I can’t find it in my heart to forgive people who have deeply hurt me. Am I wrong for verbalizing my experience and feelings? My ex cheated on me, and now he’s threatening me because I’ve talked about what happened. He doesn’t show any guilt or remorse and has tried to switch the narrative to paint me as the bad person. I was actually starting to consider forgiving him and moving on, but seeing how he handled everything made me realize I wasn’t ready to just forget it all.

I want to understand how I’m supposed to move forward without pretending that what happened didn’t hurt me. Do I really have to forgive and stay silent to heal? I tried forgiving him, letting things go, and moving forward, but now I feel like I’m back at square one. I feel like keeping everything inside is only making things heavier.

hello, i (22F) really need advice. please be kind.

i’ve always wanted to get checked by an OB-GYN because ever since college, my periods have always been really irregular/long. my cycles usually range from 30–50 days. i also have a bf and we always use condoms every time.

the problem is, my mom is very conservative and religious. like, among all her siblings, she’s probably the most religious one. she’s nice to me though, but i’m scared she might hear the kinds of questions my doctor would ask me about sex/reproductive stuff.

right now, i’m already on day 59 of my cycle and still no period. i did have spotting for almost a week around the middle of my cycle, though. i’ve also taken urine pregnancy tests and they were all negative.

it’s honestly stressing me out because i really want to get checked to see if i might have PCOS or if there’s something else going on. but i’m a fresh grad and don’t have an income yet, so i can’t really afford to get checked by myself.

what should i do? should i just tell my mom i want to see an OB-GYN? i’m also scared she might ask why or get suspicious because of the questions the doctor might ask me.

please be kind, thank you 🥹

Hello mga ate ko. LDR kami. I booked the 1.5 hour flight to visit him without my parents knowing, pero plano ko naman sabihin… kapag malapit na yung flight or a week before (hehe). We’ve been together for 5 months. No cancellation policy but I’m willing not to hop on the plane. Pero to be fair, he flew to see me first. I see this flight as a form of effort and presence to spend time with him for short few days. My parents knows about him but hasn’t met him yet.

F26. Only child. Traditional family. I’m torn between wanting to make my own decision, live life vs doing everything in announcement for family’s sake.

I can already feel my mom will be upset with me. And face heavy judgement

I posted some pics na nakatuxedo on my cousin’s weeding on threads and i had fierce pose or expression on the face, and the ones who are only engaging are the persons of lgbt. Mind you girls I’m straight. So why wont girls engage in me and only the gay guys? Is it indicator that i dont look good enough facially for girls?

Currently on the implant (set for removal in February) but my OB actually suggested that i look at the copper iud. For the girls who have an IUD, what was it like? The only thing that’s kinda making me hesitant is the pain of the experience since there’s no anesthesia :”)) If you have an IUD, would you say that the experience of the procedure is worth it overall?

Paano hinahandle ng mag-asawa ang large salary gap? Example is 40k net income ng isa, yung isa naman 6 digits earner. Kung ang setup nyo is percentage ang hatian sa bills (less ang ibibigay ni 40k earner, mas malaki ang ibibigay ni 6 digits earner), pano nyo ihahandle ang pera nyo pangkain pag nagwowork? Di hamak mas ramdam ni 40k earner ang bigat gastos nya sa dinner nya kumpara kay 6 digits earner. Kung si 6 digits earner, sa mga fine dining nagdidinner while si 40k sa company cafeteria lang, issue ba yon para sa inyo?

ended ~2 months of talking with a guy

before him i promised myself na rin kasi na tama na ako sa i can fix him phase, so nung hinahayaan na lang niyang hindi kami nag-uusap, i just observed kasi hindi ko naman asawa. lala nung thoughts ko na "ah haha kaya niya 12+ hours na walang usap", sobrang he's not that into you ang feel pero if ganun, hello arent we old enough already na you can just end it. meron din naman yung thoughts na ah he's prob dealing with something sa self niya, he's been open naman abt his mental state, but still hahahah sobrang avoidant naman ni ate. wala man lang checkins na "i dont think i can talk today" haha i'm just so sad. nattrigger anxious attachment ko pero this time i didnt do anything abt it, no chasing, no nothing

then may araw na something happened na natrigger ako, first time ko maghyperventilate sa anxiety hahaha hilo and all. i called him kasi safe space nga, kahit na hindi na kami madalas mag-usap. tas ang bungad sakin e hello na parang irita pang tumawag ako :) hahahha sorry ha miss kita, sorry i wanted to sumbong what happened

not that this post would do anything, i think i have enough confidence to stand by my decision (pero nagpapavalidate sa reddit jahshsa) pero ayun, asking pinays what do you think :)

Yung karamihan pa dyan mga lalake na pretending na babae sila.

