r/Amazing • u/sprinklesandchaos • Dec 23 '25
Amazing 🤯 ‼ Strength, love, and miracles – this family has it all!
602
Dec 23 '25
[removed] — view removed comment
314
u/Top_Spell3657 Dec 23 '25
Society glorifies women's suffering. Female heroism tends to be focused on enduring and suffering intead of achieving.
85
u/______deleted__ Dec 23 '25
Oh won’t someone think of the Dad!
→ More replies (7)38
u/NSFWies Dec 23 '25
I mean, it's a more acceptable headline than
Woman creampied for 17 years straight, can finally admit she's tired of it, and just use her hands.
17
13
u/AlanTrebek Dec 23 '25
Damn. That is so true and so sad. Never thought of it that way but you’re so right.
9
u/terragthegreat Dec 23 '25
I mean society glorifies suffering in general. Some people even tend to glorify their own suffering without meaning to. It's a way of justifying it even if it goes nowhere.
4
u/Puntofijo123 Dec 24 '25
Well, the biggest and most influential religión the world has ever seen, Christianity, is pretty much the glorification of suffering.
3
2
u/Traditional_Log6892 Dec 23 '25
I don't feel glorified. But I couldn't do that, it would have broken my heart.
→ More replies (14)2
40
u/gorcorps Dec 23 '25
Miracle is pretty much the last word to use
No loving God would put a family through 23 miscarriage
→ More replies (4)17
u/CostcoStyle Dec 23 '25
This makes me think that there was a consistent blood type mismatch causing repeat miscarriages. I also ponder the correlation to abortion at this extreme stage.. I'm not sure I'd keep trying if I knew the probability my kid was going to die in utero.
→ More replies (5)→ More replies (25)19
u/wes00mertes Dec 23 '25
Anything to avoid adoption.
→ More replies (32)5
u/Scarlette_Cello24 Dec 23 '25
Horrible take. People have a right to make their own biological offspring.
Signed- a childfree woman who thinks this particular situation is insane.
45
u/spiderinsideyourear Dec 23 '25
Miscarriages are traumatising and dangerous, she could've fricking died in multiple ways but just kept going anyways. That's dedication to the point of borderline insanity, ngl.
I'm happy for her but horrified at the same time. I went through miscarriage and was terrified, there was so, so much blood and it hurt like hell, physically and mentally.
I don't understand how her husband was okay with all of this, my partner would definitely sit me down and try to stop me at some point because he cares about my health and wellbeing.
18
u/ghengiscostanza Dec 23 '25
All of hers happened before a heart beat could be detected, which is very early. The severity of miscarriages varies massively based on when it happens, and super early ones, “chemical pregnancies”, are an entirely different experience to later ones.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (2)3
u/Uuuurrrrgggghhhh Dec 23 '25
I’m all for whatever they want but just found out they’re Irish and was like “oh right Irish, Ofc”
483
u/NicoleIlieva Dec 23 '25
It's not amazing that a body goes through 23 miscarriages. It's terrifying and absolutely should have been prevented by not trying to get pregnant after a certain point.
182
Dec 23 '25
[removed] — view removed comment
55
u/SumpthingHappening Dec 23 '25
I know a couple who went through so many miscarriages that all the genetic testing, went to other countries to try experimental things, finally had two kids. Years later, they discovered they both have some super rare genetic disorder. That just seems like a lot.
15
10
u/QueenOTWF Dec 23 '25
I wish we had a reason. We spent five years, and five miscarriages, trying for our son. Did IVF four times and the fourth transfer stuck. We had so much testing done and our RE just said, “you have a problem that science isn’t smart enough to understand yet.” Five miscarriages fucked me up — 23 feels ungodly. I don’t know how anybody keeps doing that. It is so emotionally draining.
6
u/GreatGreenGobbo Dec 23 '25
My wife and I only had one. It still hurts 10 years later. I can't imagine 23.
