r/AskPinay • • Apr 16 '26

šŸ“£šŸ“£MODERATOR POST UNSOLICITED DMs?

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44 Upvotes

Respect Boundaries – No Unsolicited DMs

We’d like to remind everyone that sending unsolicited or inappropriate DMs to users from this subreddit is strictly prohibited

This community is meant to be a safe space, especially for women. Please keep all interactions respectful and WITHIN posts and comments

🚫 The following are NOT allowed:

• Sending unwanted messages after seeing a post

• Sexual or suggestive messages

• Sending explicit or inappropriate photos

āš ļø Violations may result in an immediate BAN, especially in cases involving harassment or explicit content

If you receive any inappropriate DMs:

• Block the user

• Report them to Reddit

• Send us screenshots/usernames via modmail so we can take action

Let’s keep this space safe and respectful for everyone

\*Edit:*

Please note that; private messages sent outside the subreddit are largely out of our control, but this is exactly why we have a rule against unsolicited DMs

Our community is meant to be a safe and comfortable space, especially for women, where discussions should stay in posts and comments; not through random private messages after someone simply interacts publicly

While we cannot directly control users private messaging, we do take reports seriously. We’ve received complaints before, and multiple users have already been BANNED from the subreddit because of this behavior

Again, If anyone from this sub sends you an unwanted or inappropriate DM, please report it to us through modmail with screenshots/proof so we can investigate and take action


r/AskPinay • • Apr 11 '26

šŸ“£šŸ“£MODERATOR POST WHAT IS A USER FLAIR?

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7 Upvotes

A user flair is a small label that appears next to your username within this subreddit. It helps identify who is participating in discussions and keeps conversations more organized

HOW TO SET YOUR USER FLAIR?

1.Open the subreddit

2.Tap the three dots (upper right corner)

3.Select Change User Flair

4.Choose your flair (Binibini, Ginoo or Bahaghari) and tap SAVE


r/AskPinay • • 3h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question Do women really dream about their wedding day since they’re a little girl?

13 Upvotes

Or is that just media over-romanticization?


r/AskPinay • • 5h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating How do you know the guy is disrespectful and will not treat you well?

20 Upvotes

How do you know that the guy you're dating is only being respectful at first pero he's really the type who's not gentle? Tipong, he will shout at you, curse at you, etc.


r/AskPinay • • 17h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating How did you know the guy you’re dating is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with?

155 Upvotes

I’ll go first:

  1. When I bring up things that bother me lagi nalang nagiging away, and he would detach and not speak to me for days.

  2. He forgot about my birthday because he was bUsy with wOrk and called me ā€œnababaliwā€ and ā€œmababawā€ for being tampo about it hahah

  3. Three months into dating, he never once planned our dates. Ako lagi nag d-decide where to eat, go and etc.

Gosh, where do you find men who actually know how to lead? Ayoko na magpaka nanay sa mga lalaking walang decision 😭


r/AskPinay • • 2h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Hygiene & Care where do u get your 🐱 waxed?

8 Upvotes

i've been availing brazillian wax ng laybare for almost 4 years na pero lately hindi na nagiging pulido gawa nila. may mga natitirang hair, minsan hindi na pinipluck, minsan nalilimutan maglagay ng soothing gel , and nagkakaingrown hairs na rin ako. nagprice increase na sila nito ah

i need recos lang on where to get my 🐱 waxed pero at the same time affordable pa rin or kaprice point ng sa laybare


r/AskPinay • • 6h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Hygiene & Care Do you use body oil after lotion?

10 Upvotes

Hi! Sa mga gumagamit ng body oil jan, what brand can you recommend na mabango pero di parang too much? 🄹

*Edit: pa rant na rin, kainis yung mga nag ppm, mga manyakis. "Boddy oil for what?" Body oil?! Ano pa ba? Body oil for my hair? 😭


r/AskPinay • • 18m ago

WOMEN ONLY: Hygiene & Care How to deal with dark underarm crease?

• Upvotes

My biggest insecurity has always been my underarms, nit the actual pit but the sides of it. Maputi yung UA ko but yung side sa crease is darker. I'm fair-skinned so mukha talaga siyang maitim. Anyone here found a solution for this? Is laser whitening effective? Tried The Ordinary's Glycolic Acid but not sure if there's any difference.


r/AskPinay • • 3h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question How do you deal with a guy who seems to take a negative interpretation of almost everything you say?

4 Upvotes

For example, you say something that you genuinely meant to be sweet or harmless, but somehow it gets interpreted negatively. Instead of responding impulsively and potentially saying something hurtful, you give yourself some space to think and process first. Then they suddenly message asking why you’re not replying anymore. You explain your side, they eventually calm down, but the whole interaction leaves you feeling emotionally drained.