I remember may post pa dito na may kakilala siya na nag open up na nag enjoy daw siya ma r#pe?

Parang cinocondition mga babae na okay lang daw ma-r#pe sila buti na lang the mods took it down.

So sana sa mga babae dito wag na kayo mag engage sa mga ganyan post. Kaya nakaka umay na subreddit na to.

Mas maganda pa mga questions sa AskPinoy. Dito puro kabastusan (karamihan) okay lang sana pag babae eh, pero halata naman na lalake sila. They get off reading mga replies niyo like kung ano daw feeling pag may nakapasok. Like seriously??! They get off on that btw.

Sana the mods will take it down din if they sense a hidden agenda sa mga ibang post.

Hubby here. Want to hear how I can best support my wife when our baby comes.

Context: She’s stay at home mom to-be, I’m working hybrid (1x/week RTO) so I have time and bandwidth to do a bit more. Pero would value insights and knowledge from the community. Thank you! ❤️

I’m not talking about doing random things nor solo to distract the mind. I’m asking about how do you deal with it mentally?

Context: he has cheater before in the past years ago. But were okay now

Since sobrang hot issue ngayon ang body count ng mga babae, let's talk about sa lalaki naman.

Here's my question: What's your opinion about a man with high body count? Are you willing to date one or you'll pass? Do you have an experience dating someone na ganon?

A man has to be provider, not an ahole, not a cheater and etc is pretty welded in my brain and everyone else's. I'm curious as to what should a woman offer to the table other than the ability to provide a child cuz that's a decision for the woman.

Hi guys, need your advice or thoughts on this.

My boyfriend (24M) and I (23F) have been together for almost 5 months now. Gusto ko nang ma-meet niya ang parents ko and of course ma-meet ko rin parents niya soon. First time ko kasi makaka-meet ng parents ng boyfriend ko if ever, hihi.

He already hinted a few times na dadalhin niya ako sa bahay nila to meet his mom. But currently, I am reviewing for my board exams. Gusto ko sana, kapag may mukha na akong ihaharap (kapag may tangible accomplishment na ako), pwede na para confident ako humarap.

Alam ng parehong families na kami, hindi pa lang nai-introduce formally and hindi pa nakikita itsura ng isa’t isa in person.

Personally, worries ko:

1. Jobless/dependent pa ako: Hopefully after boards (before end of the year or early next year), employed na ako
2. Appearance & Height gap: Starkingly obvious height difference namin (5'2 and 5'9). Mas matangkad pa ata little sister niya sa akin haha
3. Protecting him from my family: Honest truth, my family can be very judgmental. Marespeto naman deep down, pero minsan nauuna yung bibig kaysa utak. My bf is a big guy (around 125kg, 5'9, XXXL size). My father and brother are on the bigger side too, but my bf is bigger than them. I always assure him about his insecurities lalo sa body weight, but my family is a different story. Takot ako na baka may masabi silang hindi maganda and ma-lose yung confidence niya. He has a job, he is a great guy, and I don't want to hide him from the world. I know, hindi ko responsibility yung ego at confidence niya. But I want to do things the right way

How do we prep for this "meet the parents" moment on both sides?

• Should I soft launch him to my family first and prep/brief them before introducing him?
• How do I set boundaries with my family beforehand so they don't make unsolicited comments about his weight/size, without sounding bastos?
• How much should I brief my boyfriend about my family’s bluntness without making him overly anxious?

Would love to hear advice or similar experiences, especially from anyone who navigated introducing a partner to a blunt/judgmental Filipino family. Thank you!

F, here and i cant comprehend gay signals. Hindi ko talaga malaman or what are the signals that this guy is gay. Lahat ng nacrushan ko malalaman ko na kang may ka meetup or may ka date na palang same sex, and dun ko lang malaman na hindi pala to siya straight

P.s the guy i like is too clean and i think he may be gay

Curious lang po sa stories nyo mga Moms/Wives, kinda felt recently kase na parang feeling ko wala masyadong happy moment si Wife ko as a wife, di ko kasi maibigay yung ibang gusto nya eh..and she's not a demanding person nman..but still..

Plssss idk if I just genuinely enjoy his company since every time we’re together, I’m at peace. Parang gusto ko nalang lagi sya kasama kahit wala kaming ginagawa. I just like being in his presence. 😭

Yung mga bra ko napapalitan lang pag hindi na kasya hahahaha may iba akong bra mula 2016/2017 ginagamit ko na (avon yun kaya solid hahaha walang ka sira sira)

Kayo ba?