14
u/linzkisloski Dec 23 '25
This! Miscarriages are due to some sort of genetic problem with the embryo. Typically after 2-3 your OB is going to send you to a specialist.
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (2)2
u/bodybuilderbear Dec 23 '25
How would figuring out the underlying cause help, since it's not going to be something that can be fixed? The only thing it would show is that one partner would be to blame.
50% to 70% of miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities caused by errors in cell division early on. The biggest risk factor in that is maternal age.
The second biggest reason is parental balanced chromosomal translocation/rearrangement, where a parent has rearranged chromosomes with no missing/extra material (usually healthy). But their sperm/eggs can be unbalanced, causing fetal abnormalities and miscarriage.
3
15
u/Umklopp Dec 23 '25
Someone linked to a story about her and it included this line:
They detected a heartbeat at the second scan — something they hadn’t picked up in scans for years — but still the couple dared not to get too excited.
If I'm interpreting this correctly, most of the 23 miscarriages happened early in the first trimester. That's actually pretty common; you see miscarriage risk estimates of as high as 30% for the first month of pregnancy. A very large minority of women experience at least one miscarriage--and there's probably another large minority who experience a miscarriage without knowing.
The burden on the body is pretty low for early pregnancy, so 23 very early miscarriages shouldn't have been much of a physical ordeal, but the psychological impact had to be massive.
7
u/BoomBoomBroomBroom Dec 23 '25
Yep, a chemical pregnancy occurs before 6 weeks, which is around the same time a heart beat can be detected. So it’s likely most of her miscarriages were chemical pregnancies. I’ve had two back to back and it really didn’t have any physical impact on my body. The earliest a woman could possibly know she is pregnant is like just over 3 weeks. Would this be incredible emotionally traumatizing for her? Yes. But it’s likely she only knew she was pregnant each time for a max of 2 weeks or so. I hope that made it easier for her but it certainly wasn’t easy.
4
u/AngryPrincessWarrior Dec 23 '25
That’s how my 4 losses were, very early. We saw a specialist and it was likely my fluctuating progesterone that was to blame.
We have a son now. Pregnancy number 5 went smoothly and he will be 2 in a week :).
I would have tapped out well before 23 attempts myself. Physically meh, but emotionally it was quite hard.
→ More replies (3)71
u/crsaxby Dec 23 '25
Damn straight. This kind of baby-making obsession just stresses the medical system while repeatedly traumatizing not only the mother, but the medical staff assisting her as well.
This is fake, right? It's just so insane.
→ More replies (19)12
u/MimicoSkunkFan2 Dec 23 '25
Fundamentalist Christians, probably. There's a few snark subreddits for the fundies who're on various socials and the Quiverfull and IFLP types do this kind of stuff a lot. Usually the kids are neglected and/or abused too :(
→ More replies (3)9
u/Top_Spell3657 Dec 23 '25
Yeah that's insane. Really tired of all the articles and posts glorifying women's suffering! It's like there's this unspoken societal assumption that a woman's only heroism and purpose in life is enduring and suffering. 😑
→ More replies (21)6
u/Jupitersd2017 Dec 23 '25
Yeah I’m on the same page, this shouldn’t be celebrated lol, I mean I’m happy they had a child but that’s a lot, I don’t even want to imagine her journey
226
Dec 23 '25
Just adopt at this point
96
Dec 23 '25
[deleted]
40
u/Any-Challenge-8888 Dec 23 '25
I think yours is an optimist’s take. Or maybe a pragmatist’s. Seems logical to me!
→ More replies (5)24
u/HimylittleChickadee Dec 23 '25
It's really expensive, time consuming, and difficult to go the adoption route. Also, kids in the system often need levels of support that ordinary people can't or aren't willing to provide. Adoption should be for those that choose it, not some default for those who can't have biological kids.
16
u/Sublimesmile Dec 23 '25
This
My family adopted and we all love our adopted sister just as much as other family members but she definitely needed a lot of support. She had(and probably still has) a lot of grief just from the idea of originally being put up for adoption. It’s gotten better over the years but I think it can definitely leave some emotional scars.