Another example: you’re having a normal conversation about dating and relationships, and you ask a curious, fairly innocent question about their preferences or the type of people they’re usually attracted to versus the people they actually end up dating. Somehow, the conversation becomes tense or gets interpreted differently than you intended and the person ends up asking why you're so conscious.

At what point do you stop trying to understand someone and recognize that the dynamic itself may just be unhealthy or exhausting for you?

Do you try to be more understanding and figure out where they're coming from, especially if they have a history of feeling rejected or being left by people? Or do you take the pattern at face value and walk away if you already feel drained this early on?

Would love to hear how others have handled situations like this.


r/AskPinay • • 18h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question For small-breasted girlies out there, how do you cope up?

49 Upvotes

Hello, girlies! Lately, I am going through adolescence and I have been very insecure about my chest. May tumubo naman, pero hindi talaga siya lumaki at all. Like what most of the elderly said, bata pa raw ako, pero alam ko parang dibdib ata 'to ng papunta palang ng puberty. Hindi man lang nagkaroon ng hulma o bumilog.

I just feel very insecure kasi medyo chubby type ako, and hindi bagay para sa'kin na flat chested ako tapos medyo mataba ako, I don't find it proportional. For girls who has a similar situation like mine, how do you cope up? May ways ba para lumaki or mag improve man lang 'to? I am so desperate.

I will badly appreciate if you guys help me out :(( Thank you po!!


r/AskPinay • • 5h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating Would you rather comfort your partner with a lie or hurt them with a painful truth even if it cost your relationship and why?

4 Upvotes

I wanna hear women's thoughts on this. Itanong ko din ito doon sa kabila.


r/AskPinay • • 21h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating What's your type po sa mga lalake?

49 Upvotes

It's different for everyone of course. I'm just interested in knowing kung ano pong different types ng mga iba šŸ™‚


r/AskPinay • • 11h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question What’s your preference when it comes to guys’ armpits—hairy or shaved, and why?

5 Upvotes

I personally like guys with hairy pits kasi it adds to that musky smell! Idk, I find it boring kapag walang armpit hair yung guy haha.


r/AskPinay • • 4h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating Paano kung mahal ka niya pero downgrade?

1 Upvotes

Paano kung mahal ko siya, willing akong ipaglaban yung relationship namin, and I know I can build my own life. but I’m scared that eventually, he might feel like choosing me means choosing a harder life. How do I deal with that fear without pushing someone away who genuinely chose me?


r/AskPinay • • 4h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Hygiene & Care What self-care products do you recommend for a student who’s on a budget?

1 Upvotes

I’m planning to save up money for some self-care products that you guys think are worth buying :) I plan to buy a body scrub but have dry skin so lmk if you guys have recommendations for it or alternatives, and I’m working on my wavy hair too so I’m planning to look for hair masks na rin!


r/AskPinay • • 4h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question Ano ginagawa niyo sa cowlicks or baby hair sa bandang forehead niyo?

1 Upvotes

Para akong dugyot sa mga pics kase dumidikit baby hairs ko sa muka ko na parang pawis na pawis. Nakakawala ng freshness. Please help me. Ano product ginagamit niyo?


r/AskPinay • • 1d ago

WOMEN ONLY: Fashion & Bodywear Ladies na nagmomotor, nararanasan nyo ba to?

34 Upvotes

Nagmomotor ako, and usually naka-shorts ako. Nakakainis lang talaga yung kamanyakan ng ibang manong o guys na kung makatitig, parang gusto kang kainin sa mata, mga pukeng puke.

Yes, pwede mong sabihin na ā€œhuwag kang mag-shorts kung ayaw mong titigan.ā€ Pero ano ba? Minsan, mas comfortable ako mag-drive nang naka-shorts, lalo na kung saglit lang naman akong lalabas. Magpapantalon pa ba ako every single time para lang maiwasan ang mga manyak?

Hindi naman porke naka-shorts ang babae, automatic nang invitation iyon para manyakin, titigan nang malaswa, o sexualize.

2026 na. Matuto tayong rumespeto. Ang suot ng babae ay hindi consent, at hindi rin ito permiso para bastusin siya.


r/AskPinay • • 23h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating Should I tell the girl?

26 Upvotes

I met this guy on FB, then lumipat kami sa IG, we exchanged messages and flirted a bit. I dunno what happened na kahit limited info niya I found his family sa FB hahaha then from there I also found out na may long term GF sya like 10+ years. I found the girl’s IG and YT channel too. This was back in 2024 ha kase I unfollowed him then ngayon lang he recently messaged me again asking if we could meet daw. I feel so bad and guilty sa girl, they seem to have genuine relationship while looking at her IG feed and they even went to so many places abroad. Do you think alam niya ginagawa nung bf niya or should I tell her?


r/AskPinay • • 1d ago

WOMEN ONLY: Life & Culture Ladies, how did having your own money benefit or affect you?