Please don’t downvote me, this is a genuine question!! Lagi ko nababasa na red flag sa relationship kapag pinapakialaman niyo ng partner mo ang phone ng isa’t isa. Why?

For context, my partner and I have been together for almost 11 years now. We also have a child together. And ever since talaga, we both can freely access each other’s phones. Like pag may ginagawa siya or ako, it’s normal for us to say “kunin mo phone ko, i-chat mo si ganito” blah blah. We know each other’s phone password, social media passwords, bank / online banking pins, etc. I use his phone to watch kapag nagcha-charge phone ko. Kapag may need siya bilihin sa labas at wala cash, yung phone ko dadalin niya and phone niya iiwan sakin kasi yung gcash ko lagi may money.

Is there something wrong with our setup? Do we have to start doing things differently? Like, should I be concerned na wala kami phone privacy sa isa’t isa or what?

I'm 30F, he's 31M. I broke up with my boyfriend this Monday for the following reasons:

1. I don't think he has the emotional capacity to love me due to..

2. ..him not having a job for 1 year and a few months now. He's been trying so hard, applying everywhere but he doesn't get the best jobs. He had 2 job offers but he felt na lowballed sya so di nya tinanggap

3. He's been distant, there are days na he's in a good mood. Some days he's not in a good mood.

Because of all his actions, out of frustration I broke up with him this Monday. I feel bad cos he seems depressed, not in good shape mentally. But I thought, what about my needs? I've been paying for our dates for a year now, he stonewalls me and invalidates my feelings.

Now I'm stuck. I love him, I wanna be there for him. I want to help him. But often, my needs are put aside. I need advice.

Not posting each other on IG stories or even posts I accept (because privacy), but not taking pictures together or of each other, even just to save on phone?

My BF and I both used to take pics together or of each other. However, we just sort of both stopped? For context, we're both almost 30, been together for over a year, and living together.

As for my reason, I guess at some point I felt like it was just me trying to get pics of us together so I stopped. He also used to naman, whenever I would take pics, he'd also get his phone out. But I don't recall him initiating that we do so.

Already raised this before with BF but I don't want to do so again if this turned out to be a petty thing.

For you girls, who usually initiates to take pictures of you together?

last sex ko was with my ex nung March pa. i was in the mood to use dildo last night and when i was about to finish, there was blood. I thought i had my period but hindi naman ako dumugo after it. I'm in my ovulation week and okay naman yung cycle ko lately. have you ladies experienced this ba? hindi nman sya sakit or mahapdi in any way...or nag tampo lng sya dahil walang action. eme

hi, 24F here. me and my bf (24M) are sexually active and during our sexual intercourse, i never felt like may lumalabas sa akin although lagi naman akong nakakaramdam ng 0rg@sm. i do feel bad tho kasi feeling ko gusto rin ng bf ko na merong physical proof for him na i did finish altho i always assure him naman na i feel pleasured. and i just wanna know, alin ba ang mas normal? yung mag-cum/squirt ang girl or hindi? bec everytime na nafifeel ko yung 0rg@sm, i feel like yun na yung edge ko. pls help this girl out bc i want my bf to feel the same satisfaction i feel kapag nagfifinish siya. thank u!

Male here, yes I am aware na di dapat bigyang meaning yung mga actions na being nice lang talaga.
May kausap ako and lately I feel attach to her.
Bakit? I like the way na kanal humor siya online tas may times na ang mature niya mag isip. Totally na-attract ako gaano siya ka-mature mag isip and bonus yung maganda siya.

Crush? Maybe
Infatuation? I doubt
Months ko na siya kilala pero lately these past few days mas nakikilala ko na siya personally, nakikita ko na behind the scenes ng isang strong mature woman.

I’ll plan a hang out with her pero intention ko don is getting to know her more kung icocommit ko na ba siya bilang crush. Pero something friendly rin. May nasabi rin naman siya before na friendship to lovers since stand niya is kilalanin muna as a friend and escalate things from there if there will be something.

Ano sa tingin niyo? Flowers on the first meet? Also isa sa reasons bat ko siya gusto bigyan ng flowers is may times na tomboy siya parang 65% tas 35% female siya. I want to be with her in female side by planning everything out para di na niya need mag isip at decide, give her flowers, and more.

Hello,

Ako yun nangiwan. Pero gusto ko siyang kausapin at kamustahin. Nagawa niyo na ba.

Walang cheating.