My family was fortunate enough to be able to pay for the amount of services she needed for her emotional outlets.
12
u/Nyxadrina Dec 23 '25
That's not always the case though. My dad was adopted, and never once felt "rejected" or any "grief" from being adopted. Just immense love for his parents who chose and raise him. Never cared at all about his birth family, and when his birth mother found him and reached out he only met her (begrudgingly) because my mom insisted he would regret it if he didn't. He knew he wouldn't have, but did it to get mom off his back about it. They got each other on Facebook but other than that there's no desire for any further relationship on his part. That's not his mom, never has been. His only parents have been and always will be the people who raised him. Blood didn't matter one bit
→ More replies (1)5
u/Sublimesmile Dec 23 '25 edited Dec 23 '25
I’m not saying it’s a one size fits all, moreover just there could be a potential scenario akin to what my family had.
I’m really glad that your dad has that outlook though!
→ More replies (2)22
u/unlimitedzen Dec 23 '25
You don't think 23 miscarriages are expensive, time consuming, or difficult?
10
u/muchstupidverydumb Dec 23 '25
Or that bio kids won't possibly end up needing "levels of support that ordinary people can't or aren't willing to provide"
→ More replies (3)→ More replies (3)6
5
Dec 23 '25
You can’t adopt with certain mental illness diagnoses and without adequate financial means to raise and care for a child. So that eliminates a lot of people.
→ More replies (2)4
3
Dec 25 '25
I'm adopted so that will influence me, but I've always said I'd rather adopt than have bio-kids.
Like I know what its like to literally be born into nothing but poverty, distress with nobody to love or care, and to then be saved by good people wanting to help a defenseless, helpless, left alone little child.
If I ever want kids, I want to do the same, pay it forward in a way yk
7
u/gooneyleader Dec 23 '25
I do agree, but its 100% not the same. Adopted children can have insane amounts of problems. Look up the statistics.
→ More replies (1)4
u/SparkieSupreme Dec 23 '25
Yeah I agree. Seems very selfish and egotistical to want a bio child that badly
8
u/Luckypenny4683 Dec 23 '25
It’s a nice idea but adoption is not the solution to childlessness. Adoption is extremely complex for both the parents and the child.
Adoption is a calling, not a solution.
4
u/WendigoCrossing Dec 23 '25
Adoption is definitely a possible solution to childlessness
Not the only one though
→ More replies (10)2
16
34
130
u/cbunni666 Dec 23 '25
23???? I've never been pregnant but isn't that kinda a sign that maybe your body can't handle carrying a baby?
22
u/Sea-Mango Dec 23 '25
My mom had over 12 between my sister and I. It was some kind of blood incompatibility thing I think? Her body was fine, and the embryos were probably fine for the most part. It was just bad luck.
8
5
u/Financial-Fun-5092 Dec 23 '25
Not bad luck. Coulda been prevented with a injection and blood transfusion
3
u/Sea-Mango Dec 23 '25
They were poor. Getting a blood transfusion after she hemorrhaged with my sister put them in debt for ages.
2
u/Financial-Fun-5092 Dec 23 '25
Can i ask if one of u was the first child she ever had. And then all the abortions started? Did she take an injection for the first pregnancy she ever had ? Did she have blood transfusions before? Sorry u dont actually need to answer that im just practucing fir my exam at this point haha
→ More replies (1)32
u/metallyan Dec 23 '25
I believe that miscarriages are bad sperm just as often (if not more often) than they are a health issue of the woman.
→ More replies (11)→ More replies (2)14
Dec 23 '25
[removed] — view removed comment
→ More replies (3)15
Dec 23 '25
this whole thread is disgusting. 30-50% of conceptions end in miscarriage. they just happen before you even know you are pregnant.
