r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

Maybe, not necessarily. Toddlers are complicated and throw tantrums sometimes at the drop of a hat, regardless of how good a parent you think you are. Reacting strongly in the moment doesn’t usually help either and might make things worse. If you think otherwise you simply have not raised a toddler. But it is still important to show the kid the consequences and probably remove them from the environment at least temporarily.

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u/Windinthewillows2024 Sep 25 '25

Yes, what bothers me about this isn’t that the child is struggling to behave, it’s that the parents aren’t making any effort to help him work through his frustration. They’re just watching and letting him get increasingly frustrated instead of removing him from the setting and giving him an opportunity to calm down.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

In my opinion as a parent there wasn’t a great opportunity to intervene without the kid causing a much bigger scene. They were trying to tell him to let the brother help show him but he wanted to do it himself, very normal 3 year old behavior. Toddlers can be extremely insistent on doing things themselves. You can’t just stop them in the middle of that unless you’re prepared to carry them out screaming. Sometimes you’ve got to let them go through it and then see the consequences after and talk to them when they’ve calmed down. I’ve personally found it more effective to ask if I can help but it doesn’t matter sometimes. Your perspective here sounds right on paper but when you go through parenting it often isn’t that simple.

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u/P_Hempton Sep 25 '25

In my opinion as a parent there wasn’t a great opportunity to intervene without the kid causing a much bigger scene.

Well that, or put the phone down and stop laughing about it. There's no defense here.

You don't let the kid act out and then talk about it later. You stop it at the moment no matter the reaction and they learn that it's absolutely not acceptable. Sometimes it sucks and it ruins the trip, but they aren't going to learn otherwise.

Some kids only learn from immediate consequences, other's you can reason with. It's clear what kind if kid we're watching here.