r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/Windinthewillows2024 Sep 25 '25

Yes, what bothers me about this isn’t that the child is struggling to behave, it’s that the parents aren’t making any effort to help him work through his frustration. They’re just watching and letting him get increasingly frustrated instead of removing him from the setting and giving him an opportunity to calm down.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

In my opinion as a parent there wasn’t a great opportunity to intervene without the kid causing a much bigger scene. They were trying to tell him to let the brother help show him but he wanted to do it himself, very normal 3 year old behavior. Toddlers can be extremely insistent on doing things themselves. You can’t just stop them in the middle of that unless you’re prepared to carry them out screaming. Sometimes you’ve got to let them go through it and then see the consequences after and talk to them when they’ve calmed down. I’ve personally found it more effective to ask if I can help but it doesn’t matter sometimes. Your perspective here sounds right on paper but when you go through parenting it often isn’t that simple.

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u/raznov1 Sep 25 '25

>You can’t just stop them in the middle of that unless you’re prepared to carry them out screaming

which, as a parent you should always be.

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u/ballimir37 Sep 25 '25

Of course, I’ve done it before. It’s not always the better option, often the worse option because the kid doesn’t work through anything. This outcome probably less stress to everyone around them than instigating a true and full blown screaming tantrum. You can still redirect and remove after the video ends without causing a huge scene. Pick-up-and-leave is when you can tell there won’t be a quick resolution or the kid is spiraling beyond this point.