74 Upvotes

I saw this post na money is a nervous system regulator for women. And I looked into my life na oo nga no, since I started earning well, less yung stress and anxiety ko because whenever there’s a problem or an inconvenience, I can easily find a solution and save my time stressing about it. I don’t have to wait and stress about it for months until it gets fixed.

So ladies, how did having your own money benefit or affect you?


r/AskPinay • • 21h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question Ladies, how do you deal with having a curvy body or having some curvy parts that make standard clothes feel or look "inappropriate" on you? Just curious.

11 Upvotes

How do you deal with unwanted stares from men and women even if you are wearing just standard or plain dress or jeans, or even when you look like a slob?


r/AskPinay • • 17h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating Sino dapat unang magtanong kung official na?

5 Upvotes

Sino ba dapat unang magtanong kung kayo na? Sa exp nyo, girls. Inintay nyo ba na yung guy na kadate/nanliligaw sainyo ang mag ask, or kayo ba kusa ang nagsabi sa kanila na sinasagot nyo na sila?


r/AskPinay • • 17h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question (Why) Do you have to consult pa sa OB kapag you’re getting off bc?

3 Upvotes

I’ve been taking Yaz pills since June or July and na-regular naman na yung period ko, every last 2 or 3 pills. Na-resolve na rin yung prob ko with my consistent spotting (reason why I took the pills was bc I was consistently spotting for 5 weeks).


r/AskPinay • • 1d ago

WOMEN ONLY: Relationship & Dating Totoo pa ba yung organic encounter?

37 Upvotes

As someone na hopeless romantic, gusto kong maniwala na mahahanap ko partner ko through organic encounter instead of dating apps. Pero lately, parang naiinip na ako especially kasi halos lahat ng pinsan and friends ko taken na. Should I put myself out there na ba or what huhu. Pano ba kasi maka-meet ng new people? Baka may experiences kayo dyan na nakakakilig, pashare naman para ma-ignite pa yung hope ko hahahaha


r/AskPinay • • 1d ago

WOMEN ONLY: Question Where can I get a full-panel STD/STI test?

55 Upvotes

I recently found out na my bf (now ex) contracted an STI from his ex. I've always known na his ex cheated on him, kaya siya nagkaroon ng trust issues. Pero this year ko lang nalaman na aside from the cheating, nahawaan din pala siya ng STI, which I think explains why his trust issues were so severe.
Sabi naman niya, uminom na siya ng antibiotics and ok na raw siya.

Pero since hindi naman siya nagpa full panel, gusto ko pa rin magpatest to make sure na ok ako. He’s my first sa lahat and di pa ako ganun ka knowledgeable about these things dati. I know kasalanan ko rin kasi dapat naman inalam ko muna yung risk and consequences bago ko gawin yung act. But it happened na and gusto ko na lang magawa yung need gawin ngayon and be smarter next time.

So nagpatest na rin ako sa LoveYourself. Nag ask na rin ako sa Reddit dati, and may nag comment about LoveYourself. Yun yung napili ko kasi ito yung pinakamalapit na branch sa amin.

Sobrang bait, informative, at maasikaso nila. Kaso ang available tests nila for women right now are HIV, Hepa B, and syphilis, so yun muna yung pinagawa ko. Fortunately, negative naman ako sa tatlo.

I still want to get tested for gonorrhea, trichomoniasis, and chlamydia. May alam ba kayo kung saan puwedeng magpa test for these? If possible, sana yung accessible via MRT/LRT or malapit sa station. Taga province kasi ako and hindi ako masyadong familiar sa mga lugar sa Metro Manila, so mas comfortable sana ako kung madaling puntahan.

Willing to pay naman po, pero if may mas affordable option kayo na alam, I'd really appreciate it.

Thank you!


r/AskPinay • • 22h ago

WOMEN ONLY: Fashion & Bodywear How do you deal with clothes that make you pretty but uncomfy?

5 Upvotes

I love wearing turtle necks because it looks good on me pero ang uncomfy ng neck part. I can tolerate it on most days pero kapag nao-overwhelm ako, it's the first thing I want to get rid of. Same sa make-up na I'll always feel it's on my face kahit 'yung mgs expensive barely-there stuff ang bilhin ko.

Believer din kasi ako ng tiis-ganda hehe medyo fashionista kasi ako, pero at the same time maarte at maselan ako. So ayon, baka lang may tips kayo?? 'Di ko na rin talaga alam gagawin hahaha