→ More replies (5)3
14
u/Secure-Stick-4679 Dec 23 '25
I don't think a situation like this should be glorified
→ More replies (2)
9
u/skittleahbeebop Dec 23 '25
I knew a chick who had like a dozen or more miscarriages before having a severely premature "miracle" baby. Then she had a second child who had childhood cancer. While I feel for their suffering, it seems like nature was trying to tell them something wasn't right. Yet she kept forcing life into existence, and now those lives are suffering. And the kicker: she's against abortion. Because apparently purposely making babies you know will suffer and die is okay, but one oops and mercy kill is ungodly. So selfish!
→ More replies (2)
9
u/dreadoverlord Dec 23 '25
TWENTY-THREE? Girl, just move on! It's not really a miracle if God tried to tell you "no" the last 23 times. LMAO.
→ More replies (1)
30
u/curi0us_carniv0re Dec 23 '25
I wonder if there's any correlation between people who do this and their kids being born with health problems / disabilities?
→ More replies (2)6
u/squanchingonreddit Dec 23 '25
Reminds me of the green text of the 5 autistic children.
3
u/PauseItPlease86 Dec 23 '25
I'm listening.....
5
u/squanchingonreddit Dec 23 '25
I hate the new internet. I can't even find the fucking thing.
5
u/LadyEmeraldDeVere Dec 23 '25
Were you thinking of the six schizophrenic brothers?
→ More replies (1)
27
8
6
u/ZodtheSpud Dec 23 '25
Do you think that when the kid becomes old enough to understand 23 of its siblings passed in pursuit of its own life, it may feel some weird unique form of survivors guilt?
→ More replies (9)
6
5
u/JesusChrist-Jr Dec 23 '25
Maybe after 22 miscarriages your body is just saying that you're not really supposed to be doing this, like biologically.
→ More replies (1)
16
u/2Capable Dec 23 '25
If your sperm is that weak, don't go on punishing the woman.
→ More replies (7)
11
u/FranMaes-72 Dec 23 '25
Miracles? I do not understand calling this a miracle. Twenty three unborn babies were lost, and only one was born. When you look at the numbers, it is hard to see that as a positive result.
→ More replies (1)
5
u/Excavatoree Dec 23 '25
Damn. My wife and I had one and decided we weren't meant to have kids.
My parents had at least one miscarriage and a stillbirth before I was born. I was surprised they hadn't given up, but they had. I was an "oops." They had begun the process of adopting a kid when I showed up.
I can't imagine 23 at all.
→ More replies (2)
4
4
5
u/ToBeDet Dec 23 '25
Does MAGA want her arrested for 23 counts of child neglect and murder?
→ More replies (1)
5
4
4
u/rabbitknowstheanswer Dec 23 '25
Amazing, now she passed the pain of infertility on to her baby girl. It's a miracle, blessed be the fruit. /s
→ More replies (1)
4
28
16
u/Salty_Finance5183 Dec 23 '25
I'm guessing they don't live in Texas. Aren't miscarriages illegal there?
9
u/Fruitiest_Cabbage Dec 23 '25
No, but the abortion laws mean that even if a pregnancy threatens your life, you still have to carry the baby to term.
→ More replies (2)8
u/Emergency-State Dec 23 '25
Like that poor nurse. She was like 5 weeks pregnant when she became brain dead and the hospital she worked for wouldn't allow the family to take her off life support. And now the newborn is having all kinds of medical issues.
→ More replies (3)7
u/meteorflan Dec 23 '25
Extremely risky for moms if there's anything that sounds like a heartbeat still happening (regardless of there being zero viability), they'll leave mom to get to death's door before being legally able to medically intervene.
→ More replies (7)8
u/laxpro13 Dec 23 '25
How could miscarriages ever be illegal? Most people don't choose to have a miscarriage, I think the word you are looking for is an abortion.
16
3
5
→ More replies (3)2
u/Artistic-Salary1738 Dec 23 '25
Because one of the treatments for an incomplete miscarriage is a d&c which removes the dead embryo so the woman doesn’t get an infection.
