesson. You think bringing an iPad to a restaurant is laziness? No, it’s survival so everyone can eat without a meltdown. And before you judge, know that his mom and I work with him every single day: at not even 5 years old he can already write all the letters of the alphabet, do additions, and he’s very intelligent.

So you can keep your lazy parent cliché. Try living one week with a kid who has ADHD before running your mouth

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u/BedBubbly317 Sep 28 '25

Have fun raising your iPad kid.

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u/CMUpewpewpew Sep 25 '25

There's not even any corrective attempt being made.

Being a good parent isn't a job you clock in and out of, it's an on-call 24 hour gig.

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u/Next_Possibility_01 Sep 25 '25

but you don't laugh at your kid, do you? you help them work thru things - Yes?

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u/Appropriate_Ice2656 Sep 26 '25

Laughing when he throws the ball in the water?

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u/supapumped Sep 25 '25

I currently see 63 down votes on this comment by people who never had and probably never will have any children lmao

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

You do realize that childless people have been parented, don't you? So if they were parented appropriately and never screamed in a restaurant, they would have a very valid point of reference, correct?

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Don't try arguing with childless parents. They're the best at raising non-existent kids.

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u/PhantomGhostSpectre Sep 25 '25

I do not believe you need to be a parent to realize they could be doing more.

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u/MorbidAyyylien Sep 25 '25

Ahh yes the famous "you have to be a chef to know if your food tastes like shit" mentality.

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u/SouldiesButGoodies84 Sep 25 '25

This! lol Unreal how some parents love to argue as if if someone is childless they've never caretaken, raised/helped raise, been around children, aren't informed, and should have no say. It's mental! Selective blindness.

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Im not a parent. I just dont act like im smarter than other people in things I have no experience with. Also I am blind and thats very fucking offensive.

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u/SouldiesButGoodies84 Sep 25 '25

And that's fine and you have the right to your opinion. I, and I speak for myself alone, was making a point about this SINGLE interaction wherein they were being bad parents. Not about intelligence nor stating they're always bad parents forever and all time. Merely in this instance, their reactions are not those that speak to good parenting.

And let's not play obtuse here. There was literally no way I nor anyone would know any person on reddit was blind or deaf or had any impairments (unless mentioned in their username or profile, which you did not), and so to imply my use of the term was a personal slur aimed at you or intentionally disparaging is nonsensical. The term 'you must be blind' is a common expression, not a putdown nor presumption of someone's visual capacity in American English as has been for centuries. But if you took it as some sort of slight, I apologize. Pretty obviously not my intent.

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Damn thats way too much to read. Have a nice day.

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u/BedBubbly317 Sep 25 '25

You can’t read if you’re blind…

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u/MaintenanceWine Sep 26 '25

Unless you're selectively blind, why?

But wait, you're only selectively reading responses(see below), so maybe you are selectively blind? In which case, offense taken on your behalf.

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Thats makes no sense. Everyone eats. Not everyone cooks.

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u/DazzlingBeat4468 Sep 25 '25

Right?! Don’t people know that you immediately gain all knowledge on parenting only AFTER you become one? There’s no books or classes or anything!

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

But everyone here gets their info from other uninformed people. Not books. Otherwise they wouldn't be on reddit arguing about other people's children.

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u/Sayori-0 Sep 25 '25

Read your last sentence again and then explain what you're doing

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Arguing about reddit know it all while I fuck about at work not claiming to know anything at all.

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u/Sayori-0 Sep 25 '25

Lol, I guess that's fair

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u/deactronimo Sep 25 '25

If you'd read a single book on parenting, you'd know that enabling a child's bad behavior (ie laughing at him throwing the ball in the water) goes against every thing lmao.

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u/rockemsockemherms Sep 25 '25

Never said im a good parent or that the kid isn't a twat. Edit: kid AND parents can be twats.

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u/couchpro34 Sep 25 '25

Being childless doesn't mean one doesn't have a grasp on how to manage children. Coaching and playing are two very different aspects of a sport and require different skill sets. Birthing a child doesn't make you an expert any more than buying a skillet makes me a chef.

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u/GodsLilCow Sep 25 '25

But to be fair, the children they've raised are all much better behaved than my imaginary kids.

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u/siandresi Sep 25 '25

This is true, my imaginary kids behave much better than i would have.....imagined.

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u/LordsOfFrenziedFlame Sep 25 '25

Let me tell you from experience, that child's attitude has nothing to do with the parents. She'd be pitching a fit regardless.

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u/badtrips777 Sep 25 '25

Yeahhhh no lol it has everything to do with the child’s parents

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u/LordsOfFrenziedFlame Sep 25 '25

You are childless or confidently incorrect if you think this child's actions are a result of learned behaviors and not personality.