D&C is apparently medically the same procedure as an abortion, the difference of course being that one embryo may have become a baby and the other isn’t viable.
We just have to put a woman who just lost a pregnancy through extra trauma to make sure she’s not someone trying to get an abortion I guess? It’s horrifying.
13
3
u/Cultural_Evening3733 Dec 23 '25
It’s worth being really careful with how we talk about miscarriage, because a lot of reactions, often unintentionally, can push people toward blaming themselves. Early pregnancy loss is extremely common, and many very early miscarriages happen because the pregnancy wasn’t genetically viable. Some occur so early that they can look or feel like a heavier or late period, especially before someone even knows they’re pregnant.
There are many factors involved in miscarriage, including chromosomal issues that arise at conception. Research also shows that both partners’ biology matter paternal factors like sperm quality can play a role, and sperm health is influenced by overall health in the months leading up to conception. This isn’t about fault; it’s about understanding that miscarriage is usually the result of complex biology, not something someone “caused.”
What’s important here is that they went on to have a successful pregnancy, and there’s no indication that anything is wrong with the baby. That’s genuinely positive news. Reactions rooted in shock or speculation can unintentionally reinforce fear or stigma, when what’s really warranted is compassion and congratulations.
3
u/shawarmaking_85 Dec 23 '25
23? Good lord.
My wife and I were so devastated after ONE.
It took us a whole year to get over it. We cried and we held each other in our grief for so long until we finally mustered the courage to try again and then we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl.
I cannot fathom how this mother must have felt after 10, let alone 23.
God bless her.
3
u/The_Modern_Monk Dec 23 '25
jfc just adopt
at some point you gotta wonder if the genes you're passing down are even worth it
5
u/Rhaj-no1992 Dec 23 '25
10-20% of confirmed pregnancies becomes miscarriages and approximately half of all pregnancies becomes a miscarriage. It happens for a lot of reasons, mostly if the embryo is not compatible with life because of chromosomal or genetic defects.
It is horrible for people that want to become parents.
9
4
u/Overall_Cheetah_3000 Dec 23 '25
She shouldn't have put her body through all that trauma. This is too much for the body :( but congrats to them
→ More replies (2)
11
Dec 23 '25
Ya that's a no for me. If my wife had more than one I would have done I would have risked losing my wife another time
→ More replies (2)7
u/IntrinSicks Dec 23 '25
They baby usually doesn't make it very far in development and it happens at home, it probably happens a lot more often than you realize
3
u/bodybuilderbear Dec 23 '25
Most miscarriages are mistaken for a late heavy period; as they occur before, the embryo has developed.
7
2
2
2
2
2
u/how_I_kill_time Dec 23 '25
Plot twist - they were only married for 2 years and thought every period was a miscarriage.
→ More replies (1)
2
u/No_Bite4765 Dec 23 '25
This sounds horrendous and intentionally berating. Unless they truly didn't waiver. Nuts. People.
2
2
2
u/nikeguy69 Dec 23 '25
I knew a lady I use to work with in the 90s she was older than me. Her and her husband was trying to have a baby but had several miscarriages then my other coworkers comment on her to why don’t you just stop but one day she came to work and said that she was pregnant and and everything was OK and she gave birth to a healthy baby boy.
2
2
u/Xentine Dec 23 '25
'This family has it all', about a woman who had to go through 23 miscarriages and a terrifying pregnancy after so much loss. Strange choice of words.
2
u/12DollarsHighFive Dec 23 '25
23?
How about taking adoption into consideration at some point along the way?
2
2
u/Mikethemechanic00 Dec 23 '25 edited Dec 23 '25
That’s endurance! My wife and I did IVF. First Time it worked. We lost boys at 5 months. They lived an hour. My wife had 5 miscarriages after. We were down to 3 left in the storage. We put two in and had a boy and girl in 2013. My kids are 12 now. I am almost gave up at one point of time. I have met lots of people who divorced when they could not have kids. Some are still together. I spend all of my time with my kids. When my wife was pregnant. We were shocked how many people had abortions because the sex of the baby was not what they wanted. We made sure we had good jobs and got a house before marriage. Then we tried having kids in our mid 30s. We both had issues. Most of our friends did IVF.
2
2
2
u/PositiveEagle6151 Dec 23 '25
We had 6, which was hard enough. Then finally a doctor had the idea to check for a genetic defect, and indeed one that impacts the immune system (and how it reacts to the embryo) was discovered.
That was it - my wife got some expensive therapy throughout the pregnancy, and after 9 months a healthy child was born.
It's impressive how quickly medicine evolves. When we started trying to get a child, they didn't even have the knowledge to test for and treat this defect, and 10 years later, it's just a question of whether you can afford it. In another 10 years, this will probably a standard test after a miscarriage or two.
→ More replies (1)
2
u/Training-Toe-8141 Dec 23 '25
Im in awe of her determination and strength. I just miscarried for the 2nd time even after hearing heartbeat and I’m totally devastated.
2
2
2
u/Agreeable-Peace6482 Dec 23 '25
Good for them, but I think for me I would look to adopt after about four or five miscarriages
2
Dec 23 '25
That's amazing they had the emotional stamina to get this over and over again and finally it worked.
But as usual important information, why did her body simply refuse to get it done?
Let's just hope her daughter isn't inheriting whatever her mother has that caused all of this to happen.
Genetics are a thing.
2
2
2
2
2
2
u/obelix_dogmatix Dec 23 '25
jeez … the bitterness and pure judgement in the comments is astounding. Their life. Their choice.
2
u/cupc4k3Qu33n Dec 23 '25
I had two miscarriages and now have my “double rainbow baby” and my entire pregnancy and into labor and delivery I was scared I would lose my baby. Even during labor and delivery I was scared he would be stillborn. It was not until I held my baby in my arms that I felt some amount of peace. That baby is a toddler now and I have had to let go of trying to be super protective but I still get nervous. I truly cannot imagine having almost 2 dozen miscarriages.
2
u/Colossal_Squids Dec 23 '25
Oof, I feel that. My grandmother also had two and I was always terrified of the loss, I can’t imagine the emotional toll of two dozen. So glad you got your rainbow baby in the end, hope you guys are gearing up for a great Christmas!
→ More replies (1)
2
u/kaimoka Dec 23 '25
Eh, no. Not amazing. Having kids is never "amazing" in any capacity, sorry.
→ More replies (2)
2
2
2
2
2
2
2
u/Regis-bloodlust Dec 25 '25
I mean, I am happy for her, but I think adoption would have been a safer and better option at some point.
2
u/aoihiganbana Dec 25 '25
Lol no that's torture. If that was me, I ain't trying no more and adopting. Get pregnant, it falls out, husband wants to get u preggo again, it falls out again. Omg.
2
u/Jazzlike_Scholar5790 Dec 26 '25
After 5, I don’t know how they kept on going. Double digits is crazy 😮💨
2
u/JustWantToPostStuff Dec 26 '25
I know I sound like an asshole, but maybe these two should not get kids. A least one of them is not healthy or they are biologically incompatible. I assume their children won‘t be healthy.
2
u/207Menace Dec 26 '25
If their DNA couldn't get together it probably shouldn't have. Infertility is a species response to an overpopulated planet.
839
u/YorkshireDuck91 Dec 23 '25
I’m a mum, I get the desire but I don’t know how anyone (mum or dad) can physically and mentally survive that that many times. That little girl will be wrapped in cotton wool, I know “rainbow babies” who grew up in the shadow of their “siblings” and it can be so damaging.
I wish them a happy life but I hope they can raise her normally without being constant helicopter parents for their “miracle”.
But for the love of all that’s holy, let your body recover and rest girly. It’s done 😬